BONUS: Dissolve Your Fear of Boundary Setting
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Get your free taster of the Stop people Pleasing Reset programme here: How would you like to go from being ruled by your limiting beliefs to not only replacing them, but have a focus on the future and the life that you want to create? How would you like to replace all the time you spend trying to fit in, but feeling like an outsider and resenting people for not accepting you? No. And how about breaking the unhelpful invisible contracts you've had with others? Contracts that allowed them to walk all over you. How would you like to finally honour your true nature? No...
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39: Parties Minus Overwhelm
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Be sociable…on your terms. Parties: most empaths and highly sensitive people have a biiiiiig problem with them, due to massive sensory overload. The noise. The crowds. The music. Waaaay toooo muuuuch. But never fear, for Harriet is here! Why should you have to carry all the overwhelm of the party, then reach a point where you can no longer stand it and just walk out, taking a boatload of guilt that doesn't belong to you? There is a better way, which I describe in this episode. Harriet Morris Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com
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#38: Decoding Narcissism
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Send me your most annoying narc phrases to decode! Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com The Stop People Pleasing Podcast is back :) Standing up to narcissistic behaviour starts with getting some distance…and what better way to do that than to decode the same old same old nonsense you’ve heard a million times before. In this episode, I give you three translations of things that narcissists commonly say. Warning! The sarcasm level goes through the roof. My hope is that you will feel lighter and maybe even chuckle. What better way to stand up to these self-centred ego merchants than...
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#37: Three Ways To Protect Your Energy
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Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy?
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#36: A Better Question
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Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative.
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#35: Empath Confidence
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Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you.
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#34: The Lie
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Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up!
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Empath Drama Triangle
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Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#32: Askholes
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Heads Up! Go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/
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#31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess
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Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing.
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Today is the first part of two episodes where I explain three ways to stop feeling so overwhelmed. Overwhelm is a very common side effect of people pleasing – but guess what? You need to create some mental and emotional space to start showing up differently – and that means dealing with overwhelm.
POWER MOVE OF THE WEEK
…sounds so boring that I am not going to tell you what it is, but is so powerful that you won’t want to miss it once I explain why it is so awesome. Trust me on this!
TWO STRATEGIES TO STOP FEELING SO OVERWHELMED
#1 Filter very carefully what media you expose yourself to.
This is a very personal thing. Also, you may want to think about how you consume news for example. Print is easier to deal with than moving images.
Not all violent media deserves a blanket ban from me. I really got a lot out of Fight Club for example. Certain clients love thrillers – and so do I – if I have vetted them.
#2 Overwhelm Circuit Breakers
These are actions you can take to reduce overwhelm, whatever the root cause of your stress. Listen for examples of this, plus some uncommon wisdom about managing the stress hormone cortisol
RESOURCES
Boundary setting 101 Week
https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/
Cavebrain episode
https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/17-what-is-cavebrain-and-why-it-matters-in-stopping-pleasing
One-to-one empath coaching:
https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/