The Divorce Course Podcast
This Mother and Daughter duo discuss and cover the legal stages and steps that you will face on your way to freedom through divorce. These are practical and real discussions with Lyn Galvin a family lawyer of 35 years experience and her daughter Laura a divorced mother of three. Laura helps turn her mother's lawyer jargon into something everyone will understand. Lyn shares all her tips and practical advice on separating. Through this podcast they aim to help you through your Australian divorce or de-facto separation to make it more cost effective and less stressful. instagram @thedivorcecourse
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Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges
12/10/2024
Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges
Listen to This Episode If You: 🎄 Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce. ❓ Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas. 💡 Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress. 🛡 Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays. 🌟 Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally. 🎄Trying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year. Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether you’re under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive. Key Topics Discussed: Legal Matters During the Holidays: Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period. What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex. Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications. Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break. Co-Parenting Challenges: Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements. Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays. Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house. Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children. Safety Planning: Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays. Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help. Building New Traditions: Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics. Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids. How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences. Self-Care and Support: Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays. Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support. Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded. Final Thoughts: The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether you’re dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. ❤️ Links & Resources Mentioned: Episodes Mentioned in this The Do’s and Don’ts of being separated under one roof Handover Hell: how to deal handover Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79 No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas 10 essential boundaries in divorce Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays 03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof 07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues 18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners 22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders 23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation 27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays 29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements 30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday 34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes 37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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Does Domestic Violence Impact Property Settlements? New Family Law Act Updates
12/03/2024
Does Domestic Violence Impact Property Settlements? New Family Law Act Updates
Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition. Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how it’s recognized in the new laws. ❓ Are curious about how any type of family violence impacts property settlements. 🐾 Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms. 💡 Need to understand the regulatory changes to Children’s Contact Services. 🛡 Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Expanded Definition of Family Violence: Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support). Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements. Family Violence and Contributions: Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions. Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse. Pets in Property Settlements: New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale. Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns. Children’s Contact Services (CCS): Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers. Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS. Protected Confidences: Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and children’s statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Family Law Amendment Bill ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/ Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app Episodes for More Information: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation. : Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. : Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men. : Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people. Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support. : Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues. Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance. : Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7. : Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men. : Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support. These resources are here to help you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support—you are not alone. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes 01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act 03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse 06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions 10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct 15:47 Pets and Family Law 19:12 Children Contact Centers 20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers 22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences 25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling 27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence 31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases 36:32 Documenting Family Violence 38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts
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Mediation or Manipulation: How to Handle Divorce Mediation When Settlement Isn’t their Goal
11/26/2024
Mediation or Manipulation: How to Handle Divorce Mediation When Settlement Isn’t their Goal
Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health. Whether it’s property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead. If you’ve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session. ❓ Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation. 💡 Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible. 🛡 Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation. 📚 Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: The Purpose of Mediation: Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best. Manipulative Tactics to Watch For: Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation. Strategies During Mediation: Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps. Post-Mediation Steps: Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached. Common Pitfalls: “Don’t be surprised if” scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands. Emotional Management: How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things don’t go as planned. Links & Resources Mentioned: Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. 4VOICES Christmas Appeal Episodes Mentioned in this 8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce 02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce 03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type 06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect 10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation 20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation 25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation 26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks 28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes 30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics 36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation 38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation 43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources #familycourt #familylaw #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorcesettlement #divorceplanning #familylawattorney #divorcesupport #mediation #divorcelawyer #divorcepodcast #childsupport #custodybattle
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Separation to Settlement: The Essential Steps from Start to Finish
11/18/2024
Separation to Settlement: The Essential Steps from Start to Finish
Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but you’re not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are just starting your divorce journey and don’t know what comes next. ❓ Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement. 💡 Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements. 🛡 Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex. 📚 Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when you’re still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints. Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself. Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations. Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children. Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary. Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life. RESOURCES Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. Emergency Contacts: LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/ Lifeline: 13 11 14 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia 1300 364 277 Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Don’t forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and remember—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement 01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate 03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce 06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce 10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce 14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements 19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce 20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits 22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce 23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce 27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce 33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community
