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Midlife Conversations: How the Fuck Did We Get Here?

Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

Release Date: 06/20/2024

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

So many of us are frustrated by our lack of motivation or change.  But here’s the truth: You’re not lazy. You’re likely burned out, stuck in survival mode, or running on a nervous system that thinks “rest” is a threat. And willpower? It’s not a moral issue—it’s a limited resource, not a personality trait. In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why change feels so damn hard in midlife (even when you really want it) What your brain is doing when you try something new—and why it slams the brakes How perimenopause can make motivation and memory even harder The...

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Welcome to the final episode of my five-part podcast series, Why Did No One Warn Us About This Midlife Sht?* If you’ve been feeling like the life you built doesn’t quite fit anymore, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Today's episode? This Isn’t the Life I Ordered. Now What? The episode is all about the gut-punch realization many of us face in midlife: you can create a life that looks “perfect” on paper and still feel deeply disconnected from it. Maybe the house, the career, the relationship, the life you worked so hard for… doesn't feel like you anymore. In this...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

In Episode 4 of my five-part series, I’m talking about something that hits all of us in midlife: the rage. That low-key, high-voltage, "I swear to God if the dishwasher beeps one more time..." kind of rage. Here’s the thing: You’re not broken. You’re not crazy. You’re just awake — and your nervous system is officially done putting up with the bullshit. 🧠 In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why the rage isn’t random — and why it’s not a flaw What’s really going on in your body (hello perimenopause, my old frenemy) Why your nervous system is basically a cornered...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

EPISODE 3: Why We Don't Like Ourselves Very Much (Gen X Women Edition) 💥 In Episode 3 of my five-part series, I’m getting real about the deep, invisible ways women—especially Gen X women—were taught from day fucking one not to actually like ourselves. 🧠 I’m breaking down why so many of us struggle with self-worth, how it’s completely different from self-esteem or confidence, and why no amount of gold stars, trophies, or people-pleasing will fill the damn gap. 🙋‍♀️ In this episode, I’m calling out: Over-giving until you’re fucking exhausted (and resent...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

Fuck Being the Strong One! 💥 Episode 2 of our 5-part podcast series is here — and we’re coming for the “strong one” identity Gen X women were handed without consent. 🧠 In this powerful, hilarious, and painfully honest episode, Kira breaks down the emotional toll of always being the capable, dependable, fix-it-all one — and why it’s not strength, it’s survival mode. 🙋‍♀️ If you’ve ever: Been the unofficial family therapist, tech support, and event planner — all before noon Managed everyone else’s needs while ignoring your own Thought “if I stop...

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Welcome to Part 1 of my brand-new series, Why Did Nobody Warn Us About This Shit?! – five no-holds-barred episodes exploring the real, raw, hilarious, and sometimes heartbreaking truths about midlife. Spoiler alert: It’s way more than hot flashes. In this episode, I’m talking about the physical, emotional, and psychological curveballs no one prepared us for— The 3:00 AM brain TED Talks The unpredictable emotional rollercoaster The friendships that fade or fall apart The crippling nostalgia and wild irritability The WTF moments where your own body ghosts you Midlife isn’t...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

Hello there, sugar pants. I'm back—and whew, life has been a lot lately. But today, I’m diving into something that’s been messing with way too many of us for way too long: perfection. We’ve been taught that if we can just get it right—be good enough, successful enough, lovable enough—then life will finally feel better. But here’s the truth: you can’t love perfect. You can’t be perfect. And trying to is killing your joy, your creativity, your connection—and your relationships. In this episode, I’m sharing: The red flag hidden in “You seem perfect” (and why it made me...

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Welcome back, Thrive fam! I'm back with a laugh-out-loud, no-BS episode about why midlife women are just too damn old for over-giving, over-thinking, and pretending everything’s “fine.” If you’re ready to ditch people-pleasing and finally build self-worth, this episode is your must-listen. In This Episode: Where the heck have I been? (Spoiler: Thrive Midlife Group wins, real-life curveballs, and yes, Danny’s hip replacement) How Gen X women were conditioned to over-give (and why it’s time to stop) The real science behind self-worth, resilience, and building a midlife that...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

TWO SPOTS LEFT for THRIVE Midlife Program!   My brand new positive psychology program with optional retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to Stop Overthinking, Realize Your Worth, & Have the BEST YEAR OF YOUR LIFE! ✨ Ditch the stuff that’s making you feel stuck. ✨ Discover what lights you up (and keeps you glowing). ✨ Build tools to deal with life’s chaos without burning out. No more rinse-and-repeat. Let’s get you back to feeling alive, vibrant, and (dare I say it?) excited about life again. Grab your spot & check out all the...

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Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

Not all advice is created equal. Some of it is gold, but a lot of it? Straight-up garbage. This episode is about shaking off the bad advice that keeps us stuck and stepping into 2025 ready to own it. If you’re tired of the same old stuck, it’s time to shake things up. Your next chapter isn’t going to write itself—so let’s make it the best one yet. Ready to Make 2025 the best year of Your Life?   

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I'm doing a new series over the next few days because I want to talk the absolute mindfuck that is midlife.  Today I talk about:

  • The generational trauma that most of us over 40 are now dealing with with personal examples and stories
  • How it is showing up and effecting our lives, happiness, and relationships now and why it matters

And a lot of other stuff. 😂

I'll be back tomorrow or Saturday with part 2.

LIsten up!