The Upsides of Enforced Slowness in Lockdown with Carl Honoré TPPP36
The Parent Practice Podcast
If you’re feeling really over the whole pandemic thing this episode will lift your spirits. The Covid-19 pandemic has certainly changed our lives. We’ve been forced to accept changes to the way we live in order to try to control the disease, some of which have been inconvenient, to say the least. Some families have found the enforced lockdown extremely difficult and for some isolation has really affected their mental wellbeing. But it hasn’t been all bad. Carl Honoré has written extensively about the benefits of slowing down –he calls it embracing our ‘inner tortoise’ - and...
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Juliet Richards - Navigating Anxiety TPPP35
The Parent Practice Podcast
We are all aware that anxiety is a growing problem amongst our littlies, our tweens and our teens, and a recent Bristol University Longitudinal study ( ALPSAC) has identified that anxiety amongst our young people, children and teenagers has risen over the past 3 months of the pandemic from 13% to 24% during the crisis. So this podcast helps parents understand it and most importantly gives some top tips re what can be done to manage anxiety, reduce stress and how to respond to it. Our guest today is Juliet Richards, who has been part of the facilitation team here at The Parent Practice since...
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Louise Treherne - Helping Children Cope with the Return to School TPPP34
The Parent Practice Podcast
Some of you will have children who have already returned to school, albeit part time, and some of you will have children who will be returning for the first time in September, so this episode has relevance for everybody whatever transition you are going through. Some children are terribly excited about going back and some are quite apprehensive. And parents may have mixed feelings too. Our guest today is Louise Treherne who is Head of Character Education at ‘Role Models’, an organisation which supports children to be resilient and creative problem solvers. Louise has a degree in...
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Michele Borba - Raising empathetic children in an all-about-me world TPPP33
The Parent Practice Podcast
There is no doubt that in this era of the Covid-19 pandemic there has been a huge amount of uncertainty and with that some anxiety. You may be feeling some anxiety yourself and perhaps your children are too. Well, the antidote to stress is empathy and our guest today has many, many ideas about how you can build empathy in your children. Dr. Michele Borba is an educational psychologist and former classroom teacher who is recognised globally as a parenting, bullying and character expert whose aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience, and break the cycle of youth violence. She is...
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Alex Webb - Understanding self for future happiness and success TPPP32
The Parent Practice Podcast
Alex Webb is an experienced coach and facilitator, working with young people on an individual basis and in teams to become resilient leaders. Alex focuses on behaviour change, self-awareness and the understanding of self. Her belief is that if you understand yourself, you can then understand others, allowing you to adapt your behaviour to improve relationships. Her business is called Flying Start and she has been working with The Princes Trust to help young adults with leadership skills and confidence in their Future Leaders Programme. They help young people understand the future of work and...
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Dr Laura Markham -We need to talk about racism - TPPP31
The Parent Practice Podcast
You may have been provoked by the recent death of George Floyd at the hands of a white police officer in Minnesota or by similar events in the UK and Australia, and elsewhere, to think really hard about racism. Were you galvanised into taking part in a protest against racism and against police brutality? Are you wondering how to bring up your children not only to not be racist themselves but to be outraged by discrimination on the basis of skin colour and to speak out against it? If you want to raise children who are going to be kinder, more tolerant adults who will create a better future for...
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Victoria Bagnall -Executive Functioning - TPPP30
The Parent Practice Podcast
Do you have a child for whom there is a disconnect between level of intelligence and academic performance? Do you have a teen who has issues with time management, who can’t get up in the morning? Maybe you’ve even got a young adult who is struggling now that the scaffolding of school has been taken away and they’re trying to manage on their own at university. Do you have a child with a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD or any other neurodiverse condition? Chances are he has executive function challenges. To function in the 21st century with everything we’re juggling we need to have finely tuned...
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Pam Custers - The Primary Relationship is with the Parents not the Children TPPP29
The Parent Practice Podcast
Conflict is normal in a healthy relationship, and relationships have definitely been feeling the strain in lockdown as we’re in each other’s company 24/7 and the division of responsibility in the family around childcare, supervision of schoolwork and domestic duties becomes strained. Parents are used to putting the children first but our guest today believes that the primary relationship is between the adults. The couple relationship can get lost if parents become a child-rearing unit. This episode looks at how we can communicate our needs in an effective way, Pam Custers is an experienced...
