The Trap of People-Pleasing | Judges 14:15-18

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Our text today is Judges 14:15-18

“On the fourth day they said to Samson’s wife, ‘Entice your husband to tell us what the riddle is, lest we burn you and your father’s house with fire. Have you invited us here to impoverish us?’ And Samson’s wife wept over him and said, ‘You only hate me; you do not love me. You have put a riddle to my people, and you have not told me what it is.’ And he said to her, ‘Behold, I have not told my father nor my mother, and shall I tell you?’ She wept before him the seven days that their feast lasted, and on the seventh day he told her, because she pressed him hard. Then she told the riddle to her people. And the men of the city said to him on the seventh day before the sun went down,
‘What is sweeter than honey?
What is stronger than a lion?’
And he said to them,
‘If you had not plowed with my heifer, you would not have found out my riddle.’”— Judges 14:15-18

Samson’s wife was terrified. Her own people threatened her life, so she turned the pressure onto Samson. For seven days, she cried, nagged, and manipulated until Samson finally caved. He betrayed his own secret because he couldn’t stand the weight of her demands.

That’s the trap of people-pleasing. We think giving in will relieve the pressure. But it only leads to more loss. Samson lost the bet, his dignity, and the trust he had placed in his wife—all because he couldn’t stand firm under pressure.

Here’s the truth: if you live for people’s approval, you’ll die by their rejection.

Family expectations, cultural pressure, the need to please everyone at the holiday table—these are heavy loads. However, when you give in just to maintain peace, you often lose yourself, and sometimes you lose God’s blessing in the process.

The call of Scripture is clear: seek to please God first. Paul put it this way in Galatians 1:10: “If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

That doesn’t mean we stop loving people. But it does mean we draw boundaries and learn to stand firm in truth, even when the pressure is unbearable.

ASK THIS:

1. Where in your life do you feel the heaviest family pressure?
2. How are you tempted to compromise truth just to keep others happy?
3. Do you believe pleasing God first will actually free you from the weight of people-pleasing?

DO THIS:

• Name the main source of pressure in your life right now.
• Pray over it, asking God for courage to honor Him above all.
• Set one healthy boundary this week with a person or situation that drains you.

PRAY THIS:

Father, I confess I often give in to people instead of standing firm in You. Give me courage to please You first, even when the pressure is heavy. Amen.

PLAY THIS:

“The Stand.”