The Divorce Course Podcast

This Mother and Daughter duo discuss and cover the legal stages and steps that you will face on your way to freedom through divorce. These are practical and real discussions with Lyn Galvin a family lawyer of 35 years experience and her daughter Laura a divorced mother of three. Laura helps turn her mother's lawyer jargon into something everyone will understand. Lyn shares all her tips and practical advice on separating. Through this podcast they aim to help you through your Australian divorce or de-facto separation to make it more cost effective and less stressful. instagram @thedivorcecourse

Child Custody In Divorce: The 10 Most Common Questions 04/15/2025

Child Custody In Divorce: The 10 Most Common Questions In this eye-opening and practical episode,a seasoned family lawyer helps to unpack the 10 most frequently asked questions about child custody in Australia. Whether you're fresh out of a breakup, preparing for court, or trying to figure out what your rights are, this episode is packed with general education and emotional clarity every separated parent needs. From understanding how courts decide who gets custody, to navigating situations involving domestic violence, high-conflict co-parents, and parenting plans this episode helps you gain a better understanding of what's what in child custody issues. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You... Are recently separated and unsure where to start Want to learn how to understand your parental rights in court Are co-parenting with someone difficult, absent, or controlling Are trying to protect your child from a harmful environment Need clarity around parenting plans vs court orders Are preparing to go to family court Feel overwhelmed by legal jargon and want straight answers ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about family and domestic violence. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Every family law case is different, and you should always seek professional legal support specific to your circumstances. 📌 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode: Official Parenting Orders: Do I really need them? 🎧 Case Mentioned: Isles & Nelissen [2022] FedcFAMC1A 97 – an “unacceptable risk” family court case 📚 Links & Resources 🧾 Word Salad Checklist (Download) - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist 📞 1800 RESPECT – Support for family and domestic violence 📞 Lifeline (13 11 14) – Mental health and emotional support 📞 000 – In case of immediate danger ⏱️ Timeline Summary 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warnings 01:02 Understanding Child Custody 02:08 Immediate Steps After Separation 03:19 Consent Orders vs Parenting Plans 04:33 High Conflict Situations 05:56 What is the Best Interests of the Child 15:07 What is the difference between Legal vs Physical Custody 18:39 Domestic Violence and Custody 23:33 Surgical Risk and Legal Analogies 24:21 Can My Child Decide Who They Want to Live With? 24:26 Webinar Invitation: Empower Yourself Through Divorce 25:40 Can I Relocate with my child and Custody: Legal Insights 27:14 What can I do if my ex is Threatening of International Relocation 27:54 Joint Custody: Pros, Cons, and Realities 30:18 Proving an Ex is Unfit for Custody 31:26 How do you Modify and Enforce Custody Arrangements 33:30 How to Deal with Manipulative and Controlling Exes 34:08 High Conflict Custody Situations 36:20 Avoidant Exes and Custody Challenges 38:08 Final Thoughts and Support Resources 🔖 Hashtags (for Social Media) #ChildCustody #FamilyLawAustralia #ParentingAfterSeparation #HighConflictDivorce #CoParenting #FamilyCourt #LegalParenting #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SharedParenting #CustodyBattle #DivorceSupport #ConsentOrders #ParentingPlan #FamilyLawHelp #ProtectiveParenting 📌 Final Disclaimer: Nothing discussed in this episode should be taken as legal advice. Please speak with a qualified legal professional who understands your personal situation and jurisdiction. 🎙️ Episode Title: Top 10 Child Custody Questions Answered (What Parents Need to Know) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36180755

What your Lawyer Might Forget to Tell You: Unlocking Funds Before Divorce PROPERTY SETTLEMENT is Final 04/09/2025

What your Lawyer Might Forget to Tell You: Unlocking Funds Before Divorce PROPERTY SETTLEMENT is Final Feeling trapped in limbo while waiting for your property settlement to go through? You’re not alone — and there may be a way out. In this episode, I’m joined again by my mum, Lynette Galvin — a family lawyer with over 35 years of experience — and we’re talking about a powerful but underused legal option called early distribution of funds. This is a game-changer for anyone financially stuck during separation. Whether you’re separated under one roof, struggling to pay rent, or locked out of joint funds, this episode is full of practical ideas to help you understand some options. We’ll walk through how it works, who it can help, how to ask for it, and what to do if you’re facing financial abuse or coercive control. If even one person hears this and realizes they can ask for access to their own money — then this episode has done its job. Legal Disclaimer: This is not legal advice please see a lawyer before making any decisions. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses financial abuse and coercive control. If you find this triggering, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 1800RESPECT. 🎧 Listen to this episode if… You’ve separated from your partner but are still waiting for the property to be divided You’re struggling financially and wondering if you can access money now You’re living under the same roof as your ex and things are tense or unsafe You’ve heard “you just have to wait” from a lawyer or friend You’re dealing with financial abuse or coercive control You want to understand your rights and feel more empowered in the process You’re looking for a way to shift the balance in negotiations or court ⏱️ Episode Timeline 0:00 - A warm welcome and why this episode matters if you’re stuck during property settlement 2:00 - What is early distribution of funds, and why more people should know about it 4:00 - Who qualifies? Scenarios from both wealthy and struggling couples 5:45 - Why financial abuse and coercive control may be stopping you from accessing your money 8:00 - The new definition of family violence and how it can work in your favour 10:30 - How to structure your request so it’s fair and has a better chance of success 12:45 - The mindset shift: realizing you’re entitled to ask 14:30 - What the courts consider when deciding to release funds early 16:30 - Step-by-step: how to apply and what documents you’ll need 19:45 - Going to court: what to expect, what to say, and how to prepare 23:30 - Common misconceptions and sneaky tactics to watch for 26:45 - Can superannuation be released early? (Spoiler: unlikely!) 28:00 - Risks of early distribution: What you need to know before you ask 29:30 - How releasing funds can shift power and break negotiation deadlock 31:45 - How to approach this with different ex-partner personality types in Divorce 36:00 - The quote Mum wants on a cushion: “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” 🔗 Links & Resources 📘 Definition of Family Violence – Family Law Act (Section 4AB) 🧠 — mediation prep, disclosure, and more 🎧 Episode on Balancing the Unbalanced in family law negotiations 🎧 Episode on Response to Initiating Application (for court document guidance) Definition of Family Violence https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html 📝 Closing Thoughts This episode is your reminder that you have options — and you don’t have to wait until the final property settlement to start rebuilding your life. If you’re in a tough spot financially, please talk to your lawyer about an early distribution. And if they say no, ask why. You deserve to feel safe and supported through this process. If you found this episode helpful, we’d be so grateful if you could rate, follow, and share the podcast. You never know who else out there might need this information right now. 💛 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36061025

Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You 04/02/2025

Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You Are you? Learn about the signs of economic or financial abuse, hear some real-life examples of how economic abuse manifests in relationships and practical steps you can take to protect yourself and your financial future. Find out how it is legally recognized under the Australian Family Law Amendment Act 2024, and why it’s considered a form of coercive control. Also find out about the new laws effective from June 2025 and how they impact property settlements and financial disputes. 🚨 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses economic abuse and coercive control, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline for confidential advice and assistance. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Feel like your partner controls your money or financial decisions ❓ Have been told you’re “bad with money” or pressured into signing financial documents 💡 Are worried that financial abuse is continuing after separation 🛡 Want to understand how the new legal changes address economic abuse 📚 Need advice on documenting financial control and seeking help 💔 Are experiencing financial stress during or after separation DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: What is Economic and Financial Abuse? Signs and Red Flags of Economic Abuse How Economic Abuse Is a Form of Coercive Control Legal Changes: Economic Abuse Recognized as Family Violence Impact on Property Settlements and Financial Outcomes How to Protect Yourself from Economic and Financial Abuse Support Services and Resources for Victims 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 1800 RESPECT – Support for family and domestic violence: Website: Phone: 1800 737 732 🔗 National Debt Helpline – Financial counselling and support: Website: Phone: 1800 007 007 🔗 Men’s Referral Service – Support for men using or experiencing violence: Website: Phone: 1800 943 539 🔗 Understanding Coercive Control – Australian Government Resource: Website: 🎙️ Related Episodes: Recognizing Coercive Control: How to Protect Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/12jgZw1IwIFLK5oPlp0its?si=CvxdW85YRJ6e9pX1katgPQ Navigating Financial Disclosure in Family Court https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Understanding Emotional Abuse: Signs, Impact, and Recovery https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=ujMpXOD8QzeLbeA_rlC4Ew How to Tell Your Story and Communicate Coercive Control in Your Documents https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=rO-DnFixQqKTPMCbkpe3jA ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Economic Abuse 00:24 Recognizing the Signs of Economic Abuse 01:09 Trigger Warning and Support Resources 01:57 Understanding Economic Abuse in Family Law 02:28 Examples of Economic Abuse 04:23 Subtle Forms of Financial Control 12:12 Post-Separation Financial Abuse 15:25 Questions to Identify Financial Abuse 21:30 Coercive Control and Financial Dependence 24:29 Understanding Coercive Control and Financial Abuse 25:34 Real-Life Examples of Financial Abuse 27:06 Legal Definitions and Changes in Family Law 30:37 Proving Financial Abuse in Court 32:03 Steps to Escape Financial Abuse 40:39 Support and Resources for Victims 42:53 Encouragement and Final Thoughts Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35968050

Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! 03/26/2025

Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! Think you know what divorce looks like in Australia? Think again. In this episode, we're busting some of the most common myths that trip people up emotionally, financially, and legally during separation and divorce. Whether you’re at the start of your journey or knee-deep in negotiations, these misunderstandings could be holding you back or costing you big. Join Laura and her mum, Lynette Galvin — a family lawyer with 35+ years of experience — as they unpack 13 myths they hear all the time, including ones that cause fear, confusion, and prevent people from getting what they’re entitled to. From custody myths to super splitting, property settlement fears and bad legal advice — this episode is your reality check. DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are worried that leaving the house means losing it in the property split ❓ Think child support covers all expenses 💡 Believe the court always favours mothers in parenting cases 🛡 Are avoiding legal advice to “save money” 📚 Think you have to wait until your divorce is final to sort out property ⚖️ Are scared to date during separation because it might “hurt your case” 🧠 Just want to stop second-guessing everything your ex or their lawyer is telling you 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 📝 Dating After Divorce Survey – Help us shape resources for separated parents: 🎧 Related Episodes: Equalising Super: Is It Fair or a Financial Trap? Not yet released Is It Emotional Abuse? Recognising Coercive Control https://youtu.be/PHfhLZXlUc8?si=l2U3B8hOKhKlr2v- How to Prepare for Mediation Like a Pro https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=IEdr3tdQnF4fLMnE 💻 Search Our Full Podcast Library – ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 💬 Final Thoughts: No matter where you’re at in your divorce journey, understanding the truth behind these myths can empower you to make better decisions and avoid costly mistakes. Don’t let fear, bad advice, or outdated beliefs hold you back. 👉 Hit play now and take the guesswork out of your separation. 🎧 ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Myths 01:38 Myth 1: Property Settlement Timing for Divorce in Australia 02:42 Myth 2: Do Family Courts Favour Mothers for Custody 04:33 Myth 3: Ownership and Coercive Control in Divorce 06:38 Myth 4: Equalizing Superannuation in Divorce 07:45 Myth 5: Dating After Separation can it affect your divorce or custody? 10:19 Myth 6: Can you Settle Divorce Without Court 11:58 Myth 7: Leaving the House and Kids during divorce 16:47 Myth 8: Not getting legal Advice Saves Money in Divorce 19:08 Myth 9: Property Settlements Are always 50/50 22:45 Myth 10: Child Support Covers All Expenses 24:07 Myth 11: Do Family Lawyers Know Everything 30:20 Conclusion and Resources Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! Episode 189 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35862940

Is Your Ex Hiding Assets? How to Uncover the Truth in Divorce Disclosure 03/19/2025

Is Your Ex Hiding Assets? How to Uncover the Truth in Divorce Disclosure 💰 Is your ex hiding assets? Are they draining joint accounts, concealing super, or transferring money to family and friends? You're not alone, and there are legal ways to uncover what's yours. Learn about the most common ways people try to hide assets in divorce, including trust funds, cash jobs, disappearing assets, and hidden overseas accounts. Find out how the Australian Family Court courts handle these cases, what legal tools you can use to track down missing assets, and what to consider doing before mediation or family court. If you’re frustrated by a lack of financial disclosure or suspect your ex is hiding money, this episode is a must-listen. 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australia and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Believe your ex is hiding assets or not fully disclosing their financial situation ❓ Have noticed money disappearing from joint accounts 💡 Suspect your ex is hiding superannuation, cash jobs, or business earnings 🛡 Want to know what legal steps you can take before mediation or court 📚 Wondering how courts handle trusts, business assets, or overseas properties ⚖️ Are frustrated with non-disclosure and want to know what the courts will do about it Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1️⃣ Draining Joint Accounts: Can You Get the Money Back? 2️⃣ Superannuation & Hidden Retirement Funds 3️⃣ Trust Funds, Businesses & Company-Owned Assets 4️⃣ Cash Jobs & Undeclared Income 5️⃣ Selling Assets for Cheap to Friends & Family 6️⃣ Disappearing Assets: What If They Just Vanish? 7️⃣ Hiding Money & Property Overseas 8️⃣ What If Your Ex Refuses to Do Financial Disclosure? 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📜 Superannuation Information Request (Form 6) – 📜 Family Court Superannuation Search via Comm Courts Portal – 📜 📜Disclosure Checklist - 🎙 More Podcast Episodes You’ll Love: Untangling Valuations: How to Find Out What Assets Are Worth https://youtu.be/pkNKwBXMu9I?si=Lq2Q0UvXh_AVHcJH DIY Disclosure: What to Do If Your Ex Won’t Provide Financial Records https://youtu.be/c273nHUN9DE?si=nshmPtJwqkdk8hAO Avoiding Traps: Why You Should Never Negotiate Percentages Before Knowing the Property Pool https://youtu.be/D8xj-52q9ZE?si=N_-NKmXlszdXa-Rb ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction: Uncovering Hidden Assets in Divorce 00:14 Common Tactics for Hiding Assets 01:40 Legal Rights and Draining Joint Accounts 04:29 Superannuation and Hidden Funds 06:55 Trust Funds and Corporate Veils 08:41 Valuing Businesses in Divorce 12:25 Cash in Hand and Undeclared Income 15:21 Selling Assets to Friends 16:04 Burnt Leg and Old Cars 16:27 Valuing and Insuring Classic Cars 17:01 Court's Approach to Asset Distribution 18:57 Handling Disappearing Assets 19:48 Hiding Assets Overseas 22:37 Non-Disclosure Issues 28:04 Child Support and Hidden Assets 29:32 Final Thoughts and Legal Advice Emergency Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35768660

Is It Emotional Abuse? How to Identify & Protect Yourself in Divorce 03/11/2025

Is It Emotional Abuse? How to Identify & Protect Yourself in Divorce Explore the tactics abusive partners use to maintain control, how emotional abuse can impact divorce and custody proceedings, and—most importantly—how to protect yourself, rebuild your confidence, and move forward with clarity. When emotional abuse in your relationship or divorce, it becomes confusing, isolating, and overwhelming. Many people don’t realize that abuse isn’t always physical—disrespect, manipulation, and control can be just as damaging, especially during separation. In this episode, we’re joined by Krasi Kirova, a clinical psychologist specializing in complex trauma, emotional and psychological abuse, and family violence. With extensive experience in trauma-informed approaches, Krasi helps us break down the Three Ds of Emotional Abuse—Disrespect, Disempowerment, and Distortion—and how these behaviors can show up in divorce. 🚨 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses emotional and psychological abuse, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please reach out to 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) for confidential advice and assistance. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✔️ Feel like your voice was never heard during your marriage or separation ✔️ Have experienced gaslighting, manipulation, or financial control in your relationship ✔️ Are struggling to explain emotional abuse to your lawyer or the court ✔️ Want to understand how emotional abuse impacts divorce and child custody ✔️ Need tools and strategies to protect yourself during and after separation ✔️ Are curious about the new coercive control laws and how they affect family law cases Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Abuse in Divorce 00:35 Meet Krausey Kirova: Expert in Emotional Abuse 02:31 Understanding Emotional Abuse: The Basics 08:34 The 3 D's of Emotional Abuse 09:40 Disrespect: The First Pillar of Emotional Abuse 15:42 Disempowerment: The Second Pillar of Emotional Abuse 21:37 Addressing Hidden Abuse 21:48 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation 22:33 Understanding Distortion in Abusive Relationships 23:48 The Impact of Gaslighting 25:42 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns 33:47 The Role of Therapy and Mediation 37:40 Workshops and Support for Women 38:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Episode Highlights: 🔹 [04:00] – What is emotional abuse, and how does it differ from disagreements or bad behavior? 🔹 [10:00] – The Three Ds of Emotional Abuse: Disrespect – Verbal put-downs, silent treatments, invalidation of your feelings. Disempowerment – Financial control, isolation, and decision-making without your input. Distortion – Gaslighting, blame-shifting, and rewriting reality. 🔹 [27:00] – Why emotional abuse is often hard to recognize when you’re in it. 🔹 [31:00] – How to document abuse effectively for legal cases and communicate it to your lawyer. 🔹 [36:00] – Should you try family therapy or mediation with an emotionally abusive partner? 🔹 [40:00] – The impact of new coercive control laws in Australia and how they apply to divorce. Links & Resources Mentioned: Resources & Support: ✅ Krasi Kirova’s "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships" Workshop – Krasi Kirova is a clinical psychologist specialising in complex trauma, difficult family dynamics, emotional and psychological abuse in relationships, dealing/separating from a narcissistic partner, and setting healthy boundaries. She has extensive training in trauma-informed approaches and family violence. Aside from her work in private practice, Krasi has worked at Monash University’s health services and co-facilitated trauma groups in a psychiatric hospital. She currently runs a workshop for women called "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships". ✅ 1800 RESPECT – Confidential support for domestic & family violence: ✅ Mediation Checklist – ✅ Legal Resources on Coercive Control – Recommended Books: 📚 Why Does He Do That? – Lundy Bancroft 📖 | Booktopia (AU) 📚 The Verbally Abusive Relationship – Patricia Evans 📖 | Book Depository 📚 In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People – George K. Simon 📖 | Book Depository Related Podcast Episodes: 🎙 Gaslighting in Divorce: How to Spot It & Shut It Down – (Do you have a link for this episode? I can add it!) 🎙 Coercive Control & The Family Court: What You Need to Know – 🎙 Mediation or Manipulation 🔗 Support Services Lifeline – 13 11 14 (Australia) 1-800-RESPECT – Domestic Violence Support 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information. #DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35622740

How Covert Narcissists Weaponise Divorce (And What You Can Do About It) Episode 186 02/26/2025

How Covert Narcissists Weaponise Divorce (And What You Can Do About It) Episode 186 Have you just realized your ex might be a covert narcissist? Thought your separation was amicable,only to find yourself blindsided by manipulation and deceit? In this episode, we break down the six key signs of a covert narcissist during divorce, property settlement or coparenting. From playing the victim to using the legal system against you, we’ll help you spot the red flags and protect yourself. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are going through a divorce or property settlement and feel like something is off. ❓ Want to understand the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist. 💰 Need to protect your financial assets from manipulation. ⚖️ Are dealing with custody battles and want to safeguard your children. 📜 Suspect your ex is using legal loopholes to control or deceive you. Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Covert Narcissism in Divorce 01:23 Understanding Covert Narcissists 02:31 Recognizing the Victim Role 05:24 Manipulation Tactics in Divorce 13:26 Custody Battles and Child Manipulation 17:53 Legal Manipulation and Delays 20:03 Mediation Challenges with Narcissists 22:33 Legal Advice and Second Opinions 22:56 Mediation with a Covert Narcissist 23:10 Document Everything 23:49 Investigate Property Claims 24:07 Handling Unreasonable Negotiations 25:15 Free Resources for Mediation 28:02 False Allegations and Manipulation 35:37 Expecting Amicable Pretenses 42:06 Final Thoughts and Advice Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 🔹 The Victim Role: How covert narcissists gain sympathy while making you feel like the problem. 🔹 Financial Manipulation: Hidden assets, delaying tactics, and emotional blackmail. 🔹 Custody Battles & Control: The sneaky ways they use your children against you. 🔹 Legal Abuse & False Allegations: How they use the court system to exhaust and intimidate you. 🔹 How to Protect Yourself: Strategies to recognize manipulation and safeguard your rights. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Support Services Lifeline – 13 11 14 (Australia) 1-800-RESPECT – Domestic Violence Support 🎙 Recommended Episodes: The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce – Learn the tactics they use and how to counter them.https://youtu.be/OrRvd9XzuIg?si=KDYG1a0Fh8xXBn7q 8 Ways to Protect Yourself from DARVO – Recognize and defend against manipulation.https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=54TMNNtK_H5r2QGj Can You Mediate with a Narcissist? – Practical advice for handling negotiations. https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=iY_J7pz-uA6ChOwc 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information. #DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35432795

Consent Order or BFA? & How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks 02/19/2025