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Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce + Free Webinar Invite
11/05/2024
Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce + Free Webinar Invite
BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish we’d known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the way—insights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce. And there’s more! Next week, we’re hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions. ❓ Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone who’s been through it. 💡 Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce. 🛡 Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you. 📚 Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries. Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared. Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable. DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist. Webinar Highlights: Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more. Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert. Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space. Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat! Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, don’t miss out on our final free webinar of the year next week—it’s an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there! Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations 00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce 00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex 00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process 00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce 01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement 01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits 02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy 03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register
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When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse
10/29/2024
When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse
If you’ve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that you’re facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need. Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce. ❓ Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system. 💡 Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex. 🛡 Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements. 📚 Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why it’s so pervasive. Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system. Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions. Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your ex’s actions and the importance of filing timelines. Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse Related Episodes that may be helpful: Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode How to divorce a statue Family Court Vs Settling When your ex files in court - response to initiating application Navigating Community Legal Services Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer Free Resources & Links: CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS Section 117c of the Family Law Act Free Webinar registration link Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse 00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources 01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals 01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse 03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction 11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C 16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court 22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings 23:12 Register Today! 23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings 24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants 27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse 33:04 Building Emotional Resilience 37:55 Support and Resources 38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion
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Divorce Decisions: Settling vs Family Court
10/22/2024
Divorce Decisions: Settling vs Family Court
When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court. ❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling. 💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past. 📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option. Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision. Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision. Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer. Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions. Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information. Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS Divorce Myths The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations Choosing your lawyer Red Flags when choosing a lawyer Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce 01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling 06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases 10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court 16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling 19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce 20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce 21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce 22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce 25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes 29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process 32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce 34:26 Final Thoughts
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10 Essential Boundaries for a Healthier Divorce
10/15/2024
10 Essential Boundaries for a Healthier Divorce
This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries. ❓ Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents. 💡 Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health. 🛡 Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict. 📚 Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations. Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits. Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts. Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation. Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control. Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines. Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process. Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary. Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support. Children’s Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator Separated Under One Roof Do’s & Don’ts What about their stuff dealing with your ex’s belongings in Divorce Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce When amicable goes wrong Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress Financial Fairness in Divorce Disclosure Handover Hell Navigating Parental Trash Talk Links to other things Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries 02:41 Communication Boundaries 06:55 Task Boundaries 09:25 Digital Boundaries 15:28 Living Boundaries 18:59 Financial Boundaries 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts
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Income, Expenses, and Savings During Divorce: What You Need to Know
10/08/2024
Income, Expenses, and Savings During Divorce: What You Need to Know
What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered. Whether you’re squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyone’s situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process. ❓ Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement. 💡 Need to understand what happens to wages after separation. 🛡 Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees. 📚 Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled. Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why it’s sometimes crucial to separate your accounts. Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond. Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money. Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process. Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens. High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce Help My Ex is spending all the money Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself Protecting yourself from Darvo Debt Episode Free Resources: Go to Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Introduction to Divorce & Money Understanding Savings During Separation Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation The Importance of Documentation and Mediation Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation Navigating Government Support and Property Pools The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements Proactive Steps for Financial Security Final Thoughts
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What they don't tell you before divorce (but they should)!
10/01/2024
What they don't tell you before divorce (but they should)!
Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether you’re just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity. Listen to This Episode If You: ❓ Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself. 💡 Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation. 📚 Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process. 🌟 Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Don’t Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process. Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays. Parenting Plans: Don’t force your children into uncomfortable situations—especially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship. Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce. Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics. Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved. Don’t Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and don’t let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair. Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time job—don’t let it consume your entire life. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: How to Document Coercive Control - Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg Disclosure Dilemas Free Resources: Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Contents of this Video 00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce 01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush 02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents 04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations 05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse 08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics 08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns 10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information 12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less 15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce 20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation 21:03 Is the System Child-Centred? 23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws 27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements 29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders 34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce 38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell
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Age-Appropriate Parenting Plans or Orders: What You Need to Know for Toddlers to Teens & In-between
09/24/2024
Age-Appropriate Parenting Plans or Orders: What You Need to Know for Toddlers to Teens & In-between
Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development. ❓ Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers. 💡 Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows. 🛡 Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests. 📚 Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues. Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groups—toddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your child’s development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Primary Attachment for Babies: Why babies up to three years old typically benefit from staying with their primary caregiver, and how this impacts parenting plans and court orders. Navigating Consent Orders: How to create orders that take into account the evolving needs of your children as they grow from toddlers to teens. Transitioning to Overnights: Strategies for gradually increasing parenting time and handling situations where the non-primary caregiver hasn’t been involved. Primary School Age Considerations: Managing custody and parenting plans as children start school, including logistical challenges like packing bags and attending social events. Teenagers and Flexibility: How to adapt parenting plans for teens who want more independence, and what happens when they refuse to follow the existing custody arrangements. High-Conflict Co-Parenting: Dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-partners, and tips for creating clear, enforceable orders to protect your child’s well-being. Navigating Changing Court Views: Understanding the recent changes in the Family Law Act and how it affects shared parental responsibility and 50/50 time. Free Resources: https://www.judcom.nsw.gov.au/publications/benchbks/children/cpm_allerton_attachment.html (webinar) (before you go checklist) (mediation checklist) (disclosure checklist) Podcast Episode Timeline 00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans 01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies 03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies 13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids 17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids 21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens 22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future 23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders 24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches 25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure 26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence 27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases 30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents 33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes 33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders 35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes 38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating parenting plans through various stages of your child’s life. We hope you find the advice helpful in creating a plan that truly meets the needs of your children, regardless of their age. If you found this episode valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Future Needs: The Hidden Factor in Divorce Property Settlements
09/16/2024
Future Needs: The Hidden Factor in Divorce Property Settlements
When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and children’s future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean. ❓ Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances. 💡 Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships. 🛡 Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income. 📚 Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property. Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act. Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement. Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources. Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division. Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouse’s career supported the other. Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: (Splitting Silver Hairs : A guide to grey divorce) (When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement and Parenting Agreement) (Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies TO PROTECT YOUR ASSETS FROM A NON CONTRIBUTING EX) (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations) Other Resources: THE DIVORCE COURSE www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on future needs in property settlements. Whether you’re navigating these factors in mediation or preparing for court, understanding the role of future needs is crucial to achieving a just and equitable outcome. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Do You Really Need a Family Lawyer for Mediation? Pros and Cons Explained
09/10/2024
Do You Really Need a Family Lawyer for Mediation? Pros and Cons Explained
Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journey—whether it’s about property settlements or children's matters—this episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer. ❓ Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays. 💡 Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance. 🛡 Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation. 📚 Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation. Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation. Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if you’re on a tight budget and can’t afford legal representation. Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather. Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations. High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present. Settler’s Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?) https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0 https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.) (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.) https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations) (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths) Free Resources: Mediation Checklist (Available on our website) Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint Webinars on Navigating Divorce Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Defending Against DARVO & Narcissists: 8 Tactics to Protect Yourself in Divorce & Family Court
09/03/2024
Defending Against DARVO & Narcissists: 8 Tactics to Protect Yourself in Divorce & Family Court
The DARVO method—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—is a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether you’re facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court. ❓ Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases. 💡 Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents. 🛡 Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health. 📚 Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles. Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps. Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims. Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health. Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents. Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes for More Insight: https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.) (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1) (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2) (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it) (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist) (The Narcissists’ Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation) Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast * ARC App website * Empower You App Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story?
