EP279: How Love and Impact Live On
True Stride
Over the past eight months, I’ve lost two dear loved ones who had a profound impact on my life. They lived fully, with vibrant energy, wisdom, kindness, and deep care for others. While I’m heartbroken that I no longer get to experience their physical presence here on earth, I also feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for the love I was able to receive from them, love that was unconditional and deeply shaping. One of them passed just yesterday, so forgive me if my emotions rise as I share, but in the midst of the sadness, I find comfort in knowing that even though I can no longer see...
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EP278: Release, Readiness, and What Comes Next
True Stride
I feel like there’s been a lot of conversation lately about the Chinese zodiac and the year we’re moving out of, which is the Year of the Wood Snake. That year comes to an end on February 16, and then on February 17, according to the Chinese zodiac, we move into the Year of the Fire Horse. Even if you don’t follow the Chinese New Year, I’ve really appreciated how this way of marking time gives us an opportunity to slow down, reflect, and check our own reality. In this episode, I share why the energy of the Wood Snake has felt so accurate for this past year, with its focus on shedding,...
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EP277: Shape Your Vision with Creativity and Intention
True Stride
I’ve been thinking a lot about intention setting lately and how many different ways there are to get clear on what we want to attract. Some people love choosing a word for the year, others don’t resonate with that at all, and that reflection led me to revisit the tools I’ve used over time to stay grounded and inspired. What matters most isn’t the method itself, but whether we’re carving out space to reflect, get creative, and really listen to what’s calling us forward. Today, we’ll dive into how vision boarding has supported me in the past and how a simple, pen-and-paper practice...
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EP276: Looking Back Through Pleasure and Expansion
True Stride
At the start of a new year, I always notice a shift. It’s subtle, but it’s there. A little lightness. A sense that I can pause, take stock, and step into something new. Even though it’s just one calendar year turning into the next, it still feels like permission to begin again. To set new intentions. To let the past be the past. I don’t overthink it. I just pay attention to that sense of possibility. As I look back on the year behind me, it wasn’t especially easy. There were moments that felt heavy, uncertain, and stretching in ways I didn’t expect. Yet, when I slow down and really...
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EP275: A Word to Ground, Guide, and Inspire You
True Stride
I can’t quite believe that yet another year of us going on Wise Walks together has come and gone. In our last episode, I invited you to reflect on your previous Word of the Year, and I’ve been doing that too. Looking back, I can see how my word, Co-create, supported me in ways I couldn’t have fully anticipated at the time. Sometimes we choose a word with a clear sense of direction or intuition about what will help us feel more aligned and in our True Stride. When I think about why this practice matters to me, I always come back to the idea of choosing a word for the year not as something...
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EP274: Reflecting on the Year Through One Word
True Stride
As this year comes to a close, I wanted to slow things down and really look at how my word for 2025 actually showed up in my life. I’ve shared before that I no longer set New Year’s resolutions. Instead, I choose a word that helps ground me in how I want to show up and what I want to experience. This year, that word was co-create. As someone who has always relied on planning, structure, and execution, this word challenged me to loosen my grip and trust timing instead of forcing outcomes. It became a way to check myself when things felt rushed, heavy, or resistant, and to ask whether I was...
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EP273: Leaning Into Your Inner Athlete
True Stride
It’s funny how aging has a way of quietly changing the conversation we have with our bodies. I notice it when I’m moving or when a familiar pose needs more support, or when strength and flexibility show up differently than they used to. For a long time, I thought that meant I was losing something. What I’m realizing now is that it simply means that I’m being asked to listen more closely. There’s still a part of me that loves a challenge, that enjoys feeling capable and engaged, even if the expression of that looks different than it once did. Lately, I’ve been paying attention to...
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EP272: Freedom Waiting Beyond Your Limits
True Stride
Lately I have been spending time out on my Aunt’s ranch in Joshua Tree, California, and the rhythm of the animals has offered me a new perspective on how we respond to the boundaries in our lives. Watching the horses move through their space, communicate their needs, and express their energy reminded me how easy it is to accept certain limits without ever pausing to ask whether they still feel aligned. Their behavior became an unexpected mirror, showing me where I have honored barriers that were never truly mine or that no longer support who I am becoming. Their exuberance and clarity...
