Should Christians Give When Their Spouse Disagrees? (what to do when your spouse says 'no')
SeedTime with Bob and Linda Lotich
Release Date: 12/13/2025
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SeedTime with Bob and Linda Lotich
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Why When You Feel Least Qualified Is When God Does His Best Work
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How to Hear the Holy Spirit About Your Finances (with Alex Seeley)
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She prayed for seven years for a breakthrough. The more she prayed, the worse things got. And she ended up on the bathroom floor saying she didn’t want to be alive anymore. What the Holy Spirit showed her in that moment — about control, about fear disguised as faith, about the difference between begging and believing — is something I haven’t been able to stop thinking about. In this episode, Linda and I sit down with Alex Seeley — author of The Divine Counselor — for one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on this show. Alex shares how a 20-year eating disorder rooted in...
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The 3 Money Tests God Gives Every Christian (And Why Most of Us Are Failing)
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The One Verse God Said to Remember (That Everyone Forgot)
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You're Meaner to Yourself Than God Is to You (w/ Earl McClellan)
SeedTime with Bob and Linda Lotich
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Does a Church Salary Always Corrupt Pastors? (This Guy Says Yes)
SeedTime with Bob and Linda Lotich
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info_outlineToday, Bob & Linda open up about one of the hardest seasons of their marriage — a months-long battle over a life-altering decision that left them in tears, confusion, and deep disunity. What they learned in that painful stretch has become the backbone of how they help couples navigate money disagreements today… especially when one spouse feels called by God to give and the other isn’t on board.
If you’ve ever wrestled with:“What do I do when I feel God nudging me to give — but my spouse isn’t there?”
…this episode will minister to you deeply.
Together, they unpack four biblical principles for staying unified, honoring God, and discerning His timing — without forcing agreement or abandoning conviction.
KEY TOPICS COVERED
✔️ The Lowe’s Parking Lot Breakdown
Bob shares the raw story of the only moment he thought their marriage might not make it — and how God used that season to refine both of their hearts.
✔️ Why the enemy always pushes “either/or” thinking
And how God always has a third option you haven’t seen yet.
✔️ What to do when you feel called to give… and your spouse doesn’t.
A practical, grace-filled approach that protects unity and honors conviction.
✔️ The timing principle: when a word from God is real, but not for right now. A simple budgeting tool that can reduce giving conflicts instantly:
Using individual “spending money” accounts without hiding money.
✔️ How to pray when you’re frustrated, angry, or absolutely sure you’re right.
(With two real prayers Bob & Linda actually use.)
SCRIPTURES MENTIONED (NLT)
- James 1:2–5 — Endurance, wisdom, and the refinement of trials.
- Romans 8:28 — God working all things for good.
- Ephesians 5 — Mutual love and honor in marriage.
- 1 Peter 5:7 — Cast your cares on Him.
THIS WEEK’S ACTION STEP
Set aside one night to pray.
- Don’t solve the issue.
- Don’t debate it.
- Simply pray for unity, wisdom, and softened hearts — together if possible.
If your spouse is not a believer or unwilling:
Pray alone and gently reaffirm to them, “I’m not going to move forward without your blessing.”
Then… go on a date. Restore friendship first.
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