Fighting for Heart

The "Fighting for Heart" podcast aims to bring greater depth and significance to aspects of your life, love, and leadership. Hosted by Dr. Rob Murray, a researcher, coach, and consultant specializing in emotionally intelligent leadership, each episode features insightful discussions with carefully chosen experts, scholars, psychologists, leaders, and guides. The podcast will encourage you to take courageous towards becoming a healthier, more fulfilled individual. Join us as we provide the motivation and tools you need to fight for what matters most to you

Find and Resource Intentional People 12/10/2022

Find and Resource Intentional People Most people are under-resourced, but the problem is they don’t know what they want and need or how to ask for it. A meaningful life requires overcoming these challenges and finding the support of a tribe. The Personal Circle is an intentional gathering of people who have already invested in your life to the extent that trust has been established. Who loves you for you? Who offers wisdom and perspective? Who brings your strategic insight and advice? Who fights for you? Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength-Starters, are the four types of people we desperately need at our table. These people can help you take stock of your life, recognize the wonders and shadows you carry, and energize your mission, purpose, and calling. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/25285749

The Search for Meaning 12/02/2022

The Search for Meaning We all want a meaningful life but are becoming less willing to wait patiently. We are impulsive and fixated on the instant hit of endorphins, more so the substance of character. Meaning requires a developmental mindset, and that takes time. You cannot microwave the deep life. We also never know which moments may become a significant one, so we have to become more intentional more often. A meaningful life is costly, so draw courage, find your tribe, and start showing up! /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/25201401

Avoiding Relationships with Distance 11/19/2022

Avoiding Relationships with Distance Have you ever been distanced or cut off by a family member, friend, or community without notice or choice? Or maybe you have done so to someone yourself. Of course, you have! We often use unhealthy Distance and Cutoffs to manage the fears, anxiety, and insecurities that arise in relational or communal systems. We find ways to self-justify our distance. We confuse boundaries without our behavior. And we find it easier to walk away than to move through. While these strategies may offer temporary relief, they will stunt and undermine the opportunity we have to become more resilient, courageous, and connected humans. Those seeking to reach for a meaningful and purposeful life must learn how to do things differently in relationships. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/25072641

You, Me, Us 11/13/2022

You, Me, Us Many of us learned how to find safety and healing for the inevitable wounds of life by being more defensive, independent, or self-sufficient. To live a meaningful life requires letting down the drawbridge, coming out of the fortress at some point, and courageously reaching for interdependence with others. While Denial, Distraction, and Determination have become our three primary strategies for survival, they also lull us to sleep and threaten our futures. In this episode, we explore how the lens of "You, Me, Us" can offer a way to see our lives with others and help negotiate for the things that matter. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/24992865

Refresh Your Meaning 11/06/2022

Refresh Your Meaning Most people want to live a meaningful life, but there is often a gap between this hope and the reality of how they feel and what they do. If you are tired, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the hustle and grind, you are not alone. Let's explore how to make more sense of our lives, stories, and purpose in the world. In this season, let's highlight and face the threats and challenges that stand in our way. If you become aware of a lack of clarity around your meaning, don’t worry. This truth is equally important. Far better to notice and attend to this need than to blunder ahead and lead blindly. You don’t hear people on their deathbeds talking about the extra money they didn’t make or projects they didn’t complete. With our last breath on this planet, we want to know that we fought hard and lived deeply. We want to know that our lives mattered. That people will give a damn when we are gone because we meant so much to them. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/24922779

I feel sad, calm, and lonely (S3:E6) 06/17/2022

I feel sad, calm, and lonely (S3:E6) Bringing the Big Twelve to a close, Rob and Natalie spend time talking about feeling sad, calm, and lonely. What if sadness led to acceptance and hope instead of self-pity and lethargy? What if calmness opened the door to clarity and peace instead of avoidance or apathy? What if loneliness invited connection and solitude instead of withdrawal and isolation? Join us as we become more heart-engaged and emotionally intelligent. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/23461652

