THE “WHAT IF” TRAP | How to stop the mind from taking us down the endless, unproductive “what if” trap.
Release Date: 04/03/2025
PSYCHOLOGICAL VS PRACTICAL MOTIVE | What really drives your actions—the need itself, or the story behind it?
Unpacking Myself
Have you ever noticed the difference between doing something because it’s necessary versus doing it because you want to be seen or because of insecurities? In this episode, I unpack the distinction between practical motive and psychological motive, and how this subtle shift can be the root of stress, disappointment, or peace in our lives. I share stories from a weekend at a Krishnamurti ashram, conversations over morning chai with my in-laws, and the insights that came from those moments. Check it out! Let’s unpack together! Sometimes all you need is a nudge and someone to ask the...
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UNPACKING WITH MY DAUGHTER | The episode where I unpack live with a special guest - my daughter Saaya!
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Something I love doing is unpacking life with my kids too. Its a skill I want them to grow up having and using as they move through life. My eight year old daughter has been watching me for the last 5 years doing this podcast and asked if she could do an episode with me so here it is! We talk about the mind vs heart, friendship, how to release hard things and much more. Enjoy and listen with your kids! Let’s unpack together! Sometimes all you need is a nudge and someone to ask the questions so you can find the answers for you. Send me a DM or check out my website:
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EPISODE 200: OPINIONS | The downside of opinion overload - our own and others.
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Opinions seem to be a dime a dozen these days. Humans probably have always had opinions but now they are thrown in our face by every Joe Shmoe through social media, news, etc. Someone in my life recently shined a light on all my opinions, especially the unnecessary ones. In this episode, I unpack this for myself and what I discovered along the way. Are they all necessary? What is the impact of constant opinions on our mental and physical health? What happens when we reduce the opinions? How do you reduce your opinions? Listen in ! Let’s unpack together! Sometimes all you need is a nudge and...
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LIFE UPGRADE | How and why the universe pushes us beyond what’s working in our life even though it feels “good enough.”
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In this episode, I unpack a lesson from my old boss who told me, “don’t get too comfortable with the status quo.” At the time, I thought everything was great so why ‘fix what ain’t broken?’ I later realized he was pointing to something deeper: when we settle into “good enough,” we often miss out on the more life has for us. I talk about how life nudges us and gives us opportunities to upgrade if we pause and notice the opportunity. These moments can feel hard, uncomfortable and confusing like a reboot, but they’re actually invitations to grow, expand, and experience...
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THE QUIET SHIFT | How the world is asking us to wake up. The flashy stuff is losing its shine — here’s what’s replacing it.
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I’m making a prediction in this episode - feel free to hold me to it. I think life’s quieter truths are making a comeback. Its nothing new but when life gets easy, comfortable, we lose sight of the ideals and values and things that truly matter to us. We forget to defend it, speak up about it and prioritize it. And thank god that when we forget the important things in life, the universe nudges us and eventually smacks us in the face if we still don’t listen. There is a heaviness in the world but I see the light at the end of the tunnel. Let me explain how and why. My hope is that this...
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SEEING YOURSELF | The eyes show us the world, but only when we close them can we truly see ourselves.
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Isn’t it ironic that we can see everything with our eyes—except ourselves. In this episode, I reflect on why true self-connection requires us to go inward. Meditation, stillness, and closing our eyes aren’t just practices—they’re the only way to truly see who we are beyond the noise and connect with ourselves. We will travel all over to see the world but what a tragedy it would be to go our entire lives without seeing what matters most - ourselves. Want to unpack a topic that is creating mental clutter for you? Send me a DM or check out my website: www.unpackingmyself.com
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TOUGH LOVE | Do your actions invite honesty or flattery?
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A recent post by Adam Grant on one of the most underrated skills being able to receive tough love inspired this episode. A majority of people struggle to receive constructive criticism from others. In this episode I explore why that is and why we take it so personally. On the surface most people say they don’t mind the unpleasant truths but I share a way to know whether that is actually true for you or not. If you are committed to growing, improving then you can’t be surrounded by people who feed you comforting lies and your actions dictate whether people will tell you the hard truths or...
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WHAT GROUNDS YOU | Why having something to ground us matters now more than ever.
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Have you ever thought about what grounds you in life? Something constant, steady, a strong foundation that brings you back no matter what is happening around you or to you? In this episode, I talk about the many things past generations had but how we are moving away from a lot of them. Life changes with each generation but the need for something that grounds us is something we all still need. I share the deeper significance behind all this and why it matters so much. I will also leave you with a question to help you find what that could be for you. Want to unpack a topic that is creating...
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OUR PERSONALITY | Realizing that the parts of our personality that brings pain, also is the source of so much good.
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When things don’t go our way in life, its easy to get caught up in self-doubt and become our very own harshest critic. We wonder why we let something happen or why we keep doing this particular thing. Many times we are often saying, why were you being who you are but a friend recently said something brilliant that made me realize that what I needed to do was not be overly critical of myself but rather do a slight perspective shift. This is what I did recently and like magic, instantly, any negative self talk ceased to exist. Listen in if you get annoyed with your “faults” to see how you...
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ROOTED IN FEAR OR LOVE? | Realizing when you are listening to the devil on your shoulder instead of the angel, as you walk through life.
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This concept of you experiencing the world as you are is a hard one to grasp unless you have experimented with it. We all have different voices in our head and often times on auto-pilot we listen to the one rooted in fear without even realizing it. In this episode, I share a big realization I had around why we gravitate towards the voice rooted in fear and how to gently encourage yourself to listen to the one rooted in love and compassion instead. How you see someone or a situation can completely change depending on the lens you choose. Obviously if this were easy to do, everyone would do it....
info_outlineAt some point or another, I think we all have experienced our mind going down the “what if” path - what if that didn’t happen, what if I said this instead, etc. It is normal but it doesn’t have to be something we deal with all the time. This weekend something unexpected happened that inspired a conversation with my kids about the “what if” trap our mind can sometimes get caught up in and why we should train our mind to stop it and how. It took me down memory lane when I remember getting caught up in this trap and how over the years I stopped falling for that trap. Do you every get caught up in the “what if” trap? You are definitely not alone. Tune in this week as I unpack the “what if” trap we all have experienced at one point or another.
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