Connecting To Your Sensuality with Tamar Gail

In this episode, Aaron talks with Tamar Gail, a Tantric Life Coach, about how to connect with your sensuality and have a better conscious sex life.

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Show Notes

 

00:24 min Aaron Talks

What could you know that would help your relationship’s intimacy and deepen your sex life? 

 

What does conscious sex even look like? 

 

These questions drove me to want to have a conversation with my new friend and sex healer/coach Tamar Gail..

 

Often when the issues around sex occur or stops all together.. thats a pretty good sign the relationship is moving away from being connected..

 

Wherever your at.. theres a-lot of things we tell ourselves around sex..

 

Maybe you’ve had a bad experience around sex and so you wrote it off. 

 

Maybe you’re putting up with unwanted terrible sex in your relationship and you want to go deeper.

 

Maybe you’ve come to believe that sex is bad or a taboo topic.

 

Or some other limiting belief around it.

 

Maybe after a bad experience sex and you’re trying to tap back into your sexuality. 

 

Maybe you’ve been scarred from a relationship around sex and trusting someone

 

Maybe you are a woman and you haven’t really had the chance to experience deep connected sex and intimacy. 

 

I really wanted to reframe this idea that sex is scary for some, self medicating for others, or that it’s taboo to explore your own sexuality. 

 

Tamar has had a lot of experience working with women about what women really need from a conscious sex life.

 

She helps women tap into their sensual nature, heal from sexual trauma, and bridge the spiritual and the sexual.

 

So anyway.. i thought i’d ask her

If you feel like anything I’ve said is for you, well then this conversation is for you..

 

 

Conversation:

 

2:50 min

• What do women really need from men in the bedroom?

• Women miss sensuality and have a deeper connection

• Ask men to do something different can challenging to the mens ego

 

5:30 min

• Navigating conversations around sex

• A lot of men are in there heads instead of their body

• Learning and be willing to practice sex to get back in their bodies

 

8:18 min

• Focusing on your breathe can get you more in your heart

• Women connect in their heart and in their breasts first

• Its a conscious practice being aware of every aspect of it

 

10:20 min 

• Important to be aware of the women, in order for her to open up she has to feel safe

• Men can connect better with women is with there presence

 

12:20 min 

• Is Aaron asking digging to deep?

• Aaron explains connecting his mindfulness

 

14:00 min

• What’s really going on when we’re having sex

• How do we get men out of there head fantasies

• Younger years men want to get it out

• Healthy/Conscious sex

• Everything is fair as along as they are agreed upon

 

 

16:15 min 

• Connected sex vs connect sex

• Chemicals bonding us in sex

• Unlearning unhealthy bonds

• Either your a psychopath or Buddha

 

 

18 min

• Tamar speaks on women bonding in sex

• Swamping DNA and energy during sex

• It can be damaging to have multiple partners

• Women have the ability to hold energy for up to 7 years

 

 

 

19:30 min

• Womb work

• Staying independent with your energy

• Meditations to have healing sex and create alchemy

• Clearing sex trauma and becoming more of yourself

 

 

21:15 min

• Making sense of the functional and the spiritual

• Being the observer of your energy

• The energy arc between women’s nipples

 

 

23:30 min

• Clouded judgment around relationships

• Clearing everything from the past and getting in touch with your intuition

• The more we are in touch with our intuition the better we are in life with people, relationships and sex

 

 

24:45 min

• People can get lost and not choose from an honest place

• You’re not going to be able to experience pleasure if you’re in your head

• Simple movements can be orgasmic

 

27:20 min

• Sex is spiritual

• It takes presence to have a better sex life

• Sensuality is connecting your senses

 

29 min

• Getting more spicy with practices

• Kissing is very sensual and doesn’t get enough credit

• Actually use your senses

• Blindfolding and heightening other senses

 

30:50 min

• the feather works to bring out more senses

• Yab Yum position, breathing can bring you closer together

• Your body knows and you can trust

 

32:15  

• Sexy food for thought

• Feeling like you want more out of your sex life

• Embodiment practices

• Teaching ways to connect and go deeper, conscious sexuality, and

• You can connect with Tamar @holy_erotic on IG

 

34:30 min 

• Real orgasm vs an energetic orgasm

• You can release traumas in the body

• You might cry, laugh or have an orgasm

 

35:40 min

• Opening up other aspects of life with your sensuality

• Your radiance can attract the good in bad, and the practices help strengthening your boundaries

• Work can take off

• Dropping back into the energy

• Tamar is starting her own podcast of erotic poetry called “The Holy Erotic”

 

38:50 min

Thanks for listening to TKOL Podcast.

 

Please leave a review if you had any “Ah-ha” moments or rethought something around sex.

 

If you’d like to connect with Tamar you can do so instagram.com/theholyerotic and check out her podcast The Holy Erotic.

 

You can connect with me thekindoflove.com or instagram.com/aarontosti

 

You’ve been listening to TKOL Podcast.

I’m Aaron

Best of Love to You.