The Divorce Course Podcast

This Mother and Daughter duo discuss and cover the legal stages and steps that you will face on your way to freedom through divorce. These are practical and real discussions with Lyn Galvin a family lawyer of 35 years experience and her daughter Laura a divorced mother of three. Laura helps turn her mother's lawyer jargon into something everyone will understand. Lyn shares all her tips and practical advice on separating. Through this podcast they aim to help you through your Australian divorce or de-facto separation to make it more cost effective and less stressful. instagram @thedivorcecourse

Affording a Family Lawyer Without Going Broke: Divorce Cost-Saving Tips 09/02/2025

Affording a Family Lawyer Without Going Broke: Divorce Cost-Saving Tips Listen to This Episode If You… 💸 Can’t afford a lawyer full-time but still need legal support 📑 Are drowning in legal letters or excessive disclosure requests from your ex 👶 Want to protect your kids while keeping costs manageable ⚖️ Are considering mediation but don’t know when it’s safe to go without a lawyer 🧾 Want to learn how to organise your documents to save money 😟 Are worried your ex is using legal abuse or post-separation tactics to wear you down ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family and domestic violence, coercive control, and financial abuse. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek independent advice for your specific situation. Affording a Lawyer Without Going Broke: Divorce Cost-Saving Tips Are you stuck in the “missing middle”... earning too much for legal aid, but nowhere near enough to pay endless legal bills? You’re not alone. For many separating couples, the cost of family law can feel like a second punishment, especially when an ex uses the system as a weapon of financial abuse or coercive control. In this practical and empowering episode, Laura and Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) break down the real costs of divorce, why legal bills skyrocket, and the smart strategies you can use to keep costs under control. From disclosure to parenting arrangements, mediation to negotiation, you’ll discover what you can safely do yourself—and where it’s worth paying for expert legal help. If you’re overwhelmed by fees or worried your ex is driving up costs on purpose, this episode gives you the tools, insights, and confidence to navigate the system without draining your financial future. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss 00:00 – What you need to know before listening: Introduction and trigger warning 01:02 – What is the “Missing Middle” in Family Law and Divorce? (Legal aid limits and financial strain explained) 03:14 – How much do Family Law and Divorce lawyers cost in Australia? (Understanding legal fees) 07:56 – How do high-conflict exes use Family Law and Divorce to create legal abuse and drive up costs? 13:36 – What Family Law and Divorce strategies actually help keep legal costs down? 21:49 – Best Family Law co-parenting apps to cut conflict and reduce divorce lawyer bills 23:10 – What is the DIY Divorce Blueprint and how can it save you money in Family Law? 23:54 – Can you negotiate a Family Law divorce settlement without a lawyer? 24:35 – Family Law mediation tips: When mediation works in divorce and when it’s unsafe 28:12 – What are Family Law pre-court procedures in divorce? (Self-representation tips) 30:28 – How to organise your Family Law divorce case and manage legal costs like a pro 34:57 – Real Family Law success stories: How preparation cut divorce costs in half 36:32 – Final thoughts: Encouragement for staying strong during Family Law and Divorce 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned Related episode: Is Your Ex Bombarding You With Legal Letters? Parenting communication tools: Our Family Wizard, Our Children Case & Article: ABC News – Exorbitant Costs of Family Court Matters Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it part 1 Dealing with Legal Abuse Protecting yourself from a narc ex in family court Age Appropriate Parenting Plans Legal Fees & Saving Strategies Enrol now: The Divorce Course 🆘 Support Services 💜 1800 RESPECT – Domestic and Family Violence Support 📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7 Crisis Support) ⚖️ Legal Aid – Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 👧 Kids Helpline – 1800 55 1800 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/38066030

Divorce and Wastage: Protecting Your Property When Your Ex is spending it all 08/26/2025

Divorce and Wastage: Protecting Your Property When Your Ex is spending it all 🎧 Listen to this episode if you… 💸 Suspect your ex has been wasting money during or after separation ⚖️ Want to understand what the new Family Law Act changes (June 2025) mean for add-backs 📑 Need to know how to prove wastage in court or mediation 🏡 Worry your savings could be treated unfairly if your ex has spent theirs 🧾 Want practical tips on disclosure, evidence, and how to talk to your lawyer ⚠️ Disclaimer: This is general education only and not legal advice. Please seek advice from your own lawyer about your specific circumstances. Divorce property settlements just got a major shake-up in Australia. On June 10, 2025, the Family Law Act changed—and the Full Court confirmed the new approach in Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126. So what does that mean for you? In today’s episode, we break down wastage and add-backs—what they are, how they used to work, and what the courts now say. We explore: The difference between wastage during the relationship vs after separation How gambling, drugs, alcohol, or reckless spending are treated The risks when your ex is stalling, hiding money, or draining joint accounts How to prove wastage with disclosure, documents, and chronologies What to say to your lawyer or mediator so it doesn’t get missed If you’ve been scrimping and saving while your ex has been spending big, this episode will help you understand how the law now protects you—and how to raise it at mediation or in court. ⚠️ Disclaimer: This is general education only and not legal advice. Please seek advice from your own lawyer about your specific circumstances. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: 00:00 – What are wastage and add-backs in divorce property settlements? 01:28 – How do courts define wastage and add-backs in family law? 03:36 – What are the new legal changes (June 2025) and how do they affect divorce property division? 07:12 – How does wastage during and after marriage impact property settlements? 16:25 – How can you prove wastage in court after separation? 27:13 – What kind of proof and financial chronology does the court expect? 27:34 – Why keeping a clear chronology helps in divorce proceedings 28:30 – How do you raise financial wastage issues in mediation? 29:37 – What mediation strategies and legal cases should you know about? 30:50 – How is wastage treated in property settlement negotiations? 38:34 – Why is the separation date and superannuation balance so important? 43:40 – How do you handle wastage claims with a high-conflict or avoidant ex? 48:47 – What are the key takeaways for protecting yourself under the new family law changes? 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned Case Update: Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126 (23 July 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html Our Free Webinar: Related episodes: DIY Disclosure in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/49yOIB1GLDmXgeZCXkfyJS?si=eGN8WdTBQQql5-9WzT-NsA Legal Gatekeeping & What Your Lawyer Might Not Tell You https://open.spotify.com/episode/086JRHdfn0TGR2vyhhLD2z?si=49tG9RYPQtWFIJDOryviOw 💡 Final Thoughts The law around wastage and add-backs has changed dramatically. If your ex has been wasting money, don’t give up—there are still ways to make sure the court takes it into account. The key is evidence, preparation, and raising it early. 👉 If this episode was helpful, please share it with a friend, rate the podcast, and leave a review—it helps others find the support they need. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37956110

ChatGPT and Divorce: 4 AI Traps That Could Hurt Your Case 08/13/2025

ChatGPT and Divorce: 4 AI Traps That Could Hurt Your Case Listen to This Episode If You: 🗣️ Have used ChatGPT or AI tools to write legal documents 📱 Are wondering if your chat history could be used in court 🧾 Need help drafting or planning divorce paperwork 🤯 Feel overwhelmed and are tempted to “just ask ChatGPT” ⚖️ Want to avoid serious legal mistakes caused by bad AI info 🧠 Are using AI to organize your thoughts, but unsure where the line is More and more people are turning to AI tools like ChatGPT during their separation or divorce — but is it helping… or hurting your case? In this episode, we explore the four major risks of using AI in your divorce process and show you how to use it safely (if at all). From the scary reality that your chats can be subpoenaed, to the truth about AI “hallucinations” in affidavits, we break it all down so you don’t get caught off guard. We also share ways you can use AI smartly — for planning, organizing thoughts, or building checklists — but why you still need legal and emotional support from real people. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is general information only and not legal advice. Always consult a lawyer for your personal situation. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Cover: [00:00] – Can You Use AI in Divorce? An Introduction to ChatGPT and Legal Tech [00:48] – Important Legal Disclaimer: Why AI tools can’t replace professional legal advice [01:29] – What Are AI Tools Like ChatGPT? Overview of how people use AI in divorce [02:41] – Should You Use AI to Draft Consent Orders? Key risks and considerations [05:47] – Can ChatGPT Write My Affidavit? The dangers of AI-generated court documents [08:14] – Why ChatGPT Isn’t a Lawyer: Understanding the limitations of AI in family law [12:23] – Is AI Just Telling You What You Want to Hear? How emotional bias can show up [15:35] – Can AI Be Used as Evidence in Court? Legal risks of relying on chat transcripts [20:53] – Upcoming Webinar Announcement: Learn more about using tech in legal separation [23:26] – Are Judges Ready for AI in Family Law? How courts are adapting to tech tools [24:07] – What Evidence Will the Court Accept? Tips on using tech tools wisely [24:25] – How Legal Communication Has Evolved: From letters to chat logs [25:25] – Key AI Risks to Watch for in Divorce Cases: What the law doesn’t forgive [27:01] – How to Use AI Safely: Smart ways to organise your thoughts and prep for court [29:23] – Real Cautionary Tales: What can go wrong when AI replaces your legal team [33:31] – Final Tips and Takeaways: When AI is helpful—and when it’s risky 🎙️ Related Episodes Putting Coercive Control into writing for Affidavits etc Divorce Survival: when you feel like giving up 12 agreements creating your own parenting plan 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 📞 1800 RESPECT – National Family Violence Support 📞 Lifeline: 13 11 14 – 24/7 Emotional Support 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37792215

Divorce Survival: 5 Strategies to Keep Going When You Feel Like Giving Up 08/05/2025

Divorce Survival: 5 Strategies to Keep Going When You Feel Like Giving Up Listen to this Episode If You: 💔 Feel like the divorce process is dragging on and you’re running on empty ⚖️ Need legal strategies to slow things down without giving up entirely 🛡️ Want practical ways to protect your emotional energy 👶 Are trying to stay strong for your children while navigating court or mediation 💬 Need a pep talk (with a legal twist) to help you keep going If you’ve ever thought, “I just can’t do this anymore” during your separation or divorce, this episode is for you. Laura and Lyn share a heartfelt mix of practical legal steps and emotional strategies to help you through the moments when giving up feels like the easiest option. From taking baby steps and giving yourself permission to pause, to understanding how far you’ve already come, this is part pep talk, part legal guide — designed to help you push forward with clarity and confidence. They also cover how to handle deadlines from aggressive lawyers, the value of aligning your actions with your values, and why you’re probably doing far better than you think (even if it doesn’t feel like it right now). 📌 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and post-separation abuse. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: [0:00] – Feeling like giving up? Here’s why your future (and your kids) need you to keep going [2:00] – Five strategies to help you keep moving forward in divorce [4:00] – Strategy #1: [7:00] – Strategy #2: [9:00] – Legal ways to request more time in your case [11:00] – Recognising pressure tactics designed to make you quit [12:00] – Strategy #3: [14:00] – Why timelines help you see progress and keep motivated [15:00] – Strategy #4: [18:00] – Remembering why you’re doing this — for your kids and your future [19:00] – Strategy #5: [27:00] – Handling post-separation abuse without giving up [30:00] – Setting boundaries to protect yourself from relentless contact [33:00] – Recap of the five key strategies [34:00] – Download your free “Don’t Give Up” worksheet [36:00] – Final encouragement to keep going — it will end 🔑 Key Takeaways: Small, consistent actions are better than trying to fix everything at once Pausing isn’t quitting — it’s a strategy for survival Remind yourself of your past wins to boost confidence Stay aligned with your values and instincts to avoid regret Progress is happening, even when you can’t see it 🎙 Related Episodes: When everything is spinning out of control in your divorce BATNA in Divorce When your mediation goes wrong what to do next? 10 essential boundaries for divorce 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37676850

