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452: STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF. Toni Collier on Emotional Infidelity, Spiritual Manipulation, and the Prison of Isolation

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

Release Date: 08/20/2025

466: When Pain Gets Wasted. Shawn Johnson on Stewarding the Middle Season of Life, How Bitterness Erodes Trust, and Why We Settle for Temporary Rest Instead of True Peace show art 466: When Pain Gets Wasted. Shawn Johnson on Stewarding the Middle Season of Life, How Bitterness Erodes Trust, and Why We Settle for Temporary Rest Instead of True Peace

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a way to live that squanders pain while your heart hardens and your trust thins. Things like numbing, retelling the wound, and calling it wisdom. This week on Win Today, Shawn Johnson, lead pastor of Red Rocks Church and author of Attacking Anxiety, joins me to explore how people waste pain and how to steward the middle seasons when nothing seems to be moving, but everything inside you is being formed. We draw the line between rest and peace, why bitterness and distrust grow in the same soil, and how to turn waiting into worship without pretending the ache away. If you’re...

info_outline 465: Stop Ignoring Your Body! Justin Whitmel Earley on Embodied Discipleship, Resisting Body-Idolatry, and How Sleep Rebuilds Your Soul show art 465: Stop Ignoring Your Body! Justin Whitmel Earley on Embodied Discipleship, Resisting Body-Idolatry, and How Sleep Rebuilds Your Soul

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a way to discuss spiritual growth that ignores the body, and a way to treat the body like a god. Both break you. This week on Win Today, Justin Whitmel Earley joins me to recover a practical theology of the body: why your habits, hormones, posture, screens, meals, and sleep are discipling your soul every day. We confront the twin errors of ignoring the body and idolizing it, and we name what happens when we undo created order—when we chronically outrun limits, trade rest for hurry, and expect spiritual vitality while violating how God made us to live. This isn’t theory. It’s a...

info_outline 464: When the Marriage Is OVER. Lysa TerKeurst on Narcissistic Abuse 101, Ending Self-Betrayal, and Why Unhealthy People Never Meet a Boundary They Like show art 464: When the Marriage Is OVER. Lysa TerKeurst on Narcissistic Abuse 101, Ending Self-Betrayal, and Why Unhealthy People Never Meet a Boundary They Like

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a moment when “endure it” becomes “end it,” not because you stopped believing in God’s power to heal, but because refusing to betray your God-given boundaries is how you stop betraying yourself. This week on Win Today, Lysa TerKeurst joins me to confront the realities so many live in silence: when it’s biblically wise to end a marriage, how we talk ourselves out of our own boundaries, why loneliness is sometimes God’s operating room, and what you must know about narcissistic abuse—gaslighting, trauma bonds, and DARVO—so you can name what’s happening and get...

info_outline 463: Why Life Really Begins at 40. Mark Batterson on The Danger of Half-Present Living, Delayed Obedience, and Why We Need to Fall in Love with Gradual Progress show art 463: Why Life Really Begins at 40. Mark Batterson on The Danger of Half-Present Living, Delayed Obedience, and Why We Need to Fall in Love with Gradual Progress

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a way to move through your forties that looks busy but stays small, a way to talk about calling while postponing obedience, and a way to live half-present in the present while telling yourself you’re being “wise.” This week on Win Today, Mark Batterson joins me to reclaim the middle decades as the beginning, not the end, and to confront why delayed obedience is still disobedience and why the slow, daily road of incremental growth produces what hurry never can. We’ll name the subtle drift that fragments attention, why “later” sounds prudent but hollows character, and...

info_outline 462: Stop Lying to Yourself! Kevin Boehm on Why Life Happens For Us, Not To Us, Destroying the Self-Help Blueprint, When Fear Looks Like Wisdom, and Why Food Is a Peacemaker show art 462: Stop Lying to Yourself! Kevin Boehm on Why Life Happens For Us, Not To Us, Destroying the Self-Help Blueprint, When Fear Looks Like Wisdom, and Why Food Is a Peacemaker

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

  This week on Win Today, esteemed restaurateur Kevin Boehm joins me to name the subtle drift from hope to heaviness: how fear hides under the guise of practicality, how the self‑help blueprint promises control but delivers unease, and why your plate of food may be less incidental than you think—it could be a peacemaker for your soul. We dismantle the lie that you must always surge forward; sometimes the bravest step is backward. We expose what happens when you stop lying to yourself and start living honestly. If you’ve ever felt stuck in performance, disguised your fear as...

info_outline 461: When Fake Faith and Cynicism Collide. Bethel Music’s Paul and Hannah McClure on The Road from a Soft to a Cynical Heart, Healing the Orphan Spirit, Fake Faith, Why Faith Isn’t Certainty, and Dumping Performative Worship show art 461: When Fake Faith and Cynicism Collide. Bethel Music’s Paul and Hannah McClure on The Road from a Soft to a Cynical Heart, Healing the Orphan Spirit, Fake Faith, Why Faith Isn’t Certainty, and Dumping Performative Worship

