A Change of Habit: Sister Monica Clare's Journey from Advertising to Nunhood
Release Date: 07/24/2025
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info_outlineWelcome to this enlightening episode of Typology! Join us as we explore the life and journey of Sister Monica Clare, an Enneagram 6 and author of the memoir A Change of Habit: Leaving Behind My Husband, Career, and Everything I Owned to Become a Nun.
In this episode, we explore:
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Sister Monica's experiences growing up in a chaotic environment and how it shaped her Enneagram type.
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The unique challenges and joys of being an Enneagram 6 in a religious community.
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The intersection of spirituality and personality, and how the Enneagram informs her spiritual practices.
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Insights from her journey in Al-Anon and the lessons learned about control and boundaries.
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The role of fear and anxiety in decision-making and how she navigates these feelings in her leadership role.
Sister Monica shares her candid reflections on her path to becoming a nun, the importance of community, and the spiritual practices that ground her amidst uncertainty.
Don't miss this heartfelt conversation filled with wisdom, humor, and inspiration!
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Connect with Sister Monica Clare on TikTok: @nonsenseforthepeople
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