Find and Resource Intentional People
Fighting for Heart
Most people are under-resourced, but the problem is they don’t know what they want and need or how to ask for it. A meaningful life requires overcoming these challenges and finding the support of a tribe. The Personal Circle is an intentional gathering of people who have already invested in your life to the extent that trust has been established. Who loves you for you? Who offers wisdom and perspective? Who brings your strategic insight and advice? Who fights for you? Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength-Starters, are the four types of people we desperately need...
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The Search for Meaning
Fighting for Heart
We all want a meaningful life but are becoming less willing to wait patiently. We are impulsive and fixated on the instant hit of endorphins, more so the substance of character. Meaning requires a developmental mindset, and that takes time. You cannot microwave the deep life. We also never know which moments may become a significant one, so we have to become more intentional more often. A meaningful life is costly, so draw courage, find your tribe, and start showing up!
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Avoiding Relationships with Distance
Fighting for Heart
Have you ever been distanced or cut off by a family member, friend, or community without notice or choice? Or maybe you have done so to someone yourself. Of course, you have! We often use unhealthy Distance and Cutoffs to manage the fears, anxiety, and insecurities that arise in relational or communal systems. We find ways to self-justify our distance. We confuse boundaries without our behavior. And we find it easier to walk away than to move through. While these strategies may offer temporary relief, they will stunt and undermine the opportunity we have to become more resilient,...
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You, Me, Us
Fighting for Heart
Many of us learned how to find safety and healing for the inevitable wounds of life by being more defensive, independent, or self-sufficient. To live a meaningful life requires letting down the drawbridge, coming out of the fortress at some point, and courageously reaching for interdependence with others. While Denial, Distraction, and Determination have become our three primary strategies for survival, they also lull us to sleep and threaten our futures. In this episode, we explore how the lens of "You, Me, Us" can offer a way to see our lives with others and help negotiate for the things...
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Refresh Your Meaning
Fighting for Heart
Most people want to live a meaningful life, but there is often a gap between this hope and the reality of how they feel and what they do. If you are tired, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the hustle and grind, you are not alone. Let's explore how to make more sense of our lives, stories, and purpose in the world. In this season, let's highlight and face the threats and challenges that stand in our way. If you become aware of a lack of clarity around your meaning, don’t worry. This truth is equally important. Far better to notice and attend to this need than to blunder ahead...
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I feel sad, calm, and lonely (S3:E6)
Fighting for Heart
Bringing the Big Twelve to a close, Rob and Natalie spend time talking about feeling sad, calm, and lonely. What if sadness led to acceptance and hope instead of self-pity and lethargy? What if calmness opened the door to clarity and peace instead of avoidance or apathy? What if loneliness invited connection and solitude instead of withdrawal and isolation? Join us as we become more heart-engaged and emotionally intelligent.
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I feel ashamed, cared-for, and hurt (S3:E5)
Fighting for Heart
In this episode, we explore three more of the twelve emotions. Rob and Natalie cover the feeling of shame and how it can lead you towards being human or being in contempt of being human. Cared-for can be more complicated than you think, and feeling hurt doesn't feel very good for most adults. Keep listening, and let's keep learning!
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I feel angry, excited and guilty (S3:E4)
Fighting for Heart
In this episode, we continue to explore another three of the twelve emotions. Rob and Natalie talk about how anger is vital for progress, excitement for joy, and guilt for safety.
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Finding your feelings (S3:E3)
Fighting for Heart
Learning to share an emotional language is vital for healthy individuals. Feelings, much like the color of our blood, like death and desire, remind us that we are all equally human, created with common realities, motivations, and bonds that transcend the intricacies of our individual lives.
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Catching up to yourself (S3:E2)
Fighting for Heart
Who are you truly? Life has a way of pushing us into specific roles and responsibilities to survive and thrive in various seasons. Emotional health begins to emerge when we can start to recover and engage our core sense of self rather than be overrun by these roles. Join Rob and Natalie for this second episode of the EQ series on the Talk of Change podcast as they dive into self-awareness, core self, and their own stories of the Solider and the Survivor.
info_outlineThere are limitations to what parents, communities, and governments can, and should even do in an attempt to shelter and protect young people from being bullied. However, children are not powerless to solve their social problems yet that’s become a foundational premise in our society. Rob Murray spends time with Brooks Gibbs on the Talk of Change Podcast (S2 Ep4) to explore an approach that seeks to grow resilient children, full of courage, strength, and awareness.