105. Live Coaching: Polyamorous Woman Confronted by Partner's Desire for Monogamy
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 12/21/2022
247. How To Spark Desire and Enjoy Make-Up Sex (Without Fighting First)
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Have you ever noticed that desire intensifies during challenging moments in your relationship? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell reveals how emotional intensity—even in the midst of complication—can serve as a catalyst for passion and deeper connection. Through personal insights and stories from the couples she’s guided, Dr. Alexandra shows how vulnerability opens the door to profound intimacy. You’ll also discover how to welcome this kind of energy, without drama, with practices like honest self-expression, playful variety, and creative role-play. In this episode: ...
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246. Beyond Goal-Oriented Intimacy: Why the Journey Is As Important As the Orgasm
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Are you ready for a new perspective on intimacy with your partner? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how true connection flourishes when couples focus on the journey, not the destination. With stories drawn from decades of marriage and metaphors ranging from mountain biking to fine dining, you’ll discover how embracing the richness of each moment deepens love and fulfillment. This conversation is an invitation to move beyond goal-oriented intimacy and instead experience the joy of being fully present with your partner. In this...
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245. Money Dates: Replace Stress and Avoidance with Fun!
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Is there a way to talk about finances that isn’t stressful or disconnecting? Yes — start having regular money dates! In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares how couples can turn financial conversations into intimate, collaborative, and even playful experiences. Inspired by a conversation with her newlywed daughter, Dr. Alexandra offers a simple, flexible framework for celebrating wins, reviewing your finances, and setting meaningful goals together — all while deepening love, trust, and understanding. Whether you’ve been together for a few months or many decades, you’ll...
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244. Why Successful Couples Struggle with Intimacy—and How to Fix It
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
As a successful couple, do you ever wonder why your relationship doesn’t feel as good as it looks? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how competence and shame—two complex forces—can quietly shape your intimate life. Through real client stories and expert insights, Dr. Alexandra reveals why emotional intimacy is the key to lasting passion. Learn how high-achieving couples can move past disconnection and rekindle desire, by developing the skills no one teaches—but everyone needs. Tune in to discover how the Aligned and Hot Marriage...
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243. Popular Marriage Myths That Aren’t True | with Monica Tanner
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Are marriage myths quietly sabotaging your relationship? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell sits down with returning guest Monica Tanner to challenge the most common (and misleading) advice couples are told. From “happy wife, happy life” to “compromise is key,” they unpack why these popular sayings fall short—and what to do instead. If you're ready to trade clichés for true connection, this conversation is for you. Episode highlights: Why “happy wife, happy life” doesn’t lead to a wonderful marriage The power of...
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242. An Easy Way to Improve Your Sex Life: More Sleep
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Did you know better sleep can significantly enhance your sex life? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell delves into the often-overlooked link between rest, desire, and emotional intimacy. You’ll hear how just one extra hour of sleep can increase libido by 14%—and why prioritizing rest is essential for sustaining passion, vitality, and deep connection in your relationship. Tune in and explore how nourishing your body with better sleep awakens more intimacy, joy, and fulfillment in your marriage. Episode Highlights: One extra hour of sleep can...
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241. Why It’s Hard To Initiate Intimacy —And What to Do About It
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
You may think that after years of marriage, intimacy should get easier. After all, you know one another better than anyone, you have a routine. So why is it that for so many couples, sexual intimacy becomes more complicated with time? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why initiating sexual intimacy isn’t always intuitive—even in long-term relationships—and what you can do about it. With a blend of psychological insight and real-world advice, Dr. Alexandra shares why rejection often creates distance and how to shift that pattern. She introduces her five-week...
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240. How to Ask for Sex, Successfully
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Want to learn how to reliably ask for sex in a way that leads to connection instead of rejection? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores this often-overlooked skill. She speaks directly to high-achieving men who struggle with initiating sex and offers a grounded, compassionate approach rooted in respect and emotional intimacy. Once you learn how to ask for sex well, it will transform your intimate life! Dr. Alexandra also shares details about her upcoming masterclass, where you'll learn clear, actionable ways to become more confident and successful in creating more closeness in...
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239. From Roommates to In Love again: How Coaching Transformed our Marriage – with Sebastian Smelko
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Learn how igniting your marriage through relationship coaching enhances everything in life. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell interviews her client Sebastian Smelko—an accomplished lawyer, and a devoted husband and father—about how relationship coaching helped him and his wife turn their “roommate-style” marriage into a deeply connected partnership. Sebastian opens up about the mindset shifts, personal growth, and inner work that reignited his connection with his wife. This is an honest,...
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238. How Power Couples Amplify Intimacy, with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Ever wonder what power couples do differently to thrive in life, and love? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks with Rono Smith and Sierra Sullivan—relationship coaches and visionary partners—about the secrets that transformed their business partnership into a deeply connected marriage. You’ll learn about their Epic Date Formula, how intimacy fuels purpose, and why committed couples are uniquely positioned for personal and professional growth. Whether you’re building a life or a business together, this episode will help you unlock...
info_outlineIn this episode you’ll hear me coach Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin, a polyamorous woman with a podcast focused on polyamory, swinging, and all things related. I was scheduled to be a guest on her show, The Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Podcast, but instead of a typical interview I ended up giving her a coaching session instead!
A week before we spoke, Jennifer faced a major challenge in her relationship. She told her partner that she was interested in dating a couple she knows. Her partner is typically ok with flirting and fun sexy socializing but he did not take well to this idea at all. He immediately rejected it and said he would move out rather than stand by her moving forward with this plan.
Jennifer was faced with three choices: move forward without his permission, leave her partner, or dial down and disconnect from her desires. She chose the third option.
That’s where our conversation begins.
In this unique episode you’ll hear:
- How I coached Jennifer and reframed her views on compromise
- The ways Jennifer communicated her desire for polyamorous experiences to her partner
- My advice to Jennifer to communicate using curiosity and openness
…plus much more.
The way I coach Jennifer will show you how to feel more connection, more emotional intimacy, and more erotic gratification in your relationship, whether you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, or not.
The Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Podcast
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!
Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.