136. Juicy, Straightforward, And Sophisticated: A Conversation On Pleasure And Eroticism | w/ Ruan Willow
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 07/26/2023
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info_outlineIn this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra shares a recording of an interview she did with Ruan Willow on her podcast. The episode explores topics such as uncompromising intimacy, libido mismatch, eroticism, and the importance of bringing all elements of oneself to a relationship, including heart, mind, and genitals.
Ruan is an erotica author and a romance novelist, with a smooth silky voice. She’s comfortable talking about all aspects of sex and sexuality and asked some excellent questions, which makes for a deep, precise, and excellent conversation.
Alexandra discusses the concept of responsive desire and how it can help address libido mismatch in couples. She also emphasizes understanding and honoring each partner's needs and desires, and the importance of creating a strong emotional and physical connection.
Also in this episode:
- How to marinate in your sensuality
- Connecting with your hearts and minds
- The difference between unconditional love and conditional love
- The myth of libido mismatch
- How to make sex more inviting
- How to help women get aroused
- Sex toys and orgasm.
- How do you quantify an orgasm?
- Clitoral mapping
About Ruan Willow:
Ruan Willow is an erotica & smut author and a romance novelist. She hosts the podcast Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow, where she talks about everything to do with sexuality, including tips, advice, and ideas about sexual wellness, does sexual product reviews, and hosts guest interviews. She is also a voiceover narrator so look for her audiobooks hitting the market too. She narrates for other authors and also for her own work. Her books are loaded with sexual content; if that's what you like in your books, her books are for you!
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!
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The Intimate Marriage Podcast, With Intimacy Coach, Alexandra Stockwell, MD