Melissa and Elaine - How to cope when siblings are cooped up together TPPP20
Release Date: 04/03/2020
The Upsides of Enforced Slowness in Lockdown with Carl Honoré TPPP36
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If you’re feeling really over the whole pandemic thing this episode will lift your spirits. The Covid-19 pandemic has certainly changed our lives. We’ve been forced to accept changes to the way we live in order to try to control the disease, some of which have been inconvenient, to say the least. Some families have found the enforced lockdown extremely difficult and for some isolation has really affected their mental wellbeing. But it hasn’t been all bad. Carl Honoré has written extensively about the benefits of slowing down –he calls it embracing our ‘inner tortoise’ - and...
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Juliet Richards - Navigating Anxiety TPPP35
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We are all aware that anxiety is a growing problem amongst our littlies, our tweens and our teens, and a recent Bristol University Longitudinal study ( ALPSAC) has identified that anxiety amongst our young people, children and teenagers has risen over the past 3 months of the pandemic from 13% to 24% during the crisis. So this podcast helps parents understand it and most importantly gives some top tips re what can be done to manage anxiety, reduce stress and how to respond to it. Our guest today is Juliet Richards, who has been part of the facilitation team here at The Parent Practice since...
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Louise Treherne - Helping Children Cope with the Return to School TPPP34
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Some of you will have children who have already returned to school, albeit part time, and some of you will have children who will be returning for the first time in September, so this episode has relevance for everybody whatever transition you are going through. Some children are terribly excited about going back and some are quite apprehensive. And parents may have mixed feelings too. Our guest today is Louise Treherne who is Head of Character Education at ‘Role Models’, an organisation which supports children to be resilient and creative problem solvers. Louise has a degree in...
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Michele Borba - Raising empathetic children in an all-about-me world TPPP33
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There is no doubt that in this era of the Covid-19 pandemic there has been a huge amount of uncertainty and with that some anxiety. You may be feeling some anxiety yourself and perhaps your children are too. Well, the antidote to stress is empathy and our guest today has many, many ideas about how you can build empathy in your children. Dr. Michele Borba is an educational psychologist and former classroom teacher who is recognised globally as a parenting, bullying and character expert whose aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience, and break the cycle of youth violence. She is...
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Alex Webb - Understanding self for future happiness and success TPPP32
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Alex Webb is an experienced coach and facilitator, working with young people on an individual basis and in teams to become resilient leaders. Alex focuses on behaviour change, self-awareness and the understanding of self. Her belief is that if you understand yourself, you can then understand others, allowing you to adapt your behaviour to improve relationships. Her business is called Flying Start and she has been working with The Princes Trust to help young adults with leadership skills and confidence in their Future Leaders Programme. They help young people understand the future of work and...
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Dr Laura Markham -We need to talk about racism - TPPP31
The Parent Practice Podcast
You may have been provoked by the recent death of George Floyd at the hands of a white police officer in Minnesota or by similar events in the UK and Australia, and elsewhere, to think really hard about racism. Were you galvanised into taking part in a protest against racism and against police brutality? Are you wondering how to bring up your children not only to not be racist themselves but to be outraged by discrimination on the basis of skin colour and to speak out against it? If you want to raise children who are going to be kinder, more tolerant adults who will create a better future for...
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Victoria Bagnall -Executive Functioning - TPPP30
The Parent Practice Podcast
Do you have a child for whom there is a disconnect between level of intelligence and academic performance? Do you have a teen who has issues with time management, who can’t get up in the morning? Maybe you’ve even got a young adult who is struggling now that the scaffolding of school has been taken away and they’re trying to manage on their own at university. Do you have a child with a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD or any other neurodiverse condition? Chances are he has executive function challenges. To function in the 21st century with everything we’re juggling we need to have finely tuned...
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Pam Custers - The Primary Relationship is with the Parents not the Children TPPP29
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Conflict is normal in a healthy relationship, and relationships have definitely been feeling the strain in lockdown as we’re in each other’s company 24/7 and the division of responsibility in the family around childcare, supervision of schoolwork and domestic duties becomes strained. Parents are used to putting the children first but our guest today believes that the primary relationship is between the adults. The couple relationship can get lost if parents become a child-rearing unit. This episode looks at how we can communicate our needs in an effective way, Pam Custers is an experienced...