I feel ashamed, cared-for, and hurt (S3:E5) 02/09/2022

I feel ashamed, cared-for, and hurt (S3:E5) In this episode, we explore three more of the twelve emotions. Rob and Natalie cover the feeling of shame and how it can lead you towards being human or being in contempt of being human. Cared-for can be more complicated than you think, and feeling hurt doesn't feel very good for most adults. Keep listening, and let's keep learning! /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/22072136

I feel angry, excited and guilty (S3:E4) 01/08/2022

I feel angry, excited and guilty (S3:E4) In this episode, we continue to explore another three of the twelve emotions. Rob and Natalie talk about how anger is vital for progress, excitement for joy, and guilt for safety. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/21710882

Finding your feelings (S3:E3) 12/15/2021

Finding your feelings (S3:E3) Learning to share an emotional language is vital for healthy individuals. Feelings, much like the color of our blood, like death and desire, remind us that we are all equally human, created with common realities, motivations, and bonds that transcend the intricacies of our individual lives. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/21496826

Catching up to yourself (S3:E2) 11/27/2021

Catching up to yourself (S3:E2) Who are you truly? Life has a way of pushing us into specific roles and responsibilities to survive and thrive in various seasons. Emotional health begins to emerge when we can start to recover and engage our core sense of self rather than be overrun by these roles. Join Rob and Natalie for this second episode of the EQ series on the Talk of Change podcast as they dive into self-awareness, core self, and their own stories of the Solider and the Survivor. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/21294764

How do you feel about feelings? (S3:E1) 11/14/2021

How do you feel about feelings? (S3:E1) Join Rob & Nat: Are feelings good or bad? Do they help us or hurt us? I have spent significant time in my life and career researching, studying, practicing, and being mentored in the field of emotional intelligence and resilience. How were emotions handled in your home growing up and how has that played out in your life and leadership till this day? Join Rob and Natalie in this season as they have fun exploring the topic of feelings and more. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/21158756

Heath Slawner - YOUR CULTURE (S2:E8) 06/08/2020

Heath Slawner - YOUR CULTURE (S2:E8) In this final episode of the Home & Work Connected Series, Rob interviews Heath Slawner on the topic of organizational culture. Heath works alongside some of the business world's leading thinkers and researchers (including Simon Sinek's team) to uncover how leaders can bring teams together to achieve extraordinary results. What do all great organizations have in common, whether they realize it or not? How do we consistently and effectively get people to listen, follow, buy-in, and take the next step? /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/14740577

Bob Westfall - YOUR ORGANIZATION (S2:Ep7) 04/06/2020

Bob Westfall - YOUR ORGANIZATION (S2:Ep7) Organizations often fail to have, or capitalize on a corporate vision that can positively and constructively inspire, energize, and inform leaders and teams. How can you get better at transitioning from transactional to transformational and turning both you employees and customers into ambassadors? /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13873013

Brad Stinson - YOUR TEAM (S2:Ep6) 03/21/2020

Brad Stinson - YOUR TEAM (S2:Ep6) It has been well established that Purpose is an essential human need. It is easy to forget this when considering team culture. Rob Murray & Brad Stinson talk in this episode about the incredible opportunity that exists for leaders, teams, and organizations who seek to intentionally recover and align around Purpose both at work and home. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13637939

Dr. Stephen Mansfield - YOUR LEADERSHIP (S2:Ep5) 03/02/2020

Dr. Stephen Mansfield - YOUR LEADERSHIP (S2:Ep5) While recovery from a leadership crash is usually possible, what if we could instead learn to recognize the prior warning signs and intervene before it happens at all? /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13374491

Brooks Gibbs - YOUR CHILD (S2:Ep4) 02/21/2020

Brooks Gibbs - YOUR CHILD (S2:Ep4) There are limitations to what parents, communities, and governments can, and should even do in an attempt to shelter and protect young people from being bullied. However, children are not powerless to solve their social problems yet that’s become a foundational premise in our society. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13249811

Dr. Chip Dodd - YOUR PARENTING (S2:Ep3) 02/14/2020

Dr. Chip Dodd - YOUR PARENTING (S2:Ep3) Kid’s don’t need perfect parents. Children, like a spouse, offer a powerful opportunity to grow your capacity for connection. This work can positively translate into other areas of your life, including at work. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13158425