Consent Order or BFA? & How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks Are you going through a divorce property settlement and unsure whether to choose a Consent Order or a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA)? In this episode, we break down what they are and the key differences between the two. We also discuss the pitfalls and risks to keep in mind when navigating this. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are going through a separation and need to divide property fairly. ❓ Want to know whether a Consent Order or a Financial Agreement is the better choice. 💰 Need to understand the costs involved in each option. ⚖️ Want to protect yourself from future financial claims. 📜 Want to know if consent orders or bfa’s can be contested in court 00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement 00:57 Understanding Consent Orders 01:32 Exploring Binding Financial Agreements (BFAs) 02:14 Comparing Consent Orders and BFAs 03:20 Legal Advice and Costs 05:28 Risks of Not Having Legal Agreements 12:41 Process of Getting Financial Agreements 15:33 Process of Getting Consent Orders 21:49 Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them 22:15 Understanding Consent Orders and Financial Agreements 22:46 The Risks of Non-Disclosure in Financial Agreements 25:44 Signing Under Pressure: What You Need to Know 27:55 The Importance of Proper Legal Advice 30:49 Challenging and Enforcing Settlements 35:49 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice 40:48 Conclusion and Legal Disclaimer 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 🔹 Understanding Consent Orders What is a Consent Order, and how does it work? Why the Family Court reviews and approves these agreements. The benefits of having a legally binding, court-approved settlement. 🔹 What You Need to Know About Financial Agreements (BFAs) Why they are no longer called Binding Financial Agreements. How BFAs differ from Consent Orders and why they carry more risk. The legal costs and technicalities involved in creating a Financial Agreement. 🔹 Consent Orders vs. BFAs: Cost and Legal Requirements How much does a Consent Order cost vs. a BFA? Why BFAs require independent legal advice for both parties. Can you challenge or overturn these agreements in court? 🔹 Avoiding Common Pitfalls Why informal agreements leave you legally unprotected. The dangers of signing under pressure or coercion. What happens if your ex doesn’t comply with the agreement? 🔹 Finalizing Your Property Settlement A walkthrough for getting a Consent Order approved. When a BFA might be necessary and how to ensure it holds up in court. Questions to ask before signing any financial settlement. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Free Resources & Guides: DIY Divorce Blueprint – Learn how to create your Consent Orders https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Legal Aid Resources https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home 🎙 Recommended Episodes: Do I Really Need a Consent Order? https://youtu.be/AJrX8ovEEY8?si=LOAfESvxibj_-VYz Protecting Yourself After Divorce: Financial & Legal Steps Spousal Maintenance: Am I Eligible? https://youtu.be/lafPlHTSWp0?si=aCXWrOmWyJqZN4Bc Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Consent Orders or Binding Financial Agreements: How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks #FamilyLaw #DivorceSettlement #PropertySettlement #ConsentOrder #FinancialAgreement #BFAvsConsentOrder #LegalAdvice #Separation #DivorceSupport #FamilyCourt #Prenup #DivorceLaw #LegalTips #CoParenting #RelationshipBreakdown #CourtOrders /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35344200

Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back 02/11/2025

Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back Are you struggling with child support? Whether you’re battling a non-paying ex, dealing with inconsistent advice from child support agencies, or feeling overwhelmed by legal loopholes, you’re not alone. In this episode, Crystal Padooch, founder of Child Support Consultants, reveals the five critical things every parent should know about child support. With 14 years of experience, Crystal explains how the system really works, the common tactics some parents use to avoid paying, and what steps you can take to protect yourself and your children’s financial future. We also dive into the emotional side of child support, including the guilt many parents feel, the stress of dealing with financial abuse, and how to navigate the system without giving up. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer or child support consultant for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are struggling to get child support payments from your ex. ❓ Feel like you’re getting different answers from child support agencies and don’t know what to believe. 💡 Want to understand how child support assessments work and what your options are. 🛡 Are dealing with a financially abusive or manipulative ex who is trying to avoid paying. 📚 Need guidance on how to escalate complaints and fight back against unfair decisions. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1️⃣ Understanding the Child Support Process The two main pathways: Child Support Agreements vs. Child Support Assessments How the child support formula works and what factors impact payments Why your ex’s reported income may not reflect their actual earnings 2️⃣ Dealing with Inconsistent Advice from Child Support Agencies Why different case officers give conflicting information The best way to escalate your case and get clear answers How to document calls and complaints to protect yourself 3️⃣ Let Go of Child Support Guilt Why seeking child support is NOT about you—it’s about your kids How child support ensures stability and financial security for your children Overcoming the stigma and online shaming around child support 4️⃣ How to Protect Yourself from Financial Abuse & Manipulation The common tactics used by coercive controllers and financial abusers What to do if your ex lowers their income or refuses to work to avoid payments Strategies to prove financial dishonesty and fight back 5️⃣ What to Do If Your Ex Refuses to Pay The enforcement actions child support agencies can take Why some loopholes allow people to dodge payments (and how they should be fixed!) Steps to take if you’re owed child support but not receiving anything Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Child Support Consultants – Book a free clarity call with Crystal: https://childsupportconsultants.com.au/ 📚 Divorce Course Podcast – More episodes on navigating separation & co-parenting 📖 Government Child Support Information – https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/contact-child-support Emergency Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: [Visit Legal Aid Website] 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:48 Understanding the Child Support Process 04:58 Dealing with Inconsistencies in Child Support Calls 10:13 Addressing Child Support Guilt 14:32 Avoiding Comparisons with Others' Stories 16:49 Handling Financially Abusive Ex-Partners 20:42 Navigating the Child Support Process 21:30 The Emotional Toll of Child Support Battles 21:57 Advocating for the Child's Best Interest 22:50 Legal Abuse and Court Involvement 23:09 DIY Divorce Blueprint 26:54 Challenges in Child Support Collection 29:26 System Loopholes and Legislative Issues 37:31 Support for Domestic Violence Victims 38:54 Final Thoughts and Contact Information #ChildSupport #DivorceCoursePodcast #FamilyLaw #SingleParenting #CoParentingTips #FinancialAbuse #ChildSupportAwareness #ChildSupportHelp #DivorceSupport #CustodyBattle #CoParentingChallenges #ParentalRights #KnowYourRights #LegalHelp /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35234010

Parental Alienation False Allegations: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 02/05/2025

Parental Alienation False Allegations: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 False Allegations of Parental Alienation: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 Learn about how abusers use parental alienation allegations to deflect from their abusive behavior and maintain their power. Explore how accusations of parental alienation can be weaponized against the healthy parent to continue coercive control or abuse, often leaving the targeted parent in a difficult legal and emotional battle. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are facing false parental alienation claims in your divorce or custody case. ❓ Feel like your ex is using alienation accusations as a tactic to continue coercive control. 💡 Want to understand how to identify when alienation accusations are used to deflect from abusive behavior. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict separation and need tools to protect your relationship with your children. 📚 Need strategies to counter false accusations and focus on the best interests of your kids. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: The Abuse Behind Parental Alienation Allegations How abusers use alienation claims to deflect attention from their coercive control or abusive tactics. The psychological and emotional impact on the healthy parent when accused of alienation. Understanding Coercive Control in Divorce and Custody Cases How coercive control continues even after separation through alienation accusations and using DARVO tactics. The power dynamics at play when one parent tries to isolate or manipulate the children from the safe or preferred parent. False Claims of Parental Alienation Why abusive partners may accuse the other parent of alienation to keep them under control. How these accusations undermine the healthy parent’s credibility and alienate them from their children. Protecting Yourself and Your Children How to document and respond to alienation accusations in a way that protects your relationship with your children. The importance of seeking legal support to defend against false alienation claims and protect your rights as a parent. The Impact of Alienation on Children How false parental alienation tactics affects children’s well-being and their relationship with the targeted parent. Strategies for ensuring your children have a healthy relationship safe parents. Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources: Mediation Checklist Before You Go Checklist Recordings show psychologist's harmful conduct against family | ABC News Re Andrew ; http://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1996/43.html Recommended Episodes: - https://youtu.be/SUKUR65ARfs?si=YMbQLnCPQexRr3wv 8 Ways to Protect yourself During Divorce - Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Final Thoughts: Parental alienation accusations are often used as a manipulative tactic by abusers to continue their coercive control after separation. Understanding the dynamics of false alienation tactics and taking proactive steps to protect yourself and your relationship with your children and protect yourself in court. Stay focused on what’s best for your kids and make sure you have the legal support and strategies in place to counter false claims. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation 01:16 Understanding the Alienation Industry 02:10 The Pipeline of Alienation Claims 08:14 Child Custody Gatekeeping and Accusations 17:21 The Role of Professionals in False Alienation Cases 21:17 Legal Strategies and Reunification 24:58 Financial Incentives for more abuse through Child Custody 25:23 New Child Custody Laws in the Family Court Of Australia 26:04 Coercive Control and Family Court 26:36 Choosing the Right Family Professionals for your Custody Battle 29:09 Family Therapy and Legal Implications in the Family Court 34:52 Documenting and Defending Against False Accusations of Alienation 42:56 Fighting Against Reunification Camps 44:42 Support and Resources for Parents /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35155325