BATNA in Divorce: How to Negotiate Property and Parenting Like a Pro 07/29/2025

BATNA in Divorce: How to Negotiate Property and Parenting Like a Pro Listen to This Episode If You… 🔍 Are heading into mediation and want to feel prepared, not panicked ⚖️ Want to make smart decisions about property and parenting outcomes 🧠 Have heard of BATNA but don’t quite know what it means or how to use it 🚪 Are unsure what your “walk-away” option looks like in negotiations 💬 Feel pressured to agree to something that doesn’t feel fair or safe 🧾 Want to understand your options without relying solely on court 🛠️ Are looking for practical, tips to empower your next steps 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is general information only and is not legal advice. Always seek professional legal support for your specific situation. 📌 Trigger warning: discussions of family court and family violence. Are you heading into mediation or negotiating a divorce agreement? This episode is your practical guide to understanding BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement) and WATNA (Worst Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement)—two essential tools to protect your future. An experienced lawyer and mediator walks you through how to prepare your own BATNA, why it’s important in family law (especially when emotions are high), and how it gives you clarity and confidence when facing tricky decisions about property, parenting, and more. If you’re unsure what’s fair or fearful of being pushed into a bad deal, this episode will help you step back, assess your options, and negotiate smarter. BATNA in Divorce: How to Negotiate Property and Parenting Like a Pro ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Cover: [00:00] – What Are BATNA and WATNA? Introduction to Divorce Negotiation Strategies [01:31] – How Do BATNA and WATNA Help You Make Better Divorce Decisions? [02:29] – Why Is Preparation the Key to Stronger Negotiations? [04:19] – What Can You Learn from Real-Life Mediation Examples? [08:28] – How Do You Create a BATNA for Property Settlement After Divorce? [17:09] – What Are the Steps to Build a BATNA for Parenting and Custody Arrangements? [21:49] – What Is the Emotional Cost of Going to Court Instead of Settling? [23:15] – How Do Courts Prioritize the Best Interests of the Children? [24:04] – What Role Do Family Reports and Child-Inclusive Mediation Play? [25:22] – How Can a BATNA-Based Parenting Plan Help You Prepare? [26:22] – What Is a WATNA and Why Should You Know Your Worst-Case Scenario? [28:04] – What Are Red Flags and Manipulative Tactics to Watch for in Mediation? [32:45] – What Financial Disclosure Do You Need for Fair Negotiations? [33:57] – How Can Knowledge and Preparation Empower You in Family Law Negotiations? [39:26] – What Are Your Next Steps to Negotiate Smarter and Safer? Questions BATNA for Property Settlement List All Assets and Debts (the Property Pool) Include houses, cars, superannuation, bank accounts, loans, credit cards, etc. Make sure you also list post-separation contributions (e.g., mortgage payments, childcare, etc.). Identify What You Need Financially Calculate your living expenses and future financial needs. Consider your housing needs, especially if you're the primary carer of children. Understand What the Law Might Award You Review how courts typically divide property in similar cases. Think about contributions, future needs, and Section 79(2) & (5) of the Family Law Act. Consider What You’d Get If You Went to Court Estimate legal costs, time delays, and emotional toll. This court outcome becomes your BATNA (or WATNA if it’s worse than a fair settlement). Build a Realistic Plan B Example: “If we can’t agree, I’ll apply for consent orders, or go to mediation, or file in court.” Include practical details — e.g., who will live where, interim arrangements, etc. BATNA for Children’s Arrangements Write Out What’s Best for the Children Consider their schooling, routines, health needs, and emotional safety. Outline a Parenting Plan That You Think Is Fair Include time with each parent, holidays, special events, decision-making responsibility. Assess Your Ex’s Likely Position What are they asking for? Is it reasonable? What might they agree to under pressure? Research What a Court Might Do Courts focus on the “best interests of the child” under Section 60CC of the Family Law Act. Understand how risk factors (like family violence) may impact parenting decisions. Create Your BATNA Parenting Plan If you don’t reach agreement, what’s the next best option? (e.g., apply for interim orders, request a Child Impact Report, or attend family dispute resolution). 🧠 Want more tools like this? Check out our other episodes on mediation, property settlement, and high-conflict negotiation strategies at . Episodes Mentioned Master your negotiations Iron Fist in a velvet glove Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Financial Fairness: Spousal Maintenance and Child Support Disclosure the what where why how Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas When your mediation goes wrong and what to do next Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 📞 Lifeline (24/7): 13 11 14 👨‍👧‍👦 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 1800 RESPECT – National DV Hotline: 1800 737 732 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37601685

Family Law & Privacy: Can Your Ex Access Your Therapy Notes? 07/24/2025

Family Law & Privacy: Can Your Ex Access Your Therapy Notes? Listen to This Episode If You: 🧠 Are considering seeing a psychologist during your separation 😨 Worry your ex might access your private or your child’s counseling records 📜 Want to understand the new Family Law Act changes around protected confidences ⚖️ Need clarity on subpoenas and how courts decide what’s relevant 💔 Fear that private health or therapy records could be weaponized against you 👩‍👧‍👦 Want to protect yours or your children’s emotional safety during family law proceedings Trigger warning: this discusses family violence and abuse. In this important episode, we unpack the changes to the Family Law Act (effective June 10, 2025), giving courts new powers to protect sensitive medical and psychological records in family law matters. We’ll cover how this change helps protect parents and children from having deeply personal information dragged through court, how to apply for protected confidences, and when courts might still allow access to private records. Whether you’re negotiating a parenting plan, heading into court, or trying to support your children with therapy, this episode gives you the knowledge and questions to ask your lawyer so you can make informed decisions about confidentiality and subpoenas. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal and psychological advice for your situation. Trigger warning: this discusses family violence and abuse. ⏱ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: [0:00] – What’s new in family law and why protecting your sensitive information matters [0:37] – Key disclaimers before we dive in [1:01] – Recent changes to the Family Law Act Australia explained [1:31] – Why sensitive information can impact your safety and case outcomes [4:35] – What counts as sensitive information in family court cases during Divorce? [5:43] – Practical tips to keep your sensitive details protected in court during divorce [6:48] – How the family court helps protect private and confidential information [9:37] – Real-life examples: when and how to protect documents during divorce [13:11] – How to make a legal objection or application to protect documents during Family Court [19:48] – Mediation and pre-action procedures involving sensitive material during divorce proceedings. [23:19] – How to object in family court to sharing private information during your divorce proceedings. [23:35] – What role does the family court judge play in deciding on sensitive disclosure? [24:42] – What happens if you agree (or are pressured) to share sensitive documents in your divorce proceedings? [25:44] – What to do if you feel coerced to disclose private details during family court. [26:51] – The family law legislation and family court rules that protect your privacy [30:20] – How to balance presenting evidence and protecting yourself in Domestic Violence Family Law cases [31:35] – Can psychologists be subpoenaed in Family Court? What happens to your child's notes? [36:58] – How court-ordered counseling and reports may affect children during Family Court [39:57] – Final thoughts, key takeaways, and where to get help 🔑 Key Topics Covered: New Family Law Act provisions on confidentiality and subpoenas How parents can protect their child’s psychologist notes Legal processes for objecting to subpoenas The risks of waiving your right to privacy (even unintentionally) When private records can strengthen your case Balancing evidence needs with emotional and psychological harm Tips for speaking to your lawyer about protected confidences 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 📝 Attorney-General’s Fact Sheet on Protected Confidences https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/publications/family-law-changes-june-2025-protecting-sensitive-information 📞 1800 RESPECT – National Family Violence Support 📞 Lifeline: 13 11 14 – 24/7 Emotional Support 🎙 Related Episodes: When Divorce Isn’t The End: Post-Separation Abuse https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=YIkUS7njRUS8tsvFunT_ng What is a subpoena? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nVleHBTW9o4qOpeWhqgRt?si=KOUoIuctQs6KSf5zwq92nA 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37528555

“I’ve Got My Ex’s Disclosure… Now What?” How to Spot Red Flags and Protect Yourself 07/15/2025

“I’ve Got My Ex’s Disclosure… Now What?” How to Spot Red Flags and Protect Yourself Listen to This Episode If You… 📂 Just received your ex’s disclosure and don’t know where to start 🧐 Want to know how to spot missing documents or sneaky omissions 💻 Are overwhelmed by pages of financial statements and legal jargon 🔎 Need practical tips for reviewing their disclosure without burning out ⚖️ Want to understand what “full and frank disclosure” actually means 💔 Are worried your ex might be hiding assets or draining accounts Are you staring at a pile of disclosure documents from your ex and wondering “What am I even supposed to do with this?” In this episode, I sit down with family lawyer Lynette Galvin (aka my mum!) to break down exactly what you need to know about reviewing your ex’s disclosure after separation. From tax returns and bank statements to spotting red flags and requesting missing information, we’ll guide you step-by-step so you can feel confident, not overwhelmed. Whether you’re doing it yourself or working with a lawyer, this episode will help you avoid costly mistakes, stay focused on what really matters, and protect your financial future. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: We discuss divorce, separation, and high-conflict situations in this episode. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal guidance for your situation. DOWNLOAD THE CHECKLIST HERE ---> https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Timeline 00:00 – Introduction to Disclosure in Divorce What financial disclosure means in separation and why it’s a critical step in any property settlement or divorce process. 00:37 – Meet the Hosts A quick hello from Laura and Lynne and why their legal and lived experience can help you through this tricky stage. 00:58 – Why Disclosure Matters So Much We explain how disclosure protects your rights, ensures fairness, and why failing to understand it could cost you big time. 01:34 – What Does “Full and Frank Disclosure” Actually Mean? Breaking down the legal definition in family law and what your ex (and you) are legally required to provide. 02:51 – How to Analyze the Disclosure You’ve Been Given Step-by-step advice on what to do when that pile of documents lands in your inbox – and how to avoid feeling overwhelmed. 04:54 – DIY Disclosure and Your Own Research Why you shouldn’t rely solely on what your ex provides and ways you can independently verify information. 06:52 – Red Flags in Financial Disclosure Common warning signs that something might not add up: missing documents, unusual spending patterns, or assets in other people’s names. 19:20 – How to Handle Hidden Accounts and Unusual Transactions What to do if you suspect your ex is hiding money or diverting assets to avoid sharing them. 20:29 – The Purpose of Disclosure in Family Law Cases We talk about how courts use disclosure to assess property settlements and why honesty is non-negotiable. 21:05 – Post-Separation Contributions and Why They Matter What happens if one person has been paying the mortgage, school fees, or other major expenses since the split. 21:21 – Undisclosed Bank Accounts and Offshore Assets What to do if you find out your ex hasn’t disclosed all their financial interests. 21:49 – Free Resources to Help You Prepare for Divorce Tools and services that can help you better understand and manage disclosure. 22:32 – How to Request Additional Disclosure When you’re entitled to ask for more documents and how to word your request. 24:13 – When to Get Lawyers Involved in Disclosure Signs it’s time to stop DIYing and bring in legal support to avoid being taken advantage of. 25:27 – Forensic Accountants and Valuing Businesses or Complex Assets How professionals can uncover hidden money and accurately assess complicated financial situations. 29:19 – Risks of Avoiding or Ignoring Disclosure Why skipping this step or rushing the process can lead to unfair settlements or future legal problems. 31:32 – Dealing with High-Conflict and Manipulative Exes During Disclosure Practical strategies to manage stress and protect yourself emotionally while navigating the process. 33:04 – Managing Overwhelm With Big Disclosure Files What to do if you’re drowning in hundreds of pages of bank statements and financial records. 41:00 – Final Thoughts and Next Steps How to approach disclosure with clarity and confidence and where to get help if you’re stuck. Resources Episodes Mentioned in this Podcast Episode Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas Disclosure: What, Where, Why & How Is your ex hiding assets: how to uncover the truth DIY Disclosure & Discovery When divorce isn’t the end dealing with Legal and Post Separation Abuse 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37421455

Divorce and Defamation: What to Do When Your Ex Tries to Destroy Your Reputation 07/09/2025

