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The Parent Practice Podcast

Release Date: 01/31/2020

The Upsides of Enforced Slowness in Lockdown with Carl Honoré TPPP36 show art The Upsides of Enforced Slowness in Lockdown with Carl Honoré TPPP36

The Parent Practice Podcast

If you’re feeling really over the whole pandemic thing this episode will lift your spirits. The Covid-19 pandemic has certainly changed our lives. We’ve been forced to accept changes to the way we live in order to try to control the disease, some of which have been inconvenient, to say the least. Some families have found the enforced lockdown extremely difficult and for some isolation has really affected their mental wellbeing. But it hasn’t been all bad. Carl Honoré has written extensively about the benefits of slowing down –he calls it embracing our ‘inner tortoise’ - and...

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Juliet Richards - Navigating Anxiety TPPP35 show art Juliet Richards - Navigating Anxiety TPPP35

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We are all aware that anxiety is a growing problem amongst our littlies, our tweens and our teens, and a recent Bristol University Longitudinal study ( ALPSAC) has identified that anxiety amongst our young people, children and teenagers has risen over the past 3 months of the pandemic from 13% to 24% during the crisis. So this podcast helps parents understand it and most importantly gives some top tips re what can be done to manage anxiety, reduce stress and how to respond to it. Our guest today is Juliet Richards, who has been part of the facilitation team here at The Parent Practice since...

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Some of you will have children who have already returned to school, albeit part time, and some of you will have children who will be returning for the first time in September, so this episode has relevance for everybody whatever transition you are going through. Some children are terribly excited about going back and some are quite apprehensive. And parents may have mixed feelings too. Our guest today is Louise Treherne who is Head of Character Education at ‘Role Models’, an organisation which supports children to be resilient and creative problem solvers. Louise has a degree in...

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Michele Borba - Raising empathetic children in an all-about-me world TPPP33 show art Michele Borba - Raising empathetic children in an all-about-me world TPPP33

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There is no doubt that in this era of the Covid-19 pandemic there has been a huge amount of uncertainty and with that some anxiety. You may be feeling some anxiety yourself and perhaps your children are too. Well, the antidote to stress is empathy and our guest today has many, many ideas about how you can build empathy in your children. Dr. Michele Borba is an educational psychologist and former classroom teacher who is recognised globally as a parenting, bullying and character expert whose aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience, and break the cycle of youth violence. She is...

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Alex Webb - Understanding self for future happiness and success TPPP32 show art Alex Webb - Understanding self for future happiness and success TPPP32

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Alex Webb is an experienced coach and facilitator, working with young people on an individual basis and in teams to become resilient leaders. Alex focuses on behaviour change, self-awareness and the understanding of self. Her belief is that if you understand yourself, you can then understand others, allowing you to adapt your behaviour to improve relationships. Her business is called Flying Start and she has been working with The Princes Trust to help young adults with leadership skills and confidence in their Future Leaders Programme. They help young people understand the future of work and...

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You may have been provoked by the recent death of George Floyd at the hands of a white police officer in Minnesota or by similar events in the UK and Australia, and elsewhere, to think really hard about racism. Were you galvanised into taking part in a protest against racism and against police brutality? Are you wondering how to bring up your children not only to not be racist themselves but to be outraged by discrimination on the basis of skin colour and to speak out against it? If you want to raise children who are going to be kinder, more tolerant adults who will create a better future for...

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Do you have a child for whom there is a disconnect between level of intelligence and academic performance? Do you have a teen who has issues with time management, who can’t get up in the morning? Maybe you’ve even got a young adult who is struggling now that the scaffolding of school has been taken away and they’re trying to manage on their own at university. Do you have a child with a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD or any other neurodiverse condition? Chances are he has executive function challenges. To function in the 21st century with everything we’re juggling we need to have finely tuned...

