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Selfish and Self-Centered - Recovered 648

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Release Date: 11/18/2015

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For many AA members, they say they have discovered their higher power and form a better understanding of that power.

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Step Ten suggests that it's time we take responsibility for our actions and to promptly clean up our role in all matters.

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By making direct amends to the person harmed the temptation to skirt the issue because of embarrassment or pain is avoided.

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Making the list is one thing. Become willing to actually make amends to those harmed is another. It can be a very humbling, but growing experience, to actually admit wrong-doing, especially to the person harmed. But the process can relieve those trying to recover from so much guilt!

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We have taken the very difficult moral inventory and admitted to our wrongdoings to ourselves, our higher power and to another human being. It’s now time to remove those wrongdoings from our everyday lives and we need help to ensure that we completely remove our shortcomings and don’t continue to fall victim to any of addiction’s ill effects.

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The sixth step can bring about significant and very noticeable change when it comes to the thought patterns and behavior that have been with us for a long time. It doesn’t happen overnight obviously, and there is nothing like perfection when working the twelve steps of AA. It’s about making a commitment and being content with patient improvement.

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Step Four has prepared you for step five, and by finding the courage to overcome that fear of rejection or the shame of your inventory, you experience honesty on a deeper level than in your first step of admission, and you break the pattern of denial that often plagues those suffering with alcoholism.

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While working on our step inventories we get a new perspective on the bigger picture, on patterns, selfishness, our responsibility in situations and in this process we are building up an accurate self-appraisal with true self-worth as the reward.

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When working on step three we take a look at how acting on self-will means behaving with the exclusion of any consideration for others, focusing only on what we want and ignoring the needs and feelings of others. While we were busy pursuing these impulses, we mostly left a path of destruction behind us, and we definitely lost touch with our conscience and a Higher Power.

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This is the beginning of the end, in a way. You will end your old life and begin your fresh one, committed to faith – faith in whatever you choose.

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The Big Book

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As a self-centered person,

I only see myself as the centre of everything

At my worst,

I do not consider what my actions would mean to others.

The big book says that

being self-centered is  

in direct conflict with our new way of living in recovery.

Let’s start with self-centeredness Chrissy

What does being self-centered mean to you?

How has recovery helped?

How does self-centeredness manifest itself today?

What part of the program do you use to combat this?

When I’m acting selfish

I want to receive more than give.

When I’m really sick,

I will give only if I think

that the return will be larger than my giving

But the book says…

Selfishness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.

The Book also says…

Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!

So this is about as important of a subject as it gets.

What is selfishness to you and how does it differ from being self-centered?

What part of the program helps to defeat this selfishness?

Has the program made you less selfish than before?  How?

What does “This is a selfish program” mean to you.

How do you know when you have gone from self care to selfishness?

How do you do self care?

How do you know when self care has moved into being selfish?





Who would you rather be around,

Self-centered Mark or

Selfish Mark


If this character defect is so dangerous, would you point it out in someone else if you spot it?

How would you do that?