#38. Grief, loss, and being alone - with Coach Ellen Melon
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
Release Date: 09/01/2021
#67: Embracing Uncertainty & Overcoming Scarcity Mindset
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
In this episode, I explore the deep discomfort of uncertainty, the scarcity mindset, and how they intertwine with faith, trust, and self-worth. Since going part-time at work and navigating new family responsibilities, I’ve struggled with the fear of the unknown. Inspired by a powerful quote from Conclave and insights from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist, I discuss how scarcity thinking shapes our daily lives and how we can shift towards sufficiency and trust. This episode includes reflections, guided meditation, and mantras to help reframe fear into faith and remind you that you are enough....
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#66: Reflections & Lessons: Top 10 Things I Learned in 2024
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Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you. I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have...
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#65: How to talk about sex, before, during, and after pregnancy and post-partum - Relationship Series Part 3 with Mike and Ellen Melon
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss...
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#64: How to talk about money, finances, spending habits - Relationship Series Part 2 with Mike and Ellen Melon
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for...
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#63: How to talk about jealousy and envy - Relationship Series Part 1 with Mike and Ellen Melon
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On...
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#62. How to find a place for grief - with Coach Ellen Melon
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living? Grief is something we in the United States are known to do poorly. Perhaps it's the European decent that curved our culture's inability to feel feelings, perhaps it's industrial era-based where we learned that there's no time in our 40 hour work week to sit with grief, or perhaps our modern day fear machines (the media) have signaled to our bodies, 'It's not safe here - eject from your body.' Whatever got us here, grief is an important part of our learning to be resilient and self-compassionate. And it's part of the human...
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#61. What does sex & relationship coaching look like - with former client Addison
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In this episode we get to hear from a former client on his experience working with a sex and relationship coach. Addison and I worked for 4 months together back in January, meeting every 2 weeks via Zoom. Listen to the challenges he overcame in this episode. I’m a coach who specializes in working with people pleasers, codependents, and people with anxious-attachement styles. If you are someone who identifies with those labels, some challenges you might be having are… Being angry and blamey — sick of playing the victim and ready to stop being so judgemental all the time Tired...
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#60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike
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Welcome back to To Hump A Pillow! We're kicking off Season 4, our 20 episode season with episode #60 — on dating apps. When most of us think about dating apps, we roll our eyes at the thought of what a task that can be. “Dating apps suck” — a common refrain from most of my clients. I've said those word myself! What if the app isn’t the problem? What if you’re the problem? I’ve always wanted to do an episode about dating apps, and now I’ve got the data and experience (my own and from clients) to create meaningful content around this topic. In this episode...
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#59. How ayahuasca has enhanced our lives - with Hypnotherapist, Kate Bandmann
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Ayahuasca is a powerful medicinal medicine that comes from the Amazon. It has been around for centuries, needs to be taken seriously, and is not for everyone. In this episode, fellow coach and healer, Kate Bandmann and I discuss our ayahuasca experiences — the terror and discomfort to the enhancements and growths. This is the last episode of Season 3! I'll see you in the fall when we kick off Season 4! Interested in work with a coach on your relationship style and sex life? Check out more info here: https://www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Find Kate here: ____________________ Coach Ellen...
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#58. Childhood emotional neglect, shame, and school shootings - A perspective on self-hate - with Coach Ellen Melon
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In this episode, I fly solo in offering a different perspective on the Texas School Shooting. Yes, maybe it’s gun law reform and yes, it’s also hurting children in angry bodies. As more people feel disconnected, they grow angrier. Happy, secure children who have a sense of self don’t shoot up schools. It’s time to teach people how to process their childhood and FEEL THEIR FEELINGS. I will discuss: My own experience of middle school and high school and what I noticed What is emotional neglect and emotional immature parents? 10 Themes of emotional neglect Mother wound...
info_outlineWelcome back to Season 3! We are kicking off our first episode of the season with some real talk — like I know any other kind? ;)
I’m going to share some findings around my experience with grief, loss, and being alone, aiming at giving you greater awareness into your own process, patterns, behaviors, fears — the uncomfortable stuff. This is the type of stuff we don't really want to look at because it’s painful.
I’m going to share about my 48 hour weekend staying at a hermitage retreat center (a Franciscan tradition) in the summer of 2019, and the discomfort of being alone. My failing to grieve my 8 year relationship by covering it up with more relationships, grieving my body after becoming a type 1 diabetic, my experience with ayahuasca (a plant medicine) and what it revealed about grieving, and some readings around the grief and rupture, especially for women.
I also offer an embodiment breathing exercise at minute 17:10 so fast-forward through that if that’s not your thing.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
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