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Elizabeth Fletcher - Parenting Apart in Lockdown TPPP28
The Parent Practice Podcast
Right now every couple relationship is being stress-tested. Being forced into close proximity with your other half 24/7 and with other possible anxieties around work and finances and child care and education and concerns about your own and others’ health may mean that cracks are developing. If your relationship was already under strain before the arrival of this coronavirus it may have reached breaking point now. If you’re listening to this particular episode presumably you have an interest in helping children deal with the breakdown of a relationship, whether that is something that...
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Sharon Charlton-Thomson - Radical Self care for the real world we live in TPPP27
The Parent Practice Podcast
Those of us working in the coaching space right now know that many parents are feeling overwhelmed, stressed and depleted as our expectations of ourselves are through the roof. We’re supervising learning at home and many of us are working from home too; we’re getting the kids off electronic devices and coaxing them to take some exercise; we’re sorting out sibling squabbles and getting them to make their beds and put their clothes in the laundry basket, while also cleaning, shopping and cooking, all in closer proximity to our partners than usual. Never before has the phrase “For better,...
info_outlineThis week’s episode is with Dr Bettina Hohnen and Jane Gilmour who are both clinical psychologists working with children and young people.
Bettina supports children, young people and families to thrive through strengthening relationships and understanding our brains. She regularly gives talks and runs workshops for parents and teachers on mental health and neuroscience.
Jane is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist at Great Ormond Street Hospital. She has been working therapeutically with young people, families, school staff and adults supporting young people for over 20 years.
Bettina and Jane have recently published a book with their colleague Tara Murphy called The Incredible Teenage Brain: everything you need to know to unlock a teen’s potential. This is a book for adults supporting teenagers which takes cutting edge brain research and puts it into very accessible language, considering what it means in a day to day context for parents, teachers and professionals supporting young people.
If you are a parent of a teenager who appears to have morphed overnight from a quite likeable child into an alien being who is completely self-absorbed and who takes offence at everything you say or if you still have a likeable child who is about to hit puberty this is the episode for you. Bettina and Jane unlock the wonders of the adolescent brain and help parents understand why their teenage children behave the way they do and why they NEED to do so. They help us to see that this period of development is not an aberration, that the teenage brain is not broken, but that it is uniquely adapted for the developmental goals of a teenager and is absolutely fit for purpose.
Listen to this episode with Bettina and Jane if you want to learn:
- About the changes to the teenage brain that make it perfectly adapted to what teenagers need to deal with and learn in adolescence (which is longer than you might think!)
- About the 3 big issues that teens are grappling with:
- Social integration
- Identity
- Separation from families
- Why teenagers need to argue. Yes, need.
- What makes the adolescent brain different from an adult or child’s brain
- About the connection between a teenager’s feelings and learning
- How the teenage brain’s sensitivity to rewards can be utilised for learning through positive reinforcement, especially using social rewards
- How to encourage your teenagers to do the things you think are important by tapping into what motivates them
- Why the urge to be with peers is so strong and how social pain is experienced as strongly as physical pain
- How Carol Dweck’s mindset work applies in a social context and how parents can help their teens develop a growth mindset to deal with social pain. (see module one in our in-person and online courses for how Descriptive Praise helps parents develop a growth mindset)
- About the drive for adolescent novelty-seeking and how to manage teenage risk-taking and in fact encourage teens to take positive risks
- Why teenagers are so thin-skinned. Hint: it’s not ‘just’ down to their hormones. (Top tip: don’t dismiss or minimise your teen’s emotions. See module two in our in-person and online courses on Emotion Coaching to help teens learn to regulate their emotions)
- About the research that shows that parents can be the ‘significant other’ in their child’s life that helps them to deal with the pain of adolescence when we come alongside them
In our celebration of vulnerability and perfect imperfection Bettina and Jane share with us Low Parenting Moments of their own.
And the ladies also share their top tips for raising teens to be confident, happy and successful.
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To get in touch with Bettina and Jane:
Dr Bettina Hohnen
http://www.drbettinahohnen.com/
https://twitter.com/bettinahohnen
Jane Gilmour
https://twitter.com/thechildpsych
twitter @Incredible2019