Official Property or Parenting Orders. Do You Really Need Them? 01/28/2025

Official Property or Parenting Orders. Do You Really Need Them? Do you really need to formalize your property or parenting agreement when going through divorce or separation? What if you are amicable? Or you both just agree anyway. What's the point in having a formal order? What if you just don’t have any property and so you feel there isn’t any point in getting official property orders. What if you are worried if you push for property or parenting orders it will make your ex more angry? What if you are terrified of going to court? In this episode,we break down the most common reasons we hear people telling us why they don’t want to get official formal orders and explain the considerations these people may need to make. Whether you're amicable, high conflict, or dealing with a narcissistic or avoidant ex or feeling overwhelmed, or unsure about the legal process, this episode clears up some common myths and confusion and equips you with the knowledge to help you make informed decisions for your future. From financial security to protecting your children's stability. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🏠 Are considering whether to formalize your property or parenting arrangements. 💡 Want to understand the benefits of formal orders for financial security and children's stability. 📚What to know the difference between a parenting plan and a consent order ❓ Are unsure about the process of consent orders and whether lawyers need to be involved. 🛡 Feel hesitant about escalating conflict or upsetting your ex by pursuing formal orders. 📚 Need reassurance about the steps involved in protecting your legal rights post-separation. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: What Are Property and Parenting Orders? Differences between informal agreements, parenting plans, and formal court orders. Are Formalizing agreements with consent orders crucial? Common Objections to Formal Orders: "We’ve already agreed; we don’t need anything formal." "It’s too expensive and time-consuming." "We’re amicable, so we’ll stick to our agreement." "I don’t want to escalate conflict or upset my ex." “I don’t want to go to court” Laura and Lyn address each objection and provide solutions. Risks of Avoiding Formal Orders: Examples of real-life cases, including the Farmer and Bramley case, where not finalizing property arrangements had disastrous consequences. How changes in circumstances (e.g., new partners, financial issues) can complicate informal agreements. The Role of Consent Orders: How consent orders work and why they don’t require going to court. The importance of having a clear, enforceable agreement for both property and parenting. Long-Term Benefits of Formal Orders: Financial protection against future claims. Reduced conflict through clear boundaries and responsibilities. Peace of mind knowing you’ve protected yourself and your family. 00:00 Introduction to Property and Parenting Orders 01:26 Understanding Parenting and Property Orders 03:22 The Importance of Formal Orders 09:19 Addressing Common Objections to getting official court orders in Divorce 18:34 Handling Conflict and Safety Concerns during divorce 23:34 Avoiding Court and Legal Advice during divorce 23:49 Understanding Consent Orders for your divorce 24:05 The Role of the Registrar in the Family Court of Australia 24:54 Avoiding Court Appearances during Divorce 25:06 Financial Agreements and Fairness in your property settlement 25:38 Parenting Plans and Children's Matters during your divorce 26:08 The Importance of Formal Orders in Family Law and Divorce 28:16 Dealing with Property and Financial Settlements in your Divorce 28:21 Family Lawyer Australia Webinar Invitation 28:53 Addressing Common Concerns during your divorce negotiations 32:42 The Risks of Delaying Formal Orders in your divorce 36:39 Legal Tips and Avoiding Pitfalls in your Divorce negotiations 43:28 Encouragement and Final Thoughts for going through divorce negotiations 47:14 Listener Reviews and Closing Remarks #DivorceHelp #PropertySettlement #ParentingOrders #DivorceSupport #SeparationEducation #FamilyLaw #HelpForDivorce #CoParentingTips #DivorceJourney #FinancialAbuseAwareness #DivorcePlanning #ProtectYourAssets #ParentingAfterDivorce #DivorceAndProperty #SeparationTips Links & Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Related Episodes: https://youtu.be/-qpS1hsxJ0s?si=FuwXba5pdSABjxS_ https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=tLl7zfkObmykhV4U https://youtu.be/tsDlMphLRWk?si=YNlQI1wa9PE28XoP https://youtu.be/RLEmGeZRvb0?si=uYlV1kfK2CdEjmqB https://youtu.be/-DC72tq8FRM?si=LiFqoWZFNImMFA9v Free Resources: https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist Legal Cases Mentioned: Woodland and Todd 2005 Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811 National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35053975

Separation Survival: 9 Tips for Navigating Shared Living Arrangements 01/21/2025

Separation Survival: 9 Tips for Navigating Shared Living Arrangements In this episode we discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner whilst waiting for property settlement. We share practical strategies for setting boundaries, sorting money, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether you’re navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you survive—and hopefully also thrive. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🏠 Are living with your ex-partner post-separation. ❓ Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space. 💡 Want tips on co-parenting and managing household finances in the short term. 🛡 Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse. 📚 Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: Setting Boundaries: How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home. Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy. Legal Considerations: Can your ex legally force you out of the home? When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe. Communication Strategies: Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict. Protecting yourself by communicating like a judge is watching. Financial Management: Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence. Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation. Co-Parenting While Living Together: Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings. Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviors. Emotional and Practical Self-Care: Building routines to maintain mental well-being. Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups. Preparing for the Next Steps: Documenting assets and financial information. Consulting a lawyer a safety plan for the future. Safety Considerations: Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse. Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe. Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources: Checklist for Before You Leave - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811 National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:43 Legal Disclaimer and Jingle 01:44 Living Under One Roof: Challenges and Boundaries 03:32 Physical and Emotional Safety in Divorce 05:33 Communication and Legal Precautions during separation 07:39 Financial Manipulation and Consent Orders in Divorce 09:35 Spousal Maintenance and Financial Independence after separation 16:05 Co-Parenting Strategies during separation 19:26 Managing Finances During Separation 26:16 Navigating Separation Under One Roof 26:41 Handling Financial Responsibilities during divorce 28:04 Dealing with Conflict and Court Warnings in Divorce 33:42 Prioritizing Self-Care and New Routines during divorce 36:05 Preparing for Property Settlement and Children's Matters 42:43 Safety Considerations and Creating a Safety Plan for Divorce 47:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Final Thoughts: This episode offers both practical and emotional tips for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. You’re not alone—help and support are available to guide you through this difficult time. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34932510

