214: Finding Your Voice For the First Time: Clumsy Is Not Failure
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Your voice is going to come out wrong the first time. Too loud, too soft, or completely sideways. That's not a sign to stop — that's the FFT. This week we get practical. We talk about what it actually looks like when you start using a voice you haven't fully used in years, why clumsy doesn't mean failure, and how to start building the muscle with something genuinely small. I also share what happened five weeks into my separation when my voice came out at a family dinner in the worst possible way — and what showed up in my phone within minutes. Find your practice space. Start there.
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213: The Fear Is Real. And It's Lying To You
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You can understand exactly why you go quiet and still go quiet anyway. Insight isn't the same as change. What keeps the silence in place isn't confusion — it's fear. Specific, legitimate, deeply grooved fear. This week we name it directly. What you're actually afraid of underneath the practical reasons. Why that fear is historically accurate — and why it's still lying to you about what's on the other side. Plus the story of what happened when I said the thing at 23 and the institution failed me anyway — and why I still don't regret saying it. Your voice doesn't always change the room...
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212: Who Taught You To Be Quiet?
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In this episode, I explore something that sits underneath so much of our lives — our voice. Not the one we speak with, but the one that knows what we think, what we need, and what we will and won’t accept. I talk about how many of us didn’t lose that voice by accident — we were trained to silence it. We learned to edit ourselves, to keep the peace, to stay small. Today I start unpacking where that training came from and what it has cost us. This episode is an invitation to begin noticing it — without judgment — and to prepare for the work of finding that voice again.
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211: The Bridge Doesn't Wait
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I lost my best friend from high school this January. The bridge between us was always there — until it wasn't. That's what this episode is about. The conversations you've been meaning to have. The person you've been meaning to show up as. The things you've been meaning to say. Not someday. Now. Your practice this week: catch yourself once in the act of not saying the thing. Write it down. That's it. That's where we begin.
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210: One Small Reason: 5 Japanese Wisdoms for Building a Life You Love
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What if purpose isn’t something you discover once and hold onto forever? What if it’s something you discover in small ways — every single day? Over the last few episodes we’ve been talking about something many of us are missing: margin. Space in our lives and space in our nervous systems. Because we can’t build a life we love when every ounce of our energy is already spent holding the current one together. But once we create a little space, another question appears: Now what? In this episode I share five Japanese wisdoms that offer a gentler way to think about purpose, presence, and...
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209: I Forgot Who I Was. Turns Out, I Was Just Busy.
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When did you last have margin? Not a vacation, not a Sunday — real margin. Blank space that belonged to no one and nothing. Just you, unhurried and present. I'm guessing the answer is: not recently. In this episode I'm coming to you through four different lenses — the coach, the yogi, the nervous system researcher, and the grandmother — each one asking the same essential question in a different language: how did we get so busy building a life that we forgot to live one? This isn't about doing less. It's about getting curious about what the doing is protecting you from feeling. Because...
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208: Caring on Purpose: Your Cares Are Currency. Spend Them Wisely
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That flat, resigned Bohemian Rhapsody line — nothing really matters to me — caught in my throat at 14 and still does. What if it's actually permission? Permission to stop carrying what was never really yours and make space for what genuinely matters. That's the Care Budget. Yes, I made it up. This episode is about treating your energy like your finances — assessing where your cares are going and deciding if they deserve the investment. I share the moment I hit empty in Kansas City, why The Giving Tree is a cautionary tale for women who are really good at giving, and four questions to...
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207: From Foggy to Flowing: The Fix
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You're not depressed. You're not fine either. You're somewhere in the middle — and there's actually a name for it. In this episode, I'm unpacking why so many of us feel like we're watching our lives through a foggy windshield, and sharing one surprisingly simple shift that can wake you back up to yourself. We'll talk about what's really happening in your brain when you hit that sweet spot where time disappears and your inner critic finally shuts up — and how to get there more often, even in the margins of a very full life. This one's short, practical, and might just be the permission slip...
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206: Choosing Happiness, Taking Risks & Forgiving Yourself: Deathbed Wisdom (Part 2)
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Welcome to part two of our deathbed regrets series. Last week I covered the first four regrets—this week I'm finishing with the final six, and these might hit even harder because they're about living on autopilot, postponing joy, and holding grudges. Regret #5: Not choosing happiness. Happiness isn't something that happens to you—it's a daily decision. Regret #6: Not taking the risk. People don't regret what they tried and failed at—they regret what they never tried. Regret #7: Not prioritizing self-care. Not bubble baths—actual care. Meeting your needs, protecting...
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205: 4 Regrets You Can Avoid (Part 1)
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This week I'm covering the first four of ten deathbed regrets shared with hospice nurses—not to depress you, but to give you a roadmap while you still have time. Includes research from Blue Zones and the Framingham Heart Study on how connection and purpose add years to your life.
info_outlineMost of us are grinding through life, dismissing the whispers of our body and our relationships because we don't have time to pause. But what if the noise we're taught to manage is actually news—information our lives are desperately trying to send us? I'm breaking down five concrete practices (that won't add to your plate) to help you shift from managing to listening, including nervous system regulation, creating safe space for vulnerability, and moving through stored stress in your body.