Divorce and Defamation: What to Do When Your Ex Tries to Destroy Your Reputation 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You… 💔 You’re worried your ex is badmouthing you during divorce ⚖️ Want to know how false allegations and smear campaigns affect family court 🧠 Need strategies to protect your mental health from the gossip 📚 Want practical legal and emotional steps to respond to defamation 😢 Feel isolated because family and friends are believing lies 💬 Need to know how to gather evidence if your ex spreads false stories at work, school, or online Episode Summary: Are you worried your ex is trying to destroy your reputation during your divorce? You’re not alone. In this episode, we unpack how smear campaigns and defamation show up in family law – from gossiping with family and friends to spreading lies at school, work, or even on social media. Laura and her mum Lynne (a seasoned family lawyer) share why some exes resort to these tactics, how it can impact custody and property settlements, and what you can do emotionally and legally to protect yourself. This episode is your roadmap to staying calm, gathering evidence, and keeping your credibility intact when you feel like your name is being dragged through the mud. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, false allegations, and reputational attacks. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is general discussion only and not legal advice. Always seek advice from a lawyer for your situation. 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:35 Understanding Smear Campaigns in Divorce 03:57 Defamation vs. Venting: Key Differences 04:45 Motivations Behind Smear Campaigns in Divorce 07:32 Family and Friends: Navigating Smear Campaigns in Divorce 14:04 School and Community: Protecting Your Reputation during divorce 19:54 Dealing with Professionals and Legal Implications during divorce 22:54 Workplace Challenges and Solutions during Divorce 25:48 Navigating Workplace and Family Law 27:02 Social Media Smear Campaigns during Divorce 31:07 Handling False Accusations in Family Court 36:37 Practical Steps for Self-Protection during Divorce 39:48 Defamation and Divorce 43:58 Maintaining Dignity and Focus During Divorce Resources Episodes Mentioned in this Podcast Episode Narcisisst Playbook in Divorce Is it family violence Your child's school and divorce Narcissistic Ex tells lies in Court, Mediation etc Seven Tips Is your ex telling lies in the Family Court DARVO: 8 ways to protect yourself in court 10 essential boundaries for a healthier divorce Navigating Parental Trash Talking 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) Divorce and Defamation:What to Do When Your Ex Tries to Destroy Your Reputation /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37342730

Can You Write to Your Ex’s Lawyer? Family Law Tips for Self-Represented People 07/02/2025

Can You Write to Your Ex’s Lawyer? Family Law Tips for Self-Represented People Listen to This Episode If You: ✉️ You’re self-represented in your family law matter 🤯 You’re feeling overwhelmed trying to respond to legal letters ⚖️ You’re unsure of your rights when communicating without a lawyer 📬 You need tips for writing clear, respectful, and protective responses 🚨 You’ve been told you must respond but don’t know where to start 🧾 You want to avoid common traps and stay legally safe 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. Episode Summary: Can you write to your ex’s lawyer if you don’t have one yourself? What are the legal and strategic risks—and how can you protect yourself? In this essential episode, we break down how to navigate communication in your family law matter when you’re self-represented. From tone and structure to legal obligations and emotional traps, we cover everything you need to know to respond with confidence and protect your position. We also talk about when not to respond, what the Family Law Rules say about unrepresented parties, and what to do if the other side’s lawyer refuses to deal with you directly. If you’re facing legal letters, emotional pressure, or confusion about your next step—this episode is your guide. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction: Responding to Your Ex's Lawyer 01:45 Understanding the Stress of Legal Letters 04:13 What are the Rules for Communicating with Your Ex's Lawyer 06:31 Best Practices for Writing Legal Letters 15:43 Common Tactics in Family Lawyer Letters and How to Handle Them 19:42 Guidelines for Self-Represented Individuals in Family Law and Divorce 24:54 Handling Lawyer-Guided Mediation 25:16 When to Seek Legal Advice 25:43 Responding to Offers and Legal Letters in your Divorce 27:44 Managing Emotional Reactions in your Divorce 29:27 Timing and Professionalism in Legal Responses 31:44 Disagreeing Professionally in a letter to a family lawyer 36:26 Avoidant Personality Tips in Divorce Communication 38:02 High Conflict Personality Tips in Divorce Communication 39:36 Manipulative and Controlling Personality Tips in Divorce Communication 41:34 Amicable Personality Tips in Divorce Communication 45:17 Final Tips for Self-Represented Litigants Resources Case N Johnson (Appellant/Husband) and M L Johnson (Cross-Appellant/Wife) [1997] FamCA 32 (7 July 1997) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1997/32.html?query= RE: F Litigants in Person Guidelines [2001] FamCA 348 (4 June 2001) http://www6.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/2001/348.html?query= 102na Information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/fv-info-sheet Related Episodes Read a letter like a lawyer Decoding Divorce Word Salad Letters: Seven steps Costs & Calderbank Offers Divorce Deals 101 Ten Essential Boundaries for Divorce Community Legal Services and Legal Aid Episode 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37253190

Is It Family Violence? Legal Definitions and Proof in Court 06/25/2025

Is It Family Violence? Legal Definitions and Proof in Court 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You… 🧾 Are trying to prove family violence in family court or to your lawyer 💔 Have experienced abuse and need to understand what counts under the law ⚖️ Want to know what evidence is helpful in a family law case 🕵️‍♀️ Are navigating post-separation abuse or coercive control 👨‍👩‍👧 Are worried about your children being exposed to family violence 📚 Want clarity on Australia’s legal definition of family violence 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general discussion and not legal advice. Please see a qualified lawyer for advice specific to your situation. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic and family violence. Episode Summary: What counts as family violence in Australia? And more importantly—how do you prove it in court or explain it to your lawyer? In this vital episode, we unpack the newer and expanded definition of family violence under the Family Law Act, section 4AB, and explain how each part can show up in real life—and in legal documents. From stalking, coercive control and financial abuse, to how children are affected—we cover each part of the legal definition and give guidance on how to identify, name, and prepare evidence for your case. Whether you're writing an affidavit, preparing for mediation, or just trying to make sense of what’s happened to you, this episode is here to help you take the next step. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: 00:00 – What is this episode about and why does it matter? 00:40 – What trigger warnings and legal disclaimers should you know before listening? 02:09 – What recent changes have been made to the Family Law Act regarding family violence? 03:50 – What exactly is included in the new definition of family violence? 04:54 – How can you start gathering evidence of family violence? 11:46 – How do you prove emotional and psychological abuse in court? 17:16 – What counts as financial or economic abuse—and how can you show it? 27:58 – How does isolation and social control factor into family violence? 32:05 – Can friends or support people help provide evidence of abuse? 32:41 – What is the legal impact of family violence on children? 34:23 – How should you document incidents of family violence? 35:58 – Why are detailed affidavits so important in family court? 37:12 – When should you seek legal advice or a lawyer's help? 46:47 – What challenges might arise in mediation or court when trying to prove abuse? 57:17 – What are the key takeaways and support resources mentioned? 📌 Key Takeaways: The legal definition of family violence under Section 4AB Real-life examples of what courts consider family violence Emotional, economic, and psychological abuse explained How to describe incidents in affidavits or when reporting to professionals Children’s exposure to family violence and its legal weight Practical ways to document your experience for court Resources Family Law Act Section 4AB Definition of Family Violence . Affidavit DIY Kit: Related Episodes Four things you might not realise are coercive control Is it emotional abuse? Is it financial abuse? Divorcing your abuser Telling your story: putting coercive control into writing Affidavits 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37144675

Living Arrangement Decisions For Divorce — What to Know Before You Buy, Sell or Rent 06/18/2025

Living Arrangement Decisions For Divorce — What to Know Before You Buy, Sell or Rent 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 💸 Are weighing the pros and cons of buying, selling or renting post-divorce ⚖️ Need to understand how your living decisions affect property settlement under family law 👨‍👧 Are parenting and want to make housing choices that work for your kids 🏡 Just separated and unsure about where to live 📉 Are worried about financial risk and long-term planning Episode Summary: Where will you live after your separation or divorce? It’s one of the most important—and emotionally loaded—questions you’ll face. In this episode, I’m joined by Pedro Marin, Financial Planner from Marin Wealth, and my mum Lyn, an experienced family lawyer, to explore the options: keeping the house, selling, buying again, renting, or trying rentvesting. We look at the emotional, financial, and legal implications of each choice—and how they interact with the Family Law Act, especially Section 79(2) and 79(5), which focus on the needs of the children and future financial considerations. If you’re unsure what to do next or feel stuck between financial reality and emotional decisions, this conversation will help you start to look over the situation. Disclaimer: This is not legal or financial advice and you MUST see a lawyer or financial advisor before making any decision. We are not liable for the outcome of your case and by listening to this podcast you agree to this. ⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss: 00:00 – What’s this episode about and why is it crucial for separated couples? 00:15 – Who are Pedro Marin Ramirez and Lynette Galvin, and how can they help? 00:36 – What property decisions do you need to consider during divorce? 01:42 – Why do you need both financial planning and legal advice after separation? 03:05 – Should you keep the family home after divorce? What to consider 09:42 – Is now the right time to sell your house? Key market insights for separating couples 12:49 – What should you do with lump sum payments after selling the house? 20:47 – What is rent-vesting and how can it work after divorce? 23:21 – What are the risks of renting or investing in property post-divorce? 24:34 – How does the Family Court consider children’s housing needs in property settlement? 25:11 – Why is “just renting” sometimes not enough post-separation? 26:15 – Why do you need an emergency fund and solid financial planning after divorce? 28:50 – What does The Barefoot Investor say about post-separation money management? 29:31 – What are the pathways to home ownership after a divorce? 34:43 – What are the risks of property surgery after separation? 36:01 – How do you navigate home loans and bank requirements after divorce? 40:01 – What are the final takeaways and key resources for post-separation housing? Resources Marin Wealth Free Calculators Family Law Act 79(5) 🎙️ Related Episodes: I really want to keep the house Out of the box ideas to keep the house Understanding Property Settlement Options in Divorce Future Financial Needs in Family Law: Explained Weapons of Tax Destruction in Divorce Taking Control of your Finances in Divorce - Financial Abuse Red Flags 🆘 Emergency & Support Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter: 1800 811 811 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis): 13 11 14 👨‍👧 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800 🚨 DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 📌 Key Takeaways: You have more options than you think—but each comes with trade-offs Emotional attachment to a home can cloud financial judgment Rentvesting can work, but it's not a silver bullet Selling might feel like a loss but can also give you financial breathing space Legal and financial decisions are intertwined, especially with children involved The court considers both your current and future needs under family law /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/37049500

