196. Collateral Damage
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When adult children become estranged from their parents, the ripple effects can often spread to other family members—siblings, grandparents, and even close friends. These "innocent bystanders" can become collateral damage in the fallout of a family rift. In this clarifying episode, host Tina Gilbertson explores four common reasons why estranged adult children might distance themselves from others in the family, and even beyond. Understanding these motivations can offer a clearer picture of the situation and may help ease parents’ fears about the extent of the rift. You’ll learn that...
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TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped releasing new episodes to those platforms. Unfortunately, many smaller platforms were also affected. And that’s made it a lot harder for the show to be found by new listeners, which is a dilemma I’m...
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99. Road Map to Reconnection, Part 3
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Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child.
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97. Road Map to Reconnection, Part 1
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Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child.
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95. The Deep Pain of the Rejected Parent
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Tina talks about three separate types of parental pain, which she suggests exist at deeper and deeper levels in the parent.
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93. You're Both Adults, But Not Peers
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The parent-child relationship is not like any other. In so many ways, your role has always been a more demanding one than your child’s.
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91. How to Let Them Know You've Changed
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Once you start learning, growing and healing through estrangement from an adult child, you might feel like sharing new insights with your child. But don't be in a hurry. Tina offers 2 reasons to wait a while.
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Announcement: Summer Hiatus 2021
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Weekly episodes continue through May 31st, but after that, the next new episode will come out the first Monday in September.
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89. Humility vs. Humiliation
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It’s not uncommon for parents rejected by adult children to feel humiliated by the experience of estrangement.
info_outlineEstrangement from your adult child may or may not include verbal assaults from him or her, featuring foul language.
If you’re faced with this kind of behavior, given the current estrangement, what’s the best way to respond? You don’t want to push your child further away. But does that mean you have to tolerate whatever language they may fling at you in a text?
In this episode, Tina offers a 2-part response for parents. Her approach takes into account both your family’s communication history and the importance of healthy boundaries, even during estrangement.
Don’t continue to put up with rude behavior. Know where your limits are, and calmly assert them. Do this with your child, your spouse or partner, other family members and friends.
Setting boundaries, if you do it in the spirit of building better relationships, will not damage your bond with your adult children. Use the examples given in this episode to set your own boundaries around the disrespectful use of foul language.
In the spirit of picking your battles, Tina also offers an opinion regarding your adult child’s use of “snarky tones” with you.