412: Matt Chandler on Hitting a Wall, The Chaos of Brokenness, Living Emotionally Muted, The Anatomy of a Moral Failure, Finishing Well, and Why We Need a More Robust Theology of Suffering
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Release Date: 10/23/2024
438: Facing Midlife: Ian Simkins on Success, Loneliness in Your 40s, Spiritual Abuse, and Why Efficiency Is a Terrible God
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
There’s a moment, often quietly, when you realize life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. The dreams you chased, the milestones you reached—they didn’t deliver the satisfaction you imagined. And somewhere along the way, loneliness crept in, success started to feel hollow, and the constant pressure to optimize every part of your life became a crushing weight. This week on Win Today, Ian Simkins joins us to talk about the uncomfortable truths no one tells you about midlife. In this conversation, we’ll unpack: Why midlife often exposes the false gods we've been...
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437: Why Your Wounds Are On Display in Marriage. Dave & Ann Wilson Unpack The Power of Words to Crush Your Spouse, and How Intimacy Becomes Manipulation
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Marriage has a way of exposing the wounds we thought we had buried. The unresolved pain, the unspoken insecurities, the habits we hoped would disappear—they all surface in the crucible of intimacy. In this final installment of our LOVE LIKE THIS series, Dave & Ann Wilson—hosts of FamilyLife Today® and authors of Vertical Marriage—join us to discuss: Why your unhealed wounds inevitably show up in your marriage The devastating impact of words and how they can either crush or cultivate your spouse How intimacy, when misused, turns into manipulation...
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436: STOP Expecting Marriage to Be Easy! Gabe & Rebekah Lyons on Intimacy Myths, Emotional Equivalence, and Affair-Proofing Your Relationship
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into: The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships. Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve'...
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435: MAKE YOUR MOVE! Kait & JJ Tomlin Drop the HEAT on Why Love Is Forged, Not Found, Red Flags vs. Deal-Breakers, Sliding into the DMs, and Why Women SHOULD Drop the Hanky
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships. They delve into: The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found. Differentiating between red flags and...
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434: The Emotional Maturity Epidemic: Stephen Chandler on Sex, Shame, and Spiritual Dysfunction in Relationships
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
We’re in a relationship crisis. Everyone’s talking about chemistry and compatibility, but no one’s talking about maturity. And when emotional immaturity meets unaddressed shame, sexual frustration, and spiritual avoidance? It’s a recipe for dysfunction. This week, Stephen Chandler joins Win Today to kick off a hard-hitting four-week series on relationships. In this conversation, we’re getting real about the deeper issues driving relational pain—and why surface-level fixes don’t work. Stephen unpacks: Why emotional immaturity is sabotaging modern relationships How sexual...
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NEW SERIES: LOVE LIKE THIS
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
Let’s be honest, when it comes to relationships, most of us are winging it. We chase chemistry, avoid conflict, and wonder why we keep repeating the same cycles. But what if the problem isn’t compatibility... it’s maturity? This month on Win Today, we’re tearing the lid off what no one wants to talk about—with a four-week series called LOVE LIKE THIS. These aren’t fluffy conversations. They’re real, raw, and disruptive—in the best way. WEEK ONE (04/02): Stephen Chandler kicks us off with a hard-hitting conversation about emotional immaturity, sexual...
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433: The Art of Lament: Aubrey Sampson on Our Weird Pressure to Perform for God, and Why We Have Yet to Be Formed by Mystery in Loss
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
We live in a culture that demands constant performance, even in our spiritual lives. We're pressured to present a curated faith—one that hides our doubts, fears, and grief. But what if this relentless pursuit of a flawless facade is keeping us from experiencing the depth of God's presence? This week, Aubrey Sampson joins Win Today to explore the transformative power of lament—a practice often overlooked but deeply rooted in biblical tradition. She reveals: Why our obsession with performing for God leaves us spiritually empty The lost art of lament and how it draws us closer to the...
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432: Are You Self-Sabotaging Your Growth? Dr. Curt Thompson Unpacks Anticipated Abandonment, Why You’re Startled Lately, Rugged Flexibility, and How Attention Shapes Identity
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
What if the way you pay attention is shaping who you’re becoming? What if your deepest fears of being abandoned—whether real or anticipated—are keeping you locked in patterns of anxiety, shame, and self-protection? Today, Dr. Curt Thompson joins us to unpack the profound ways our minds and relationships shape our formation. We’re talking about anticipated abandonment, the neuroscience of attachment, and how to cultivate rugged flexibility in the face of life’s uncertainties. Dr. Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert in interpersonal neurobiology, reveals how the way we focus...
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431: Jamie Winship on Lucky Charm, Life Coach Jesus and What Most People TOTALLY Miss in Discipleship
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
We live in a time where Christianity has been reduced to a formula for self-improvement. Faith is treated like a performance metric. And Jesus? For many, He’s become little more than a life coach—a spiritual consultant who exists to make life better, not new. But that’s not the real Jesus. That’s an illusion. This week, Jamie Winship returns to Win Today with a message that will shake your understanding of faith. He reveals: Why most people unknowingly treat Jesus as a self-help guru—and how to break free The hidden reason why many Christians stay stuck in fear, anxiety, and...
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430: John Eldredge on Healing Trauma the Right Way, Why Shallow Faith Fuels Divorce, and How AI Is Rewiring Your Brain
Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness
We live in an era where our attention is constantly hijacked. AI is replacing our ability to think deeply, faith is thinning out, and our addiction to instant information has left us drowning in noise but starving for wisdom. And in the midst of it all, trauma remains unhealed, relationships are fracturing, and many feel more disconnected from God than ever before. So, what’s really happening beneath the surface? And how do we reclaim a faith that’s deep, resilient, and transformative? This week, John Eldredge joins Win Today with one of his most urgent messages yet. He reveals: ...
info_outlineThis week, Matt Chandler opens up about hitting a wall in 2022 and the emotional toll it took on him. We'll discuss the dangers of living a life emotionally muted, the anatomy of a moral failure, and the importance of a robust theology of suffering. As someone who's dedicated his life to serving others and building the Kingdom, Matt's insights offer a unique perspective on the challenges we all face. I'm thrilled you've joined us as we delve into these topics and explore what it means to finish well in life.
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