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#24: How to Stop feeling Overwhelmed

Stop People Pleasing

Release Date: 05/06/2021

#38: What If They Say No? show art #38: What If They Say No?

Stop People Pleasing

A short episode on managing fear of rejection - in real time! Most people will tell you to not worry about reaching out to new people - but I explain why - for recovering people pleasers - this is rubbish advice…and what to replace it with. Harriet Morris Info (at) theshiftinside.com

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#37: Three Ways To Protect Your Energy show art #37: Three Ways To Protect Your Energy

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Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy?

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#36: A Better Question show art #36: A Better Question

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Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative.

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#35: Empath Confidence show art #35: Empath Confidence

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Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you.

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#34: The Lie show art #34: The Lie

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Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up! 

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Empath Drama Triangle show art Empath Drama Triangle

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Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/

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#32: Askholes show art #32: Askholes

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Heads Up! Go to  https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ 

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#31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess show art #31: How Not To Be A Hyperreactive Mess

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Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing. 

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#30: The Escape Room show art #30: The Escape Room

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This is an empath's dilemma, set in an escape room. The question is: What would you do?

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#29: Phantom Thread  show art #29: Phantom Thread

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Today’s episode is a look at Paul Thomas Anderson’s 2017 film Phantom Thread through the lens of stopping people pleasing. WARNING: SPOILER ALERT!

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Ever felt so weighed down by everything in your life that you fantasised about breaking your leg, just to give yourself some time out of life? Well, I have. I talk about a more constructive way of lightening your load…

Today is the first part of two episodes where I explain three ways to stop feeling so overwhelmed. Overwhelm is a very common side effect of people pleasing – but guess what? You need to create some mental and emotional space to start showing up differently – and that means dealing with overwhelm.

 

POWER MOVE OF THE WEEK

…sounds so boring that I am not going to tell you what it is, but is so powerful that you won’t want to miss it once I explain why it is so awesome. Trust me on this!

 

TWO STRATEGIES TO STOP FEELING SO OVERWHELMED

#1 Filter very carefully what media you expose yourself to.

This is a very personal thing. Also, you may want to think about how you consume news for example. Print is easier to deal with than moving images.

Not all violent media deserves a blanket ban from me. I really got a lot out of Fight Club for example. Certain clients love thrillers – and so do I – if I have vetted them.

 

#2 Overwhelm Circuit Breakers

These are actions you can take to reduce overwhelm, whatever the root cause of your stress. Listen for examples of this, plus some uncommon wisdom about managing the stress hormone cortisol

 

RESOURCES

Boundary setting 101 Week

https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/

Cavebrain episode

https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/17-what-is-cavebrain-and-why-it-matters-in-stopping-pleasing

One-to-one empath coaching:

https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/