503. Unlocking Deeper Human Connections W/ Topaz Adizes
Release Date: 02/11/2025
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info_outlineCan a single conversation radically transform a relationship? This week’s guest on The Unbeatable Mind, former film director and founder of experience design studio ‘The Skin Deep’, Topaz Adizes certainly thinks so.
After years in the film industry, Topaz found himself asking the question, “how is the emotional experience of being human shifting in light of all this technology?” Embracing this question prompted him to found ‘The Skin Deep’, an experience design studio formed to help people form deeper connections with the most important people in their life. Together, Topaz and Mark delve into the concept of deep listening and the nuances of forming deep connections through the power of well-constructed questions.
Topaz details the transformative potential of sitting with discomfort, and discusses a topic he clearly has much familiarity with, the unique art of storytelling. The nature of human interaction runs deep and is multifaceted, but Topaz contains profound insights and asks equally profound questions—a skill that opens up infinite possibilities in which deeper connections can emerge.
Key Takeaways:
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The Power of Questions: Discover how asking well-constructed, non-binary questions without an agenda can deepen connections and foster empathy.
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Transforming Challenges Into Opportunities: Dive into Topaz’s unique journey from the world of filmmaking to exploring the ever-evolving emotional experience in a tech-driven world.
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Sitting With Discomfort: Hear about Topaz’s belief that it’s sitting in the discomfort of the question—-not the answer—-that holds the potential to unlock a myriad of possibilities.
- Creating Honest Dialogues: Realize how providing a space for individuals to have intimate conversations, whether it’s in a personal or professional setting, can lead to healing, growth, and stronger bonds.
Topaz Adizes is driven by a deep curiosity in human connection. What happens when we create space to explore what is really possible between us? How can we unlock the true power and potential of deeper human connection?
He’s come to learn how asking powerfully, well constructed questions in the right environment can provoke, challenge and shift the direction of our lives. He’s seen this magic unfold again and again over the last 10 years in his work as the founder of The Skin Deep experience design studio and as the creator of Emmy Award winning {THE AND} documentary, video series, and card games. In today’s world of growing polarization, algorithmic silos, abundant distractions and increasing rate of change, the power of human connection has never been more essential.
Topaz’s Links:
Website: https://www.topazadizes.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/topazadizes/
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/topazadizes/?hl=en
The Skin Deep: https://shop.theskindeep.com/
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Timestamped Overview:
00:00 Artist's Dilemma: Market vs. Vision
09:36 Interconnectedness and Infinite Possibilities
12:29 Safe Space for Honest Conversations
20:52 Connective Question Dynamics
22:01 Language's Impact on Connection
28:32 Adaptive Mission Thinking
34:51 "Understanding Multidimensional Self-Awareness"
40:29 "Embrace Your Calling: Warrior Path"
45:55 Turning Discomfort into Routine
53:02 Five-Act Narrative Question Framework
53:45 Prompting Deep Emotional Reflection
01:04:02 Mindful Listening for Deeper Connections
01:08:50 Fostering Universal Conversations
01:10:25 "The Skin Deep Outreach"