S3E4: Alicia
We Get It, Your Dad Died
Margy is joined by Alicia Cramer on this episode of We Get it Your Dad Died. Growing up, Alicia’s mother went through a series of abusive relationships and would often drop her off at a relatives house to stay safe. As she got older, she realized that she was repeating the self-destructive patterns that her mother had demonstrated for her. The healing that she needed was not happening, and instead her anxieties grew to the point where they were running her everyday life. Was she going to let them? Alicia dove into every holistic healing modality that she could find. As she explored...
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S3E3: Melisa
We Get It, Your Dad Died
In this episode of we get it your dad died, Margy invites Melisa Keenan on the show. Melisa’s father was a free-spirit and street drug addict for most of his life. When Melisa needed it most, he tamed himself and those who knew him were so excited that he finally found the motivation to turn his life around. Three weeks later, he was diagnosed with cancer. This episode will make you laugh and cry as you hear Melisa share the stories of her father and how her relationship with him evolved, even after his passing.
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S3E2: Sam
We Get It, Your Dad Died
In this episode of We Get it Your Dad Died, Margy Feldhuhn is joined by Sam Jayanti. At 12 years old, both of Sam’s parents and her brother died in a plane crash. She was left with her nanny and her dog to recover from this tragedy. The three of them moved to India to live with Sam’s aunt and uncle with this question: Will we survive this, or will it ruin us? Listen to Margy and Sam discuss the impact this tragedy has had on her. She swallowed her vulnerability, and it wasn’t until she was in college college when one person was the catalyst to begin her healing journey.
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S3E1: Suzy
We Get It, Your Dad Died
In the first episode of season 3 for We Get it Your Dad Died, Margy Feldhuhn invites Suzy Ashworth to discuss the loss of her parents. Suzy’s foster parents were found in the back of a magazine and they raised her from the age of 3 months old. In this conversation, they discuss how Suzy’s parents raised her and her sister in an environment that balanced freedom with building a strong work ethic. They explore how the relationship between themselves and their loved ones evolve even after they pass, and how these reflections impact their lives.
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S2E5: Elisabeth
We Get It, Your Dad Died
What if the things you feel most shame about have nothing to do with who you are as a person? This episode offers the most powerful gift of all; freedom from shame and self loathing. In this finale episode of Season 2, we break from the norm. This conversation doesn’t feature a death, but is one of the most profound and valuable conversations I’ve ever had. We went deep into topics like codependency, binge eating, self harm and boundaries. Elisabeth Kristof shares incredible wisdom that will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about trauma, grief and those negative habits...
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S2E4: Tracy
We Get It, Your Dad Died
How often do you actually see other people? How often do you make eye contact and smile at the person working at the grocery check out? Do you always take the opportunity to be present and fully acknowledge the human being right in front of you? This conversation with Tracy Litt inspired me to change the way I approach all these small interactions throughout the day. Tracy’s mother Toby was a master at this. She always took the opportunity to let others know they were seen and loved, even strangers. This was the first ever episode where I issued a challenge. In a world that is increasingly...
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S2E3: Monique
We Get It, Your Dad Died
How do we grieve an abuser? I am so grateful to Monique Allen for being willing to share so openly on this episode. This is a conversation that is very underrepresented in the dialogue about grief. There aren’t enough spaces talking openly about grief in any capacity, but in the ones that do exist so often it’s a conversation around healing from the loss of someone described by all as a great person. While no one is perfect, the dead sometimes take on a Saint like quality in the minds of those left behind. But for some grievers whose loved ones were difficult or even abusive in life, it...
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S2E2: Mo
We Get It, Your Dad Died
Ali was only 21 years old when he died unexpectedly on the operating table during a routine appendix surgery. I sat down with Ali’s dad Mo Gawdat, best selling author and former Chief Business Officer of Google X, to discuss the incredible aftermath of that loss. When you hear about Ali, he strikes you as being more of a spiritual teacher than your average 20 year old, and the wisdom and kindness he showed in his life is something people of all ages can learn from. Mo addresses grief from the perspective of a brilliant engineer, a truly unique approach that I know many will benefit from....
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S2E1: Kristine
We Get It, Your Dad Died
Richard Carlson was 45 and in seemingly perfect health when he died suddenly of a pulmonary embolism on a flight from California to New York. Richard is well known as the best selling author of the self help classic, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff." I spoke with Richard's wife Kristine Carlson, a best selling author in her own right, about the impact of losing Richard so suddenly. Her perspectives on grief, loss, and creating joy out of even the darkest moments are powerful. She also shared a story that I guarantee will make the hairs on the back of your neck stand up because it is SO...
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S1E7: Debra
We Get It, Your Dad Died
In the final episode of Season One of We Get It Your Dad Died, host Margy Feldhuhn speaks with Debra Driscoll. Debra Lynne Driscoll is a Grief Guide, Author, Healer, and Speaker. Through spiritual practice and creative process, Debra works with groups and individuals to ease the ‘ouch’ of loss and open to the heart and soul expansion possible when we surrender and journey with life, death, grief, and loss. Debra first dealt with the grief after the man she loved took his life. Debra was only 20. Seven months later, Debra’s father unexpectedly died. She felt like she was swimming...
info_outlineIn the final episode of Season One of We Get It Your Dad Died, host Margy Feldhuhn speaks with Debra Driscoll.
Debra Lynne Driscoll is a Grief Guide, Author, Healer, and Speaker. Through spiritual practice and creative process, Debra works with groups and individuals to ease the ‘ouch’ of loss and open to the heart and soul expansion possible when we surrender and journey with life, death, grief, and loss.
Debra first dealt with the grief after the man she loved took his life. Debra was only 20. Seven months later, Debra’s father unexpectedly died. She felt like she was swimming in grief, with massive waves hitting her. That’s when Debra began her journey of healing and grieving.
She realized she couldn’t continue to deny it, or force herself to be so busy that she doesn’t have the time to process it. Grief would come, seemingly out of nowhere, and strike Debra down again. Grief continues to get heavier the longer you go without processing it. Debra was on her journey of exploring spiritual practices and healing techniques so she could then process her grief.
One month before her son Sage’s 11th birthday, he passed away unexpectedly in his sleep. Debra was entirely devastated. She asked herself, “If I apply all these things that I have learned, will I be able to swim in these waves?” That is what helped Debra pick herself up and process the grief of losing her son.
Grief is not linear. Processing her grief was a series of surrenders for Debra. She continued returning to the promise she made to herself: “I will work with this, I will not deny this. I will continue to surrender to the question, what is here for me, what can I learn, what is possible within this?” That was a grounding place for Debra to return to when she was lost at sea under the waves of grief.
In Debra’s healing work, she uses the concept that grief has relationship to joy. If we minimize one feeling, like grief, we minimize them all, like joy. When grief comes to the heart, the heart breaks and that’s universal. Debra asks, how do we build the capacity of our heart? If we are seeking more joy, how can we build that?
Debra started thinking about building muscle. When we work out and strengthen our muscles, the muscles are sore the next day because our muscle fibers have been stretched and broken. The process of those fibers healing themselves is what strengthens our muscles. Debra applied this concept to our hearts. Grief comes and breaks our heart and the process of working with grief helps us to build those fibers back together and strengthens that heart.
You can connect with Debra at Debralynnedriscoll.com. At her website, you can purchase her memoir, or you can download a sample read.