08/27/2024
Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story?
Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case. ❓ Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings. 💡 Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court. 🛡 Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld. 📚 Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements. Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case. The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story. Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes. Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence. Kennan’s Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements. Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts. Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children. Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes for More Insight: Using children as chess pieces in divorce Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances
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Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress
08/21/2024
Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress
In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and don’t know how to move forward. ❓ Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce. 💡 Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation. 🛡 Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change. 📚 Want to ensure you’re not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics. The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why it’s important to start planning your next steps. Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support. Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly. The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it. Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic. The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation. Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Webinars and Courses: THE Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress Introduction to Divorce Dynamics Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position Strategies for Financial Stress Navigating Manipulative Tactics The Role of Emotions in Divorce Understanding Your Legal Rights Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements Emotional Preparedness and Counseling Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines The Importance of Mediation Impact on Children and Family Dynamics Taking Action and Seeking Help Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Navigating your Divorce: The 5 tools you need to stay on course
08/14/2024
Navigating your Divorce: The 5 tools you need to stay on course
Divorce is often described as a journey, and just like any journey, it requires navigation tools to get to your destination successfully. In this episode, Laura and Lynette use the analogy of driving a car to discuss how to handle the emotional and practical challenges of divorce. They break down the five essential "tools" you need to navigate this journey: your handbrake, gas pedal, reverse, steering wheel, and road map. Whether you’re dealing with gaslighting, running out of steam, or simply trying to stay on course, this episode provides practical advice and emotional support to help you reach the other side of your divorce in the best shape possible. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are struggling with self-doubt or gaslighting during your divorce. ❓ Need motivation to keep pushing forward through tough times. 💡 Want to avoid the pitfalls of overreacting or taking things too far. 🛡 Are looking for strategies to stay in control of your divorce process. 📚 Need guidance on how to map out your divorce journey effectively. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: The Handbrake: How to stop self-doubt and gaslighting from derailing your progress. The Gas Pedal: Finding your "why" to keep moving forward when the going gets tough. The Reverse: Understanding when to pull back if you’re overreacting or taking things too far. The Steering Wheel: Keeping control of your divorce process and not letting others take the wheel. The Road Map: Mapping out your divorce journey and understanding the steps ahead. Navigating your Divorce: the 5 tools you need to stay on course Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Webinars and Courses: Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating your divorce journey. We hope you find these strategies helpful as you move forward. If you found this podcast valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Divorce as a Journey 00:30 Understanding Gaslighting and Self-Doubt 01:40 Five Essential Tools for Your Divorce Journey 02:24 The Handbrake: Stopping Self-Doubt 05:30 The Accelerator: Finding Your Motivation 09:35 The Reverse: Knowing When to Pull Back 14:56 The Steering Wheel: Maintaining Control 20:38 Cutting Out Irrelevant Details 21:09 Steering Your Legal Strategy 22:16 Understanding Court Conventions 22:39 Introducing the Divorce Blueprint 23:18 Balancing Property and Children's Matters 25:03 Taking Control of Your Case 25:46 Navigating Legal Advice 26:47 Empowering Yourself Through Knowledge 29:09 Organising Your Legal Documents 30:26 Preparing for Legal Challenges 33:06 Recap and Final Thoughts
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The Hidden Value of Parenting Contributions in Property Settlement & Divorce
08/06/2024
The Hidden Value of Parenting Contributions in Property Settlement & Divorce
Divorce & property settlements are confusing enough, especially when it comes to recognizing all contributions. Educate yourself about some of the most overlooked non financial contributions you may have made that will help increase your percentage of the property pool. In this episode, we discuss the often-overlooked aspects of contributions in property settlements, focusing on non-financial parenting contributions. Explore the surprising elements that might not be considered but can play a significant role in determining your part of the property pool percentage during divorce or de facto separation. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to understand the less commonly discussed contributions considered in property settlements. ❓ Are unsure how parenting contributions affect your property settlement. 💡 Are seeking clarity on what counts as a contribution before, during, and after the relationship. 🛡 Need to know how to document and present your contributions effectively. 📚 Are looking for strategies to ensure a fair property settlement. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Definition of Contributions: Understanding what contributions are and how they factor into property settlements in Australia. Commonly Remembered Contributions: Financial contributions, non-financial contributions like renovating a house, and receiving inheritances. Overlooked Contributions: Parenting contributions, including caring for stepchildren and supporting a partner’s children. Impact of Salary on Contributions: Clarifying that higher salaries do not necessarily mean a larger share of the property pool. Special Contributions: Contributions like supporting a partner through education or living arrangements with in-laws. Legal Framework: Aligning contributions with the Family Law Act and understanding its implications. Real-Life Examples: Case studies and examples illustrating how different contributions are valued. Advice for Self-Advocacy: Tips for ensuring all your contributions are recognized and presented effectively. PARENTING Contributions in Property Settlement Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: - Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement 00:32 Understanding Contributions in Property Settlement 01:51 Common Contributions in Property Settlement 03:30 Surprising Contributions in Parenting 05:34 Parenting Contributions: Stepchildren and Special Cases 10:13 Documenting Parenting Contributions 18:13 Stay-at-Home Parents and Property Settlement 21:20 Challenges of Family Court and Outdated Legislation 22:29 Evolving Roles and Contributions in Modern Families 24:28 Counter Arguments to Stay-at-Home Parent Contributions 27:00 Superannuation and Property Settlements 30:17 Short vs. Long Marriages: Impact on Contributions 33:00 Grey Divorces and Contributions 34:39 Importance of Legal Advice and Self-Advocacy 37:59 Final Thoughts and Resources Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on property settlement contributions. Understanding your rights and contributions is crucial in ensuring a fair settlement. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Telling Your Story: Putting your Coercive Control Experiences in Writing
07/29/2024
Telling Your Story: Putting your Coercive Control Experiences in Writing