Divorcing an Abuser: Dealing with Post Separation Abuse 06/10/2025

Divorcing an Abuser: Dealing with Post Separation Abuse 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You… 😢 Feel like your ex is still trying to control you, even after the breakup 🧠 Want to understand how emotional abuse can continue post-separation 🛡️ Need strategies to protect your mental health during negotiations ⚖️ Are co-parenting with someone who is manipulative or abusive 👂 Want to learn what psychologists say about responding calmly and firmly 💔 Are feeling exhausted, anxious, or stuck in the dynamic even though it’s over 📚 Need real guidance from someone who understands trauma and divorce ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about abuse. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Always speak to your own psychologist or lawyer about your specific situation. Divorce should bring closure, but for many, the abuse doesn’t end when the relationship does. In this powerful episode, we're joined by clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova, who specialises in complex trauma, emotional and psychological abuse, and family violence. Together, we unpack post-separation abuse—what it looks like, why it’s so common, and how to recognise the subtle and not-so-subtle ways a controlling ex might continue to manipulate and harass you during legal negotiations and co-parenting. Krasi shares practical tools for setting boundaries, managing emotional triggers, and protecting yourself mentally and emotionally as you navigate separation and the legal divorce process. If you're in the thick of divorce with an abusive or high-conflict ex, this episode is your lifeline. 🔑 Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 00:00 – What is emotional abuse in the context of divorce? 00:15 – Who is Krasi Kirova and why is she an expert in emotional and psychological abuse? 00:54 – How can you set boundaries and protect your emotional health during and after divorce? 01:08 – What legal and psychological disclaimers should listeners be aware of? 01:42 – What did listeners say about our previous episode on emotional abuse? 03:13 – What challenges do survivors face after leaving an abusive relationship? 07:34 – How do you co-parent with an abusive ex-partner? 10:41 – How can you manage anxiety when dealing with legal communications from your ex? 12:34 – Why are support systems and legal preparation so important in these cases? 18:21 – How can you manage trauma and stress in family law settings? 21:01 – What should you understand about trauma reactions during supervised visits? 22:16 – What regulations and training exist for contact centers? 22:34 – Why are victims sometimes misidentified as perpetrators in court? 23:27 – What strategies do abusers use to sabotage mothers post-separation? 24:21 – What is the DIY Divorce Blueprint and how can it help you? 25:04 – How can you handle manipulative communication from your ex? 29:04 – How do you rebuild confidence after surviving coercive control? 31:45 – What are the common self-gaslighting patterns in legal processes? 37:00 – How do you create a supportive community during and after separation? 40:14 – What are the key takeaways and resources shared in this episode? 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 – National Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service 🔗 – 24/7 Crisis Support 🔗 Legal Aid – Access to legal help for those in need 🔗 – Support for young people Dr Emma Katz - 🔗 [Krasi Kirova's workshop – Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships] 🎙️ Related Episodes: Do I really need to respond to that? Is that Emotional Abuse? 🧠 Let’s keep the conversation going If this episode resonated, please share it with a friend or leave us a review. Your support helps more people find the show and feel empowered in their own journey. ENROL NOW 🆘 Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 🚨 National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 🖤 Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36944875

The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing – Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You 06/03/2025

The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing – Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You 🎙️ Episode 198: The Hidden Costs of Doing Nothing – Why Waiting in Limbo Might Be Hurting You 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 🔁 Feel stuck or overwhelmed since separating 📅 Keep delaying property or parenting decisions 💔 Are hoping things might just “work out” without action 💸 Worry about legal costs or can’t afford a lawyer yet 🛑 Feel like taking action will start a fight 🚧 Want a plan but don’t know where to begin 🧭 Need clarity to move forward without fear ⚠️ Trigger Warning: Discussions include separation, family court, and financial and emotional abuse. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: General info only. Please get specific legal advice for your situation. Separation is overwhelming—there’s grief, uncertainty, and a mountain of legal stuff no one feels ready for. But what happens when you do nothing? In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a family lawyer) to talk about the risks of delaying action after separation or divorce. From financial pitfalls to missed opportunities and emotional burnout, we explore what it really costs to stay stuck in limbo. You’ll learn if waiting “until things settle down” can actually work against you—and how small steps today can protect your future. If you’ve been unsure about where to start, afraid to rock the boat, or feeling too exhausted to make decisions, this episode is here to give you the clarity and confidence to take your first step. ⏱️ Episode Timeline: 0:00 – Trigger warning, legal disclaimer & welcome 1:30 – Why so many people stay stuck after separation 3:00 – What it feels like to be in post-separation “limbo” 4:45 – Common fears: lawyers, conflict, making the wrong move 6:10 – Emotional costs of doing nothing: guilt, stress, burnout 9:00 – Financial costs: how waiting can shrink your property pool 10:30 – Parenting: when not taking action can hurt your child’s stability 13:00 – False hope: thinking your ex will change or agree later 15:00 – How court views delays—and why judges may not be sympathetic 17:00 – Misconceptions that delay people from acting 20:00 – What to do if you’re scared of your ex’s reaction 22:30 – First steps you can take—without lawyers or court 25:00 – Why the DIY Divorce Blueprint was created for people in limbo 27:00 – Reassurance: you don’t have to figure it all out right now 28:30 – Final thoughts: permission to take action at your own pace 📚 Related Episodes: Four things you might not realise are coercive control ENROL NOW 🆘 Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 🚨 National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 🖤 Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36836980

Family Law Mediation Secrets – What Your Mediator Wish You Understood 05/21/2025

Family Law Mediation Secrets – What Your Mediator Wish You Understood 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 🚪 You’re about to go to mediation and don’t know what to expect 📝 You want to know what documents and disclosures you actually need 😵‍💫 You’re anxious about seeing your ex in the same room 🧠 You want practical tips to mentally and emotionally prepare ⚖️ You want to give yourself the best chance of settling 👀 You’re worried your ex is manipulative or controlling 🎯 You want a checklist of exactly what to do before the big day Mediation can be one of the most powerful tools in your separation or divorce journey — but only if you’re properly prepared. In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn (a seasoned family lawyer) to reveal the top 5 things mediators wish people knew before walking into mediation. Whether you’re facing property division, parenting negotiations, or dealing with a high-conflict or manipulative ex, we’re giving you practical, real-world strategies to set you up for success. From shuttle rooms to knowing your must-haves vs nice-to-haves, this episode is your ultimate mediation prep guide. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of family and domestic violence. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is general information only and not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice for your situation. ⏱️ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Mediation 00:10 Top Five Things Mediators Wish You Knew 01:18 Separate Rooms for Mediation -Do you have to be in the same room with your ex? (Hint: no!) 07:03 Compromise is Key - Why compromise is crucial — and how to prepare for it 11:52 Be Prepared with Documents - Clear goals vs nice-to-haves: how to prep like a pro 17:17 Anticipate Your Ex's Roadblocks 21:53 Navigating Conversations About Your Ex 22:20 Understanding Your Role in Mediation 22:29 Join Our Free Webinar 23:06 The Mediation Experience 24:13 Handling Pressure During Mediation 27:07 Preparing for Mediation -Your must-have mediation prep checklist 29:55 Dealing with Different Divorce Personality Types 34:00 Tips for staying calm and focused with difficult exes 36:26 Managing Manipulative and Controlling Exes 40:26 Where to get free mediation and disclosure checklists 🔑 Key Topics Discussed: The 5 things mediators wish you knew How to emotionally prepare for mediation What to do when you’re dealing with coercive control or narcissism Practical tips for organising your evidence and disclosures The power of clear goals and flexible thinking How to keep calm and avoid being derailed The truth about compromise — and how to protect yourself while doing it Why you’re still in control, even if you feel overwhelmed Using mediation as a tool — even if your ex is impossible The role of support people, tech tips, and being emotionally ready 📚 Related Episodes: 🎙️ https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vjl0I9xXUQruoAQKLVh11?si=pQpMWvz_RHKapxZ07AgkoA 🎙️ https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew?si=EeVPhl6dTDiphTLXhoeTaA 🎙️ 🆘 Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit your state’s Legal Aid website 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 🚨 National DV Hotline: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) 🖤 Aboriginal Family DV Hotline: 1800 019 123 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36651010

Super Split Myths: Why Equalising Isn’t Always Fair in Divorce 05/14/2025

Super Split Myths: Why Equalising Isn’t Always Fair in Divorce 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 💼 You're negotiating your super split after divorce in Australia 🧐 You've been told “let’s just equalise super — it’s fair” 😵‍💫 You’re confused about what super is worth vs. cash 💸 You’re worried about being left worse off long-term 🧾 You’ve made non-financial contributions (like parenting or homemaking) ⚖️ You want to make sure your property settlement is legally fair 👀 You suspect you’re being pressured into a bad deal Are you about to deal with your superannuation in your divorce or separation? Before you sign off on that “equal split,” you’ll want to hear this. In today’s episode,we sit down to unpack the worrying trend of super equalising — where separating couples are told to simply make their super balances the same and move on. But here's the thing… that’s not what the family law of Australia says, and it could seriously disadvantage you, especially if you’ve been the lower income earner or the stay-at-home parent. We share case examples, court insights, and some shocking myths that are floating around in legal circles — and we tell you what to do if a lawyer, mediator, or even your ex suggests this path. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is general info only — not legal advice. Please seek independent legal support for your personal situation. 0:00 – Are you about to deal with your super during divorce? Here's why this episode matters 1:00 – What does “equalising super” even mean—and why is it a problem? 2:00 – Why super is just another form of property under Australian law 3:30 – Why some lawyers are pushing for equal splits (and why that's dangerous) 5:30 – The golden rule: Super is subject to all the same rules as other property 7:00 – Are you being pressured to leave super out or just equalise it? Here's what to watch for 9:00 – How parenting and homemaking count as contributions to super 11:00 – Dodgy tactics: Over-contributing to super or hiding income 12:00 – How new 2025 laws include behaviour and abuse in property settlements 13:30 – When equalising might actually be okay—but only if the whole pool is fair 14:30 – Real case: Baxter & Baxter – what happens when the court gets it wrong 17:00 – What you can say to your ex (or lawyer!) if they push for equal super splits 18:30 – What Section 75(2) of the Family Law Act says—and why it matters 21:00 – Your capacity to earn, care for kids, and stay healthy are all future needs 23:00 – Why just “keeping the super” might leave you financially vulnerable 25:00 – The court’s 5-step approach—and why percentages come last 27:00 – Why agreeing to percentages too early can backfire 30:00 – What to take to your lawyer to get proper advice on super and property 32:00 – Are SMSFs and defined benefit funds treated differently in divorce? 33:30 – Can you ever access your super early for legal fees? 34:00 – Why 97% of people settle out of court—and what that means for fairness 36:00 – Why consent orders can protect you more than a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) 🔑 Key Topics Discussed Why superannuation is property and must be assessed like any other asset The myth of "equalising super" — and who really benefits from it How future needs (Section 75(2)) affect super division When courts don’t approve equal splits — even in consent orders How coercive control and fear can influence unfair agreements The difference between cash and super — and why it matters to your financial future What the law actually says about super splitting Case examples: Coghlan & Coghlan (2005) and Baxter & Baxter (2010) Why defined benefit and self-managed funds need special attention What info to bring to your lawyer when discussing your super and property pool 🎙️ Related Episodes Contributions episode Future Needs episode: Property episode: Superannuation episode : Spousal Maintenance are you eligible episode The Pitfalls of Percentages RESOURCES SECTION 75 of the family law act https://www5.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s75.html 📧 Email the show: ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 ☎️ 1800 RESPECT – Family/domestic violence support ☎️ Lifeline: 13 11 14 – For emotional support /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36557305

Divorce Deals 101: What to Know Before You Make or Accept a Deal With Your Ex 05/07/2025

