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228. Sex & Porn Addiction in High Performers with Roland Cochrun: What You Need to Know

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Release Date: 04/30/2025

246. Beyond Goal-Oriented Intimacy: Why the Journey Is As Important As the Orgasm

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Are you ready for a new perspective on intimacy with your partner? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how true connection flourishes when couples focus on the journey, not the destination. With stories drawn from decades of marriage and metaphors ranging from mountain biking to fine dining, you’ll discover how embracing the richness of each moment deepens love and fulfillment. This conversation is an invitation to move beyond goal-oriented intimacy and instead experience the joy of being fully present with your partner. In this...

245. Money Dates: Replace Stress and Avoidance with Fun!

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Is there a way to talk about finances that isn’t stressful or disconnecting? Yes — start having regular money dates! In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares how couples can turn financial conversations into intimate, collaborative, and even playful experiences. Inspired by a conversation with her newlywed daughter, Dr. Alexandra offers a simple, flexible framework for celebrating wins, reviewing your finances, and setting meaningful goals together — all while deepening love, trust, and understanding. Whether you’ve been together for a few months or many decades, you’ll...

244. Why Successful Couples Struggle with Intimacy—and How to Fix It

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

As a successful couple, do you ever wonder why your relationship doesn’t feel as good as it looks? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how competence and shame—two complex forces—can quietly shape your intimate life. Through real client stories and expert insights, Dr. Alexandra reveals why emotional intimacy is the key to lasting passion. Learn how high-achieving couples can move past disconnection and rekindle desire, by developing the skills no one teaches—but everyone needs. Tune in to discover how the Aligned and Hot Marriage...

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Are marriage myths quietly sabotaging your relationship? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell sits down with returning guest Monica Tanner to challenge the most common (and misleading) advice couples are told. From “happy wife, happy life” to “compromise is key,” they unpack why these popular sayings fall short—and what to do instead. If you're ready to trade clichés for true connection, this conversation is for you. Episode highlights: Why “happy wife, happy life” doesn’t lead to a wonderful marriage The power of...

242. An Easy Way to Improve Your Sex Life: More Sleep

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Did you know better sleep can significantly enhance your sex life? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell delves into the often-overlooked link between rest, desire, and emotional intimacy. You’ll hear how just one extra hour of sleep can increase libido by 14%—and why prioritizing rest is essential for sustaining passion, vitality, and deep connection in your relationship. Tune in and explore how nourishing your body with better sleep awakens more intimacy, joy, and fulfillment in your marriage. Episode Highlights: One extra hour of sleep can...

241. Why It’s Hard To Initiate Intimacy —And What to Do About It

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

You may think that after years of marriage, intimacy should get easier. After all, you know one another better than anyone, you have a routine. So why is it that for so many couples, sexual intimacy becomes more complicated with time? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why initiating sexual intimacy isn’t always intuitive—even in long-term relationships—and what you can do about it. With a blend of psychological insight and real-world advice, Dr. Alexandra shares why rejection often creates distance and how to shift that pattern. She introduces her five-week...

240. How to Ask for Sex, Successfully

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Want to learn how to reliably ask for sex in a way that leads to connection instead of rejection? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores this often-overlooked skill. She speaks directly to high-achieving men who struggle with initiating sex and offers a grounded, compassionate approach rooted in respect and emotional intimacy. Once you learn how to ask for sex well, it will transform your intimate life! Dr. Alexandra also shares details about her upcoming masterclass, where you'll learn clear, actionable ways to become more confident and successful in creating more closeness in...

239. From Roommates to In Love again: How Coaching Transformed our Marriage – with Sebastian Smelko

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Learn how igniting your marriage through relationship coaching enhances everything in life. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell interviews her client Sebastian Smelko—an accomplished lawyer, and a devoted husband and father—about how relationship coaching helped him and his wife turn their “roommate-style” marriage into a deeply connected partnership. Sebastian opens up about the mindset shifts, personal growth, and inner work that reignited his connection with his wife. This is an honest,...

238. How Power Couples Amplify Intimacy, with Sierra Sullivan & Rono Smith

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Ever wonder what power couples do differently to thrive in life, and love? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks with Rono Smith and Sierra Sullivan—relationship coaches and visionary partners—about the secrets that transformed their business partnership into a deeply connected marriage. You’ll learn about their Epic Date Formula, how intimacy fuels purpose, and why committed couples are uniquely positioned for personal and professional growth. Whether you’re building a life or a business together, this episode will help you unlock...

237. My Top Tip to Access Deeper Intimacy

The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

What if deeper intimacy begins by facing the emotions you’ve been avoiding? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores why avoiding emotional pain is blocking you from true pleasure. Discover how emotional numbness doesn’t just protect you from hurt—it also dulls your capacity for joy, passion, and connection. Learn what it really means to embrace Uncompromising Intimacy and why the courage to feel it all is the key to a more vibrant, emotionally rich relationship. This episode breaks down how: Avoiding pain also blocks pleasure and...

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Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize.

In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra and Roland explore why high achievers are especially vulnerable to these compulsions, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and why many of these behaviors are deeply misunderstood. Roland offers powerful guidance for healing, challenges societal norms around sex and desire, and encourages a new narrative of recovery, responsibility, and reconnection.

Also in this episode:

What Process Addiction Is: Being hooked on mental patterns and habits, not substances like drugs or alcohol.
How It Affects Relationships: A partner’s porn addiction can feel like betrayal and cause emotional pain.
Challenging Norms: Society’s views on sex and porn aren’t always healthy—it's important to question them.
The Role of Self-Awareness: Recognizing your own patterns is key to breaking free from addiction.
Moral and Legal Questions: Roland challenges the ethics of porn and strip clubs, comparing them to modern slavery.

About The Guest:

Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs. As a recovering sex addict himself, Roland found blind spots in the treatment of process addiction, especially as it applies to successful men. Roland hopes to shine a light on a preventable issue that is destroying couples and families all over the world.

Connect with Roland:

Get his latest book: The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction

Website: The Successful Addict

YouTube: The Successful Addict

Listen to the previous interview with Roland Cochrun: “Sex and Success”: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/the-hidden-addictions-of-high-performers/

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