Are you struggling to document and present your experiences of coercive control or family violence in your paperwork or to your lawyer, mediator , police, court or counsellor? Feel like you have to KEEP telling your story and you wish there was a better way? Whether you're preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with your lawyer, effectively communicating these experiences is crucial for your case. In this episode, we cover simple ways to lay out your coercive control or family violence experiences in an easy to read and use format. Lyn provides practical strategies to ensure your story is heard and understood, aligning your documentation with the Family Law Act, and presenting your case compellingly. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are experiencing coercive control and need to document it for legal purposes. ❓ Want to understand how the Family Law Act defines and addresses coercive control. 💡 Seek strategies for making your lived experiences clear and impactful in legal documents. 🛡 Are preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with a lawyer. 📚 Need guidance on creating a comprehensive and organised record of coercive control incidents. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Coercive Control: What it is and how it impacts family law cases. Family Law Act Section 4AB: Definition of family violence and examples of coercive control. Documentation Strategies: Tips for documenting coercive control effectively. Using Legal Language: How to align your documentation with the Family Law Act. Creating Impactful Narratives: Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements. Organising Evidence: Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence. Frequency and Patterns: Highlighting the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours. Presenting in Mediation and Court: How to convey your case effectively in different legal settings. Family Law Act Discussed Episodes Mentioned that you can learn more about Here are the key highlights and important parts of the episode with timestamps: [0:00] - Introduction Laura and Lynette introduce the topic of documenting coercive control for legal purposes. [2:15] - Understanding Coercive Control Definition of coercive control and its impact on family law cases. [5:30] - Family Law Act Section 4AB Explanation of how the Family Law Act defines coercive control and family violence. [10:05] - Importance of Documentation Why documenting coercive control is crucial for your case. [12:45] - Documentation Strategies Tips for effectively documenting instances of coercive control. [15:20] - Using Legal Language How to align your documentation with the terminology in the Family Law Act. [18:40] - Creating Impactful Narratives Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements. [22:00] - Organising Evidence Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence in a clear and organized manner. [25:35] - Highlighting Frequency and Patterns Importance of demonstrating the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours. [29:10] - Presenting in Mediation and Court How to effectively communicate your case in different legal settings, including mediation and court. [33:50] - Real-Life Examples Examples of how to document coercive control incidents and their impact. [38:00] - Seeking Professional Help When and how to seek professional help from lawyers and other experts. [41:30] - Resources and Further Reading Mention of relevant episodes and resources to assist listeners further. [45:00] - Conclusion Laura and Lynette wrap up the episode with final thoughts and encouragement. Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Handover Hell: How to Make Child Custody Exchanges Easier
07/23/2024
Handover Hell: How to Make Child Custody Exchanges Easier
Custody handovers can be one of the most stressful aspects of co-parenting, often referred to as "handover hell." Whether it's a tense interaction with your ex or the emotional strain on your children, it's crucial to find ways to make these transitions as smooth as possible. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into practical strategies for handling custody handovers, discussing everything from setting clear boundaries to using neutral locations for exchanges. They explore how to make handovers less stressful for both parents and kids, and offer insights on future-proofing your handover arrangements to avoid common pitfalls. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are experiencing tension and conflict during custody handovers. ❓ Want practical tips for making handovers less stressful for your children. 💡 Seek strategies to communicate effectively with your co-parent during handovers. 🛡 Are dealing with a high-conflict ex-partner and need to minimise drama. 📚 Need advice on creating a consistent and positive handover routine. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Importance of Specifying Handovers: Why it's crucial to have a clear, agreed-upon plan for custody exchanges. Types of Handovers: Various options including school, neutral locations, contact centres, and supervised exchanges. Legal Implications: Understanding the legal reasons for specified handovers and how to lock them in with parenting plans or consent orders. Future-Proofing Your Plan: How to anticipate changes in your children's needs and circumstances as they grow. Minimising Stress for Kids: Strategies to make handovers as smooth and positive as possible for your children. Dealing with Different Personality Types: Tips for managing handovers with manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high-conflict ex-partners. Setting Boundaries: The importance of maintaining clear boundaries to protect your mental health and well-being. Episodes mentioned in this Podcast s Handover Hell: How to Make Child Custody Exchanges Easier 00:00 Introduction to Handover Hell 01:33 Why Specify Handover Locations? 02:35 Types of Handover Options 08:42 Future Proofing Your Handover Plan 15:08 Locking in Handover Arrangements 20:08 Making Handover Easier for Kids 25:08 Arranging Handover for Parents' Well-being 29:35 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation 30:17 Common Mistakes During Handovers 31:24 The Dangers of Filming Handovers 32:28 Handling Drunk or Unsafe Parents 35:48 Dealing with Late or Unreliable Parents 40:05 When Children Refuse to Go 43:34 Legal Support and Family Reports 46:00 Creating Effective Parenting Plans 48:22 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes 51:14 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Choosing A Family Lawyer for your Divorce, Custody or Property Matter: Top 10 Questions To Ask When
07/16/2024
Choosing A Family Lawyer for your Divorce, Custody or Property Matter: Top 10 Questions To Ask When
Are you in the process of getting divorced and need to find the right lawyer for your case? Choosing the right legal representation can be daunting, especially during an emotionally charged time. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the ten essential steps and questions you need to consider when selecting a lawyer. They discuss the importance of finding a lawyer whose experience, ability, and personality align with your needs, and they offer practical advice on navigating this crucial decision. Listen to This Episode If You: - 🌟 Are beginning the process of divorce and need to find a lawyer. - ❓ Want to know the key questions to ask a prospective lawyer. - 💡 Seek understanding of the importance of lawyer-client compatibility. - 🛡 Are dealing with the stress and confusion of legal proceedings. - 📚 Need strategies for ensuring your lawyer can meet your specific needs. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: - Finding the Right Lawyer: Tips on what to look for in terms of experience, ability, and personality. - Asking the Right Questions: Essential questions to ask during initial consultations to ensure a good fit. - Understanding Costs: The importance of discussing billing practices, hourly rates, and getting itemised accounts. - Legal Updates: Ensuring your lawyer is knowledgeable about recent changes in the Family Law Act and other relevant legislation. - Step In, Step Out Services: Understanding flexible legal services and how they can save you money. - Importance of Compatibility: Why it’s crucial to find a lawyer you can trust and communicate with effectively. - Handling Legal Fees: Strategies for managing costs and budgeting for your legal expenses. - Role of Communication The significance of clear and consistent communication between you and your lawyer. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Sorting Through the Chaos: Dealing with Your Ex's Belongings During Divorce
07/09/2024
Sorting Through the Chaos: Dealing with Your Ex's Belongings During Divorce
Struggling with what to do with your ex's stuff after a separation or divorce? Whether it's a garage full of clutter, valuable memorabilia, or just everyday items left behind, dealing with an ex's belongings can be frustrating and emotionally draining. In this episode, Laura and Lynette discuss practical strategies for handling your ex's stuff, from boxing it up to negotiating its removal, all while considering the legal implications. They also explore how different scenarios—whether amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, or high conflict—affect the process. Tune in to gain valuable insights and practical tips to navigate this tricky aspect of post-separation life. (Remember to see your lawyer before doing anything about this issue as each situation is different.) Listen to This Episode If You: - 🌟 Want practical legal education on dealing with your ex’s belongings. - ❓ Are unsure about the legal implications of getting rid of or storing your ex’s stuff. - 💡 Seek clarity on how different types of relationships (amicable, manipulative, etc.) impact handling belongings. - 🛡 Are dealing with a high-conflict or controlling ex-partner. - 📦 Need strategies for negotiating the removal of your ex’s items. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Impact of Stuff on Your Life: How lingering belongings can affect your mental and emotional well-being. Legal Considerations: The potential legal consequences of disposing of or keeping your ex's belongings. Different Relationship Scenarios: Strategies tailored to different types of ex-partners (amicable, manipulative, controlling, avoidant, high conflict). Practical Steps: Tips on boxing up items, setting deadlines, and using storage solutions. Using Mediation: How to incorporate belongings into mediation agreements and consent orders. Involving Authorities: When and how to involve the police in high-conflict situations. Handling Emotional Attachments: Dealing with the emotional aspects of letting go or holding on to items. Episode 158 Sorting Through the Chaos: Dealing with Your Ex's Belongings During Divorce For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on handling your ex’s belongings. Understanding the legal and emotional aspects is crucial for navigating this tricky part of post-separation life. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. **Disclaimer:** This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal education tailored to your specific circumstances.