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a kind of faith that performs instead of worships, and eventually, that kind of faith breaks down. This week on Win Today, Paul and Hannah McClure from Bethel Music join me to talk about the slow drift from softness to cynicism in the life of a believer. We talk about the orphan spirit, fake faith that looks right but can’t hold weight, and how disappointment left untreated eventually hardens into disconnection. We also confront the myth that faith equals certainty, and why true worship isn’t just a song; it’s surrender in the absence of clarity. For anyone who’s battled...

info_outline 460: MAKE IT STOP! Therapy Culture Isn’t Working. Matt Chandler Unpacks Identity Confusion, The Cost of Complaining, and Killing the Safe Christianese Jargon show art 460: MAKE IT STOP! Therapy Culture Isn’t Working. Matt Chandler Unpacks Identity Confusion, The Cost of Complaining, and Killing the Safe Christianese Jargon

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

There’s a way to sound spiritually mature while staying completely unformed, and therapy culture is helping people do just that. This week on Win Today, Matt Chandler joins us to confront the drift we’re experiencing: where therapy culture replaces repentance, where identity confusion isn’t grieved, and where safe Christian jargon sounds right but does nothing to transform the soul. We talk about why discipleship doesn’t always feel safe. Why comfort doesn’t heal—it sedates. And how complaining isn’t just venting; it’s forming your view of God. Matt names the thin theology...

info_outline 459: Entitlement Isn’t Faith. Gary Thomas Confronts the Lie of This Age, the Distraction of the Soul, and the Hidden Roots of Bitterness and Offense show art 459: Entitlement Isn’t Faith. Gary Thomas Confronts the Lie of This Age, the Distraction of the Soul, and the Hidden Roots of Bitterness and Offense

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

We want God to come through, but on our terms. We demand ease, favor, instant breakthrough, and validation, and when those expectations aren’t met, we call it a trial. But what if the real trial is our refusal to lay down our entitlement? This week on Win Today, bestselling author Gary Thomas pulls no punches. He exposes the modern lie that faith means personal fulfillment, that comfort means favor, and that hardship means failure. And he shows how distraction is more than a bad habit—it’s a spiritual breakdown. Because when the soul loses its focus, bitterness, offense, and...

info_outline 458: You’re Not Burned Out. You’re Disconnected. Geoff & Cyd Holsclaw on Insecure Attachment, Emotional Integration, and Why Your Body Can’t Heal What Your Soul Hasn’t Felt show art 458: You’re Not Burned Out. You’re Disconnected. Geoff & Cyd Holsclaw on Insecure Attachment, Emotional Integration, and Why Your Body Can’t Heal What Your Soul Hasn’t Felt

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

You think you’re burned out, but what if you’re actually just emotionally disconnected? What if your body is paying the price for unprocessed emotions you never gave yourself permission to feel? In today’s episode of Win Today, married theologians and counselors Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw debunk the myths surrounding burnout, spiritual bypassing, and superficial healing. We’re talking about what’s really going on beneath the surface of emotional shutdown, how insecure attachment shows up in adult faith, and why your “soul senses” need to be reawakened if you want to...

info_outline 457: When God Feels Silent. Evan Craft on The Hardest Questions We Rarely Ask (But Need To), Fighting Cynicism, Charlie Kirk’s Death, The Necessity of Desperation in Faith, Serving the Lord in Anonymity, and What We Receive in the Dark Night of the Soul show art 457: When God Feels Silent. Evan Craft on The Hardest Questions We Rarely Ask (But Need To), Fighting Cynicism, Charlie Kirk’s Death, The Necessity of Desperation in Faith, Serving the Lord in Anonymity, and What We Receive in the Dark Night of the Soul

Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

What if the deepest work God does in us happens when no one sees? When we feel forgotten, disillusioned, or unsure if our faith is still intact? Most of us would rather skip the wilderness. But what if the desert isn’t punishment—it’s preparation? This week on Win Today, international recording artist Evan Craft joins us for a raw and honest conversation about faith in the silence, finding God in the dark night of the soul, and what it means to serve when no one applauds. Together, we confront the cynicism that creeps in when life feels unfair, the pressure to perform for...

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There’s a lie you’ve turned into identity—that you must perform vulnerability to earn belonging. This week, Toni Collier joins me to pull the veil off emotional infidelity hidden in silence, the orphan wounds we carry in isolation, and the spiritual manipulation we excuse as authenticity. She’s walked through heartbreaking betrayal, spiritual misuse, and the long deconstruction of self‑worth in ministry circles. And she has found that true vulnerability isn’t performative—it’s sacred, grounded, sacrificial, and healing.

In this episode, we dismantle the theology of emotional scarcity, expose spiritual control disguised as care, and confront the cost of emotional isolation. Toni challenges common assumptions: that therapy alone solves trauma, that forgiveness equals denial, that age or faith automatically heals wounds. This conversation calls you home to integrity, community, and emotional wholeness.

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