196. Collateral Damage
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When adult children become estranged from their parents, the ripple effects can often spread to other family members—siblings, grandparents, and even close friends. These "innocent bystanders" can become collateral damage in the fallout of a family rift. In this clarifying episode, host Tina Gilbertson explores four common reasons why estranged adult children might distance themselves from others in the family, and even beyond. Understanding these motivations can offer a clearer picture of the situation and may help ease parents’ fears about the extent of the rift. You’ll learn that...
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TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from a couple of the larger platforms, and stopped releasing new episodes to those platforms. Unfortunately, many smaller platforms were also affected. And that’s made it a lot harder for the show to be found by new listeners, which is a dilemma I’m...
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99. Road Map to Reconnection, Part 3
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Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child.
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97. Road Map to Reconnection, Part 1
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Episodes 97, 98 and 99 form a 3-part series outlining an overall stepwise approach to reconnecting with your estranged adult child.
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95. The Deep Pain of the Rejected Parent
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Tina talks about three separate types of parental pain, which she suggests exist at deeper and deeper levels in the parent.
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93. You're Both Adults, But Not Peers
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The parent-child relationship is not like any other. In so many ways, your role has always been a more demanding one than your child’s.
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91. How to Let Them Know You've Changed
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Once you start learning, growing and healing through estrangement from an adult child, you might feel like sharing new insights with your child. But don't be in a hurry. Tina offers 2 reasons to wait a while.
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Announcement: Summer Hiatus 2021
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Weekly episodes continue through May 31st, but after that, the next new episode will come out the first Monday in September.
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89. Humility vs. Humiliation
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It’s not uncommon for parents rejected by adult children to feel humiliated by the experience of estrangement.
info_outlineThe parent-child relationship is not like any other. In so many ways, your role has always been a more demanding one than your child’s.
If you were lucky, you had no responsibility for your parents when you were growing up; they took care of you, and not the other way around.
Parents care for their children, and children are cared for by parents. There's something inherently asymmetrical about the relationship.
That dynamic gets etched into both of your psyches as your child grows to maturity. And even though she’s now an adult, she’s never going to be exactly like your peers.
Tina describes the ways and means that parents shoulder the burden of steering relationships with their children.
It’s clear that although parents and children are not exactly peers, even in adulthood, parents trade the responsibilities of parenting for the honor of being irreplaceable.
Most of us have just one of each parent. Never believe you’re interchangeable with anyone else in your adult child’s life.