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Making Big Decisions When You and Your Co-Parent Disagree: Parental Responsibility & Family Law Essentials
07/01/2024
Making Big Decisions When You and Your Co-Parent Disagree: Parental Responsibility & Family Law Essentials
Are you struggling with understanding parental responsibility after a divorce or separation? Need strategies for handling parenting disagreements about major or minor decisions for your children? In Australia, who makes decisions for the children before there is a parenting plan or court order? What happens if you and your ex can't agree on a school, medical, or other major issue? In this episode, Laura and an Australian Family Law Specialist Lynette break down the complexities of these often-confusing topics. They discuss what parental responsibility entails, how recent changes in the family law impact it, and what it means for parents trying to make decisions for their children. Whether you're dealing with a high-conflict ex or just trying to navigate the legal jargon, this episode offers essential insights and practical advice to help you understand and manage parental responsibility effectively. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to understand the concept of parental responsibility and how it impacts your legal rights as a parent. ❓ Are confused about the difference between joint, sole, and equal shared parental responsibility. 💡 Seek clarity on how recent family law act legal changes affect parental decision-making. 🛡 Are dealing with a manipulative, controlling, or high-conflict or narcissistic type co-parent. 📚 Need strategies for handling disagreements about major decisions for your children. 📝 Want to learn how to navigate court orders and legal terminology related to parenting. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Definition and Importance of Parental Responsibility: What it is and why it matters in the eyes of the court. Changes in Legislation: How the new laws in the Family Law Act of Australia as of May 2024 impact parental responsibility. Joint vs. Sole Parental Responsibility: Understanding the differences and implications. Decision-Making: Which parent makes decisions about major long-term issues versus day-to-day matters. Court Orders and Parental Responsibility: How to handle existing orders and apply for new ones. Section 61DAB: Understanding the provision that outlines day-to-day decision-making without the need for consultation on minor issues. Real-Life Examples: Cases of disputes over education, medical decisions, and other critical areas. Co-Parenting Challenges: Tips for dealing with uncooperative or high-conflict ex-partners. Post-Separation Abuse: Recognizing and addressing coercive control in parenting situations. For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to For more support, visit Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries: Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation: Parenting Apps for Communication:
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Empowering Your Divorce Journey: Five Essential Steps to Take Control
06/17/2024
Empowering Your Divorce Journey: Five Essential Steps to Take Control
Are you navigating a difficult divorce or separation? In this insightful episode, Laura and Lynette share five crucial steps to help you empower yourself through your divorce or de facto journey. They discuss how your actions, boundaries, self-affirmation, and standing up for yourself can significantly impact the outcome of your case. With practical legal education and empowering strategies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone facing a challenging breakup, especially if dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic or manipulative ex-partner. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to know how your actions can make or break your case. ❓ Need guidance on setting and maintaining boundaries with your ex. 💡 Seek methods to reaffirm who you are amidst false accusations. 🛡 Are looking for strategies to stand up for yourself effectively. 📚 Need tips on avoiding common pitfalls during your divorce. 📝 Want to ensure you're doing everything possible to navigate your divorce successfully. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Your Actions Make or Break Your Case: How your behaviour and decisions impact the outcome. Setting Boundaries: Importance of establishing clear boundaries with your ex. Reaffirming Who You Are: Techniques to maintain your self-worth and confidence. Avoiding Self-Sabotage: Tips to prevent actions that could harm your case. Standing Up for Yourself: Empowering yourself to take control and advocate for your needs. For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist go to For more support, visit Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries: Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation: Parenting Apps for Communication: Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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What To Do In The Witness Box: Moving from fear to confidence for a Family Law Court Trial
06/11/2024
What To Do In The Witness Box: Moving from fear to confidence for a Family Law Court Trial
Having to go into a witness box? About to go to a family court trial or a family violence hearing? Are you feeling anxious about stepping into the witness box? In this episode, we offer invaluable guidance on how to navigate this daunting experience. Whether you're involved in family law court proceedings or dealing with family violence or domestic violence trial, this episode provides ten essential tips to help you stay calm and composed. FROM our website go to the free resources tab. From understanding the importance of honesty to managing your emotions to the rules of the witness box, Laura and Lynette share practical education to ensure you present your best self in court. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are preparing to testify in family law court or domestic violence court. ❓ Want to know how to handle cross-examination. 💡 Need strategies to stay calm and collected while giving evidence. 🛡 Are looking for ways to effectively communicate your side of the story. 📚 Seek tips on how to present yourself and interact with the judge and lawyers. 📝 Want to understand courtroom etiquette and procedures. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: 📘 The importance of telling the truth and being honest in court. 👂 Listening carefully to questions and asking for clarification when needed. 🛑 Avoiding speculation and being truthful if you don't know the answer. ⏱ Taking your time to think before answering questions. 🎭 Maintaining respect and composure in the courtroom. 💧 Strategies for managing emotions and asking for breaks if necessary. 📑 Understanding who is in the courtroom and what their roles are. 🤝 The role of your lawyer and how they can support you during testimony. ⚖ How barristers structure their questioning to build their case. 📝 Tips on avoiding giving lengthy answers that could complicate your testimony. For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to For more support, visit Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this essential episode on navigating the witness box. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: Insights from the Purple Book
