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41: “I don’t trust her decision making.”

Secrets of the Motherworld

Release Date: 06/09/2020

44: “The whole family is walking on eggshells.” show art 44: “The whole family is walking on eggshells.”

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“I would like to hear your thoughts on how parents can speak about the elephant in the room. 

info_outline 43: “My daughter is overweight.” show art 43: “My daughter is overweight.”

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My 13 year-old daughter is overweight and I don't know how to handle this. 

info_outline 42: “It's the world that's crazy -- not us parents.” show art 42: “It's the world that's crazy -- not us parents.”

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“Hi Lisa and Stella. This is not so much of a question, but a warm and heartfelt THANK YOU. I think (hope!) that we're slowly getting to the end of some really tough years.

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 A year ago when our ADD student daughter then aged 21 revealed to my husband and myself that she was on a waiting list to have cross sex treatment, our 16-year-old son took the role of her trans ally.

info_outline 40: “I know we should love the child we have and not wish them to be different but I can't help having these thoughts.” show art 40: “I know we should love the child we have and not wish them to be different but I can't help having these thoughts.”

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“I worry that my boy is not very clever and I am secretly embarrassed and ashamed about this.  My family is over-invested in achievement and especially educational achievement and the cousins' fabulous exam results are continuously talked about within our family WhatsApp.  It is very distressing to feel ashamed of my boy who is both kind and funny.  I'm not sure how I should navigate this - should I just declare that he isn't 'academic' and thereby lead the rest of the family to make insinuations that he is a bit stupid? Although I don't equate intelligence with...

info_outline 39: “My work has 39: “My work has "juice" for me now while parenting just feels hard and draining.”

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“I'm feeling incredibly disconnected from my kids right now.

info_outline 38: “My sense of disappointment feels selfish.” show art 38: “My sense of disappointment feels selfish.”

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“I'm a single mom and I've always worked full time while raising my kids.  My youngest is graduating from high school this year and I've been anticipating the empty next stage of life with mixed emotions. I've known it will be tremendously sad, but at the same time, I'm looking forward to having more time to myself for the first time in over two decades.  Now with the coronavirus, it looks possible that he won't be leaving for college in the fall and I am feeling very disappointed about this. I know he is disappointed as well.  My sense of disappointment feels selfish. It's...

info_outline 37: “Now, with the Coronavirus, she won't have any of the ceremonial endings that seem important to her.” show art 37: “Now, with the Coronavirus, she won't have any of the ceremonial endings that seem important to her.”

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“My 12 year-old is leaving school this year and now, with the Coronavirus, she won't have any of the ceremonial endings that seem to important to her.

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“I come from a close family. My parents have been involved in all aspects of my children’s lives and are extremely special to them. I have one adult sibling who has special needs and is cared for exclusively by my aging parents. At the time of his birth, it was common for children with special needs to be placed in an institution rather than raised at home."

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A year ago, my 16 year old son told us he is transgender. I was completely shocked, as he is not particularly feminine.

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 A year ago when our ADD student daughter then aged 21 revealed to my husband and myself that she was on a waiting list to have cross sex treatment, our 16-year-old son took the role of her trans ally. My husband said he would tolerate her having a partial mastectomy. My family doctor referred me to Mermaids. I called them and found there was no space for parents to feel grief, only acceptance.

I thought the world had gone mad and I should take my exit. 

Since then a lot has happened, a lot of shouting, a lot of crying, nights alone in hotel rooms when I couldn't bear to be in the house with my husband and son. I then made huge efforts to find other parents who felt the same and bring them together. My husband and son seem to have changed their tune and don't now support my daughter's position. 

I worry about our daughter's welfare when our time has ended but don't trust her decision making. I want her to have a roof over her head where she may not be able to manage a home herself. I have got a lawyer to draft up a family trust which becomes active when we die, to be managed by our son and my younger brother and family, stipulating any help will stop if she uses money to advance any physical transitioning or furthering of the trans ideology. Though he seems to be growing up well, has a long-term sweetheart where they are smitten with each, it's putting a lot of pressure on our son where he isn't yet an adult.

 

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