Divorce & Cars: Who Gets the Keys in the SHORT & LONG TERM? 01/14/2025

Divorce & Cars: Who Gets the Keys in the SHORT & LONG TERM? What happens to the car during a divorce in the short and long term? Laura and Lynette a Family Law Specialist breaks down the practical and legal considerations for handling your cars during separation in the short term and in property settlement for the long term. From ensuring your safety to avoiding dirty tricks, they offer tips and education to help you stay in control of this often-overlooked asset and issue. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 💡 Need strategies to protect your car from manipulative tactics. 🚗 Are unsure how cars are treated in property settlements in Australia. ❓ Have questions about ownership vs. registration during a divorce. 🛡 Are navigating financial issues like loans, debts, and repossession. 📚 Are dealing with a high-conflict ex who’s using your car as leverage. Key Topics Discussed: Ownership vs. Registration Does the name on the registration determine ownership? How the Family Court views cars as part of the property pool Practical Tips for Temporary Arrangements Sharing car use before final orders. Handling registration, insurance, and repair costs during separation. Safety Measures Securing spare keys and checking for tracking devices. Protecting toll account privacy and monitoring unusual activity. Dirty Tricks and How to Handle Them Preventing your ex from reporting the car as stolen. Safeguarding against unpaid loans, canceled insurance, or unauthorized sales. Property Settlement and Cars How cars are valued and treated in the division of assets. What happens with leased or inherited vehicles. Long-Term Decisions Deciding whether to keep, sell, or downgrade your car post-settlement. Using cars as leverage in negotiations and mediation. Emotional and Legal Considerations Coping with the emotional impact of losing a car. Documenting the car’s condition to protect yourself legally. Links & Resources Mentioned: Episode: Valueshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6TsVIfGubFR8lCP7Za9fJL?si=7nqAgGSORRarcVo1cyfMkA Episode: 19.54 Episode: https://youtu.be/6i6EA_92_8U?si=dg7o2sTsdP6KGev- 5:54 time slot Episode 6:57 10,01 34.57 Tools to Protect Yourself: - https://www.arc-app.org.au/resources Empower You App https://www.ppsr.gov.au/registering/decide-if-you-should-register-ppsr/why-register-ppsr Free Resources: Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811 National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 00:00 Introduction: Navigating Car Issues in Divorce & De Facto Separation 01:41 Ownership vs. Registration: What You Need to Know 03:22 Temporary Arrangements: Practical Tips 05:19 Safety Concerns: Protecting Yourself and Your Car 08:20 Financial Manipulation: Recognizing Dirty Tricks 18:31 Legal Considerations: Court's Role in Car Settlements 21:36 Final Thoughts and Resources 22:46 Court Orders and Vehicle Transfers 23:58 Handling Debts and Loans 25:26 Understanding Car Leases 28:43 Valuing Vehicles in Settlements 32:12 Protecting Yourself Legally and Emotionally 36:59 Final Thoughts and Advice #DivorceAndCars #DivorceTips #PropertySettlement #CoParentingChallenges #DivorceSupport #AssetDivision #HighConflictDivorce #FamilyLaw #DivorceStrategy #FinancialAbuse #CoerciveControl #DivorceCoaching #ProtectYourAssets #LegalHelp #DivorceJourney /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34844860

Dealing with Narcissistic Lies in Divorce, Mediation & Family Court: 7 Survival Tips 01/07/2025

Dealing with Narcissistic Lies in Divorce, Mediation & Family Court: 7 Survival Tips Are you dealing with a manipulative or narcissistic type ex during your divorce? Is your ex lying to everyone during your divorce? In this episode, Laura and Lynette use Brandolini's Law—the concept that it takes much more effort to refute lies than to create them—and explore how it applies to family law. With practical strategies and actionable tips, they unpack how to deal with false allegations, overwhelming legal tactics, and post-separation abuse. Whether you’re facing mediation, legal letters, or the courtroom, this episode is packed with strategies to help you stay organized, conserve energy, and protect your peace. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with a narcissistic or manipulative ex during divorce. ❓ Feel overwhelmed by false allegations or legal or post separation abuse. 💡 Want to learn strategies to document and disprove lies effectively. 🛡 Are struggling to conserve your energy and stay focused during legal battles. 📚 Need tools to manage post-separation abuse in mediation or court. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Brandolini’s Law: The principle that it takes significantly more effort to refute lies than to create them. How this applies to family law and dealing with false allegations. Steeling Yourself for Narcissistic Tactics: How to prepare mentally and emotionally for lies and manipulations. Why expecting the unexpected can give you the upper hand. Conserving Energy and Focus: Tips for using your time and resources wisely when faced with endless false claims. The importance of documenting everything from the start. Proving Credibility: Demonstrating that your ex is an unreliable witness. Why detailed documentation and evidence are critical for the court. Navigating Mediation and Court: Strategies for dealing with falsehoods in affidavits and mediation sessions. How to choose your battles based on the stage of your case. Self-Care During Legal Battles: Managing the emotional toll of post-separation abuse. Creating a safe space for yourself and your children. Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources: Recommended Episodes: https://youtu.be/bXEV6LJPQR8?si=KdJ5xzP9tR1vea46 https://youtu.be/4BebPATCgLc?si=3ID87tAoQXRb5KZ3 https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=2OW7tnlGWErAljap Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Final Thoughts: Navigating lies and manipulations during divorce is exhausting, but you don’t have to do it alone. With the right strategies and support, you can overcome these tactics and come out stronger. Remember, organization and preparation are your best tools. Take it one step at a time—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 00:00 Introduction to Brandolini's Law and Narcissism in Divorce 00:21 New Year Greetings and Divorce Realities 01:32 Understanding Brandolini's Law 02:50 Applying Brandolini's Law to Divorce & Family Court 04:16 Seven Tips for Handling Narcissistic Exes in Divorce 06:03 Using Your Energy Wisely in Family Court 08:40 Proving Lies and Managing Distractions in Mediation or Family Court 20:43 Interim Hearings and Final Trials & Affidavits in Divorce 27:31 Mediation Strategies with a Narcissist 32:48 Final Thoughts and Encouragement /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34751780

Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges 12/10/2024

Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges Listen to This Episode If You: 🎄 Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce. ❓ Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas. 💡 Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress. 🛡 Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays. 🌟 Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally. 🎄Trying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year. Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether you’re under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive. Key Topics Discussed: Legal Matters During the Holidays: Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period. What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex. Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications. Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break. Co-Parenting Challenges: Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements. Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays. Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house. Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children. Safety Planning: Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays. Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help. Building New Traditions: Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics. Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids. How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences. Self-Care and Support: Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays. Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support. Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded. Final Thoughts: The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether you’re dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. ❤️ Links & Resources Mentioned: Episodes Mentioned in this The Do’s and Don’ts of being separated under one roof Handover Hell: how to deal handover Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79 No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas 10 essential boundaries in divorce Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays 03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof 07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues 18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners 22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders 23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation 27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays 29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements 30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday 34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes 37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34361390

Does Domestic Violence Impact Property Settlements? New Family Law Act Updates 12/03/2024

