58 - City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert - Join Leanne’s Book Club
Release Date: 07/29/2019
Addressing the Pattern, not the Person
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Patterns, Not People: How to Stop Attacking Each Other and Start Solving the Real Problem When relationships become frustrating, it’s easy to start labeling the other person. Selfish. Controlling. Lazy. Self-centered. Those labels feel satisfying in the moment, but they usually make the problem worse. Once we turn someone’s behavior into a judgment about their character, the relationship quickly shifts into blame and defense. In this episode, we explore a different approach: learning to focus on patterns instead of attacking people. When something repeatedly hurts, frustrates, or triggers...
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Self Awareness, Acceptance, and the Problem with Principled Living
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Acceptance, Awareness, and Why Real Change Usually Looks Smaller Than We Think There is a lot of pressure in our culture to change. To become better. To optimize yourself. To upgrade your habits, your mindset, your personality. Change is exciting. It sells well. It sounds hopeful. But when you look at real life — at the people you’ve known for years — something else becomes obvious. Most people don’t fundamentally change who they are. They might repaint the walls of their personality. They might adjust a few habits. But the structure of the house tends to stay the same. In this...
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Pulling in Extra Support for Your Self Care
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Most people think of self-care as something they should be able to handle on their own. Wake up earlier. Be more disciplined. Manage stress better. But real self-care often requires something we resist: support. In this episode, I talk about the idea of pulling in extra support when life demands more than one person can reasonably carry. There are seasons where our responsibilities expand — parenting, work, relationships, health, or simply the cumulative stress of daily life. During those seasons, trying to “handle it all” alone often leads to exhaustion, resentment, and burnout....
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Rethinking Intuition, the Science of Decision Making, and How to Be OK Not Knowing the Solution Yet
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Many of us believe we should know what the right decision is. We think clarity should arrive quickly. We assume intuition should speak loudly. But real life doesn’t usually work that way. In this episode, I talk about intuition, decision-making, and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is one of the most important relationship and life skills we can develop. A lot of the pressure people feel when making decisions comes from the belief that there is a perfect answer somewhere—and if we just think hard enough, we’ll find it. But most meaningful decisions don’t work like that. They unfold...
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The Art of Attunement in Relationships
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Most relationship advice focuses on communication skills or conflict resolution. But underneath both of those is something even more fundamental: attunement. In this episode, I talk about why attunement — the ability to notice and respond to what the people around us actually need — is the real foundation of healthy relationships. Whether it’s with a partner, a child, or a friend, our nervous systems are constantly responding to each other. When we ignore that reality, we end up trying to correct behavior instead of understanding what’s actually happening underneath it. And often,...
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Loving Without Resentment
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Episode Keywords (SEO) marriage advice, relationship communication, emotional regulation in relationships, healthy marriage habits, intentional communication, relationship responsibility, relationship systems, long-term relationships, couples communication skills, relationship coaching, partnership dynamics, relationship leadership
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78 - Time to Conduct an Honest Self-Inquiry
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Leanne walks us through the steps of an honest self-inquiry to assess what things are going well, what things you're struggling with and what areas you want to focus on now. We've got to set aside time to contemplate how we're feeling regularly. Be kind to yourself and know that much of our development and growth will happen underground at first. Thanks for joining us today! We’ll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the...
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77- End-of-Year Relationship Wrap-up
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Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is relationships. How are you feeling in your friendships, work and personal relationships? Do you feel supported? Are you spending time on the relationships that matter to you? Thanks for joining us today! We’ll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in...
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76- End-of-Year Home Wrap-up
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Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is space. How do you feel in your home or in your office? Is it how you want to feel? Leanne has 3 tips for making sure you space is aligned with the way you want to feel. We're talking about lighting, wall colors, de-cluttering and much more. To see photos of Leanne's cute home and office check her out on Instagram she's In-the-Know Mama so...
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75 - End-of-Year Money Wrap-up
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Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is money. What were your financial goals for the year? Did you meet them? Next, briefly analyze your spending to see if your purchases are in alignment with your values. Do it now; don't wait until tax season of next year. Thanks for joining us today! We’ll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: ...
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