010: The 5 Ingredients of Self-Imaging: (A Self Image Solution)

Back in the day, before I lost all that weight and made over my body….AND Long before I was doing what I do now, I was a high-achieving woman, highly-motivated, lady on a mission that just wanted to feel beautiful, feel proud of my life and my accomplishments, and simply be HAPPY!

So I went and did what any woman would do with (a lot) of weight to lose, a hope, and a dream:

★ I went on every diet, plan, and program I could imagine.

★ I hired coaches, joined masterminds, and attended retreats and events.

★ I even went back to therapy!

And it worked…to an extent.

But fast forward to the part where I ‘had it all’ – to the part in the story where I SHOULD have been happy and content.

As you’ve learned from me sharing bits and pieces of my journey, you know that that’s not how the story went down AT ALL.

In reality, even AFTER I lost one-third of my body weight, built a successful business, and checked off all those proverbial ‘tick-boxes’ I thought I needed to be happy…

I was NOT happy.

Because Self-Love has a unique recipe. It has its own magical ingredients.

I tried skipping steps!

I tried cutting corners and fast-forwarding through the process. I tried leaving out ingredients.

And I believe that when the recipe is crafted (and then followed),(which is exactly what I do with all of my Stressless Eating clients),  it hands-down-every-time brings YOU ( the ‘chef’ of this recipe I speak of) from feeling:

Okay so let’s talk about the 5 Ingredients (Goggles) Of Your Self-Image:

Ingredient #1: Self-Care:  And what i mean by that is Figuring out what it would take for you to care for yourself (as a verb and a noun) physically, mentally, socially/emotionally, spiritually, relationally….all of it?

So...that being said….Do you truly feel like you know how to take CARE of yourself?

I have found that most women don't.

They might know how to 'get fit' or 'get healthy' for a little while, but after adversity strikes they go right back to their default.

Or maybe you know how to take care of yourself PERSONALLY, but on the mental and emotional levels, you feel like you need some help?

Ingredient #2: Self-Acceptance:  Figuring out what it would look like (and feel like) for you to fully accept yourself without exception. Figuring out how to accept WHO you are and WHERE you are (without all that shame, blame, guilt, comparison, and perfectionism).

There’s actually  few  sides to this. The first side is one that isn't rocket science and it’s not THAT different than what a lot of the self love messages out there are sharing. 

And that's….What it would feel like for you to fully accept yourself without exception?

I mean FULLY accept yourself-- 'warts' and all. Not when you lose the weight or make more money. I mean...right now. 

Ingredient #3: Self-Worth:  Understanding what you are ‘weighing’, what you are measuring, and the 'currency' that you are living your life (judging yourself) by.

What are you 'weighing' and what are you measuring?

Are you judging yourself 24 hours a day based on the size of your jeans, your career status, or the number of 'likes' you got on Facebook?

Or are YOU defining and setting the 'currency' that you want to be measuring yourself by and working towards THAT?

Ingredient #4 Self-Esteem:  Understanding the ‘know, like, and trust’ factor of yourself.

Do you know, like, and trust yourself?

Most women are walking around feeling very UNtrusting of themselves.

Because somewhere along the lines they stopped believing themselves when they made promises to themselves.

Ingredient #5: Self-Endorsement:  Figuring out who you are (and how you feel about yourself) regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Here's the truth:

It’s not practical (or even possible) for any woman to “not care” what other people think about her. Our brains are WIRED to care -- especially the FEMALE brain! We are WIRED to actively notice other people's opinions and judgments MORE than the male brain (I'll share more about this specific part of the brain in another episode)...

But here's what IS possible:

It's possible to figure out what it would take for YOU to value your own opinion of yourself more so (even just a little bit more so) than someone else’s opinion of you.

This is the recipe to your FREEDOM and happiness and peace of mind. And at the end of the day -- that’s what you want! You might think you want to lose weight or be smaller or attract a better mate or make more money or whatever….but I promise you, what you really want is how you think you’ll feel if you get those things. But if you don’t address the self image and body image that’s causing you to think and act and feel and behave the way you are right now…..you’ll always end up back where you are. 

That’s why I truly believe that a brain based approach and a self image solution is the only pathway to permanent transformation -- not just short term change.

And in this episode I’m going to detail the 5 ingredients to the  recipe that you need to create true and lasting change in YOUR life.