Stop Taking Things So personally for Improved Leadership Skills
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Release Date: 11/20/2022
How to Think, Lead, and Win Like Special Forces: 7 Elite Lessons for Everyday Leaders
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Elite military teams perform under pressure not because they’re fearless, but because they’re trained to think tactically. In this episode, Vaughn shares seven powerful leadership lessons inspired by Special Forces—showing how preparation, calm, and clarity can help any manager lead like a pro when things get tough. What you will learn 7 tactical leadership lessons from Special Forces How preparation builds confidence and prevents chaos Why adaptability separates leaders from managers The secret to staying calm and commanding confidence under fire How to communicate...
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Why Your Team Doesn’t Buy In — And the One Simple Thing That Changes That
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
If your team doesn’t seem to buy in—even when your plans are clear—it’s not a motivation problem, it’s a leadership communication problem. In this episode, Vaughn breaks down how explaining the why behind what you ask turns compliance into commitment, confusion into clarity, and your team into a self-driving force for results. What you will learn The one missing ingredient that kills team buy-in Why leaders confuse clarity with compliance The 4-step framework for communicating the why Real-world examples of the “why” in action How to handle change and gain...
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How to Create the Management Team You Dream Of
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Great teams are engineered. Not found. In this episode, I show you how to shape a high-performing management team with the five leader types that balance each other. You will learn how to spot each type with DISC, where they shine, where they stall, and how to pair them so execution, innovation, and culture rise together. I also share a quick board exercise to map your team and a free scorecard to close gaps. What you will learn: Why teams stall when roles are unbalanced The five leader types: Director, Achiever, Stabilizer, Harmonizer, Trailblazer How to spot each type using...
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Roadmap to Difficult Conversations: Leadership Barometer
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Most leaders dread difficult conversations—but that’s where real leadership is measured. In this episode, I wrap up the Roadmap to Difficult Conversations series with the ultimate leadership tune-up. You’ll learn how to handle tough talks calmly, get alignment instead of compliance, and turn fear into clarity. What you will learn Why fear keeps leaders from critical conversations The five-step roadmap that turns conflict into growth How curiosity disarms defensiveness The mirror-validate-guide method used by FBI negotiators Emotional control: how to “own the...
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Setting and Enforcing Standards for Leadership
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Culture doesn’t come from posters or mission statements—it comes from what leaders enforce every single day. In this episode, I break down why “you don’t get what you preach, you get what you tolerate,” how little slips poison culture, and what real enforcement looks like with standards big and small. Learn when to step in, when to overlook, and how to set fairness that actually sticks. What you will learn: Why tolerances silently reset your culture The difference between fairness and sameness Real-world brand examples proving the power of small standards When to...
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From Arguments to Shared Goals
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Every time you “win” an argument as a leader, you actually lose influence. In this episode I reveal why arguments sabotage trust, how to spot the ego traps that bait you in, and a proven redirect playbook to turn conflict into collaboration. You’ll leave with scripts, questions, and practical tools to lead with calm authority instead of loud authority. What you will learn: Why winning debates is always a leadership loss The hidden costs of ego-driven conversations How to spot your physical and emotional triggers A question-led redirect playbook to cool down heat ...
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How to Have Difficult Conversations with Boss, Peer and Direct Report
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
One bad conversation can wreck a relationship you spent years building. In this episode I walk you through a practical roadmap for tough talks with direct reports, peers, and your boss so you protect respect, keep trust intact, and actually improve performance. You will get exact openers, EQ cues, and a simple four-step flow you can use today. What you will learn: Why mishandled conversations erode trust, clarity, and respect The landmines managers hit when emotions run high Scripted openers for direct reports, peers, and your boss How to tailor tone using DISC styles A...
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De-Escalation Playbook for Leaders
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
Ever had a conversation go nuclear in 60 seconds flat? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Business Mechanic Show, Vaughn Sigmon breaks down how great leaders turn explosive moments into opportunities for trust and clarity. Learn how to stop pouring gas on the fire and start becoming the calm thermostat your team needs when emotions run high. This is your playbook for defusing tension and keeping control. 🎯 Vaughn shares tactical phrases, body language tips, and science-backed techniques to help you cool the temperature before it ever hits boiling. Don’t just survive...
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The Right Way to Handle Conflict When Someone Is Clearly Wrong
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
In this power-packed episode of The Business Mechanic Show, Vaughn Sigmon uncovers the hidden fears behind why managers avoid difficult conversations—and gives you a bulletproof playbook for how to overcome them. From confronting an underperforming direct report to correcting a peer’s mistake, Vaughn explains how to step into these tough moments without triggering defensiveness or losing trust. You’ll learn the top 10 psychological blocks that cause avoidance and the exact dialogue strategies to lead through it with calm, curiosity, and authority. If you've ever avoided a tough...
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Own It: Leadership Through Ownership
The Business Mechanic Podcast with Vaughn Sigmon
In this episode of The Business Mechanic Show, the focus is all about real leadership—starting where excuses stop. It's a no-nonsense call to managers and leaders who are tired of feeling like they’re running an adult daycare. The message? Leadership isn’t about blame—it’s about ownership. And if you want better outcomes, stronger teams, and real respect, you’ve got to stop pointing fingers and start taking responsibility. This episode tackles the instinct to deflect and protect your ego when things go wrong. But growth, loyalty, and high performance don’t come from...
info_outlineCommunication is essential to the human experience and being a great leader. This short podcast wants to carve out the topic of taking things too personally and tie it to the topic of difficult conversations. In my podcast on difficult conversations, you may remember that you want to avoid any pre-determined perceptions at all costs. Go into any tough conversation with an open mind. If not, you will wind up feeling stressed out, unhappy, and anxious over conversations; AND you may be taking things a little too personally all the time.
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In fact, communication skills are an important and often neglected part of guiding yourself to highly effective leadership. Guarding happiness and regulating emotions can be difficult if you don't stop projecting insecurities onto those around you and assuming the worst.
So how can you relearn communication skills that will decrease stress and anxiety and improve your overall happiness? Leading to be a much more confident leader.
“Don't take anything personally.”
What that means is ... realize nothing other people do is because of you. This powerful best practice acts as a reminder that self-limiting beliefs rob you of confidence. And will create needless self-doubt. This best practice is so simple yet so profound: Safeguard your mind from unnecessary emotional rollercoaster rides.
You can apply this best practice to every facet of your life, including your work life, love life, dealing with your kids, your parents, your neighbor, your boss, the person at the grocery store … the list goes on.
Let me share a formula to deal with potentially hurtful behavior from others, boiling it down to You have a choice on how to interpret events and feedback from people. You see, Each person sees the world in a unique way, so how others treat us says more about them than it does about you.
Realize that each person has a subjective reality and that their views are only their views. No facts about who you are and aren’t based on your truth. In other words, you don't have to believe them.
Limiting beliefs control your reality. Many limiting beliefs stem from a casual comment someone made that you internalized or took as truth.
People project their personal hurts, wounds, and stories onto the person they are talking to. The guide is to remind you that, in part, everyone is walking around projecting, so remember not to take things personally. Meaning that whatever the person is saying is most likely more about them than you.
OK, so now you understand the best practice of not taking things personally. But ... you’re human. how do you reduce stress and conflict and improve confidence in your life with this method?
Here are 4 ways to stop taking things so personally:
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