Divorce Deals 101: What to Know Before You Make or Accept a Deal With Your Ex One of the most underestimated parts of separation are— settlement offers. Whether you’re negotiating parenting arrangements, property division, or both, knowing how and when to make (or respond to) an offer can save you stress, time, and serious money. We break down how settlement offers work, when to consider using Calderbank letters, how Section 117C of the Family Law Act affects legal costs, and the emotional traps that can trip you up during negotiation. We also talk about avoiding lowball traps, the risks of ignoring offers, and what to do if you’re dealing with an avoidant or high-conflict ex. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This is a general legal discussion only. Always seek independent legal advice before making decisions about your case. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 📬 You’ve just received an offer and don’t know what to do 📝 You’re drafting an offer and want to avoid costly mistakes 🤯 You’re confused about Calderbank offers or “without prejudice” negotiations ⚖️ You want to protect yourself from future legal costs ⏳ You’re wondering when the best time is to make an offer 😨 You’re worried your ex will use offers to manipulate or delay things 💬 You need tips for negotiating with high-conflict or avoidant exes 💡 You want to feel more confident and strategic about settlement 0:00 – legal disclaimer 1:00 – Why settlement offers are the key to ending court drama and legal stress 2:00 – What’s the point of making an offer if your ex is high-conflict or controlling? 3:30 – How making an offer (even if rejected) can help you with legal costs 5:00 – What are “party and party” costs and how much can you actually recover? 6:30 – Why you MUST put all offers in writing — and how to do it right 7:30 – Tips for structuring your offer: how to make it clear and court-friendly 9:00 – What happens when an offer is accepted — and how to turn it into consent orders 10:30 – Do you still have to go to court if you’ve accepted an offer? 12:30 – When’s the best time to make a settlement offer? 14:00 – Why timing matters and how it could impact a cost order 16:30 – Should you lowball or highball your offer like Facebook Marketplace? 18:00 – Mediation vs formal offers — what negotiation tactics are acceptable? 19:30 – What to ask yourself before you make an offer you might regret 21:30 – Mental prep: why understanding “fair” in the legal system is essential 24:00 – How guilt, people-pleasing, or pressure can lead to bad decisions 26:30 – The danger of controlling exes and how your history may influence your judgment 28:00 – What does “without prejudice” mean and why does it matter in negotiations? 30:00 – How to write a strong, effective, and strategic settlement offer 31:30 – What to do if you receive a last-minute or unreasonable offer 33:00 – Can you put time limits on offers? Are they enforceable? 34:30 – How to request more time or more information before accepting 36:00 – What if the offer is close, but not quite right? Counter-offer strategies 37:30 – Should your new partner, family, or friends be involved in decisions? 39:00 – Section 117C of the Family Law Act and how costs get awarded 41:00 – What if you ignore an offer completely? 43:00 – The emotional toll of negotiating and the power of staying objective 45:00 – Final tips for successful settlement negotiations 48:00 – Understanding your worst and best-case court outcomes before accepting 49:00 – A final reminder to always seek legal advice and protect your future 🔑 Key Topics Discussed What makes a good settlement offer — and why timing matters How Calderbank offers work and why they can protect you legally What Section 117C of the Family Law Act says about court-ordered costs The risks of ignoring or rejecting offers (especially in family court) When to negotiate and when to stand your ground Tips for writing a clear and strategic offer What happens if your offer is accepted (and what to do next) How to deal with unreasonable or manipulative exes Why offers must always be documented in writing What to do if you're pressured into accepting an offer you're unsure about The emotional reality of negotiation — and why it's okay to take your time Who should be involved in helping you assess or make an offer (spoiler: not your new partner!) 📎 Links & Resources Mentioned ☎️ 1800 RESPECT – Family/domestic violence support ☎️ Lifeline: 13 11 14 – For emotional support 📧 Email the show: ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 🎙️ Related Episodes Calderbank Offers Disclosure Checklist 📧 Email the show: ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 ☎️ 1800 RESPECT – Family/domestic violence support ☎️ Lifeline: 13 11 14 – For emotional support #DivorceSupport #FamilyLawAustralia #SettlementOffers #SeparationHelp #CalderbankOffer #DivorceNegotiation #LegalCosts #FamilyCourtMatters #WithoutPrejudice #FairSettlement #PostSeparationAbuse #HighConflictDivorce #PropertySettlementTips #FamilyLawHelp #TheDivorceCoursePodcast /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36466090

What the 2025 Family Law Divorce Reforms Might Mean for You 04/30/2025

What the 2025 Family Law Divorce Reforms Might Mean for You Major Changes Are Coming to Family Law in Australia – Here’s What You’ll want to Know In this episode, I sit down with my mum Lyn, our favourite straight-talking family lawyer—to unpack the biggest Family Law changes coming into effect on June 10, 2025. We dive into how these legal reforms will impact property settlements, family violence considerations, companion animals (yes, pets!), financial disclosure rules, and more. Whether you’re currently separating, in court, or supporting someone going through it, these new laws could change the game for you. We also break down why these changes matter, how they could help victims of coercive control or economic abuse, and the kinds of evidence that could now influence outcomes in property disputes. As always, we bring the info in a way that’s easy to understand—no legal jargon, just real talk.. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of family and domestic violence. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode contains general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek independent legal advice for your situation. 🎧 Listen to this episode if… 🐾 You’re separating and worried about who gets the dog 💸 You’ve experienced economic or financial abuse ⚖️ You’re navigating a property settlement and unsure what’s “fair” 📜 You’re already in court and want to know if these changes apply 😟 You’ve struggled to get your lawyer to take family violence seriously 📂 You’re overwhelmed with financial disclosure or suspect your ex is hiding assets 💔 You want to protect your rights—and your peace of mind—in the process ⏱️ Timeline Summary – What You’ll Hear 0:00 – Trigger warning and legal disclaimer 1:00 – Why these 2025 law changes matter 2:00 – How family violence can now impact property settlements 5:00 – Understanding the new “wastage” rule (big shift!) 10:00 – What counts as economic abuse in property disputes 15:00 – Your pet isn’t just “property” anymore – companion animals and court 20:00 – Financial disclosure: new pressure on lawyers and parties 27:00 – Children’s Contact Centres: mandatory accreditation and safety focus 33:00 – Less Adversarial Approaches: what’s changing and what’s not 38:00 – Does this apply to your case if you're already in court? 41:00 – How these changes can help—or hurt—you depending on your approach 46:00 – Final wrap-up: What to do now and what to watch for next 🔑 Key Topics Discussed in This Episode The biggest Family Law reforms in 20+ years — and what triggered them How coercive control and economic abuse will now factor into property settlements Why “wastage” matters (and how post-separation spending could impact outcomes) The real legal status of pets in 2025 — not just “property” anymore! New financial disclosure rules and how they’ll change the game The pressure on lawyers to address family violence properly Why Children’s Contact Centres are changing — and becoming saferThe shift towards less adversarial approaches in court Whether these changes apply to your existing case What to do now to prepare if you’re currently separated or about to file 🔗 Links & Resources 📄 Download the updated Central Practice Direction 📄 Link to the Attorney-General's 2025 Family Law fact sheets ☎️ 1800 RESPECT – Family/domestic violence support ☎️ Lifeline: 13 11 14 – For emotional support 📧 Email the show: ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 🎙️ Related Episodes: Does Domestic Violence Effect Property Settlement Disclosure Checklist Overcoming Disclosure Dilemmas Episode 194: What the 2025 Family Law Reforms Mean for You (Pets, Property & Power Plays) #FamilyLawAustralia #DivorceSupport #PropertySettlement #EconomicAbuse #CoerciveControl #FamilyViolence #FamilyCourtReform #KnowYourRights #SeparatedAndStrong #DomesticViolenceAwareness #LegalUpdates2025 #SharedParenting #CustodyAndProperty #ProtectYourPeace #DivorceAustralia /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36367000

Beyond 50/50: Creative & Legal Ways to Settle Property in Divorce in Australia 04/23/2025

Beyond 50/50: Creative & Legal Ways to Settle Property in Divorce in Australia Are you trying to figure out how to divide the property after your separation or divorce? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with my mum, but also an experienced family lawyer — and we walk you through the eight most common ways people settle property in Australia. Whether you’re hoping to keep the house, want a clean break, or are totally confused by super splitting, we’re breaking it all down for you. From simple percentage splits to creative asset swaps — and even the risks of doing absolutely nothing — this episode is your go-to guide for understanding your options. If you’ve been wondering how the Family Court might view your proposed agreement, or you just want clarity before making any big decisions, this one’s for you. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: We do talk about separation, divorce, and family and domestic violence in this episode. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: Everything shared here is general info only — not legal advice. Always speak to your own lawyer about your unique situation before making any decisions or signing anything. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: 🏡 You’re separated and thinking about how to split your assets 🤔 You’ve heard “it’s always 50/50” and you’re not sure if that’s true 🔑 You’re trying to keep the house, super, or a specific asset 😵‍💫 You’re overwhelmed by all the legal options 😟 You’re scared of doing the “wrong” thing with your property settlement ⚖️ You want a fair deal that protects your financial future 🧠 You’re a visual thinker and need real examples to understand your options DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation. 🔑 Key Topics Discussed in This Episode What a property settlement actually is – and why it matters after separation Common myths about property division – including the truth behind “it’s always 50/50” The 8 different ways you can reach a property settlement – from informal agreements to full court proceedings How to decide which option is right for you – based on your safety, finances, and communication with your ex The risks of doing nothing – and why delays can cost you more than just money Keeping the house, super, or other assets – what’s realistic and what the court considers How to protect yourself legally and financially – especially in high-conflict or coercive control situations When and how to get legal advice – and how to prepare for it Case examples to help you understand what each option might look like in real life What to do if your ex won’t cooperate or communicate 🎙️ Related Episodes: Consent Orders vs BFAs: What’s Best for You https://open.spotify.com/episode/5qgGhdAl5UaOo7LHb2Yf5Y?si=1d87hZ-iQ2iPadSuzyHBAQ I Really, Really Want to Keep the House https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=uz9H0V3eRsaXzKKoLlMfaA Selling the House in Divorce: What You Need to Know https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=7I8graLWQrm3PD_4brxOng ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 ⏳ Episode Timeline: 0:00 – Trigger warning and legal disclaimer 1:00 – What are we covering in today’s divorce property settlement episode? 2:00 – What is the classic percentage split in a divorce—and how does it work? 3:30 – Why isn’t property always divided 50/50 in a divorce? What factors do courts consider? 5:30 – What are the risks of saying “You take the house, I’ll take the super” during divorce? 7:00 – When would this kind of divorce agreement be rejected by the court? 9:00 – Should we just sell everything and divide the cash after a divorce? 11:30 – Why can selling assets post-divorce shrink your overall property pool? 13:00 – What happens if one person buys the other out in a divorce settlement? 15:30 – How do you make sure the house is valued fairly during divorce proceedings? 17:00 – Can we trade assets like cars for cash or super for shares in a divorce? 18:30 – Is super always equal in value when dividing assets in divorce? 20:00 – What is superannuation splitting—and how does it work in a divorce? 22:00 – Is equalizing superannuation always a fair solution in divorce settlements? 23:30 – Can one person take on debt in exchange for more assets—and is that safe in a divorce? 25:00 – What are the legal risks when one partner takes on joint debt after divorce? 27:00 – What happens if we leave everything as it is and avoid a divorce property settlement? 29:30 – What real divorce stories show why doing nothing can go wrong? 33:00 – What are the new 2025 divorce-related laws—and how does post-separation spending affect your case? 34:30 – How can you figure out what’s fair in your unique divorce situation? Episode 193 Beyond 50/50: Creative & Legal Ways to Settle Property in Divorce in Australia #DivorceSupport #PropertySettlement #FamilyLawAustralia #SeparationSupport #DivorceTips #KeepTheHouse #SuperSplit #FinancialAbuseAwareness #FairDivorce #LegalHelp #SplitAssets #CoParentingSupport #EqualPropertySplit #FamilyCourtMatters #DivorceCoursePodcast /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36273355

Child Custody In Divorce: The 10 Most Common Questions 04/15/2025

Child Custody In Divorce: The 10 Most Common Questions In this eye-opening and practical episode,a seasoned family lawyer helps to unpack the 10 most frequently asked questions about child custody in Australia. Whether you're fresh out of a breakup, preparing for court, or trying to figure out what your rights are, this episode is packed with general education and emotional clarity every separated parent needs. From understanding how courts decide who gets custody, to navigating situations involving domestic violence, high-conflict co-parents, and parenting plans this episode helps you gain a better understanding of what's what in child custody issues. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You... Are recently separated and unsure where to start Want to learn how to understand your parental rights in court Are co-parenting with someone difficult, absent, or controlling Are trying to protect your child from a harmful environment Need clarity around parenting plans vs court orders Are preparing to go to family court Feel overwhelmed by legal jargon and want straight answers ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about family and domestic violence. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Every family law case is different, and you should always seek professional legal support specific to your circumstances. 📌 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode: Official Parenting Orders: Do I really need them? 🎧 Case Mentioned: Isles & Nelissen [2022] FedcFAMC1A 97 – an “unacceptable risk” family court case 📚 Links & Resources 🧾 Word Salad Checklist (Download) - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist 📞 1800 RESPECT – Support for family and domestic violence 📞 Lifeline (13 11 14) – Mental health and emotional support 📞 000 – In case of immediate danger ⏱️ Timeline Summary 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warnings 01:02 Understanding Child Custody 02:08 Immediate Steps After Separation 03:19 Consent Orders vs Parenting Plans 04:33 High Conflict Situations 05:56 What is the Best Interests of the Child 15:07 What is the difference between Legal vs Physical Custody 18:39 Domestic Violence and Custody 23:33 Surgical Risk and Legal Analogies 24:21 Can My Child Decide Who They Want to Live With? 24:26 Webinar Invitation: Empower Yourself Through Divorce 25:40 Can I Relocate with my child and Custody: Legal Insights 27:14 What can I do if my ex is Threatening of International Relocation 27:54 Joint Custody: Pros, Cons, and Realities 30:18 Proving an Ex is Unfit for Custody 31:26 How do you Modify and Enforce Custody Arrangements 33:30 How to Deal with Manipulative and Controlling Exes 34:08 High Conflict Custody Situations 36:20 Avoidant Exes and Custody Challenges 38:08 Final Thoughts and Support Resources 🔖 Hashtags (for Social Media) #ChildCustody #FamilyLawAustralia #ParentingAfterSeparation #HighConflictDivorce #CoParenting #FamilyCourt #LegalParenting #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SharedParenting #CustodyBattle #DivorceSupport #ConsentOrders #ParentingPlan #FamilyLawHelp #ProtectiveParenting 📌 Final Disclaimer: Nothing discussed in this episode should be taken as legal advice. Please speak with a qualified legal professional who understands your personal situation and jurisdiction. 🎙️ Episode Title: Top 10 Child Custody Questions Answered (What Parents Need to Know) /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36180755