Does Domestic Violence Impact Property Settlements? New Family Law Act Updates Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition. Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how it’s recognized in the new laws. ❓ Are curious about how any type of family violence impacts property settlements. 🐾 Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms. 💡 Need to understand the regulatory changes to Children’s Contact Services. 🛡 Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Expanded Definition of Family Violence: Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support). Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements. Family Violence and Contributions: Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions. Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse. Pets in Property Settlements: New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale. Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns. Children’s Contact Services (CCS): Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers. Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS. Protected Confidences: Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and children’s statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Family Law Amendment Bill ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/ Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app Episodes for More Information: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation. : Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. : Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men. : Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people. Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support. : Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues. Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance. : Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7. : Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men. : Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support. These resources are here to help you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support—you are not alone. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes 01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act 03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse 06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions 10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct 15:47 Pets and Family Law 19:12 Children Contact Centers 20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers 22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences 25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling 27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence 31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases 36:32 Documenting Family Violence 38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34257585

Mediation or Manipulation: How to Handle Divorce Mediation When Settlement Isn’t their Goal 11/26/2024

Mediation or Manipulation: How to Handle Divorce Mediation When Settlement Isn’t their Goal Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health. Whether it’s property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead. If you’ve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session. ❓ Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation. 💡 Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible. 🛡 Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation. 📚 Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: The Purpose of Mediation: Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best. Manipulative Tactics to Watch For: Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation. Strategies During Mediation: Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps. Post-Mediation Steps: Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached. Common Pitfalls: “Don’t be surprised if” scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands. Emotional Management: How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things don’t go as planned. Links & Resources Mentioned: Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. 4VOICES Christmas Appeal Episodes Mentioned in this 8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce 02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce 03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type 06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect 10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation 20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation 25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation 26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks 28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes 30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics 36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation 38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation 43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources #familycourt #familylaw #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorcesettlement #divorceplanning #familylawattorney #divorcesupport #mediation #divorcelawyer #divorcepodcast #childsupport #custodybattle /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34152085

Separation to Settlement: The Essential Steps from Start to Finish 11/18/2024

Separation to Settlement: The Essential Steps from Start to Finish Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but you’re not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are just starting your divorce journey and don’t know what comes next. ❓ Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement. 💡 Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements. 🛡 Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex. 📚 Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when you’re still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints. Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself. Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations. Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children. Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary. Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life. RESOURCES Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. Emergency Contacts: LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/ Lifeline: 13 11 14 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia 1300 364 277 Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Don’t forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and remember—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement 01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate 03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce 06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce 10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce 14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements 19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce 20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits 22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce 23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce 27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce 33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33985662

Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce + Free Webinar Invite 11/05/2024

Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce + Free Webinar Invite BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish we’d known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the way—insights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce. And there’s more! Next week, we’re hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions. ❓ Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone who’s been through it. 💡 Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce. 🛡 Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you. 📚 Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries. Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared. Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable. DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist. Webinar Highlights: Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more. Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert. Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space. Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat! Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, don’t miss out on our final free webinar of the year next week—it’s an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there! Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations 00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce 00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex 00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process 00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce 01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement 01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits 02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy 03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33787752

When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse 10/29/2024

When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse If you’ve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that you’re facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need. Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce. ❓ Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system. 💡 Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex. 🛡 Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements. 📚 Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why it’s so pervasive. Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system. Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions. Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your ex’s actions and the importance of filing timelines. Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse Related Episodes that may be helpful: Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode How to divorce a statue Family Court Vs Settling When your ex files in court - response to initiating application Navigating Community Legal Services Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer Free Resources & Links: CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS Section 117c of the Family Law Act Free Webinar registration link Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse 00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources 01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals 01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse 03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction 11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C 16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court 22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings 23:12 Register Today! 23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings 24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants 27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse 33:04 Building Emotional Resilience 37:55 Support and Resources 38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33658797

Divorce Decisions: Settling vs Family Court 10/22/2024

Divorce Decisions: Settling vs Family Court When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court. ❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling. 💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past. 📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option. Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision. Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision. Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer. Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions. Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information. Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS Divorce Myths The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations Choosing your lawyer Red Flags when choosing a lawyer Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce 01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling 06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases 10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court 16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling 19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce 20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce 21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce 22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce 25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes 29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process 32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce 34:26 Final Thoughts /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33563517

10 Essential Boundaries for a Healthier Divorce 10/15/2024

10 Essential Boundaries for a Healthier Divorce This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries. ❓ Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents. 💡 Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health. 🛡 Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict. 📚 Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations. Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits. Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts. Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation. Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control. Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines. Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process. Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary. Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support. Children’s Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator Separated Under One Roof Do’s & Don’ts What about their stuff dealing with your ex’s belongings in Divorce Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce When amicable goes wrong Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress Financial Fairness in Divorce Disclosure Handover Hell Navigating Parental Trash Talk Links to other things Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries 02:41 Communication Boundaries 06:55 Task Boundaries 09:25 Digital Boundaries 15:28 Living Boundaries 18:59 Financial Boundaries 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33460482

Income, Expenses, and Savings During Divorce: What You Need to Know 10/08/2024

Income, Expenses, and Savings During Divorce: What You Need to Know What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered. Whether you’re squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyone’s situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process. ❓ Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement. 💡 Need to understand what happens to wages after separation. 🛡 Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees. 📚 Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled. Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why it’s sometimes crucial to separate your accounts. Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond. Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money. Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process. Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens. High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce Help My Ex is spending all the money Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself Protecting yourself from Darvo Debt Episode Free Resources: Go to Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Introduction to Divorce & Money Understanding Savings During Separation Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation The Importance of Documentation and Mediation Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation Navigating Government Support and Property Pools The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements Proactive Steps for Financial Security Final Thoughts /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33370832

What they don't tell you before divorce (but they should)! 10/01/2024

What they don't tell you before divorce (but they should)! Do you ever wish you had a time machine to go back and give yourself advice before starting your divorce journey? In this episode, we share valuable insights and tips from listeners who have gone through it all. Together, we will break down some of the most important things people wish they had known before starting the process, from not rushing into decisions to custody issues. They also discuss some of the key mistakes to avoid, especially in high-conflict or narcissistic divorces. Whether you’re just starting out or deep into the process, this episode will offer practical advice to help guide you through your divorce with more confidence and clarity. Listen to This Episode If You: ❓ Wonder how to gather the right information and evidence to protect yourself. 💡 Need to understand the importance of not rushing into decisions or being pressured by others. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and need strategies to protect yourself from manipulation. 📚 Want to learn how to create a strategy and stay organized during the divorce process. 🌟 Are at the beginning of your divorce and want advice on how to avoid common mistakes. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Don’t Rush: Take your time to gather all your information before making any major decisions. Avoid being pressured into rushing through the process. Collect and Organise Your Information: Get all your documents and information together before starting the legal process to avoid mistakes and delays. Parenting Plans: Don’t force your children into uncomfortable situations—especially when the other parent may not be interested in the relationship. Look Out for Hidden Assets: Learn how to identify secret bank accounts and other financial manipulations that may arise during a divorce. Get a Lawyer Who Understands Narcissistic Behaviour: Make sure your lawyer knows how to handle high-conflict individuals who use manipulative tactics. Court Orders for Sole Occupancy: Understand how to get your ex out of the house if needed, and the risks involved. Don’t Settle Too Quickly: Take your time to evaluate any settlement offers and don’t let anyone pressure you into accepting less than what is fair. Protect Your Mental Health: Treat the divorce process like a part-time job—don’t let it consume your entire life. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: How to Document Coercive Control - Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNrLiwyDO07jnbzNVxe4m?si=OPR9iwTzQKOKc2HOHvcH-Q Divorce Delay Tactics https://open.spotify.com/episode/2st3qxvJByN981xqZgPRIR?si=l0LL9935S0GAQ6Wx2qJhIg Disclosure Dilemas Free Resources: Property Settlement Checklist www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Divorce Documentation Guide www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope these listener-shared insights and practical advice will help guide you through your divorce journey. Remember, you are not alone, and taking the time to understand and plan will make all the difference. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Contents of this Video 00:00 Introduction: Navigating Divorce 01:25 Key Tip: Don't Rush 02:43 Gathering Information: Collate Your Documents 04:00 Children and Visitation and Custody: Complexities and Considerations 05:38 Property Settlement Financial Precautions: Secret Bank Accounts and Abuse 08:22 Legal Strategies: Understanding Narcissistic Tactics 08:56 Court Orders: Sole Occupancy and Safety Concerns 10:50 Disclosure Challenges: Waiting for Information 12:33 Settlement Tips: Don't Settle for Less 15:14 Emotional Toll: The Full-Time Job of Divorce 20:24 Free Resources for Mediation and Negotiation 21:03 Is the System Child-Centred? 23:40 Dealing with Nasty In-Laws 27:03 Family Court Legal Costs and Settlements 29:34 Importance of Family Violence Protection Orders 34:46 Managing Expectations and Seeking Support in Divorce 38:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33290992

