209. Overcome Intimacy Blockers: Letting go of Resistance to Embrace Passion, with Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 12/18/2024
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
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info_outlineMany couples deal with a variety of intimacy blockers, resulting in diminished intimacy and erosion of passion. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, host Alexandra Stockwell MD, delves into this topic with guests Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clark. The discussion covers key aspects of intimate relationships including attachment styles, boundaries, and ways to sustain meaningful connection. They offer actionable strategies to overcome barriers like emotional discomfort, attachment challenges, and misperceptions of failure. Drawing from personal experiences and professional expertise, they unpack the psychology of sexual dynamics, explore how to shift from feeling pressure to enjoying connection, and share practical techniques to nurture lasting passion and fulfillment in long-term relationships.
Also in this episode:
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Intimate relationships serve as potent avenues for personal growth, providing unique opportunities for self-discovery and development.
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Managing pressure in sexual encounters involves recognizing and naming feelings, allowing partners to alleviate stress and foster genuine connection.
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Understanding distinct attachment styles and boundaries significantly contributes to a relationship's health and longevity.
About the Guests:
Dr. Alison Ash, known as Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator, and author, as well as a Stanford University Lecturer. With a PhD in Sociology from Stanford, Dr. Aly has deep expertise in the societal challenges that contribute to disempowering and unsatisfying intimate experiences. She is the founder of TurnON.love, a platform dedicated to empowering individuals and couples through intimacy coaching and education. Dr. Aly brings extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, the Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and the Somatica Method to help her clients navigate complex emotional landscapes.
Sebastian is a skilled sex and intimacy coach and educator with nearly two decades of experience. Trained by The Sexual Health Alliance, Seb specializes in helping individuals, particularly those who are neurodiverse, express their needs and cultivate healthy relationships. His work centers on trauma-informed approaches to communication, intimacy, and nervous system regulation. Together, Dr. Aly and Seb empower people to create fulfilling and authentic intimate experiences with compassion and understanding.
Check out Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course at www.TurnON.love/intimacy. Use the discount code "intimatemarriage" for $75 off!
For her Sustainable Intimacy course visit www.TurnON.love/sustainable-intimacy.
For on-demand workshops visit www.TurnON.love/workshops
Finally for intimacy coaching, visit www.TurnON.love/coaching
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