06/04/2024
Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: Insights from the Purple Book
Are you struggling to deal with and address post-separation abuse? TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode. In this helpful episode, we discuss the various forms of abuse that can persist even after leaving an abusive relationship and what you can do about it. Using insights from the "" Laura and Lynette (a family law expert) explore the patterns of coercive control, the legal and emotional challenges survivors face, and practical strategies for protection and recovery. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding and find support on your journey to freedom. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice) Listen to this Episode If You: 🌟 Want to understand the different forms of post-separation abuse. ❓ Are looking for strategies to document and address ongoing abuse. 📚 Need insights into the "Purple Book" and its application. 💡 Seek education on navigating the legal system while dealing with post-separation abuse. 🛡 Are supporting someone through their journey of post-separation abuse. 📝 Want to learn about tools and resources available for documenting abuse. Key Ideas in this Episode: 📘 Introduction to the "Purple Book" and its significance. 🔄 Overview of the post-separation power and control wheel. 🛡 Undermining parental abilities and its impact. 🗣 Addressing harassment and intimidation tactics. 📉 Strategies for dealing with false accusations and discrediting as a parent. 💵 Withholding financial support as economic abuse. 🚸 Impact of endangering and disregarding children. 👩👧 Disrupting the mother-child relationship and emotional manipulation. 👊 Recognizing and addressing physical and other violence. 📝 Importance of documenting abuse and using tools like the ARC app. Resources mentioned in this episode & show Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode: (The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.) (Unfair accusations in custody battles) (Navigating Parental Trash Talk in Divorce) Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Useful Resources: TRIGGER WARNING: Listener Discretion Advised: Domestic & Family Violence, Post Separation Abuse, Coercive Control and Suicide is mentioned in this episode. Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce or De Facto Separation in Australia
05/28/2024
Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce or De Facto Separation in Australia
Ever wondered what the deal is when it comes to mortgages during a divorce or de facto separation under Australian law? In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic head-on. Together with my mother, Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, we address commonly asked questions about mortgage responsibilities, court handling of joint mortgages, and strategies for dealing with uncooperative ex-partners before you’ve gotten your property settlement. Whether you're dealing with domestic violence, financial uncertainties, or high-conflict situations, this episode provides some insight into this complex issue within the context of Australian law. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice) Listen to this Episode If You: 😫 You're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of managing a mortgage during a divorce or separation. ❓ You have questions about who is responsible for paying the mortgage after separation. ⚖️ You want to understand how courts handle mortgages in property settlements. 🗣️ You're dealing with an uncooperative ex-partner regarding mortgage payments. 🏦 You need strategies for communicating with banks about mortgage issues. 🆘 You’re experiencing domestic violence and need advice on handling your mortgage. 📊 You’re unsure about the contributions and what counts in property settlements. 📈 You want to know the impact of rising property values on mortgage and divorce property settlements. 📝 You need clarity on consent orders and their role in property settlements. 🚧 You're in a high-conflict situation and need tips on maintaining boundaries. What happens with Mortgages During Divorce & De Facto Separation? Key Ideas in this Episode: 🏡 The intimidating nature of handling mortgages during divorce or de facto separation. ❓ Common questions about mortgage responsibilities after separation. 🕒 Importance of getting timely legal advice and understanding your financial situation. 🛡️ Strategies for dealing with mortgage payments during domestic violence situations. ⚖️ Different scenarios for mortgage responsibility: breadwinner vs. homemaker. 💼 Contributions in property settlements and what the court considers. 🏦 Court’s approach to handling joint mortgages during property settlements. 📈 Impact of rising property values on mortgage settlements and the importance of acting quickly. 📝 Role and process of consent orders in mortgage settlements. 🚧 Managing high-conflict situations and maintaining boundaries. 💡 Practical tips for sorting out mortgage issues promptly to avoid financial messes. Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode: (Selling your house during divorce or property settlement: the process, the pitfalls and solutions) (I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.) (Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.) (Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support) (Child Support in Australia) Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Court Support Bridging the Gap Between Layman and Lawyer: Family Court Updates and Course Updates
05/24/2024
Court Support Bridging the Gap Between Layman and Lawyer: Family Court Updates and Course Updates
