123. The Emasculation of Men Is Not Necessary: Overcoming Societal Pressures and Finding Authentic Connection in Relationships and Friendships | w/ Connor Beaton
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 04/26/2023
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
What if deeper intimacy begins by facing the emotions you’ve been avoiding? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why avoiding emotional pain is blocking you from true pleasure. Discover how emotional numbness doesn’t just protect you from hurt—it also dulls your capacity for joy, passion, and connection. Learn what it really means to embrace Uncompromising Intimacy and why the courage to feel it all is the key to a more vibrant, emotionally rich relationship. This episode breaks down how: Avoiding pain also blocks pleasure and...
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Is it possible for a long-term marriage to become more fulfilling over time, better than the early years of dating and the newlywed phase? (We’re talking all aspects of marriage, including sex!) In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Drs. Alexandra and Rodd Stockwell share their real-life journey through many phases of their marriage—from tending small children, to the early years of demanding careers, to a deeper, more connected relationship in midlife. Through honest communication and shared effort, they prove that lasting love is something you can cultivate and lean into, as...
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Intentional love isn’t just a goal—it’s a daily practice. Ling and Lamb, married content creators, beloved influencers, and authors, exemplify this through their blend of playful pranks and honest conversations. In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell chats with Ling and Lamb about how they’ve mastered the art of blending humor, culture, extreme differences in upbringing, and deep connection. He grew up in Nigeria. She grew up in Connecticut. They have had to learn SO MUCH about one another in order to enjoy a vibrant intimate marriage. Now their...
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Craving more presence, passion, and real connection in your relationship? This episode is your gentle nudge to slow down, truly show up, and deepen intimacy in a meaningful way. In today’s episode, Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the issue of modern technology and other common distractions that pull us away from meaningful moments—and shares simple but powerful tools like deep breathing and emotional honesty to bring you back. Learn how being fully present can transform your intimate experiences and help you shift from feeling distracted to deeply connected. In...
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AI offers surprising insights on a whole range of topics, and in this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell describes how to use the principles of AI to improve communication and connection in your marriage. Dr. Alexandra suggests that talking to your partner the way you need to in order to get the best results from AI—with clarity, specificity, and enough details to make the response useful–leads to clear, kind, honest, and connecting communication with your spouse. This results in more emotional closeness and erotic fulfillment. This episode...
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What happens when a couple navigates libido mismatch—and how can they reconnect without feeling broken or disconnected? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with somatic sex therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, MA about overcoming desire differences and reigniting sexual intimacy in marriage. Drawing from her own suffering in a sexless marriage, Susan shares how emotional awareness, communication, and tension release can unlock deeper pleasure and connection. Whether you're navigating mismatched sex drives or simply craving more closeness, this conversation offers real, practical tools...
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Whose needs should you prioritize for a lasting marriage—yours or your spouse's? What if there’s a "third" that matters even more? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares personal reflections on the occasion of her daughter’s wedding, while detailing the powerful concept of “the third”—viewing the marriage itself as a living entity, distinct from each person in it. By prioritizing the relationship over individual needs, couples will deepen intimacy, prevent resentment, and build a lasting partnership. Whether you're newly engaged or decades into marriage, this episode...
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Is altering your state of mind the key to deeper connection and high performance? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with the “Father of Biohacking” and Founder of Bulletproof Coffee, Dave Asprey, about how meditation, biohacking, and consciousness boost personal growth and improve relationships. Drawing from his new book Heavily Meditated, Dave shares tools like the “reset process” to clear emotional triggers, and explores how sexual energy deepens intimacy. He also explains how brief moments of discomfort can boost motivation. This conversation is full of practical tips...
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Are you experiencing true sexual fulfillment—or are you just rushing to the finish line? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell teaches you to slow down and savor each moment, in order to enjoy more pleasure and connection during intimacy. Using the analogy of enjoying delicious chocolate cake, she explores the power of anticipation, mindfulness, and prolonged arousal. Dr. Alexandra shares actionable tips to enhance intimacy, extend build-up, and shift your focus from quick gratification to a more fulfilling, connected sensual experience. Tips in this episode: Anticipate and...
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Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize. In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra...
info_outlineIn this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Connor Beaton, the founder of ManTalks, to discuss the emasculation of men and how they can have real conversations with their partners and friends.
Despite appearing to have a perfect life, Connor hit rock bottom while struggling with addictions and dishonesty. He eventually found a mentor who taught him yoga, psychology, cognitive behavioral therapy, and shadow work. When he opened up to his male friends about his struggles, he found they didn’t know how to respond and were used to conversations which lacked depth and substance. This realization inspired him to create ways for men to connect with one another and their partners, in meaningful ways that don’t compromise their strength.
Connor helps men open up to one another, and their partners, without feeling emasculated. Instead, they flourish from doing so.
Also in this episode:
- How a man can find a mentor
- Struggles with addiction, porn, lying and cheating
- “When the student is ready, the master will appear”
- How a good man finds his voice in marriage
- Men are more isolated than ever and that’s why it’s important for them to be around other men
- The importance of doing shadow work
About Connor Beaton
Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s wellness, success, and fulfillment. He is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host and speaker helping men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. Connor has a no-BS approach coupled with compassionate understanding of our own human limitations. He has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats and masterminds, and has shared the stage with world class speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, Danielle LaPorte, and many more.
Connect With Connor Beaton
mantalks.com/book
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!