What your Lawyer Might Forget to Tell You: Unlocking Funds Before Divorce PROPERTY SETTLEMENT is Final 04/09/2025

What your Lawyer Might Forget to Tell You: Unlocking Funds Before Divorce PROPERTY SETTLEMENT is Final Feeling trapped in limbo while waiting for your property settlement to go through? You’re not alone — and there may be a way out. In this episode, I’m joined again by my mum, Lynette Galvin — a family lawyer with over 35 years of experience — and we’re talking about a powerful but underused legal option called early distribution of funds. This is a game-changer for anyone financially stuck during separation. Whether you’re separated under one roof, struggling to pay rent, or locked out of joint funds, this episode is full of practical ideas to help you understand some options. We’ll walk through how it works, who it can help, how to ask for it, and what to do if you’re facing financial abuse or coercive control. If even one person hears this and realizes they can ask for access to their own money — then this episode has done its job. Legal Disclaimer: This is not legal advice please see a lawyer before making any decisions. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses financial abuse and coercive control. If you find this triggering, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or 1800RESPECT. 🎧 Listen to this episode if… You’ve separated from your partner but are still waiting for the property to be divided You’re struggling financially and wondering if you can access money now You’re living under the same roof as your ex and things are tense or unsafe You’ve heard “you just have to wait” from a lawyer or friend You’re dealing with financial abuse or coercive control You want to understand your rights and feel more empowered in the process You’re looking for a way to shift the balance in negotiations or court ⏱️ Episode Timeline 0:00 - A warm welcome and why this episode matters if you’re stuck during property settlement 2:00 - What is early distribution of funds, and why more people should know about it 4:00 - Who qualifies? Scenarios from both wealthy and struggling couples 5:45 - Why financial abuse and coercive control may be stopping you from accessing your money 8:00 - The new definition of family violence and how it can work in your favour 10:30 - How to structure your request so it’s fair and has a better chance of success 12:45 - The mindset shift: realizing you’re entitled to ask 14:30 - What the courts consider when deciding to release funds early 16:30 - Step-by-step: how to apply and what documents you’ll need 19:45 - Going to court: what to expect, what to say, and how to prepare 23:30 - Common misconceptions and sneaky tactics to watch for 26:45 - Can superannuation be released early? (Spoiler: unlikely!) 28:00 - Risks of early distribution: What you need to know before you ask 29:30 - How releasing funds can shift power and break negotiation deadlock 31:45 - How to approach this with different ex-partner personality types in Divorce 36:00 - The quote Mum wants on a cushion: “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” 🔗 Links & Resources 📘 Definition of Family Violence – Family Law Act (Section 4AB) 🧠 — mediation prep, disclosure, and more 🎧 Episode on Balancing the Unbalanced in family law negotiations 🎧 Episode on Response to Initiating Application (for court document guidance) Definition of Family Violence https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html 📝 Closing Thoughts This episode is your reminder that you have options — and you don’t have to wait until the final property settlement to start rebuilding your life. If you’re in a tough spot financially, please talk to your lawyer about an early distribution. And if they say no, ask why. You deserve to feel safe and supported through this process. If you found this episode helpful, we’d be so grateful if you could rate, follow, and share the podcast. You never know who else out there might need this information right now. 💛 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/36061025

Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You 04/02/2025

Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You Are you? Learn about the signs of economic or financial abuse, hear some real-life examples of how economic abuse manifests in relationships and practical steps you can take to protect yourself and your financial future. Find out how it is legally recognized under the Australian Family Law Amendment Act 2024, and why it’s considered a form of coercive control. Also find out about the new laws effective from June 2025 and how they impact property settlements and financial disputes. 🚨 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses economic abuse and coercive control, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline for confidential advice and assistance. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Feel like your partner controls your money or financial decisions ❓ Have been told you’re “bad with money” or pressured into signing financial documents 💡 Are worried that financial abuse is continuing after separation 🛡 Want to understand how the new legal changes address economic abuse 📚 Need advice on documenting financial control and seeking help 💔 Are experiencing financial stress during or after separation DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: What is Economic and Financial Abuse? Signs and Red Flags of Economic Abuse How Economic Abuse Is a Form of Coercive Control Legal Changes: Economic Abuse Recognized as Family Violence Impact on Property Settlements and Financial Outcomes How to Protect Yourself from Economic and Financial Abuse Support Services and Resources for Victims 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 1800 RESPECT – Support for family and domestic violence: Website: Phone: 1800 737 732 🔗 National Debt Helpline – Financial counselling and support: Website: Phone: 1800 007 007 🔗 Men’s Referral Service – Support for men using or experiencing violence: Website: Phone: 1800 943 539 🔗 Understanding Coercive Control – Australian Government Resource: Website: 🎙️ Related Episodes: Recognizing Coercive Control: How to Protect Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/12jgZw1IwIFLK5oPlp0its?si=CvxdW85YRJ6e9pX1katgPQ Navigating Financial Disclosure in Family Court https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Understanding Emotional Abuse: Signs, Impact, and Recovery https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=ujMpXOD8QzeLbeA_rlC4Ew How to Tell Your Story and Communicate Coercive Control in Your Documents https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=rO-DnFixQqKTPMCbkpe3jA ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Economic Abuse 00:24 Recognizing the Signs of Economic Abuse 01:09 Trigger Warning and Support Resources 01:57 Understanding Economic Abuse in Family Law 02:28 Examples of Economic Abuse 04:23 Subtle Forms of Financial Control 12:12 Post-Separation Financial Abuse 15:25 Questions to Identify Financial Abuse 21:30 Coercive Control and Financial Dependence 24:29 Understanding Coercive Control and Financial Abuse 25:34 Real-Life Examples of Financial Abuse 27:06 Legal Definitions and Changes in Family Law 30:37 Proving Financial Abuse in Court 32:03 Steps to Escape Financial Abuse 40:39 Support and Resources for Victims 42:53 Encouragement and Final Thoughts Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35968050

Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! 03/26/2025

Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! Think you know what divorce looks like in Australia? Think again. In this episode, we're busting some of the most common myths that trip people up emotionally, financially, and legally during separation and divorce. Whether you’re at the start of your journey or knee-deep in negotiations, these misunderstandings could be holding you back or costing you big. Join Laura and her mum, Lynette Galvin — a family lawyer with 35+ years of experience — as they unpack 13 myths they hear all the time, including ones that cause fear, confusion, and prevent people from getting what they’re entitled to. From custody myths to super splitting, property settlement fears and bad legal advice — this episode is your reality check. DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are worried that leaving the house means losing it in the property split ❓ Think child support covers all expenses 💡 Believe the court always favours mothers in parenting cases 🛡 Are avoiding legal advice to “save money” 📚 Think you have to wait until your divorce is final to sort out property ⚖️ Are scared to date during separation because it might “hurt your case” 🧠 Just want to stop second-guessing everything your ex or their lawyer is telling you 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned: 📝 Dating After Divorce Survey – Help us shape resources for separated parents: 🎧 Related Episodes: Equalising Super: Is It Fair or a Financial Trap? Not yet released Is It Emotional Abuse? Recognising Coercive Control https://youtu.be/PHfhLZXlUc8?si=l2U3B8hOKhKlr2v- How to Prepare for Mediation Like a Pro https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=IEdr3tdQnF4fLMnE 💻 Search Our Full Podcast Library – ⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 💬 Final Thoughts: No matter where you’re at in your divorce journey, understanding the truth behind these myths can empower you to make better decisions and avoid costly mistakes. Don’t let fear, bad advice, or outdated beliefs hold you back. 👉 Hit play now and take the guesswork out of your separation. 🎧 ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Myths 01:38 Myth 1: Property Settlement Timing for Divorce in Australia 02:42 Myth 2: Do Family Courts Favour Mothers for Custody 04:33 Myth 3: Ownership and Coercive Control in Divorce 06:38 Myth 4: Equalizing Superannuation in Divorce 07:45 Myth 5: Dating After Separation can it affect your divorce or custody? 10:19 Myth 6: Can you Settle Divorce Without Court 11:58 Myth 7: Leaving the House and Kids during divorce 16:47 Myth 8: Not getting legal Advice Saves Money in Divorce 19:08 Myth 9: Property Settlements Are always 50/50 22:45 Myth 10: Child Support Covers All Expenses 24:07 Myth 11: Do Family Lawyers Know Everything 30:20 Conclusion and Resources Divorce Myths That Could Cost You – Debunked! Episode 189 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35862940

Is Your Ex Hiding Assets? How to Uncover the Truth in Divorce Disclosure 03/19/2025

Is Your Ex Hiding Assets? How to Uncover the Truth in Divorce Disclosure 💰 Is your ex hiding assets? Are they draining joint accounts, concealing super, or transferring money to family and friends? You're not alone, and there are legal ways to uncover what's yours. Learn about the most common ways people try to hide assets in divorce, including trust funds, cash jobs, disappearing assets, and hidden overseas accounts. Find out how the Australian Family Court courts handle these cases, what legal tools you can use to track down missing assets, and what to consider doing before mediation or family court. If you’re frustrated by a lack of financial disclosure or suspect your ex is hiding money, this episode is a must-listen. 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education for Australia and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Believe your ex is hiding assets or not fully disclosing their financial situation ❓ Have noticed money disappearing from joint accounts 💡 Suspect your ex is hiding superannuation, cash jobs, or business earnings 🛡 Want to know what legal steps you can take before mediation or court 📚 Wondering how courts handle trusts, business assets, or overseas properties ⚖️ Are frustrated with non-disclosure and want to know what the courts will do about it Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1️⃣ Draining Joint Accounts: Can You Get the Money Back? 2️⃣ Superannuation & Hidden Retirement Funds 3️⃣ Trust Funds, Businesses & Company-Owned Assets 4️⃣ Cash Jobs & Undeclared Income 5️⃣ Selling Assets for Cheap to Friends & Family 6️⃣ Disappearing Assets: What If They Just Vanish? 7️⃣ Hiding Money & Property Overseas 8️⃣ What If Your Ex Refuses to Do Financial Disclosure? 📌 Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📜 Superannuation Information Request (Form 6) – 📜 Family Court Superannuation Search via Comm Courts Portal – 📜 📜Disclosure Checklist - 🎙 More Podcast Episodes You’ll Love: Untangling Valuations: How to Find Out What Assets Are Worth https://youtu.be/pkNKwBXMu9I?si=Lq2Q0UvXh_AVHcJH DIY Disclosure: What to Do If Your Ex Won’t Provide Financial Records https://youtu.be/c273nHUN9DE?si=nshmPtJwqkdk8hAO Avoiding Traps: Why You Should Never Negotiate Percentages Before Knowing the Property Pool https://youtu.be/D8xj-52q9ZE?si=N_-NKmXlszdXa-Rb ⏳ Episode Timeline: 00:00 Introduction: Uncovering Hidden Assets in Divorce 00:14 Common Tactics for Hiding Assets 01:40 Legal Rights and Draining Joint Accounts 04:29 Superannuation and Hidden Funds 06:55 Trust Funds and Corporate Veils 08:41 Valuing Businesses in Divorce 12:25 Cash in Hand and Undeclared Income 15:21 Selling Assets to Friends 16:04 Burnt Leg and Old Cars 16:27 Valuing and Insuring Classic Cars 17:01 Court's Approach to Asset Distribution 18:57 Handling Disappearing Assets 19:48 Hiding Assets Overseas 22:37 Non-Disclosure Issues 28:04 Child Support and Hidden Assets 29:32 Final Thoughts and Legal Advice Emergency Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35768660