Dr. Sue Johnson - YOUR PARTNER (S2:Ep2) 02/10/2020

Dr. Sue Johnson - YOUR PARTNER (S2:Ep2) In this second episode of the Home & Work Connected series, Rob Murray talks with Dr. Sue Johnson, an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and leading innovator in the field of couple therapy and adult attachment. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/13094015

Jack Nicholson - YOUR SELF (S2:Ep1) 01/19/2020

Jack Nicholson - YOUR SELF (S2:Ep1) Nothing about your life is happening within a vacuum. In this session, Jack Nicholson and Rob Murray set the tone for this Talk of Change series by sharing from the intersection of the human and the context in which they express themselves. You cannot risk overlooking either sides of this work and home polarity when desiring deep change and transformation. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/12800756

You Can't Escape the Family System: Dr. Kathleen Smith 08/23/2019

You Can't Escape the Family System: Dr. Kathleen Smith You do not live and die within a vacuum. Families are systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, none of whom can be understood in isolation from the system. Emotional connections and agreements have and continue to be forged around managing anxiety. Listen in to this episode as Rob interview Dr. Kathleen Smith, an associate faculty member at the Bowen Center in Washington, DC, which trains clinicians, clergy, and business leaders in the practice of Bowen Family Systems Theory. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10963778

If I Only Had a Heart: Jeff Schulte 08/10/2019

If I Only Had a Heart: Jeff Schulte This is a personal episode for Rob Murray as he connect with Jeff Schulte from Tin Man, a past guide and now friend, mentor, and coworker. Many people live life alone, trapped in the prison of their own intellect, morality, and self-will. Despite being hard-wired for intimate relationships, our fear and shame keep us detached from our own hearts and therefore detached from the ones we love. If you want your heart back and more for your life, listen in as Jeff tells the story of the Tin Man, oh and snakes. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10845251

Facing Your Anxious Dragons: Jonathan Rios 08/06/2019

Facing Your Anxious Dragons: Jonathan Rios Anxiety can often feel like you have a thousand-pound boulder hanging over your head, ready to crush you at any given time. In this episode on the Talk Of Change podcast, Rob chats with Jonathan Rios, focusing on this very relatable topic. We can often fuse who we are with what we do. Threats that challenge this arrangement can produce excessive amounts of fear and anxiety that can shake or cripple us. What could it look like to face your anxious dragons? /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10789703

Winning is Everything - Troy Murphy 07/24/2019

Winning is Everything - Troy Murphy Rob talks with Troy Murphy, a former marine and chaplain for the Green Bay Packers. There are huge pressures on many of us at work to win! Much like the NFL, winning is often defined by whatever brings in the most money. For players to make the NFL is a massive deal, but then to stay in the game, becomes an entirely new set of different pressures. Join Rob & Troy in this episode to hear more about how to become a researcher of your own story, learn more about what you feel, and why you do what you do. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10637348

Good Grief: Janina Tiner 07/18/2019

Good Grief: Janina Tiner Life can be extremely challenging. In this episode, Rob Murray interviews Janina Tiner about her experience as a certified IFS, Grief, and EMDR Specialist. Together they deliver conversation and encouragement that will offer you the opportunity to live your life with more calmness, curiosity, clarity, compassion, confidence, courage, creativity, & connection. It goes a long way in the healing journey to offer respect and purpose to those parts of ourselves that have gone off to war and need to return home. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10576202

How To Solve Your People Problems: Dr. Alan Godwin 07/07/2019

How To Solve Your People Problems: Dr. Alan Godwin Conflict is inevitable but not all conflict is not created equal. In this episode, Rob interviews Dr. Alan Godwin to learn about the different methods needed for handling unreasonable people, establish good communication and healthy boundaries, counter old conflict patterns when they return, and get back on track. /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10432313

Working Harder and Smarter Until You Can't: Phil Herndon 06/28/2019

Working Harder and Smarter Until You Can't: Phil Herndon Rob Murray opens up the Talk Of Change podcast with a challenging conversation with Phil Herndon about the common challenges, realities, and opportunities for leaders who have reached the end of themselves. Working harder and smarter no longer works anymore and something has to change! /episode/index/show/talkofchange/id/10329209

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