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Elizabeth Fletcher - Parenting Apart in Lockdown TPPP28
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Right now every couple relationship is being stress-tested. Being forced into close proximity with your other half 24/7 and with other possible anxieties around work and finances and child care and education and concerns about your own and others’ health may mean that cracks are developing. If your relationship was already under strain before the arrival of this coronavirus it may have reached breaking point now. If you’re listening to this particular episode presumably you have an interest in helping children deal with the breakdown of a relationship, whether that is something that...
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Sharon Charlton-Thomson - Radical Self care for the real world we live in TPPP27
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Those of us working in the coaching space right now know that many parents are feeling overwhelmed, stressed and depleted as our expectations of ourselves are through the roof. We’re supervising learning at home and many of us are working from home too; we’re getting the kids off electronic devices and coaxing them to take some exercise; we’re sorting out sibling squabbles and getting them to make their beds and put their clothes in the laundry basket, while also cleaning, shopping and cooking, all in closer proximity to our partners than usual. Never before has the phrase “For better,...
info_outlineDid you know that on average 3-7 year old siblings argue 3 1/2 times an hour, spending about 10 minutes every hour arguing? Given that we’ve all been cooped up together for a while now it may feel even more than that! With different ages and different temperaments all vying for parental attention, not to mention time on scarce devices it might be getting a little tense at home. It may feel like a pressure cooker in your house as the kids start fighting over who’s going to be in charge of the remote control , who gets the laptop first and whose turn it is to take out the rubbish -no surprise if your buttons are getting pushed!
We are all getting triggered by less these days and feeling pretty grumpy sometimes as so much feels beyond our control. And that’s just the adults. Kids are still learning how to get their needs met without attacking each other. It can be really upsetting if the kids are constantly arguing, bickering, calling each other names and fighting over possessions and even more so now when you are juggling working from home and sharing confined space 24/7. But the good news is that there are some things you can do to promote sibling friendliness and effective ways of teaching kids when things go wrong that don’t involve taking sides and punishing.
Listen to this episode if you want to learn:
- Why siblings fight and how stress can impact on sibling relationships
- How holding an Extraordinary Family Meeting can help family members to voice their feelings and identify trigger points for each of them (click here for a free download of an invitation to an EFM)
- How building quiet time into schedules and having quiet zones can help siblings have some space away from each other
- Why it is important to keep contact with friends and wider family using technology and how to make such interactions work for younger children
- What role rules may have in passing on your values about family interactions and avoiding conflicts over possessions and shared resources
- How adult modelling around respectful communication and dealing with conflict is so crucial. No pressure then!
- How acknowledging a child’s feelings can help avoid battles with siblings in the first place and if they do come into conflict help the children to resolve things themselves
- How appreciating each child uniquely is so important for building self-esteem (and when children feel good about themselves fighting is less likely) and making them aware of how much you value them (so they don’t think you love their sibling more than them). Some examples of descriptive praise:
- Thank you so much Hannah for taking Charlotte out in the garden to let me get on with my work. That was so helpful.
- I see you’ve put the jigsaw puzzle away really carefully Tom. There’s nothing worse than spending hours on a puzzle and then finding there’s one piece missing. You were really careful to put each little piece back in the box.
- I know Harvey’s not really big enough to join in your dinosaur game Alex but it was kind of you to let him hold the tyrannosaurus for a bit. He loved it when you roared at him.
- About the importance of Special Time with each child alone. Use this time to connect with them and give them undivided attention
- How making time with all the children together doing an activity they all enjoy can be used to help them see the fun in having siblings and to teach them important social skills, such as how to work through differences.
- What to do if kids do fight. Top tip: don’t punish them.
In this time of difficulty we feel we need to celebrate the surprising uplifting moments (SUMs) we come across so we highlight some positive things that have happened lately. We recommend you do this with your children. Maybe help them to see some SUMs about their siblings!
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