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Pam Custers - The Primary Relationship is with the Parents not the Children TPPP29 show art Pam Custers - The Primary Relationship is with the Parents not the Children TPPP29

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Conflict is normal in a healthy relationship, and relationships have definitely been feeling the strain in lockdown as we’re in each other’s company 24/7 and the division of responsibility in the family around childcare, supervision of schoolwork and domestic duties becomes strained. Parents are used to putting the children first but our guest today believes that the primary relationship is between the adults. The couple relationship can get lost if parents become a child-rearing unit. This episode looks at how we can communicate our needs in an effective way, Pam Custers is an experienced...

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Elizabeth Fletcher - Parenting Apart in Lockdown TPPP28 show art Elizabeth Fletcher - Parenting Apart in Lockdown TPPP28

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Right now every couple relationship is being stress-tested. Being forced into close proximity with your other half 24/7 and with other possible anxieties  around work and finances and child care and education and concerns about your own and others’ health may mean that cracks are developing. If your relationship was already under strain before the arrival of this coronavirus it may have reached breaking point now. If you’re listening to this particular episode presumably you have an interest in helping children deal with the breakdown of a relationship, whether that is something that...

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Those of us working in the coaching space right now know that many parents are feeling overwhelmed, stressed and depleted as our expectations of ourselves are through the roof. We’re supervising learning at home and many of us are working from home too; we’re getting the kids off electronic devices and coaxing them to take some exercise; we’re sorting out sibling squabbles and getting them to make their beds and put their clothes in the laundry basket, while also cleaning, shopping and cooking, all in closer proximity to our partners than usual. Never before has the phrase “For better,...

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This week’s episode is with Christina McGhee, a Divorce coach and parenting educator, speaker, coach and author. You may know about her through the Channel 4 series How to divorce without screwing up your children.

She also contributed to the documentary  SPLIT, a film  offering an unfiltered look at how kids really feel about divorce.

Christina helped UK-based family law organisation, Resolution, create the first version of the Parenting After Parting course which The Parent Practice have just revised and presented in London with Family Lawyers in Partnership.

Christina is the author of Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids

Most recently Christina released Coparenting With Purpose an online course for separating and divorced parents that offers practical solutions and strategies to help parents manage their most critical co-parenting challenges.

She is a mum of four and bonus mum as well and says she is doing on the job training as a chauffeur, negotiator, short order cook and scheduler extraordinaire! She is the child of divorced parents herself.  She speaks about her own experience of divorce at 14 years old and remembers clearly the impact of her parents’ way of handling it, which was to not talk about it. Read more about how Christina’s own experience of divorce affected her here.


Listen to this episode with Christina McGhee if you want to learn:

  • Some practical ways to navigate a positive course through separation and divorce
  • About the impact of the stress of divorce on the brain’s functioning and how to alleviate this
  • How to avoid some of the common mistakes parents make after the breakdown of their relationship
  • How to put children in front of mind throughout the uncoupling process
  • How to behave in ways that your children will look back on with pride
  • How to establish a two home concept; a warm, loving and connected relationship with both parents
  • How to be a business partner with your ex, even though the marriage relationship has gone
  • Why it is that the child’s self-esteem is damaged every time they hear one parent denigrate the other
  • What parental alienation syndrome really means and how to distinguish that from the child’s own choice to distance themselves from a parent because of the parent’s actions. Christina is clear that PAS needs professional support
  • Why a parent shouldn’t distance themselves from the children in the belief that they’re being respectful of the child’s wishes
  • When and how to tell the kids that mum and dad have decided they should no longer be together
  • How to deal with practical things like family holidays and handovers, schedules and communicating, including use of co-parenting apps such as Familywizard
  • That while you may not have the ability to make things better you always have the ability to make things worse… so don’t!

In our celebration of vulnerability and perfect imperfection Christina shares with us a Low Parenting Moment of her own which prompted she and her husband to join a parenting group which she describes as a gamechanger.

And Christina also shares her top tip for raising children to be confident, happy and successful even if their parents’ relationship ends

Links

To get in touch with Christina:

Website: www.divorceandchildren.com

twitter: @christinamcghee

facebook: @divorceandchildren

linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinamcghee/?locale=en_US

Co-parenting with purpose course:  https://www.flourishtogether.com/catalog/coparentingwithpurpose.html?s=10816