141. The Secrets Of Desire, Arousal & Sexual Well-Being | With Dr. Rachel Rubin
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 08/30/2023
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Emotional strength and grounded presence are essential when initiating sex, in the context of long term relationships. In today’s episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell discusses how boys are raised and how that upbringing sets them up for failure as men. This shifts when men become more comfortable with vulnerability and presence; in the process attraction increases and relational connection deepens, all of which leads to a loving yes from a woman, and more fulfilling sex for both of them. If you’re a man and this resonates with you, join Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s online program, Initiating,...
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Learn to initiate sex without pressure by understanding what truly drives desire in long-term relationships. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares how emotional safety, personal energy, and learnable intimacy skills help men navigate mismatched libido–reducing rejection, and increasing connection with their wives. If you want to learn more, join Dr. Alexandra’s exclusive live masterclass for men: How to Ask for Sex So She’s More Likely to Say Yes. You’ll gain practical tools you can use right away: Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast:...
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My partner doesn’t feel loved—Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why this happens and how to help him feel emotionally seen and cared for without losing yourself in the process. Dr. Alexandra offers a calm, grounded path toward rebuilding desire, understanding, and connection. Give your marriage the gift of deeper connection this holiday season. 💞 Start building more intimacy today with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell’s Intimate Connection, the Relationship App for Committed Couples💞 👉 Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: | | Connect...
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Nice Guy Syndrome influences your relationship more than you may realize, and in this conversation Dr. Robert Glover joins Dr. Alexandra Stockwell to break down why it kills attraction and what men can do to show up with authenticity, confidence, and real connection. If you want a relationship that feels alive, honest, and deeply intimate, this episode gives you the tools to shift old patterns and create the partnership you want. About Dr. Glover: Dr. Robert Glover has over 40 years of professional experience as a relationship therapist and men’s coach. He specializes in helping...
info_outlineAlexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Rachel Rubin, a renowned urologist and sexual medicine specialist, to discuss sexual medicine, as well as the art/science driving sexual desire.
Dr. Rubin emphasizes the vital importance of a biopsychosocial approach to sexual medicine, highlighting the significance of understanding a patient's background and their goals for enhancing their quality of life. She defines sexual medicine, discusses when to seek help and addresses issues like low desire and arousal. Dr. Rubin recommends various treatment options, including the use of devices (ie. vibrators) for enhancing intimacy. The conversation takes a personal turn as she shares she’s happily married with a supportive partner.
Also in this episode:
- How do you define sexual medicine?
- Why Dr. Rubin considers herself a sex detective
- Low desire is a common problem for both men and women
- Why it’s important to ask patients about libido, masturbation techniques, cultural and religious issues, and childhood trauma
- Erectile dysfunction is a marker for cardiovascular disease in men and women
- Where to find more information about sexual health products
- How our personal experiences influence our practice of medicine
About Dr. Rachel Rubin:
Dr. Rachel Rubin is a board-certified urologist and sexual medicine specialist. She is an assistant clinical professor of Urology at Georgetown University and owns her private practice in the Washington DC region. She is one of only a handful of physicians fellowship trained in both male and female sexual medicine. Dr. Rubin is a clinician, researcher, and vocal educator in the field of sexual medicine. She completed her medical and undergraduate training at Tufts University, her urology training at Georgetown University, and her fellowship training under Dr. Irwin Goldstein in San Diego. In addition to being the education chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), she also serves as an Associate Editor for the Journal Sexual Medicine Reviews. Her work has been featured in the NYT, PBS and NPR.
Connect With Dr. Rachel Rubin
Rachelrubinmd.com | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Threads
Links mentioned in the episode:
Promescent Devices | Mystery Vibe
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Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD:
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Download the first chapter of Dr. Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book
Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully. www.alignedhotmarriage.com
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About Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.
For over two decades, she’s been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!
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The Intimate Marriage Podcast, With Intimacy Coach, Alexandra Stockwell, MD