When Hearts Get Hard, Marriages Break | Mark 10:1–12

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Our text today is Mark 10:1-12:

And he left there and went to the region of Judea and beyond the Jordan, and crowds gathered to him again. And again, as was his custom, he taught them. And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.” And Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” — Mark 10:1-12

The Pharisees weren’t genuinely curious—they were trying to trap Jesus. They bring up divorce, hoping he’d contradict Moses. But Jesus flips the question. He doesn’t begin with the law. He goes back further than the law. He goes back to God's original intent in the Garden.

“Moses allowed it because you were selfish and covenant breakers—unlike God.”

This marriage issue is not about the law or the lines we draw around the law. It’s about spiritual condition. Before divorce fractures the marital covenant, hardness fractures a heart. Jesus shifts the conversation from technicalities to theology. From loopholes to love. He basically says, “Let’s talk about what God intended, not what is permitted because of your fallen condition.”

Marriage wasn’t designed to be disposable. It was designed to be durable. A covenant made between two people and God where two become one and stay one through sin, struggle, and sanctification.

This is why Jesus makes this bold and sobering statement about remarriage and adultery. It’s not to heap shame on us for our mistakes but to reveal the sacredness of marriage and the seriousness of our selfish and hard hearts.

Our culture celebrates personal happiness above covenant faithfulness. But Jesus reminds us: the problem isn’t the institution—it’s the condition of the hearts permitted by the culture. So let's elevate the covenant. Check your heart. Is there pride? Bitterness? Self-righteousness? Indifference?

You're not going to "fix" a marriage by pointing fingers and drawing lines with a hard heart. You fix a marriage by submitting to the covenant, softening your heart, and surrendering to Jesus. If you are married, surrender something today. If you are not, remember marriage is an unchangeable covenant, not an amendable contract.

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ASK THIS:

1. What excuses do we make for failing to fight for faithfulness?
2. Why do you think Jesus points to creation instead of law?
3. How can hard-heartedness show up in small, subtle ways?
4. What would it look like to forgive or pursue your spouse like Christ?

DO THIS:

Today, take five minutes to ask God where your heart has grown hard—in marriage, friendships, or faith. Then invite him to soften it.

PRAY THIS:

Lord, I confess the places where I’ve let my heart grow hard. Soften me again. Teach me to love as you first loved me—faithfully and sacrificially.

PLAY THIS:

“Lead Me”