Age-Appropriate Parenting Plans or Orders: What You Need to Know for Toddlers to Teens & In-between 09/24/2024

Age-Appropriate Parenting Plans or Orders: What You Need to Know for Toddlers to Teens & In-between Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development. ❓ Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers. 💡 Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows. 🛡 Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests. 📚 Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues. Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groups—toddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your child’s development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Primary Attachment for Babies: Why babies up to three years old typically benefit from staying with their primary caregiver, and how this impacts parenting plans and court orders. Navigating Consent Orders: How to create orders that take into account the evolving needs of your children as they grow from toddlers to teens. Transitioning to Overnights: Strategies for gradually increasing parenting time and handling situations where the non-primary caregiver hasn’t been involved. Primary School Age Considerations: Managing custody and parenting plans as children start school, including logistical challenges like packing bags and attending social events. Teenagers and Flexibility: How to adapt parenting plans for teens who want more independence, and what happens when they refuse to follow the existing custody arrangements. High-Conflict Co-Parenting: Dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-partners, and tips for creating clear, enforceable orders to protect your child’s well-being. Navigating Changing Court Views: Understanding the recent changes in the Family Law Act and how it affects shared parental responsibility and 50/50 time. Free Resources: https://www.judcom.nsw.gov.au/publications/benchbks/children/cpm_allerton_attachment.html (webinar) (before you go checklist) (mediation checklist) (disclosure checklist) Podcast Episode Timeline 00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans 01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies 03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies 13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids 17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids 21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens 22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future 23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders 24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches 25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure 26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence 27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases 30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents 33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes 33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders 35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes 38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating parenting plans through various stages of your child’s life. We hope you find the advice helpful in creating a plan that truly meets the needs of your children, regardless of their age. If you found this episode valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33182007

Future Needs: The Hidden Factor in Divorce Property Settlements 09/16/2024

Future Needs: The Hidden Factor in Divorce Property Settlements When going through a divorce and dividing assets, there's an essential factor that many people overlook or have no idea about: future needs. In this episode, we discuss what "future needs" mean in family law in Australia, how they are considered by the court, and how they can significantly affect the division of property. From your health and age to your earning capacity and children’s future, understanding these factors is crucial for a fair property settlement. We also touch on the future needs factors outlined in Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act and discuss how to navigate property settlements both inside and outside of court based on the four divorce personalities, high conflict, manipulative and controlling (narcissistic types), amicable and avoidant. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are in the process of a property settlement and need to understand what "future needs" mean. ❓ Want to explore how the court factors in age, health, earning capacity, and other personal circumstances. 💡 Are looking to understand how future needs affect property division in both marriages and de facto relationships. 🛡 Want to learn how to protect your interests in property settlements, especially if you have children or a lower income. 📚 Are curious about the impact of future needs when dividing property amicably or through mediation. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: What Are Future Needs?: Explanation of how the court considers future needs when dividing property. Section 75(2) Factors: A breakdown of the 17 key factors listed in this section of the Family Law Act. Health and Age: How your current health or age could influence your property settlement. Earning Capacity: What happens if one partner earns significantly more or has greater financial resources. Children and Their Needs: How the care of children under 18 can affect property division. Impact of the Length of Marriage: How a long marriage can affect property division, especially if one spouse’s career supported the other. Practical Tips for negotiating these factors amicably, as well as what happens if the case ends up in court. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: (Splitting Silver Hairs : A guide to grey divorce) (When an Amicable Divorce goes wrong and what you can do about it in your Property Settlement and Parenting Agreement) (Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies TO PROTECT YOUR ASSETS FROM A NON CONTRIBUTING EX) (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations) Other Resources: THE DIVORCE COURSE www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this informative episode on future needs in property settlements. Whether you’re navigating these factors in mediation or preparing for court, understanding the role of future needs is crucial to achieving a just and equitable outcome. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/33082527

Do You Really Need a Family Lawyer for Mediation? Pros and Cons Explained 09/10/2024

Do You Really Need a Family Lawyer for Mediation? Pros and Cons Explained Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journey—whether it’s about property settlements or children's matters—this episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer. ❓ Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays. 💡 Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance. 🛡 Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation. 📚 Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation. Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation. Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if you’re on a tight budget and can’t afford legal representation. Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather. Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations. High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present. Settler’s Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?) https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0 https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.) (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.) https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations) (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths) Free Resources: Mediation Checklist (Available on our website) Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint Webinars on Navigating Divorce Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/32985152

Defending Against DARVO & Narcissists: 8 Tactics to Protect Yourself in Divorce & Family Court 09/03/2024

Defending Against DARVO & Narcissists: 8 Tactics to Protect Yourself in Divorce & Family Court The DARVO method—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—is a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether you’re facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court. ❓ Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases. 💡 Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents. 🛡 Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health. 📚 Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles. Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps. Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims. Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health. Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents. Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes for More Insight: https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist) https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.) (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1) (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2) (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it) (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist) (The Narcissists’ Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation) Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast * ARC App website * Empower You App Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/32872957

Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? 08/27/2024

Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case. ❓ Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings. 💡 Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court. 🛡 Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld. 📚 Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements. Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case. The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story. Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes. Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence. Kennan’s Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements. Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts. Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children. Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Episodes for More Insight: Using children as chess pieces in divorce Webinars and Courses: DIY Divorce Blueprint Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/32755182

Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress 08/21/2024

Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and don’t know how to move forward. ❓ Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce. 💡 Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation. 🛡 Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change. 📚 Want to ensure you’re not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics. The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why it’s important to start planning your next steps. Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support. Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly. The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it. Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic. The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation. Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Webinars and Courses: THE Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress Introduction to Divorce Dynamics Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position Strategies for Financial Stress Navigating Manipulative Tactics The Role of Emotions in Divorce Understanding Your Legal Rights Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements Emotional Preparedness and Counseling Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines The Importance of Mediation Impact on Children and Family Dynamics Taking Action and Seeking Help Conclusion and Final Thoughts /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/32667462

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