Divorce Overwhelm – 8 Ways to Stay Sane When Everything Feels Urgent
Release Date: 11/26/2025
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You're feeling emotionally overloaded
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Everyone around you has an opinion and it’s stressing you out
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You're being pushed to make decisions faster than you’re ready for
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You’re not sure what’s a legal deadline vs. emotional urgency
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You’re feeling pressure from all sides to get things sorted
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You are overwhelmed
📌 Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.
Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by your separation or divorce? Like everything is urgent, everyone needs something from you
You are not alone and this episode is here to help.
In this conversation, Mum and I walk through 8 practical ways to calm the chaos, slow things down, and take back control of your divorce journey. We cover emotional overwhelm, confusing legal pressure, and the early survival strategies that can make all the difference.
Whether you’re still in shock or already knee-deep in logistics, this episode is your gentle reminder that you don’t have to do it all at once and you shouldn’t.
⏱️ Episode Timeline: Divorce Overwhelm – 8 Ways to Stay Sane When Everything Feels Urgent
00:00 – Introduction: Overcoming Divorce Overwhelm
Why everything feels urgent—and how this episode can help you breathe again.
00:21 – Feeling Pressured to Make Fast Decisions During Divorce
How panic can lead to poor choices and what to do instead.
00:28 – 8 Practical Strategies to Regain Control in Separation
Overview of what you’ll learn and how to use these tips right away.
00:51 – Welcome and What This Episode Covers
Who this episode is for and why this conversation matters.
01:08 – The Stress of Divorce Deadlines and Decision Fatigue
How urgency from lawyers, family, or your ex can overwhelm you.
03:17 – Legal vs. Emotional Deadlines: Know the Difference
Understanding what’s truly urgent and what can wait.
06:50 – The Emotional Shock of a Breakup
Why you’re not functioning “normally” and that’s okay.
13:48 – Setting Boundaries with Family and Friends During Divorce
How to protect your peace from well-meaning (but draining) input.
19:48 – Prioritizing Safety, Shelter, and Stability First
Triage your needs: food, housing, money, transport before anything else.
23:34 – Recognizing and Responding to Financial Abuse
What financial control looks like—and how to get support.
24:09 – Why Self-Care Is Essential, Not Optional
Simple ways to take care of yourself when everything feels like too much.
28:10 – Making Space for Grief and Emotional Recovery
Letting yourself feel, cry, and heal without guilt.
30:41 – How Learning the Process Can Help You Feel Empowered
Education as a tool to reduce panic and increase confidence.
34:32 – Creating a New Divorce Routine That Works for You
Using structure and small steps to take back control of your life.
39:29 – Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This, One Step at a Time
Encouragement, next steps, and reminding you—you’re not alone.
Resources
Central Practice Directions
https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd
Free Disclosure Checklist
https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
Episode Links
Boundaries in Divorce
https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe
🚨 Support Services:
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1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)
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Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)
📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.
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