807: What It Means to Be a Black Girl in Love (with Herself) with Author and Playwright Trey Anthony
Release Date: 08/23/2022
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info_outlineTrey Anthony is a visionary creator who uses the unique blend of comedy, theater, motivational talk, and her own life experiences to inspire and lift up others.
Trey’s sold-out hit play, ‘da Kink in My Hair, grossed millions and broke box office records across Canada, the United States, and England after it premiered in 2001. It was named one of the top ten plays in Canadian theatrical history and received 4 NAACP Theatre awards, including Best Playwright. It continues to be produced on stages throughout North America.
In 2007, Trey adapted ‘da Kink in My Hair for the small screen, making her the first African Canadian woman to create, write, and produce a primetime television show on a major Canadian network. Since then she has written for the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN), Lionsgate, Will Packer Media, The Comedy Network, and CTV.
In January 2021, Trey released her book, Black Girl In Love (With Herself) with Hay House Publishing. The book details Trey’s inner struggles to meet the demands of her family and the societal pressures of living up to the image of a “strong” black woman.
AND NOW SHE’S BRINGING BLACK GIRL IN LOVE WITH HESELF TO LIFE WITH HER LIVE TOUR — WHICH COMES TO ATLANTA THIS THURSDAY August 25th — use the code CALM for tickets!
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On this episode, I talk to Trey about:
Black women and vulnerability
Tenderness/ self-love
Recovering from emotional abuse and trauma
Learn more about Trey Anthony at https://treyanthony.com/
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