#41. How intimacy changes after kids, postpartum, and repair after an affair - with Life Coach for Mums, Kiri Honey
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
Release Date: 10/13/2021
To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon
In this solo episode, Ellen dives into the unconscious mind and explores how shadow work might be the missing link between what we say we want and what we actually attract. Drawing from Dr. Carolyn Elliott’s book Existential Kink, and referencing the well-known quote from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, this episode introduces listeners to a transformative practice: the Deepest Fear Inventory. Ellen shares personal reflections on craving change — a new house, job, or creative path — while grappling with internal resistance. Could there be a hidden part of us that’s turned on...
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In this episode, I explore the deep discomfort of uncertainty, the scarcity mindset, and how they intertwine with faith, trust, and self-worth. Since going part-time at work and navigating new family responsibilities, I’ve struggled with the fear of the unknown. Inspired by a powerful quote from Conclave and insights from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist, I discuss how scarcity thinking shapes our daily lives and how we can shift towards sufficiency and trust. This episode includes reflections, guided meditation, and mantras to help reframe fear into faith and remind you that you are enough....
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Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you. I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have...
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Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss...
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Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for...
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Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On...
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How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living? Grief is something we in the United States are known to do poorly. Perhaps it's the European decent that curved our culture's inability to feel feelings, perhaps it's industrial era-based where we learned that there's no time in our 40 hour work week to sit with grief, or perhaps our modern day fear machines (the media) have signaled to our bodies, 'It's not safe here - eject from your body.' Whatever got us here, grief is an important part of our learning to be resilient and self-compassionate. And it's part of the human...
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In this episode we get to hear from a former client on his experience working with a sex and relationship coach. Addison and I worked for 4 months together back in January, meeting every 2 weeks via Zoom. Listen to the challenges he overcame in this episode. I’m a coach who specializes in working with people pleasers, codependents, and people with anxious-attachement styles. If you are someone who identifies with those labels, some challenges you might be having are… Being angry and blamey — sick of playing the victim and ready to stop being so judgemental all the time Tired...
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Welcome back to To Hump A Pillow! We're kicking off Season 4, our 20 episode season with episode #60 — on dating apps. When most of us think about dating apps, we roll our eyes at the thought of what a task that can be. “Dating apps suck” — a common refrain from most of my clients. I've said those word myself! What if the app isn’t the problem? What if you’re the problem? I’ve always wanted to do an episode about dating apps, and now I’ve got the data and experience (my own and from clients) to create meaningful content around this topic. In this episode...
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Ayahuasca is a powerful medicinal medicine that comes from the Amazon. It has been around for centuries, needs to be taken seriously, and is not for everyone. In this episode, fellow coach and healer, Kate Bandmann and I discuss our ayahuasca experiences — the terror and discomfort to the enhancements and growths. This is the last episode of Season 3! I'll see you in the fall when we kick off Season 4! Interested in work with a coach on your relationship style and sex life? Check out more info here: https://www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Find Kate here: ____________________ Coach Ellen...
info_outlineMotherhood is hard. I don’t even have kids and I know that. I have this amazing opportunity to speak with Kiri Honey, Life Coach for Moms whose mission is to inspire women to empower themselves to take the lead in their lives and relationships. To support them to take action that feels aligned and authentic to their wants and needs and on a practical level, help them focus on the key steps needed to rekindle the passion and fun in their relationships.
In this episode we hear about Kiri’s experience in being a mom of 2 children, her postpartum depression she didn’t know she had, and how to repair a relationship when an affair occurs — what kind of conversations, honesty and accountability are truly required. We also discuss her new digital series – 30 Interviews from Sex & Intimacy Experts called, “Falling in Love Again, Season 1.” These interviews are FREE until October 17th so sign up NOW. (Click link in show description or IG bio)
Kiri’s mission is to have a community of Mother’s who are equipped with the confidence to value themselves and their worth as well as honour their truth are an unshakable force! Helping Mother’s feel valued and part of a team will do wonders for humankind and future generations. The benefit of feeling loved, appreciated and respected has no bounds. Imagine how many families we could keep together if women were equipped with the tools they need to communicate their desires.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
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Links we talked about:
Falling in Love Again Digital Series for FREEuntil October 17th: https://kirihoney.com/FallingInLoveAgainEvent_Ellen
All episodes for Falling in Love Again will release October 18th – Nov 4th, with a Replay Weekend Nov 5-7th
Where can people find you? [email protected]
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About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator
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