The Danger of Toxic Empathy | Judges 16:15-17

Welcome to The Daily, where we study the Bible verse by verse, chapter by chapter, every day.

Read more about Project23 and partner with us as we teach every verse of the Bible on video.

Our text today is Judges 16:15-17:

“And she said to him, ‘How can you say, “I love you,” when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times, and you have not told me where your great strength lies.’ And when she pressed him hard with her words day after day, and urged him, his soul was vexed to death. And he told her all his heart, and said to her, ‘A razor has never come upon my head, for I have been a Nazirite to God from my mother’s womb. If my head is shaved, then my strength will leave me, and I shall become weak and be like any other man.’” — Judges 16:15-17

Delilah didn’t defeat Samson with force—she wore him down with feelings. “If you love me, prove it. If you care, give me this. If you don’t, you’re holding back.” Samson caved, not because he was overpowered, but because he couldn’t stand the weight of emotional manipulation.

This is called "toxic empathy"—the kind of false compassion that confuses love with surrender. Toxic empathy says: “If you love me, you’ll accept what I want, even if it violates your convictions.” It’s empathy weaponized.

And doesn’t that sound familiar? Our culture preaches a version of tolerance that demands the death of truth. “Affirm my choices, celebrate my lifestyle, bless my rebellion—or else you’re hateful, judgmental, intolerant.” That’s the same spirit Delilah used on Samson: emotional blackmail to make him lay down what God called sacred.

Samson gave in, and in doing so, he forfeited his righteousness. He handed over the very thing God set apart in him. And when believers cave to cultural “tolerance,” we do the same. We give up holiness for acceptance. We trade truth for applause. We exchange conviction for the cheap approval of people who don’t worship our God.

Love can be loving without surrendering truth. Jesus was the most compassionate man who ever lived, yet he never compromised truth or righteousness. He loved sinners without affirming their sin. And we are called to do the same.

Toxic empathy may appear to be kindness, but in the end, it costs us our strength, integrity, and influence. So love, without compromise.

ASK THIS:

1. Where are you tempted to compromise truth because you don’t want to be misunderstood?
2. How does “toxic empathy” show up in your relationships or workplace?
3. When have you traded conviction for cultural acceptance?
4. What would it look like to love people with compassion but without surrendering righteousness?

DO THIS:

• Identify one area where you feel pressured to soften or surrender God’s truth.
• Pray for courage to hold the line with grace and conviction.
• Practice speaking truth in love this week—kindly, but clearly.
• Memorize Isaiah 5:20: “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil.”

PRAY THIS:

Lord, help me resist the pull of toxic empathy. Give me courage to love people with grace, but never at the cost of Your truth. Strengthen me to stand firm when culture demands tolerance that violates righteousness. Amen.

PLAY THIS:

“Christ Our Hope in Life and Death.”