Is It Emotional Abuse? How to Identify & Protect Yourself in Divorce 03/11/2025

Is It Emotional Abuse? How to Identify & Protect Yourself in Divorce Explore the tactics abusive partners use to maintain control, how emotional abuse can impact divorce and custody proceedings, and—most importantly—how to protect yourself, rebuild your confidence, and move forward with clarity. When emotional abuse in your relationship or divorce, it becomes confusing, isolating, and overwhelming. Many people don’t realize that abuse isn’t always physical—disrespect, manipulation, and control can be just as damaging, especially during separation. In this episode, we’re joined by Krasi Kirova, a clinical psychologist specializing in complex trauma, emotional and psychological abuse, and family violence. With extensive experience in trauma-informed approaches, Krasi helps us break down the Three Ds of Emotional Abuse—Disrespect, Disempowerment, and Distortion—and how these behaviors can show up in divorce. 🚨 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses emotional and psychological abuse, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please reach out to 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) for confidential advice and assistance. 🎧 Listen to This Episode If You: ✔️ Feel like your voice was never heard during your marriage or separation ✔️ Have experienced gaslighting, manipulation, or financial control in your relationship ✔️ Are struggling to explain emotional abuse to your lawyer or the court ✔️ Want to understand how emotional abuse impacts divorce and child custody ✔️ Need tools and strategies to protect yourself during and after separation ✔️ Are curious about the new coercive control laws and how they affect family law cases Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Abuse in Divorce 00:35 Meet Krausey Kirova: Expert in Emotional Abuse 02:31 Understanding Emotional Abuse: The Basics 08:34 The 3 D's of Emotional Abuse 09:40 Disrespect: The First Pillar of Emotional Abuse 15:42 Disempowerment: The Second Pillar of Emotional Abuse 21:37 Addressing Hidden Abuse 21:48 Free Resources for Divorce Preparation 22:33 Understanding Distortion in Abusive Relationships 23:48 The Impact of Gaslighting 25:42 Recognizing and Documenting Abusive Patterns 33:47 The Role of Therapy and Mediation 37:40 Workshops and Support for Women 38:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Episode Highlights: 🔹 [04:00] – What is emotional abuse, and how does it differ from disagreements or bad behavior? 🔹 [10:00] – The Three Ds of Emotional Abuse: Disrespect – Verbal put-downs, silent treatments, invalidation of your feelings. Disempowerment – Financial control, isolation, and decision-making without your input. Distortion – Gaslighting, blame-shifting, and rewriting reality. 🔹 [27:00] – Why emotional abuse is often hard to recognize when you’re in it. 🔹 [31:00] – How to document abuse effectively for legal cases and communicate it to your lawyer. 🔹 [36:00] – Should you try family therapy or mediation with an emotionally abusive partner? 🔹 [40:00] – The impact of new coercive control laws in Australia and how they apply to divorce. Links & Resources Mentioned: Resources & Support: ✅ Krasi Kirova’s "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships" Workshop – Krasi Kirova is a clinical psychologist specialising in complex trauma, difficult family dynamics, emotional and psychological abuse in relationships, dealing/separating from a narcissistic partner, and setting healthy boundaries. She has extensive training in trauma-informed approaches and family violence. Aside from her work in private practice, Krasi has worked at Monash University’s health services and co-facilitated trauma groups in a psychiatric hospital. She currently runs a workshop for women called "Understanding Emotional Abuse in Relationships". ✅ 1800 RESPECT – Confidential support for domestic & family violence: ✅ Mediation Checklist – ✅ Legal Resources on Coercive Control – Recommended Books: 📚 Why Does He Do That? – Lundy Bancroft 📖 | Booktopia (AU) 📚 The Verbally Abusive Relationship – Patricia Evans 📖 | Book Depository 📚 In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People – George K. Simon 📖 | Book Depository Related Podcast Episodes: 🎙 Gaslighting in Divorce: How to Spot It & Shut It Down – (Do you have a link for this episode? I can add it!) 🎙 Coercive Control & The Family Court: What You Need to Know – 🎙 Mediation or Manipulation 🔗 Support Services Lifeline – 13 11 14 (Australia) 1-800-RESPECT – Domestic Violence Support 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information. #DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35622740

How Covert Narcissists Weaponise Divorce (And What You Can Do About It) Episode 186 02/26/2025

How Covert Narcissists Weaponise Divorce (And What You Can Do About It) Episode 186 Have you just realized your ex might be a covert narcissist? Thought your separation was amicable,only to find yourself blindsided by manipulation and deceit? In this episode, we break down the six key signs of a covert narcissist during divorce, property settlement or coparenting. From playing the victim to using the legal system against you, we’ll help you spot the red flags and protect yourself. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are going through a divorce or property settlement and feel like something is off. ❓ Want to understand the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist. 💰 Need to protect your financial assets from manipulation. ⚖️ Are dealing with custody battles and want to safeguard your children. 📜 Suspect your ex is using legal loopholes to control or deceive you. Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Covert Narcissism in Divorce 01:23 Understanding Covert Narcissists 02:31 Recognizing the Victim Role 05:24 Manipulation Tactics in Divorce 13:26 Custody Battles and Child Manipulation 17:53 Legal Manipulation and Delays 20:03 Mediation Challenges with Narcissists 22:33 Legal Advice and Second Opinions 22:56 Mediation with a Covert Narcissist 23:10 Document Everything 23:49 Investigate Property Claims 24:07 Handling Unreasonable Negotiations 25:15 Free Resources for Mediation 28:02 False Allegations and Manipulation 35:37 Expecting Amicable Pretenses 42:06 Final Thoughts and Advice Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 🔹 The Victim Role: How covert narcissists gain sympathy while making you feel like the problem. 🔹 Financial Manipulation: Hidden assets, delaying tactics, and emotional blackmail. 🔹 Custody Battles & Control: The sneaky ways they use your children against you. 🔹 Legal Abuse & False Allegations: How they use the court system to exhaust and intimidate you. 🔹 How to Protect Yourself: Strategies to recognize manipulation and safeguard your rights. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Support Services Lifeline – 13 11 14 (Australia) 1-800-RESPECT – Domestic Violence Support 🎙 Recommended Episodes: The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce – Learn the tactics they use and how to counter them.https://youtu.be/OrRvd9XzuIg?si=KDYG1a0Fh8xXBn7q 8 Ways to Protect Yourself from DARVO – Recognize and defend against manipulation.https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=54TMNNtK_H5r2QGj Can You Mediate with a Narcissist? – Practical advice for handling negotiations. https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=iY_J7pz-uA6ChOwc 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this information. #DivorceSupport #CovertNarcissist #FamilyLaw #NarcissisticAbuse #Separation #LegalTips #CustodyBattles #PropertySettlement #ToxicRelationships #Manipulation #CourtOrders Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Legal Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. We are not psychologists or legal professionals, and the information shared is based on personal experiences and general knowledge. Every situation is unique, and laws vary by jurisdiction. If you are going through a divorce, custody dispute, or financial settlement, please seek independent legal advice from a qualified family law professional. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35432795

Consent Order or BFA? & How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks 02/19/2025

Consent Order or BFA? & How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks Are you going through a divorce property settlement and unsure whether to choose a Consent Order or a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA)? In this episode, we break down what they are and the key differences between the two. We also discuss the pitfalls and risks to keep in mind when navigating this. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are going through a separation and need to divide property fairly. ❓ Want to know whether a Consent Order or a Financial Agreement is the better choice. 💰 Need to understand the costs involved in each option. ⚖️ Want to protect yourself from future financial claims. 📜 Want to know if consent orders or bfa’s can be contested in court 00:00 Introduction to Property Settlement 00:57 Understanding Consent Orders 01:32 Exploring Binding Financial Agreements (BFAs) 02:14 Comparing Consent Orders and BFAs 03:20 Legal Advice and Costs 05:28 Risks of Not Having Legal Agreements 12:41 Process of Getting Financial Agreements 15:33 Process of Getting Consent Orders 21:49 Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them 22:15 Understanding Consent Orders and Financial Agreements 22:46 The Risks of Non-Disclosure in Financial Agreements 25:44 Signing Under Pressure: What You Need to Know 27:55 The Importance of Proper Legal Advice 30:49 Challenging and Enforcing Settlements 35:49 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice 40:48 Conclusion and Legal Disclaimer 👉 If you found this episode helpful, don’t Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 🔹 Understanding Consent Orders What is a Consent Order, and how does it work? Why the Family Court reviews and approves these agreements. The benefits of having a legally binding, court-approved settlement. 🔹 What You Need to Know About Financial Agreements (BFAs) Why they are no longer called Binding Financial Agreements. How BFAs differ from Consent Orders and why they carry more risk. The legal costs and technicalities involved in creating a Financial Agreement. 🔹 Consent Orders vs. BFAs: Cost and Legal Requirements How much does a Consent Order cost vs. a BFA? Why BFAs require independent legal advice for both parties. Can you challenge or overturn these agreements in court? 🔹 Avoiding Common Pitfalls Why informal agreements leave you legally unprotected. The dangers of signing under pressure or coercion. What happens if your ex doesn’t comply with the agreement? 🔹 Finalizing Your Property Settlement A walkthrough for getting a Consent Order approved. When a BFA might be necessary and how to ensure it holds up in court. Questions to ask before signing any financial settlement. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Free Resources & Guides: DIY Divorce Blueprint – Learn how to create your Consent Orders https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol Legal Aid Resources https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home 🎙 Recommended Episodes: Do I Really Need a Consent Order? https://youtu.be/AJrX8ovEEY8?si=LOAfESvxibj_-VYz Protecting Yourself After Divorce: Financial & Legal Steps Spousal Maintenance: Am I Eligible? https://youtu.be/lafPlHTSWp0?si=aCXWrOmWyJqZN4Bc Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it! Consent Orders or Binding Financial Agreements: How to Make Sure Your Settlement Sticks #FamilyLaw #DivorceSettlement #PropertySettlement #ConsentOrder #FinancialAgreement #BFAvsConsentOrder #LegalAdvice #Separation #DivorceSupport #FamilyCourt #Prenup #DivorceLaw #LegalTips #CoParenting #RelationshipBreakdown #CourtOrders /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35344200

Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back 02/11/2025

Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back Child Support Battles: What They Don’t Tell You & How to Fight Back Are you struggling with child support? Whether you’re battling a non-paying ex, dealing with inconsistent advice from child support agencies, or feeling overwhelmed by legal loopholes, you’re not alone. In this episode, Crystal Padooch, founder of Child Support Consultants, reveals the five critical things every parent should know about child support. With 14 years of experience, Crystal explains how the system really works, the common tactics some parents use to avoid paying, and what steps you can take to protect yourself and your children’s financial future. We also dive into the emotional side of child support, including the guilt many parents feel, the stress of dealing with financial abuse, and how to navigate the system without giving up. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer or child support consultant for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: ✅ Are struggling to get child support payments from your ex. ❓ Feel like you’re getting different answers from child support agencies and don’t know what to believe. 💡 Want to understand how child support assessments work and what your options are. 🛡 Are dealing with a financially abusive or manipulative ex who is trying to avoid paying. 📚 Need guidance on how to escalate complaints and fight back against unfair decisions. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: 1️⃣ Understanding the Child Support Process The two main pathways: Child Support Agreements vs. Child Support Assessments How the child support formula works and what factors impact payments Why your ex’s reported income may not reflect their actual earnings 2️⃣ Dealing with Inconsistent Advice from Child Support Agencies Why different case officers give conflicting information The best way to escalate your case and get clear answers How to document calls and complaints to protect yourself 3️⃣ Let Go of Child Support Guilt Why seeking child support is NOT about you—it’s about your kids How child support ensures stability and financial security for your children Overcoming the stigma and online shaming around child support 4️⃣ How to Protect Yourself from Financial Abuse & Manipulation The common tactics used by coercive controllers and financial abusers What to do if your ex lowers their income or refuses to work to avoid payments Strategies to prove financial dishonesty and fight back 5️⃣ What to Do If Your Ex Refuses to Pay The enforcement actions child support agencies can take Why some loopholes allow people to dodge payments (and how they should be fixed!) Steps to take if you’re owed child support but not receiving anything Links & Resources Mentioned: 🔗 Child Support Consultants – Book a free clarity call with Crystal: https://childsupportconsultants.com.au/ 📚 Divorce Course Podcast – More episodes on navigating separation & co-parenting 📖 Government Child Support Information – https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/contact-child-support Emergency Contacts: 💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811 ⚖️ Legal Aid: [Visit Legal Aid Website] 📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14 👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men 👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help 🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:48 Understanding the Child Support Process 04:58 Dealing with Inconsistencies in Child Support Calls 10:13 Addressing Child Support Guilt 14:32 Avoiding Comparisons with Others' Stories 16:49 Handling Financially Abusive Ex-Partners 20:42 Navigating the Child Support Process 21:30 The Emotional Toll of Child Support Battles 21:57 Advocating for the Child's Best Interest 22:50 Legal Abuse and Court Involvement 23:09 DIY Divorce Blueprint 26:54 Challenges in Child Support Collection 29:26 System Loopholes and Legislative Issues 37:31 Support for Domestic Violence Victims 38:54 Final Thoughts and Contact Information #ChildSupport #DivorceCoursePodcast #FamilyLaw #SingleParenting #CoParentingTips #FinancialAbuse #ChildSupportAwareness #ChildSupportHelp #DivorceSupport #CustodyBattle #CoParentingChallenges #ParentalRights #KnowYourRights #LegalHelp /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35234010

Parental Alienation False Allegations: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 02/05/2025

Parental Alienation False Allegations: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 False Allegations of Parental Alienation: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183 Learn about how abusers use parental alienation allegations to deflect from their abusive behavior and maintain their power. Explore how accusations of parental alienation can be weaponized against the healthy parent to continue coercive control or abuse, often leaving the targeted parent in a difficult legal and emotional battle. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are facing false parental alienation claims in your divorce or custody case. ❓ Feel like your ex is using alienation accusations as a tactic to continue coercive control. 💡 Want to understand how to identify when alienation accusations are used to deflect from abusive behavior. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict separation and need tools to protect your relationship with your children. 📚 Need strategies to counter false accusations and focus on the best interests of your kids. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: The Abuse Behind Parental Alienation Allegations How abusers use alienation claims to deflect attention from their coercive control or abusive tactics. The psychological and emotional impact on the healthy parent when accused of alienation. Understanding Coercive Control in Divorce and Custody Cases How coercive control continues even after separation through alienation accusations and using DARVO tactics. The power dynamics at play when one parent tries to isolate or manipulate the children from the safe or preferred parent. False Claims of Parental Alienation Why abusive partners may accuse the other parent of alienation to keep them under control. How these accusations undermine the healthy parent’s credibility and alienate them from their children. Protecting Yourself and Your Children How to document and respond to alienation accusations in a way that protects your relationship with your children. The importance of seeking legal support to defend against false alienation claims and protect your rights as a parent. The Impact of Alienation on Children How false parental alienation tactics affects children’s well-being and their relationship with the targeted parent. Strategies for ensuring your children have a healthy relationship safe parents. Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources: Mediation Checklist Before You Go Checklist Recordings show psychologist's harmful conduct against family | ABC News Re Andrew ; http://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1996/43.html Recommended Episodes: - https://youtu.be/SUKUR65ARfs?si=YMbQLnCPQexRr3wv 8 Ways to Protect yourself During Divorce - Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Final Thoughts: Parental alienation accusations are often used as a manipulative tactic by abusers to continue their coercive control after separation. Understanding the dynamics of false alienation tactics and taking proactive steps to protect yourself and your relationship with your children and protect yourself in court. Stay focused on what’s best for your kids and make sure you have the legal support and strategies in place to counter false claims. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. 00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation 01:16 Understanding the Alienation Industry 02:10 The Pipeline of Alienation Claims 08:14 Child Custody Gatekeeping and Accusations 17:21 The Role of Professionals in False Alienation Cases 21:17 Legal Strategies and Reunification 24:58 Financial Incentives for more abuse through Child Custody 25:23 New Child Custody Laws in the Family Court Of Australia 26:04 Coercive Control and Family Court 26:36 Choosing the Right Family Professionals for your Custody Battle 29:09 Family Therapy and Legal Implications in the Family Court 34:52 Documenting and Defending Against False Accusations of Alienation 42:56 Fighting Against Reunification Camps 44:42 Support and Resources for Parents /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35155325

Official Property or Parenting Orders. Do You Really Need Them? 01/28/2025

Official Property or Parenting Orders. Do You Really Need Them? Do you really need to formalize your property or parenting agreement when going through divorce or separation? What if you are amicable? Or you both just agree anyway. What's the point in having a formal order? What if you just don’t have any property and so you feel there isn’t any point in getting official property orders. What if you are worried if you push for property or parenting orders it will make your ex more angry? What if you are terrified of going to court? In this episode,we break down the most common reasons we hear people telling us why they don’t want to get official formal orders and explain the considerations these people may need to make. Whether you're amicable, high conflict, or dealing with a narcissistic or avoidant ex or feeling overwhelmed, or unsure about the legal process, this episode clears up some common myths and confusion and equips you with the knowledge to help you make informed decisions for your future. From financial security to protecting your children's stability. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🏠 Are considering whether to formalize your property or parenting arrangements. 💡 Want to understand the benefits of formal orders for financial security and children's stability. 📚What to know the difference between a parenting plan and a consent order ❓ Are unsure about the process of consent orders and whether lawyers need to be involved. 🛡 Feel hesitant about escalating conflict or upsetting your ex by pursuing formal orders. 📚 Need reassurance about the steps involved in protecting your legal rights post-separation. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: What Are Property and Parenting Orders? Differences between informal agreements, parenting plans, and formal court orders. Are Formalizing agreements with consent orders crucial? Common Objections to Formal Orders: "We’ve already agreed; we don’t need anything formal." "It’s too expensive and time-consuming." "We’re amicable, so we’ll stick to our agreement." "I don’t want to escalate conflict or upset my ex." “I don’t want to go to court” Laura and Lyn address each objection and provide solutions. Risks of Avoiding Formal Orders: Examples of real-life cases, including the Farmer and Bramley case, where not finalizing property arrangements had disastrous consequences. How changes in circumstances (e.g., new partners, financial issues) can complicate informal agreements. The Role of Consent Orders: How consent orders work and why they don’t require going to court. The importance of having a clear, enforceable agreement for both property and parenting. Long-Term Benefits of Formal Orders: Financial protection against future claims. Reduced conflict through clear boundaries and responsibilities. Peace of mind knowing you’ve protected yourself and your family. 00:00 Introduction to Property and Parenting Orders 01:26 Understanding Parenting and Property Orders 03:22 The Importance of Formal Orders 09:19 Addressing Common Objections to getting official court orders in Divorce 18:34 Handling Conflict and Safety Concerns during divorce 23:34 Avoiding Court and Legal Advice during divorce 23:49 Understanding Consent Orders for your divorce 24:05 The Role of the Registrar in the Family Court of Australia 24:54 Avoiding Court Appearances during Divorce 25:06 Financial Agreements and Fairness in your property settlement 25:38 Parenting Plans and Children's Matters during your divorce 26:08 The Importance of Formal Orders in Family Law and Divorce 28:16 Dealing with Property and Financial Settlements in your Divorce 28:21 Family Lawyer Australia Webinar Invitation 28:53 Addressing Common Concerns during your divorce negotiations 32:42 The Risks of Delaying Formal Orders in your divorce 36:39 Legal Tips and Avoiding Pitfalls in your Divorce negotiations 43:28 Encouragement and Final Thoughts for going through divorce negotiations 47:14 Listener Reviews and Closing Remarks #DivorceHelp #PropertySettlement #ParentingOrders #DivorceSupport #SeparationEducation #FamilyLaw #HelpForDivorce #CoParentingTips #DivorceJourney #FinancialAbuseAwareness #DivorcePlanning #ProtectYourAssets #ParentingAfterDivorce #DivorceAndProperty #SeparationTips Links & Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Related Episodes: https://youtu.be/-qpS1hsxJ0s?si=FuwXba5pdSABjxS_ https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=tLl7zfkObmykhV4U https://youtu.be/tsDlMphLRWk?si=YNlQI1wa9PE28XoP https://youtu.be/RLEmGeZRvb0?si=uYlV1kfK2CdEjmqB https://youtu.be/-DC72tq8FRM?si=LiFqoWZFNImMFA9v Free Resources: https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/wordsaladchecklist Legal Cases Mentioned: Woodland and Todd 2005 Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811 National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732 Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/35053975

Separation Survival: 9 Tips for Navigating Shared Living Arrangements 01/21/2025

Separation Survival: 9 Tips for Navigating Shared Living Arrangements In this episode we discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner whilst waiting for property settlement. We share practical strategies for setting boundaries, sorting money, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether you’re navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you survive—and hopefully also thrive. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🏠 Are living with your ex-partner post-separation. ❓ Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space. 💡 Want tips on co-parenting and managing household finances in the short term. 🛡 Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse. 📚 Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey. Key Topics Discussed in This Episode: Setting Boundaries: How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home. Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy. Legal Considerations: Can your ex legally force you out of the home? When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe. Communication Strategies: Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict. Protecting yourself by communicating like a judge is watching. Financial Management: Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence. Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation. Co-Parenting While Living Together: Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings. Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviors. Emotional and Practical Self-Care: Building routines to maintain mental well-being. Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups. Preparing for the Next Steps: Documenting assets and financial information. Consulting a lawyer a safety plan for the future. Safety Considerations: Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse. Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe. Links & Resources Mentioned: Free Resources: Checklist for Before You Leave - www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 LEGAL AID: Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 DV Connect Women’s Line: 1800 811 811 National DV Hotline (1800 RESPECT): 1800 737 732 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:43 Legal Disclaimer and Jingle 01:44 Living Under One Roof: Challenges and Boundaries 03:32 Physical and Emotional Safety in Divorce 05:33 Communication and Legal Precautions during separation 07:39 Financial Manipulation and Consent Orders in Divorce 09:35 Spousal Maintenance and Financial Independence after separation 16:05 Co-Parenting Strategies during separation 19:26 Managing Finances During Separation 26:16 Navigating Separation Under One Roof 26:41 Handling Financial Responsibilities during divorce 28:04 Dealing with Conflict and Court Warnings in Divorce 33:42 Prioritizing Self-Care and New Routines during divorce 36:05 Preparing for Property Settlement and Children's Matters 42:43 Safety Considerations and Creating a Safety Plan for Divorce 47:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Final Thoughts: This episode offers both practical and emotional tips for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. You’re not alone—help and support are available to guide you through this difficult time. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation. /episode/index/show/thedivorcecoursepodcast/id/34932510

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