EP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last Straw
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Release Date: 06/23/2025
EP 59: Why I’m Choosing Experiences Over Perfection
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
In this episode, Carla shares her personal journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing life's adventures, especially during the holiday season. She reflects on her recent trip to Denver, the significance of making memories with friends, and the lessons learned about living in the moment. Carla also discusses the challenges of motherhood, emphasizing the need for grace and presence over material gifts. The episode concludes with a deep dive into the biblical story of the Prodigal Son, exploring themes of grace, restoration, and the importance of returning to oneself. ...
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EP 58: Is Holiday Season Making Us Delusional… or Honest?
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
It’s officially Christmas season, y’all Mariah Carey is defrosted, the Elf on the Shelf is stressing parents out, and Carla + Dex are back on the couch, hootin’ and hollerin’ about everything from holiday nostalgia to the realities of six-figure dating. This week, the girls dive into viral stats about women, money, marriage, and whether peace > partnership in 2025. Carla breaks down the wild Samson & Delilah story during Bible Tea: The Most High Edition complete with betrayal, bad decisions, and holy haircuts gone wrong. They also get into: -The Tinder Swindler’s tacky...
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EP 57: Rooted in Scripture, Surrounded by Foolishness
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week on So What Now?, we’re back from Thanksgiving break and whew child, the mess was waiting for us. We kicked things off with a “Fair or Foul?” that had me side-eyeing my whole microphone. A 34-year-old sis wants her ex to pay for her fertility treatments because she says he wasted her “prime childbearing years.” I’m just saying… can you really invoice a man for your 20s? Dex had opinions, I had opinions, and we did not hold back. Then we jumped into the wildest love story of the year: a woman in Japan who actually married ChatGPT—wedding, vows, guests, and her...
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EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
On this week’s episode of So What Now?, Dex and I got honest about how the fall season can sneak up on your emotions and shift your whole vibe. I shared how getting outside, staying active, and even slipping in a little travel keeps the fall blues from knocking me off my game. We encouraged everyone to pick one short-term goal to finish by December and actually write the plan—because listen, accountability is peak grown-woman energy. And yes, I had to remind y’all that talking to a counselor or therapist is not a weakness; sometimes you need a professional to help you sort through the...
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EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
It’s officially So What Now? one-year podcast anniversary! In this week’s episode, we’re taking a moment to reflect on the past year, the lessons we’ve learned, the challenges we’ve overcome, and the growth that’s come along the way. Most importantly, we’re saying a huge thank you to all of our listeners for being part of this journey with us. To celebrate, we answered a series of deep (and sometimes funny) questions to help you get to know us a little better. From exploring the “color” of our lives right now to sharing what we’ve learned about friendship, mistakes,...
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Facing Death Without Fear: The Heart Behind Dead Honest
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week, I’m introducing you to a brand-new show that I had the honor of helping bring to life — Dead Honest, hosted by Ashley, a certified death doula. At the crossroads of belief and doubt, life and death, Dead Honest invites us to face the one thing we all share—our mortality—with courage, curiosity, and joy. This isn’t a doomsday podcast—it’s a raw and beautiful exploration of grief, faith, legacy, and what it truly means to live without fear. If you’ve ever struggled with loss, questioned your faith, or wondered how to live more intentionally, these conversations are...
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EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week on So What Now?, your favorite duo dive headfirst into the tech takeover… and wrap things up with a dose of relationship drama you won’t see coming. We kick things off with the viral story of two Harvard students who built a braiding robot designed to save time and reduce hand strain. But the big question remains: Is technology helping our culture or hijacking it? The ladies unpack what innovation means when tradition is on the line. Then, things heat up when Amazon’s plan to replace 500,000+ warehouse jobs with robots comes up. Carla’s all in on progress (“Let’s move...
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EP 53: Let’s Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week, Dex spills all the details of her anti-aging skincare routine — and let’s just say, it’s not for anyone on a budget. If you thought that was crazy, wait till you hear her skincare goals inspired by Paris Hilton. From luxury serums to three-hour facials, Dex already has her regimen mapped out for when she hits that “Kim K money” era. Carla can’t stop laughing (or calculating the price tag). Then, in the spirit of Halloween, we get into some real-life scary stories. We unpack the shocking case of Sakiyna Thompson, recently convicted of murdering her romantic rival, Kayla...
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EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We’re Here for It
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
In this week’s episode of So What Now?, we dive into parenting highs, lows, and the unexpected in-betweens. Dex kicks things off by sharing her experience at a frat party with Mikaela – the drinks, the vibes, the "what am I doing here?" moments. Meanwhile, Carla continues her fight with the public school system to get the proper support Psalm needs — it’s real, it's frustrating, and she doesn’t hold back. The convo then takes a sharp (and fuzzy?) turn to Kim Kardashian’s latest business move: faux-fur thong panties. Yes, you read that right. They’re sold out, and we’re asking:...
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EP 51: The Math Ain’t Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
This week, we dove into the mystical world of life path numbers said to reveal the road you're meant to walk in life. Carla walks us through how to calculate yours (warning: it’s not as easy as it sounds!) and shares her eerily accurate reading as a Life Path 8. Then, things take a turn when we read a heavy listener letter from a woman dealing with the fallout of her husband’s affair—and the unexpected arrival of his baby with the other woman. With no warning and no say, she’s suddenly playing mom to a child she didn’t ask for. We unpack her heartbreak, her anger, and the impossible...
info_outlineWhew! Y’all… I’m out here trying to date and let me just say: it’s terrible. This week I went on two dates — yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately… and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends me unsolicited prayer voice notes every single morning and follows up with "send me a pic" all day long. I’m exhausted, and it’s only Monday. 🙃
Meanwhile, Dex is convinced the internet is for girls only — specifically saying men should not be in The Shade Room comments. Honestly? I don’t disagree. Go build a house or something, sir.
We also got into the wildest things we’ve done for love. Let’s just say, Dex shared a story that had my jaw on the floor. You ever stay with someone who cheated… and had two kids on you while y’all were still together? She did. And sis really said "crazy for love."
Then, we got into a listener letter: “Do you have to pick a side when two close friends fall out?” Mmm… we had thoughts. Lots of thoughts.
In our motherhood segment, we reviewed that new Tyler Perry movie Straw (spoiler alert if you haven’t watched yet!). Of course, we couldn’t agree on anything. I loved it — it spoke to me on such a deep, spiritual level. Dex? She’s over it. Said it’s just more Black trauma on display. Classic us.
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