Bonus: Silence Your Inner Critic Event
Stop People Pleasing
Calling all those who are sick of their inner critic getting nasty whenever you stand up for yourself. I am thinking of putting together a small group event. Interested? Email me with a quick message to say you are interested. What The Event Is About This would be 2 x 2 hour workalong sessions in a small group, led by me, where you would create a solid plan for managing difficult conversations without feeling guilty about standing up for yourself. I plan to cover changing the narrative you have about this (from fearful to intrepid), what words to say, and how to deal with any negative...
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39: Parties Minus Overwhelm
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Be sociable…on your terms. Parties: most empaths and highly sensitive people have a biiiiiig problem with them, due to massive sensory overload. The noise. The crowds. The music. Waaaay toooo muuuuch. But never fear, for Harriet is here! Why should you have to carry all the overwhelm of the party, then reach a point where you can no longer stand it and just walk out, taking a boatload of guilt that doesn't belong to you? There is a better way, which I describe in this episode. Harriet Morris Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com
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#38: Decoding Narcissism
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Send me your most annoying narc phrases to decode! Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com The Stop People Pleasing Podcast is back :) Standing up to narcissistic behaviour starts with getting some distance…and what better way to do that than to decode the same old same old nonsense you’ve heard a million times before. In this episode, I give you three translations of things that narcissists commonly say. Warning! The sarcasm level goes through the roof. My hope is that you will feel lighter and maybe even chuckle. What better way to stand up to these self-centred ego merchants than...
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#37: Three Ways To Protect Your Energy
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Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy?
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#36: A Better Question
Stop People Pleasing
Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative.
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#35: Empath Confidence
Stop People Pleasing
Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you.
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#34: The Lie
Stop People Pleasing
Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up!
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Empath Drama Triangle
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Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#32: Askholes
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Heads Up! Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess
Stop People Pleasing
Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing.
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I am in the process of creating a course on setting better boundaries. At the moment I want your feedback. Here are the problems that I see block empaths from creating boundaries. Do these resonate with you? Give me your feedback by emailing me info {at} theshiftinside.com or join the SPP Facebook group (link below)
#1 I really wish I could stand up for myself, but I don’t know how
#2 It would be difficult to set boundaries with X, because s/he has a hard life and they really need me. How could I do that to them?
#3 Setting boundaries equals creating massive conflict, which scares me
#4 I am resentful that people do not give me the time and attention I give them - why should I have to set a boundary?
#5 I feel too overwhelmed to do this work, and end up stuck giving too much energy away. It’s catch 22.
#6 I am so hurt by how narcissists and energy vampires treat me, it’s kind of paralysing. Catch 22 - nothing changes.
#7 I can’t deal with the negative comeback I would get if I did set boundaries.
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Lauren Amman Interview
In this interview, coach and ex-people pleaser Lauren Ammon shares about
*How her entire previous career – HR - was born out of people pleasing
*How her empath nature led to overwork
*How she changed to living life on her own terms
*Taking responsibility for the way she was showing up with others
*Her fears about changing careers
RESOURCES
Connect with Lauren Ammon
https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurenammon/
Join The Stop People Pleasing Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/stoppeoplepleasingtribe
Lifesaver 10 download
https://www.theshiftinside.com/lifesaver/
Info @theshiftinside.com