10 Things That Quietly Destroy Your Family Court Case (Sometimes before you’ve even gone to court)

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You’re worried your custody or property case might end up eventually in court. 

• You are preparing for Family Court or worried your case might escalate

• You want to avoid mistakes that judges hate seeing in parenting or property matters

• You’re dealing with a high-conflict ex or coercive control

• You’re self-represented and want to understand what the court looks for

• You want to protect your credibility and stay child-focused

• You feel overwhelmed and want to understand how to present better in court

• You want to understand how Family Court judges make decisions

If you're going through separation, divorce, or a parenting dispute in Australia, this episode will help you avoid the most common mistakes people make in the Family Court. These insights can make or break your credibility, influence parenting outcomes, and help you stay calm and strategic throughout the legal process.

In this episode, we unpack 10 behaviours that can ruin your case — the things that damage cases, frustrate judges, increase legal costs, and affect how your evidence is viewed. Whether you’re self-represented, considering mediation, managing a high-conflict ex, or worried about how your actions may be interpreted, this conversation will give you clarity on what the court expects from parents.

Learn how to stay child-focused, how to avoid actions that look like parental alienation, how to communicate effectively, how to avoid sabotaging your own case, and why honesty, disclosure, and consistency matter so much. If you're feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or stuck in conflict, this episode offers guidance to help you stay grounded and organised.

LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This episode contains general discussion only this is  not legal advice please always get independent legal advice as each situation is different. 

Trigger Warning: This episode has some discussions of family violence.

 

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⏱️ Episode Timeline

00:00 – Introduction: How to Avoid Mistakes That Hurt Your Family Court Case
Overview of the most common behaviours that weaken parenting and property cases.

02:07 – Why Judges Prioritise Child-Focused Parenting in Family Court
Understanding how child welfare drives decisions and how to demonstrate it clearly.

06:36 – Keeping Emotions Out of Family Court: What Judges Look For
Why emotional reactions, venting and accusations can damage your credibility.

13:26 – Presenting Evidence Properly: What Counts in Family Court
How to gather, organise and present evidence that the court will actually rely on.

16:59 – The Serious Consequences of Lying or Exaggerating in Court
How dishonesty can destroy your case and impact parenting or property outcomes.

21:27 – Disclosure Rules in Property Settlement: What You MUST Provide
Explaining financial disclosure obligations and what happens if you don’t comply.

25:26 – Following Court Orders and Deadlines: Why Timing Matters
How delays, missed tasks or ignoring directions reflect poorly on your case.

25:58 – Understanding Family Court Practice Directions (CPD Requirements)
What the Central Practice Direction means for your behaviour and preparation.

28:40 – Narrowing the Issues Before Court: What Judges Expect You to Do
Why bringing every problem to court backfires and how to refine your case.

33:19 – Avoiding Behaviour That Looks Like Parental Alienation
How to protect your children and yourself without appearing to obstruct the other parent.

39:43 – Acting Reasonably in Family Court: How It Influences Outcomes
Examples of unreasonable behaviour and why judges pay close attention to it.

42:03 – Courtroom Etiquette, Presentation and Final Takeaways
How to conduct yourself, communicate effectively, and stay credible throughout your case.

 

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Dealing with Narc Lies in court

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=P-fwZYVSQxO7JnVs5yYJdw

When your ex lies in court https://open.spotify.com/episode/2OpAGxXfx78iAO81TMPPxJ?si=wcN-tRFdSaSjGLU51fmV7w

Overcoming disclosure delays 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=PI-J7YtGTb6pFRKGa7KjdA

Disclosure Deadlocks

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yrShRhq4jcGVuVDN6Jq6C?si=ZFmAHXmAT1-JS0neHjsDHQ

Is your ex hiding assets 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KbgLRFXB9r2rCz3vycZ98?si=nKf11LeYS_66Uzn003Ydug

Central Practice Directions

https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd

False Accusations of Parental Alienation

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=jNYKY5cBTCatIXZpEHXisQ

Handover Hell

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=UrHDcaRBTwuKpnVmWty-qA

Family Reports

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4k2Z4glD8WpY4dsqz6vn5Y?si=MMj_I2N5RlaT_5flBfZjMQ

Court Etiquette 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JOwxZOGxT182UOp8iqd8z?si=8ib6y9qLRvuD5n8AO4y46w

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