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#55. Penis size and satisfying women - with Sex Educator and Author, Kenneth Play

Release Date: 04/13/2022

#68: Intro to Shadow Work and Deepest Fear Inventory

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

In this solo episode, Ellen dives into the unconscious mind and explores how shadow work might be the missing link between what we say we want and what we actually attract. Drawing from Dr. Carolyn Elliott’s book Existential Kink, and referencing the well-known quote from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, this episode introduces listeners to a transformative practice: the Deepest Fear Inventory. Ellen shares personal reflections on craving change — a new house, job, or creative path — while grappling with internal resistance. Could there be a hidden part of us that’s turned on...

#67: Embracing Uncertainty & Overcoming Scarcity Mindset

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

In this episode, I explore the deep discomfort of uncertainty, the scarcity mindset, and how they intertwine with faith, trust, and self-worth. Since going part-time at work and navigating new family responsibilities, I’ve struggled with the fear of the unknown. Inspired by a powerful quote from Conclave and insights from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist, I discuss how scarcity thinking shapes our daily lives and how we can shift towards sufficiency and trust. This episode includes reflections, guided meditation, and mantras to help reframe fear into faith and remind you that you are enough....

#66: Reflections & Lessons: Top 10 Things I Learned in 2024

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you. I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have...

#65: How to talk about sex, before, during, and after pregnancy and post-partum - Relationship Series Part 3 with Mike and Ellen Melon

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss...

#64: How to talk about money, finances, spending habits - Relationship Series Part 2 with Mike and Ellen Melon

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for...

#63: How to talk about jealousy and envy - Relationship Series Part 1 with Mike and Ellen Melon

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On...

#62. How to find a place for grief - with Coach Ellen Melon

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living? Grief is something we in the United States are known to do poorly. Perhaps it's the European decent that curved our culture's inability to feel feelings, perhaps it's industrial era-based where we learned that there's no time in our 40 hour work week to sit with grief, or perhaps our modern day fear machines (the media) have signaled to our bodies, 'It's not safe here - eject from your body.' Whatever got us here, grief is an important part of our learning to be resilient and self-compassionate. And it's part of the human...

#61. What does sex & relationship coaching look like - with former client Addison

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

In this episode we get to hear from a former client on his experience working with a sex and relationship coach. Addison and I worked for 4 months together back in January, meeting every 2 weeks via Zoom. Listen to the challenges he overcame in this episode. I’m a coach who specializes in working with people pleasers, codependents, and people with anxious-attachement styles. If you are someone who identifies with those labels, some challenges you might be having are… Being angry and blamey — sick of playing the victim and ready to stop being so judgemental all the time Tired...

#60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Welcome back to To Hump A Pillow! We're kicking off Season 4, our 20 episode season with episode #60 — on dating apps. When most of us think about dating apps, we roll our eyes at the thought of what a task that can be. “Dating apps suck” — a common refrain from most of my clients. I've said those word myself! What if the app isn’t the problem? What if you’re the problem? I’ve always wanted to do an episode about dating apps, and now I’ve got the data and experience (my own and from clients) to create meaningful content around this topic. In this episode...

#59. How ayahuasca has enhanced our lives - with Hypnotherapist, Kate Bandmann

To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Ayahuasca is a powerful medicinal medicine that comes from the Amazon. It has been around for centuries, needs to be taken seriously, and is not for everyone. In this episode, fellow coach and healer, Kate Bandmann and I discuss our ayahuasca experiences — the terror and discomfort to the enhancements and growths. This is the last episode of Season 3! I'll see you in the fall when we kick off Season 4! Interested in work with a coach on your relationship style and sex life? Check out more info here: https://www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Find Kate here: ____________________ Coach Ellen...

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For those of you who struggle with not being enough — your body type, your penis size, your ethnicity — this is an episode for you.

In this episode I interview international sex expert and sex educator, Kenneth Play. Named the “world’s greatest sex hacker” by GQ, he has been featured by more than one hundred media outlets, including The New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Nightline.

Kenneth is an Asian immigrant with an average-sized penis who lived most of his early life with crippling sexual insecurity. Determined to overcome this anxiety, he dedicated his life to studying the complexities of academic sex research, exploring the mysteries of Tantra, immersing himself in the forbidden world of BDSM, and even joining the lustful chaos of underground sex parties.

We’ll talk about his journey as a young man, his current lifestyle and relationships, penis size, and squirting, He pulls a lot from his new book, BEYOND SATISFIED: A sex hacker’s guide to endless orgasms, mind blowing connection, and lasting confidence.

In Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth shares the sex hacking secrets he’s successfully taught millions of men. This book is a cross between Bruce Lee’s mixed martial arts approach and Tim Ferriss’ 80/20 rule—but for sex. Far from just another “find her clitoris” guide, Beyond Satisfied distills hard science and hands-on experience into techniques that any man can successfully put into practice.

Interested in working with a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 or couples coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

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Links we talked about:

https://kennethplay.com/

https://book.kennethplay.com/beyond-satisfied-bookll

https://go.kennethplay.com/sex-hacker-pro-deal

https://www.instagram.com/kenneth_play/

https://www.facebook.com/kennethplaypage/

Hacienda - desire/belonging, responsible hedonism, high novelty needs vs high security needs

“Open Smarter” by Dr Zhana

Squirtingsurvey.com: https://kenneth-play.mykajabi.com/encore-1620413533

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