Lead Yourself First: How Your Childhood Shapes Your Leadership (and How to Rewrite It) with Dr. Kevin Mays
Release Date: 05/26/2026
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info_outlineWhat if the way you lead today was shaped long before your first job, team, or business? In this episode of the Story Engine Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Kevin Mays to explore how early childhood roles—whether you were the oldest, youngest, or an only child—quietly influence your leadership style, decision-making, and even the types of people you attract into your life and work.
Dr. Kevin breaks down how these deeply ingrained patterns can either limit or amplify your impact—and more importantly, how to break free from them. This conversation is a powerful invitation to lead yourself first, so you can show up more authentically for your team, your clients, and your mission. Plus, you’ll get a behind-the-scenes look at how Kevin is shaping his message and story for an upcoming book—revealing what it really takes to step into your full leadership potential.
Highlights:
(00:25) – Kevin’s origin story: getting kicked out of college and discovering the power of choosing what you want vs. what you should
(01:40) – From psychologist to leadership expert: helping high achievers become “inspired executives”
(02:45) – The breaking point: realizing a traditional career path wasn’t the right fit after a near-dangerous flying experience
(03:20) – A radical decision: selling everything, hitting the road, and designing life on his own terms
(04:10) – “My age doubled overnight”: the moment Kevin stepped into adulthood, leadership, and responsibility
(05:00) – Leading through crisis: helping a bank grow during the 2006–2008 financial collapse using conscious leadership
(07:18) – The deeper mission: mastering consciousness and applying ancient wisdom (like teachings of the Buddha) to modern leadership
(09:10) – What’s really leading you: the “invisible patterns” formed in early childhood that drive your behavior
(10:00) – The neuroscience of identity: how your brain wires your beliefs, habits, and self-concept before age 3
(10:45) – The “8-lane highway” effect: why most people repeat the same patterns for life without realizing it
(11:30) – Birth order explained: how being oldest, youngest, or an only child shapes your leadership style
(12:30) – The trap of success: how the traits that made you successful become your biggest limitation
(13:20) – The turning point: awareness as the gateway to breaking unconscious patterns
(14:44) – Why entrepreneurs struggle to scale: when “doing everything yourself” becomes the bottleneck
(16:47) – Leadership ripple effect: how your internal patterns create chaos—or clarity—throughout your entire organization
(17:30) – “I work with a bunch of idiots”: the hard truth about leadership and taking responsibility for your team
(18:39) – The real work: shifting from mastering the external world to mastering your internal one
(19:48) – Kyle’s breakthrough: how being an only child shaped conflict avoidance and over-responsibility
(21:31) – The realization: what got you here won’t get you to the next level
(23:06) – The process: building awareness as a mental discipline to interrupt and rewrite old patterns
(25:27) – A painful lesson: staying too long with a misaligned client and the toll it took on Kevin’s life
(26:00) – The cost of misalignment: anxiety, stress, and how it impacts your family and well-being
(27:27) – The breaking point: finally letting go of what wasn’t working
(28:17) – The shift: what happens when you create space by removing what drains you
(29:00) – Alignment in action: attracting better clients, better opportunities, and more fulfilling work
(29:45) – Case study: a high-level executive transforms confidence and lands a better-aligned role
(30:20) – Organizational transformation: how one leader’s internal shift improved communication, culture, and profitability
(31:00) – A powerful story: Kyle reflects Kevin’s journey into a compelling narrative of transformation
(35:58) – Final insight: you are always writing your story—whether you realize it or not
(36:18) – Where to go next: Dr. Kevin shares his book launch and how to begin upgrading your leadership