EP 3605 Anxiety feeds itself and so does courage

In EP 3605 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a simple truth most people avoid: anxiety grows when you keep feeding it. Not because you are weak, but because your brain is doing its job. It is trying to protect you. The problem is the protection strategy becomes the prison. You avoid the hard conversation, the gym, the inbox, the decision, the vulnerability, the uncomfortable truth. You feel temporary relief, and your nervous system learns, “Good, we survived.” Then the fear expands its territory. Next time it takes more avoidance to feel safe.

Shaun explains how this cycle shows up in real life: overthinking, reassurance seeking, scrolling, numbing, snapping at the people you love, and living with a low grade dread that never fully leaves. He also makes it clear that insight alone does not change anything. Repetition does. What you practise becomes your baseline.

The second half flips the script. Courage is not a personality trait. It is a behaviour pattern you can train. Courage feeds itself the same way anxiety does, through small, consistent actions that prove to your brain you can handle discomfort. Shaun shares practical ways to build your courage loop: shrinking tasks to something you will actually do, making one clear decision, taking one honest action, and doing it again tomorrow. No hype. No pretending. Just personal responsibility with a plan.

If you are sick of being controlled by your own mind, this episode gives you a grounded framework to stop reinforcing fear and start reinforcing strength.