In this special bonus episode of The Divorce Course Podcast, host Laura Furiosi and her mother, Lynette Galvin, an experienced family lawyer with 35 years of expertise, discuss the latest updates to the Family Law Act and to their course. Listen in to learn how these updates can guide you through your separation or divorce process more effectively. Key Insights: Recent Amendments to the Australian Family Law Act: The Family Law Act and the rules for the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia have recently been updated as of May 6. These changes are significant and have been incorporated into the course materials to ensure participants are well-informed. Course Launch and Updates: Laura and Lynette introduce the newly launched course, emphasising its step-by-step guidance from pre-separation to finalising divorce. There is now a new optional court support course open to screened platinum members addressing the needs of those who may end up in court despite efforts to avoid it. Educational Empowerment: The course equips participants with the knowledge to effectively communicate with their lawyers and understand the legal process, especially with the new amendments. Real-life testimonials highlight the course’s impact on participants, including successful mediations and favourable court outcomes. For more information on course structure see www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Additional Support and Resources: Weekly Q&A sessions with Lynette for personalised support. A newly launched app for easy access to course materials and lessons. Positive feedback from course participants underscores the course's value in navigating the complexities of divorce. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. To sign up to do the course go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol For more support, visit Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Smart Divorce Moves: Five Cost-Saving Tasks You Can Handle
05/21/2024
Smart Divorce Moves: Five Cost-Saving Tasks You Can Handle
Are you facing a challenging divorce or separation and looking for ways to save on legal fees by doing some of it yourself? Do you want to take control of your situation and handle some aspects independently? Listen to this episode to discover "Five Things You Can Do Yourself Without Lawyers to Keep Your Costs Down." Laura, a divorced mother of three, and her mother Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, share practical steps you can manage on your own. From writing letters to attending mediation, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate some of your separation on your own with confidence. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. Listen to this episode if you: Are navigating a divorce or de facto separation. Want to reduce your legal costs. Feel overwhelmed by the legal process and want to take proactive steps. Need practical education on handling parts of your divorce independently. Are looking for ways to reduce stress and gain confidence during this challenging time. Are worried that the disclosure process or mediation process is going to drain away all the money you’ve got for legal fees. Smart Divorce Moves: Five Cost-Saving Tasks You Can Handle Key Points: Writing Letters: Tips on how to draft letters to your ex regarding your separation and property settlement. Figuring Out Your Property Pool: Get an overview of how to identify and value your assets and debts. Full Disclosure: Discover the importance of full disclosure and how to gather and organise necessary documents with or without your lawyer. Attending Mediation: Tips on attending mediation without a lawyer and what to expect might happen. Creating Parenting Plans: How to draft a parenting plan. Overcoming Barriers: Build confidence to tackle these tasks independently and save money. Seeking Legal Advice: Reminder to get professional legal advice tailored to your situation when necessary. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Episodes Mentioned Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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Tackling Toxicity: Using the JADE Method to Navigate Divorce & Co-Parenting amidst Post-Separation Abuse, Coercive Control, or Narcissistic Traits
05/14/2024
Tackling Toxicity: Using the JADE Method to Navigate Divorce & Co-Parenting amidst Post-Separation Abuse, Coercive Control, or Narcissistic Traits
🤔 Are you facing a challenging divorce, separation, or co-parenting situation with a difficult ex-partner? Are you seeking effective strategies to handle criticism, control, and over-explaining in your communications? 🎧 Listen to this episode to learn how the JADE Method can assist you in navigating these complexities, while being careful not to make mistakes that could come back to bite you in the Family Court or at Mediation with this ever-increasingly popular method. 💼 Learn about practical approaches to maintain composure, protect yourself from post-separation abuse, and respond calmly amidst conflict from a family law specialist with over 35 years of experience who has seen it all. Listen to this episode if you: Are navigating a divorce, separation, or co-parenting, especially if it involves a difficult ex-partner. Want strategies for dealing with criticism, control, and over-explaining in communication with your ex. Are breaking out of a coercive control situation while going through the divorce or separation process. Are dealing with post-separation abuse after separation. Are co-parenting with a narcissistic ex. Are interested in understanding recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children. Key Ideas: An introduction to the JADE method (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) and its application in dealing with difficult ex-partners. Discussion on the importance of not falling back into patterns of over-explaining or justifying oneself, especially if the relationship was characterised by criticism and control. Explanation of recent changes in family law regarding decision-making responsibilities for children, emphasising the distinction between major long-term decisions and day-to-day matters. Strategies for responding calmly and rationally rather than reacting impulsively in communication with an ex. Importance of taking care of one's own well-being and seeking support during the divorce or separation process. Reminder to seek individualised legal and psychological support as needed. ARTICLE LINK Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case. For Full Show Notes, go to For more support, visit Episodes Mentioned Useful Resources: Emergency Contacts: Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Police on 000 on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill on 1800 600 636 on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.
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