Facing Harmful Thoughts and Conversations with Yourself with Tracy-Rose

In this episode Aaron talks with his cousin Tracy-Rose, a trauma and therapy informed mentor, about compulsive thinking, thought patterns, and how to be the observer of your thoughts.  

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Show Notes

:25 min 

Aaron Talks

Sometimes it takes  tragedy strikes until we decide to understand whats happening under the surface and our relationship with ourself. Why do we need to have more self-awareness around our self talk, thought partners, and it’s effecting our self-worth.

 

When we break through the awareness of how our thoughts are effecting are lives then we can change. It changes our compulsive thinking, addictions, attachments to unhealthy things and can even shift our self worth when we recognize the harmful conversations we are having with ourselves. 

 

I brought my therapy and trauma-informed cousin Tracy-Rose to talk about some these deeper truths and self-awareness topics. This first Part we talk  about mindfulness, addiction, compulsive thinking, not taking things personally, and facing second guessing and the inner critic.. 

 

It’s about changing your inner world before  you change your outer world. 

 

2 min 

Aaron shares a bit of his story about having better self-talk and how he quit smoking around observing his thought patterns and self-talk. 

It became a way to not react off of every thought, and take more control of yourself. 

 

4:30 min

Tracy -Rose mentions involuntary thoughts, ADHD, and OCD being common terms we use around thought patterns. Its the mind overthinking and going, going, going. We can be taken hostage by our minds.

 

Tracy says addictions are us self-medicating on things you think you have control over, but really it has control over you 

 

6:30 min

It takes slowing down and observing thoughts. Tracy thought every thought she had to believe and she had to react to them. She didn’t understand the connection at from. 

Aaron talks about not only observing your thoughts, but then starting to observing your feelings. He shares a story about he had an involuntary thought that he was weird, like an inner bully.

10 min 

What do you do with these involuntary thoughts. How would you talk to yourself if you were being bullied?

Tracy says our thoughts do have any impact until we put meaning to them. She hears the word “weird” and thinks that cool. Aaron heard it 

Tracy explains DBT ( after the interview she correct that and she meant CBT). Its basically mindfulness. Your experiences reinforce your thoughts until you take control of them.

 

14 min

Tracy-Rose talks about having reactions and not taking things personally. 

Usually our involuntary thoughts come from  something in our environment, even on an unconscious level. 

 

16 min

Coffee shops are social anxiety inducing, everyone’s checking in and seeing whats going on while getting hopped up on coffee. Aaron says it’s like a daytime sober bar. 

Second guess or self judging is normal. 

Reevaluating social cues and interaction since 2020 because we’ve been hibernating and told to stay home and be anti-social. 

17:45 min

Closing

Thanks for Listening to TKOL Podcast. Please leave a review and let us know if you had an “ah-ha” moments.

Stay tuned for the next episode Tracy and Aaron Talk about Dating, Attraction and Attachment styles after 2020.

You can connect with Tracy-Rose  here instagram.com/salveofthecircle

If you’re struggling in harmful relationship patterns and want to claim your self-worth. You can connect with me here thekindoflove.com

 

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I’m Aaron.

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