EP 3589 Sometimes you can just do what you can do
The Strong Life Project Podcast
Release Date: 01/11/2026
The Strong Life Project Podcast
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info_outlineIn EP 3589, Sometimes you can just do what you can do, I unpack a truth most people resist until life forces it on them. There are seasons where you are not going to be at your best, and pretending otherwise just adds guilt, stress, and self sabotage. Sometimes you are carrying fatigue, grief, pressure, illness, family strain, or just the mental load of being human. In those moments, the goal is not peak performance. The goal is staying in the game.
This episode is about stripping things back to what is controllable. Your next decision. Your smallest repeatable action. Your non-negotiables. When you stop demanding perfection, you create momentum again. I talk through how to recognise the difference between a genuine low capacity season and an excuse pattern. One is real and deserves compassion and strategy. The other is avoidance dressed up as self-care.
You will learn how to set a minimum standard for the day so you keep identity intact. Train, but reduce intensity. Eat simply, not perfectly. Have the hard conversation, but keep it short and clear. Do the work, but focus on the one thing that moves the needle. This is not lowering the bar. This is protecting the foundation so you can rebuild strength when capacity returns.
If you have been beating yourself up because you are not firing on all cylinders, this episode will reset your expectations and give you a practical way forward. You do not need to do everything. You need to do what you can do consistently and let that be enough for today.