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EP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful Bills

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Release Date: 06/16/2025

EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy show art EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

On this week’s episode of So What Now?, Dex and I got honest about how the fall season can sneak up on your emotions and shift your whole vibe. I shared how getting outside, staying active, and even slipping in a little travel keeps the fall blues from knocking me off my game. We encouraged everyone to pick one short-term goal to finish by December and actually write the plan—because listen, accountability is peak grown-woman energy. And yes, I had to remind y’all that talking to a counselor or therapist is not a weakness; sometimes you need a professional to help you sort through the...

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EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now? show art EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

It’s officially So What Now? one-year podcast anniversary! In this week’s episode, we’re taking a moment to reflect on the past year, the lessons we’ve learned, the challenges we’ve overcome, and the growth that’s come along the way. Most importantly, we’re saying a huge thank you to all of our listeners for being part of this journey with us.  To celebrate, we answered a series of deep (and sometimes funny) questions to help you get to know us a little better. From exploring the “color” of our lives right now to sharing what we’ve learned about friendship, mistakes,...

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So What Now? with Carla and Dex

This week, I’m introducing you to a brand-new show that I had the honor of helping bring to life — Dead Honest, hosted by Ashley, a certified death doula. At the crossroads of belief and doubt, life and death, Dead Honest invites us to face the one thing we all share—our mortality—with courage, curiosity, and joy. This isn’t a doomsday podcast—it’s a raw and beautiful exploration of grief, faith, legacy, and what it truly means to live without fear. If you’ve ever struggled with loss, questioned your faith, or wondered how to live more intentionally, these conversations are...

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EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation show art EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

This week on So What Now?, your favorite duo dive headfirst into the tech takeover… and wrap things up with a dose of relationship drama you won’t see coming. We kick things off with the viral story of two Harvard students who built a braiding robot designed to save time and reduce hand strain. But the big question remains: Is technology helping our culture or hijacking it? The ladies unpack what innovation means when tradition is on the line. Then, things heat up when Amazon’s plan to replace 500,000+ warehouse jobs with robots comes up. Carla’s all in on progress (“Let’s move...

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EP 53: Let’s Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions show art EP 53: Let’s Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

This week, Dex spills all the details of her anti-aging skincare routine — and let’s just say, it’s not for anyone on a budget. If you thought that was crazy, wait till you hear her skincare goals inspired by Paris Hilton. From luxury serums to three-hour facials, Dex already has her regimen mapped out for when she hits that “Kim K money” era. Carla can’t stop laughing (or calculating the price tag). Then, in the spirit of Halloween, we get into some real-life scary stories. We unpack the shocking case of Sakiyna Thompson, recently convicted of murdering her romantic rival, Kayla...

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EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We’re Here for It show art EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We’re Here for It

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

In this week’s episode of So What Now?, we dive into parenting highs, lows, and the unexpected in-betweens. Dex kicks things off by sharing her experience at a frat party with Mikaela – the drinks, the vibes, the "what am I doing here?" moments. Meanwhile, Carla continues her fight with the public school system to get the proper support Psalm needs — it’s real, it's frustrating, and she doesn’t hold back. The convo then takes a sharp (and fuzzy?) turn to Kim Kardashian’s latest business move: faux-fur thong panties. Yes, you read that right. They’re sold out, and we’re asking:...

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EP 51: The Math Ain’t Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters show art EP 51: The Math Ain’t Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

This week, we dove into the mystical world of life path numbers said to reveal the road you're meant to walk in life. Carla walks us through how to calculate yours (warning: it’s not as easy as it sounds!) and shares her eerily accurate reading as a Life Path 8. Then, things take a turn when we read a heavy listener letter from a woman dealing with the fallout of her husband’s affair—and the unexpected arrival of his baby with the other woman. With no warning and no say, she’s suddenly playing mom to a child she didn’t ask for. We unpack her heartbreak, her anger, and the impossible...

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EP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men? show art EP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men?

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

This week on So What Now we are back with all the chaos, wisdom, and side-eyes you’ve come to love. Dex kicks things off with a hilarious (and low-key insightful?) update on dinner with her dad — who came with unexpected dating advice on where to find eligible bachelors. Spoiler: Dex is not taking him up on this advice. Then, Carla introduces the viral “golden retriever vs. black cat” dating theory — and it’s clear Dex is a full black cat. We break down what your relationship energy says about you and how it shapes your dating patterns. The convo takes a turn as we unpack Young...

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EP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi’s Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage Proposals show art EP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi’s Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage Proposals

So What Now? with Carla and Dex

Welcome back to So What Now, where the convos are chaotic and the wine is always flowing 🍷 In this episode, we’re diving deep (and maybe too far 😭) into everything from Rapture Talk 2025 to Cardi B’s new album, revenge baby, and messy baby daddy drama. We’re asking the real questions like: – Did the Rapture already happen and we got left behind? 👀 – Can you repent on your way out and still make it to heaven? – Are all sins really the same, or are some just low-heat sins? 🔥 – And what’s the meal prep plan before… b*** stuff? (Asking for a friend 💀) Plus, we...

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EP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl Preferences show art EP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl Preferences

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It’s football season, y’all! And guess what? Carla and I are finally ready to dive in. We’re trying to understand the hype, the rules, and maybe even pick a team (no promises though). From touchdowns to tight ends, we’re figuring it out one game at a time. Then we pivot to pop culture, because of course we do and whew, let’s talk about Dame Dash on The Breakfast Club. When are folks gonna stop trying to match energy with Charlamagne? That man lives for chaos! Carla and I revisit our favorite moments. Now buckle up, because the vibes shift fast. I’m officially obsessed with the...

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Alright y’all, in this week’s episode we got real about body language in dating—yes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no one’s stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving “don’t talk to me” energy. I put some of those body language tips to the test and let’s just say... results were mixed.

Meanwhile, Carla is back in these dating streets and using ChatGPT to help cut through all the awkward small talk on Hinge and honestly, it’s working! you’ll have to hear it to believe it.

What are ya’ll thoughts on romantic relationships being transactional?  Now me? I stand ten toes down in the belief that all relationships are a give-and-take. Know your value, know what you want, and stop wasting time. Carla had a moment too—realizing that what she brings to a relationship is more than money, and honestly, that shift is powerful.

But we had to ask—since women are out here buying homes, getting degrees, leveling up in every way—should we lower our standards when it comes to men? Whew, child. 

We closed it out with a pivot to motherhood and policy—talking about Trump’s “big beautiful bill” and how it’s gonna make SNAP benefits harder to get for single moms. Work requirements, marital status hoops... it’s a lot, and it’s giving struggle for too many women.

Tap in, y’all. This one’s layered.

We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat. 

Outside the Group Chat: Women’s Meetups

— Dex 💛

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