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Dating, Marriage, and Parenting with the Vander Ploegs | Season 3 Episode 11

The Disciple Standard Podcast

Release Date: 05/17/2025

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In Episode 11 of The Disciple Standard Podcast, Pastor Aaron, Pastor Scott, and Andrea dive deep into faith, family, parenting, and marriage from a biblical perspective.

They tackle real questions like:

  • How spiritually ready should someone be before marriage?
  • What’s the most impactful thing parents can do to pass on their faith to their kids?
  • What’s the most challenging season of motherhood—and how can faith make a difference? 
  • What does Scripture say about marriage, divorce, and raising a godly household?

Whether you’re a young adult thinking about marriage, a parent in the thick of it, or someone looking to build a faith-filled home, this episode offers honest insights, biblical wisdom, and practical encouragement. 🎉

This episode is sponsored by The Crafter Party by Cherie Youngblood — where creativity meets celebration. Visit her on social to book your next unforgettable event!

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Timestamps:

00:01 - Faith and Relationships 

00:18 - Spiritual Disciplines in Marriage

00:58 - Introductions: The Podcast Panel

02:56 - Topic Setup: Marriage and Mother’s Day

03:18 - How They Met: The Andrea & Scott Story

10:33 - When Faith Becomes the Foundation

11:02 - Why We Chose Each Other

12:36 - A Relationship Rooted in the Bible

14:16 - What Drew Scott to Andrea

15:06 - The Commitment to Read the Bible Together

16:25 - Faith Compatibility and Dating

19:12 - Faith Level in Relationships

20:15 - Compatibility in Relationships

20:58 - Faith, Finances, and Core Values

22:00 - Dating Advice: Start with Faith

24:21 - Emotional and Spiritual Balance in Marriage

25:00 - Supporting Each Other Through Struggles

25:41 - 28 Years of Marriage

26:04 - Spiritual Disciplines for Couples

26:25 - Raising Kids with Active Faith

28:24 - Passive vs Active Faith Leadership at Home

28:59 - Benefits of Growing Up in Church

33:40 - Church is People, Not Just a Building

34:06 - Community as a Spiritual Discipline

36:05 - Faith and Community as Core Family Values

39:20 - Conflicting Schedules and Church Disconnect

39:44 - Re-centering the Family on Faith

40:25 - Shifting to Motherhood Challenges

43:06 - Trusting God's Plan for Your Kids

43:32 - Ministry Life and Its Demands on Marriage

47:00 - Wisdom and Discernment in Marriage

47:44 - Trusting a Husband’s Convictions

50:34 - The Unseen Sacrifices of Moms

52:01 - Single Mothers and Their Strength

53:26 - Sacrifice as a Form of Worship

56:37 - The CrafterParty Sponsor

57:22 - Introducing the Candace Owens Video

1:00:00 - Realizing My Own Selfishness in Marriage

1:01:52 - Why the Gospel Is Essential for Selflessness

1:02:21 - Culture’s Shifting View on Marriage

1:02:41 - Introducing a Video: "Marriage Is an L"

1:03:53 - Dating with Core Values in Mind

1:04:33 - Cultural Resistance to Commitment

1:05:17 - Marriage Is a Sacred Covenant, Not a Contract

1:05:45 - Love Is Always a Risk

1:06:30 - Marriage Exposes Deep Vulnerability

1:07:13 - Sticking Through Hardship with Covenant Love

1:08:06 - Love Requires Trust in the Covenant

1:08:29 - Abuse Is a Clear Exception

1:08:54 - Abuse Requires Boundaries and Help

1:09:17 - The Risk of Unequally Yoked Marriages

1:09:47 - Advice for Unequally Yoked Marriages

1:10:15 - Don’t Ignore Foundational Incompatibilities

1:10:35 - When One Spouse Converts in Marriage

1:11:23 - Living as a Christian Witness in Marriage

1:12:12 - Common but Challenging: Mixed-Faith Marriages

1:12:38 - Encouragement for the Faithful Spouse

1:13:12 - Seek Wisdom, Pray, and Persevere

1:13:57 - Why We Were Hesitant About This Episode

1:14:21 - Comparison and the Danger of Idealizing Others

1:15:07 - Social Media’s Skewed View of Marriage

1:15:50 - Embracing Your Unique Relationship Journey

1:16:08 - Psalm 16: Finding Peace in Your Own “Land”

1:16:35 - Choosing Thankfulness Over Comparison

1:17:12 - God’s Unique Plan for Each of Us

1:17:38 - Trusting God's Plan Through All Seasons

1:18:10 - Gratitude for the Life God Gave Me

1:18:32 - Trusting God Over Discontentment

1:19:00 - Finding Joy and Contentment Now

1:19:24 - God’s Intimate Involvement and Gratefulness

1:19:50 - Marriage Challenges and Life’s Seasons

1:20:22 - Moving to Florida: A Major Challenge

1:20:44 - Struggling with Family Distance and Jealousy

1:21:09 - Trusting God Through the Transition

1:21:46 - Overcoming Bitterness and Finding Home

1:22:10 - Mindset Shift and Contentment

1:22:31 - Loneliness and Comparison in Port St. Lucie

1:22:49 - The Danger of Social Media Comparisons

1:23:22 - Reminder of Our Delightful Inheritance

1:23:38 - Closing Remarks and Thanks

1:24:03 - Outro and Upcoming Topics