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EP271: Honoring Your Rites of Passage
True Stride
A conversation on a recent hike surprised me in the best way. My friend and I wandered into a chat about how we grew up and what shaped us, and it pulled up old memories I had not thought about in a long time. I shared a bit about my upbringing and the sense of community that came with it, but what really landed for me was how many different ways people mark the big moments in their lives. It does not matter if it comes from a formal tradition or something more personal. We all have these turning points that nudge us forward and help us understand who we are right now. Lately I have been...
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EP270: What Gratitude Makes Possible
True Stride
Happy Thanksgiving, fellow Striders. If you’re celebrating here in the U.S., I hope you’re surrounded by loved ones, friends, or even your fur babies, and that you’re feeling a sense of appreciation for the blessings in your life, the ones you’re experiencing now and the ones that have shaped you along the way. This time of year is a good reminder to pause, take a breath, and really acknowledge the good that is already present. As I’ve been reflecting on gratitude, I keep coming back to how much shifts when we look at what’s working instead of what’s missing. When we notice the...
info_outlineA conversation on a recent hike surprised me in the best way. My friend and I wandered into a chat about how we grew up and what shaped us, and it pulled up old memories I had not thought about in a long time. I shared a bit about my upbringing and the sense of community that came with it, but what really landed for me was how many different ways people mark the big moments in their lives. It does not matter if it comes from a formal tradition or something more personal. We all have these turning points that nudge us forward and help us understand who we are right now.
Lately I have been noticing how many shifts in my own life feel like they are asking me to pause and pay attention. Some changes are easy to name and others are messy or in progress, and I am realizing that the in-between space is where a lot of the real movement happens. It is not always comfortable, but it is honest. So for this Wise Walk, I thought we could take a moment to look at whatever passages we are each moving through and give ourselves a little grace as we find our footing.
- Where are you in this present moment, and can you sense whether it marks a rite of passage in your life?
- What shift, milestone, or change feels most present for you right now, even if it is still taking shape?
- How is your career, environment, or relationships inviting you into a new phase of growth?
- Is there something you are preparing to welcome or create, whether a relationship, a move, a new project, or a dream you are finally giving energy to?
- What passages in your life feel ready to be acknowledged, honored, or named out loud?
- When you think about separation, what are you slowly releasing or loosening your grip on?
- Where are you standing in a liminal space, not quite who you were and not yet who you are becoming?
- How does uncertainty show up for you in this season, and what helps you stay grounded as you move through it?
- What inner resources or strengths are helping you navigate this in-between phase?
- Where can you feel the beginning of reintegration, that subtle shift that tells you something within is changing?
- How might you celebrate or honor the moment you recognize yourself emerging on the other side of this threshold?
- What does stepping into your next version of self look or feel like in your body, your heart, or your daily rhythm?
Thank you for spending this time with me. I hope today’s conversation helps you notice the passages unfolding in your own life and gives you a little more appreciation for where you are right now. Until next Thursday’s Wise Walk, remember to read the signs, trust your path, and get your stride on.
In this episode:
- [05:08] The term rite of passage comes from French anthropologist Arnold van Gennep, who coined it in 1909 and described three phases: separation, liminal, and reintegration.
- [07:39] In the different ceremonies there's a separation of who we were, then a transformation of stepping into a new identity, and it's about incorporating yourself as a new emerging entity.
- [08:16] Not all of the rites of passage that I've experienced are religious. My current situation and moving is a massive rite of passage. I've separated from my home, and I'm in a liminal phase of uncertainty.
- [09:04] I'm moving to a phase of re-emerging into something different.
- [10:13] Retirement is a rite of passage as well as changing careers.
- [11:37] Going back to school or going through a phase of education and knowledge are all rites and passage.
- [12:50] I've moved many times, and it's a literal rite of passage. It has emotional, mental and spiritual passages that we have to overcome to get where we want to go.
- [13:12] Divorce is another rite of passage.
- [14:23] I like the idea of honoring all rites of passage whether it's transitional or an expansion of heavy stuff.
- [15:04] I'm also going through a professional rite of passage with all of the new certifications I'm getting like shamanic Reiki and healing and energy work and drum making.
- [16:07] I'm going to embrace and celebrate this liminal phase, because there is beauty in being in the corridor of not knowing exactly.
Memorable Quotes:
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- “Some moments in life tap you on the shoulder and remind you that you’re changing, even if you didn’t mean to.” - Mary Tess
- “Every rite of passage has a little uncertainty in it, and that’s what makes the celebration on the other side so meaningful.” - Mary Tess
- “When you pause long enough to notice a transition, you give yourself a chance to honor who you’re becoming.” - Mary Tess
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