360. "Don't Ever Lead Songs Again"

🎙️ Rob Skinner Podcast

Faith Fails Friday 

“Don’t Ever Lead Songs Again”

Series: Faith Fails Friday
Host: Rob Skinner

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📖 Episode Summary

In this episode of Faith Fails Friday, Rob Skinner shares one of his most personal and painful faith fails — a moment that nearly ended his engagement to his future wife, Pam.

While serving in San Jose at a park service with no song leader, Rob stepped in to lead the singing and preach. Afterward, he asked Pam what she thought, expecting encouragement. Instead, her honest response — “I think you shouldn’t ever lead songs again” — cut deeply and became a crossroads moment in their relationship.

Through this vulnerable story, Rob reflects on the power of words, the difference between honesty and wisdom, and how careless speech can wound deeply — especially those we love most. Drawing from Proverbs 12:18, Rob challenges listeners to examine how they speak to their spouses, family members, and closest relationships, reminding us that words can either pierce like swords or bring healing.

This episode is a reminder that faith fails don’t have to define us — they can shape us, mature us, and teach us how to build rather than tear down.

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📌 Key Moments & Talking Points

• Serving at a park service in San Jose with no song leader

• Stepping in to lead songs and preach

• The honest comment that nearly ended an engagement

• Insecurity, immaturity, and learning to handle words wisely

• The lasting impact words can have on relationships

• How God used this moment to teach humility and growth

• Why we often speak more carefully to strangers than to those we love

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📖 Scripture Highlight

Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

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💡 Main Takeaway

Your words matter — especially with the people closest to you.

Honesty without wisdom can wound deeply. God calls us to speak in ways that heal, encourage, and build up, not tear down. Faith fails often reveal areas where God wants to mature us — in humility, communication, and love.

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🧭 Application & Reflection

• Pay close attention to how you speak to your spouse or closest relationships

• Ask yourself: Would I say this the same way to someone I’m helping spiritually?

• Choose words that heal instead of words that pierce

• Let God refine your speech so it reflects grace, wisdom, and love

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🎯 Rob’s Mission

To inspire you to:

• Live a no-regrets life

• Make this life count

• Multiply disciples, leaders, and churches

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