loader from loading.io

S3E18 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Nature/Nurture Balance Behind Kids’ Behavior

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

Release Date: 12/09/2025

S3E27 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Power Struggles in Child-Centered Play Therapy show art S3E27 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Power Struggles in Child-Centered Play Therapy

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I focus on power and control — one of the most common reasons children enter child-centered play therapy. I explain why kids who constantly push, demand, and fight for control are not being manipulative or defiant, but are responding to a deep sense of powerlessness in their lives. Children have very little control over their daily world, and when circumstances feel overwhelming or unpredictable, they grab control wherever they can. I walk through how power and control struggles show up in the playroom and how CCPT allows...

info_outline
S3E26 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Anxiety in Child-Centered Play Therapy show art S3E26 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Understanding Anxiety in Child-Centered Play Therapy

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I focus on anxiety — one of the most common reasons parents seek child-centered play therapy for their children. I explain how anxiety usually isn’t something that suddenly appears, but instead reflects an underlying predisposition that has been present for a long time. Often, a single event brings that anxiety to the surface, and from there, children begin fearing the fear itself. As anxiety increases, so does a child’s need for control, which is why anxiety and power struggles so often show up together. I walk through...

info_outline
S3E25 - “That’s Mine!” Understanding Possessive Behavior in Kids show art S3E25 - “That’s Mine!” Understanding Possessive Behavior in Kids

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I answer a question from Melissa about children who are possessive of their things and struggle with sharing. I explain why phrases like “that’s mine” are often tied to power and control, and why this behavior is also developmentally appropriate, especially for younger children. Kids only have control over a few areas of their lives, so when they feel powerless, they grab control wherever they can — including toys and people. Understanding this helps parents respond without frustration or shame. I walk through how to use reflection of feeling, choice giving, and clear...

info_outline
S3E24 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Layers of an Onion-How Children Work Through Issues in Play Therapy show art S3E24 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Layers of an Onion-How Children Work Through Issues in Play Therapy

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the idea of layers of an onion and how it helps parents understand what’s really happening as children work through challenges in child-centered play therapy. Each issue a child brings — anxiety, control, regulation, self-esteem, fear — is its own layer, but none of them exist in isolation. They are all connected and influence each other as part of the child’s overall growth. I walk through how these layers develop and shift together over time, alongside the four universal outcomes of play therapy. When a child...

info_outline
S3E23 - How to Respond When Children Are Put in the Middle of a Divorce and Conflicting Messages show art S3E23 - How to Respond When Children Are Put in the Middle of a Divorce and Conflicting Messages

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I answer a question from a mom navigating a difficult co-parenting situation during divorce. Her young children are repeating things they’ve been told at the other parent’s house — including statements that aren’t true and comments that put them in the middle of adult conflict. I explain why shielding children from divorce details is not only appropriate, but essential for their emotional safety, and why kids should never feel responsible for adult problems. I walk through child-centered ways to respond when children repeat things they shouldn’t know or accuse a...

info_outline
S3E22 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids’ Brains Work Differently in Therapy show art S3E22 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids’ Brains Work Differently in Therapy

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain how a child’s brain works differently from an adult’s brain in therapy — and why that difference matters so much. Many parents assume therapy is therapy, but children don’t process experiences through logic, language, or abstract thinking the way adults do. I compare adult brains to waffles and children’s brains to cooked spaghetti to show how adults can compartmentalize issues, while children experience everything as connected and happening all at once. I walk through why verbal prompts and talk-based therapy...

info_outline
S3E21 - Helping Kids Speak Up in Co-Parenting Situations show art S3E21 - Helping Kids Speak Up in Co-Parenting Situations

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I answer a question from Deborah about co-parenting, shared custody, and how to support a 12-year-old who doesn’t want to go back and forth between homes. I explain why, even at this age, kids are still not comfortable using words to handle emotionally charged situations, especially when feelings are involved. Expecting a child to clearly and calmly advocate for themselves in a tense relational situation often reflects adulthood bias, not developmental reality. I walk through why it still matters for the child’s voice to be heard, but how parents can support that in...

info_outline
S3E20 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy (How Child-Centered Play Therapy Changes the Story) show art S3E20 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy (How Child-Centered Play Therapy Changes the Story)

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy and how it shapes a child’s behavior, identity, and sense of self. Children often become what the people in their lives expect them to be — not because those expectations are spoken directly, but because they’re communicated through tone, reactions, labels, and assumptions. I talk about how easily children become branded as “the bad kid,” “the quiet kid,” or “the problem kid,” and how those expectations quietly limit who they believe they can become. I also...

info_outline
S3E19 - Sibling Jealousy: A Middle-Child Perspective show art S3E19 - Sibling Jealousy: A Middle-Child Perspective

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode, I answer a question from Kylee about sibling jealousy — specifically how her seven-year-old daughter reacts during her siblings’ birthdays. I explain how birth order plays a significant role in this dynamic and why middle children often struggle with attention and identity. I walk through how jealousy fits into the bigger picture of being “the forgotten child” in a family of five, and why her daughter’s reactions make sense developmentally. I also share practical steps to reduce jealousy and strengthen connection, including building in weekly one-on-one time with...

info_outline
S3E18 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Nature/Nurture Balance Behind Kids’ Behavior show art S3E18 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Nature/Nurture Balance Behind Kids’ Behavior

Play Therapy Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about nature versus nurture and how both play a meaningful role in the behaviors parents often seek therapy for. I explain the difference between a child’s inborn personality traits (nature) and the experiences that shape them over time (nurture), and why many struggles — anxiety, control, sensory sensitivities, aggression, timidity — usually reflect both at work. I walk through how child-centered play therapy honors who a child naturally is while helping them regain regulation when life experiences have pushed their...

info_outline
 
More Episodes

In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about nature versus nurture and how both play a meaningful role in the behaviors parents often seek therapy for. I explain the difference between a child’s inborn personality traits (nature) and the experiences that shape them over time (nurture), and why many struggles — anxiety, control, sensory sensitivities, aggression, timidity — usually reflect both at work.

I walk through how child-centered play therapy honors who a child naturally is while helping them regain regulation when life experiences have pushed their tendencies beyond what they can manage on their own. The goal of CCPT is never to change a child’s personality; it’s to help them function well, stay regulated, and prevent natural traits from becoming overwhelming. This episode helps parents understand why their child may be struggling, why it’s not their fault, and how therapy supports a healthy return to balance.

Ask Me Questions:  Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com
My Book: Device Detox: A Parent's Guide To Reducing Usage, Preventing Tantrums, And Raising Happier Kids - https://a.co/d/bThnKH9
Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/
My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/
My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/

Common References:
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge.